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How to Be a Medium Tap into the Paranormal, Connect with Ghosts and Spirits

ReGina L. Norlinde

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Copyright © 2013 by ReGina L. Norlinde All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced in whole or in part, in any form or by any means electronic or mechanical, including photocopying or recording, nor may it be stored in retrieval system, transmitted or otherwise be copied for public or private use – other than “fair use” as brief quotations embodied in articles and reviews – without prior written permission of the author. The author of this book is neither a medical doctor nor a psychiatrist therefore doesn’t dispense medical advice or prescribe the use of any technique as a form of treatment for physical, emotional or medical problems without the advice of a physician. The intent of the author is to offer the information to help you in your life’s journey for your well- being. To use the information in this book for yourself is your constitutional right however the author holds no responsibility for your actions. Author: ReGina L. Norlinde Cover Design: ReGina L. Norlinde Norlinde ReGina L., How to Be a Medium - Tap into the Paranormal, Connect with Ghosts and Spirits, 2013 2nd edition - 2014

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To the well-organized mind, death is but the next great adventure. J. K. Rowling

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This book is intended to provide you with information and guidelines to be a Medium, to communicate with those in Spirit. The author speaks and teaches from her personal experiences as a Psychic Medium guiding you step by step into the understanding of the world of Paranormal and how to communicate with those in Spirit. Author is not a doctor and therefore, in the event you apply any of the information received by way of this book, the author assumes no responsibility for your personal experiences.

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CONTENT Introduction Part I Mediumship Basics ~ Most Common Terms Used in Mediumship ~ Who Can Be a Medium ~ How Does the Mediumship Work – Understanding the Process ~ Different ways to communicate with the Dead * mental Mediumship * physical Mediumship ~ What Do You Need in Order to Be a Good Medium ~ How did Mediumship Start ~ Death is Fair Part II Fundamentals of Mediumship ~ Purpose of Mediumship reasons we seek communication with Spirit reasons Spirits seeks communication with us benefits of communicating between the worlds ~ Tools and Methods Used in Mediumship tools we use to contact Spirits tools and methods Spirits use to contact us ~ How to Prepare Yourself for Mediumship work ~ Importance of Setting Boundaries ~ Importance of Energy Clearing ~ Importance of Meditation ~ Structure and Validation Structure Validation

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Part III Signs and Symbols Role that Signs and Symbols play in Mediumship different types of Symbols general meaning of symbols *colors and symbols *numbers and symbols *animals and symbols *nature and symbols *crystals and symbols *flowers, plants, trees and their symbols ~ Movies, Books and Songs as Symbols ~ Personal Meaning of Symbols Part IV Challenges and Solutions ~ main challenges that Medium might experience ~ Main to do’s and not to do’s in Mediumship work Part V Paranormal Activities and Earthbound Spirits ~ The concept of Earthbound Spirits and Crossing Over How to know the Difference ~ Crossing Over When Spirits can’t move on When Spirits choose not to move on ~ Tools Used in Working with Earthbound Spirits ~ How to recognize a presence of Spirit/s & how to detect them ~ Reasons for attracting Earthbound Spirits ~ What to do when coming across Earthbound Spirits ~ Methods to Help Earthbound Spirits - “helping the Earthbound Spirits” exercise

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~ Haunted Adventures What Is Ghost Hunting Haunted Places - What to Do When Experiencing Paranormal Haunted Objects - Dealing with Haunted Objects Animals and Ghosts Haunted People ~ Ghost Hunting Equipment Part VI Afterlife ~ What Happens When We Die Part VII Psychic Children – Kids of Paranormal ~ “I see dead people” Most Common Concerns of the Children/Young People who See Spirits and How to Address these Concerns ~ “My child sees dead people” Most Common Concerns of the Parents of the Children/Young People who See Spirits and How to Address these Concerns Part VIII Exercises & Meditations Afterword About the Author

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Introduction Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies within us while we live. Norman Cousins

Talking with the Dead - connecting with the Other Side – communicating with Spirit - whatever terminology you use, this subject has been fascinating people throughout the centuries. Whether we are aware of it or not, or whether we believe it or not, Spirits are around us, and continue to be around us no matter what. Many people are interested and have already been communicating with the Spirit World not only psychically but using ghost tracing devices that have been created with a purpose to communicate with Spirit. There have been many movies, TV shows and books written on this subject, but how much do we really know about communicating with the dead? How much do we know about Spirits and how to communicate with them? I talk to Spirits on a daily basis helping people here in human form communicate with their deceased loved ones. I also help Earthbound Spirits move on to the next step of their soul’s journey. Earthbound Spirits are souls who are hanging around, having left their human bodies here but are unable to move on due to various reasons. I help people who have transitioned to the Spirit World connect with their loved ones here on earth. Through my work I have witnessed healing for both those who are here and those who are in the Spirit World. When I accepted the role of being a Medium, I had no idea how much healing this type of work could bring to people. I have seen miraculous healing take place through this experience which has shown me the tremendous benefits of communication between the worlds. My work and these experiences prompted me to write a guidance and information book sharing what I’ve learned about talking to the dead and how you can do it too – how you can communicate with those in Spirit and deal with Paranormal experiences in a positive way! The information in this book is intended to give you simple, straight forward knowledge about communicating with the dead and being a Medium. It is intended to provide you with insight and a better understanding about this subject. This book will not only assist you in communicating with deceased

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loved ones but will help with any Paranormal experience like unexplainable sounds, or unusual activity such as moving objects or lights switching on and off without logical explanation or any other. This book is intended to help you to be and become a Medium. You can talk to those in the Spirit world if you want to because on one level or another, everyone has the ability to communicate with Spirits. This book includes exercises, meditations and guidance to help you improve your “Communicating with those in Spirit” abilities. Book includes the following:

I Part Mediumship Basics II Part Fundamentals of Mediumship III Part Signs and Symbols IV Part Challenges and Solutions V Part Paranormal Activities and Earthbound Spirits VI Part Afterlife VII Part Psychic Children – Kids of Paranormal VIII Part Exercises and Meditations Afterword

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PART I Mediumship Basics

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Most Common Terms Used in Mediumship Medium A person who can communicate with those in Spirit. Mediumship Process of Medium making connection with Spirit and communicating. Spirits Written here with a capital “S” (in this book) – word “Spirits” is used talking about those who have crossed over. They can be humans as well as animals. The Other Side This term is used to describe a place where Spirits live after they leave physical body. Crossing Over This term means the same as passing away, dying. Speaking/talking to the dead - connecting with the Other side - speaking to deceased loved ones - speaking to those who have crossed over All of these terms are used to describe communication between us and those in Spirit. It’s just an individual preference of how to describe communication between the worlds. Earthbound Spirits – ghosts These words are used to describe those Spirits who due to some unfinished business, have remained close to Earth after leaving their physical body, yet they haven’t been able to move on and cross over. Going to the Light This term is used to describe Spirit crossing over and moving on vs staying close to Earth as an Earthbound Spirit Paranormal 12

Paranormal means the same as - out of the norm, out of the ordinary. Paranormal Investigation This means that out of ordinary happenings are being investigated. Communicating between the worlds I believe that everything is energy and depending on what frequency we resonate in the most, is the world we live. I believe there are many different beings that we know of, and don’t even know about, that resonate in different frequencies, much like frequencies we tune into when turning on radio. All of these frequencies I am referring to as different “worlds”. In this particular book I am focusing my writing on two worlds – the one we live in before we cross over and the other world is the one where those who have crossed over live! Even though I refer to all different frequencies and beings resonating there as worlds, when I say “communicating between the worlds” in this book, I am referring to communicating between us, humans in physical form, and the world of those in Spirit, those who have crossed over. Loved ones who are still here By that I mean us, “humans” who are still in physical form. I believe that the Soul doesn’t die, it only leaves the physical body and the physical body is what dies. Writing about Mediumship and communication with those who have crossed over, it is hard for me to call those in Spirit “dead” and us “alive”, and mean it. Believing that we are souls and being human means us having physical bodies – we are all alive whether we have a physical body or we don’t. That’s why I chose to call us, who still have physical body, “us or loved ones who are still here”!

DLO – Deceased Loved Ones I am not the one who has come up with this shortening of describing those who have crossed over (and to be honest I am not quite sure who did to give them credit), but “DLO” is what I am using in this book and not every Medium uses this short version of Deceased Loved Ones therefore I mention it here to make sure you know what it means, when you come across it in the following pages of the book!

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Each one of us has the ability to pick up on Spirits every now and then and therefore we all can have the ability to experience how it is to be a Medium yet it’s not everybody’s calling to be a professional Medium. Most Mediums are born with the ability that is above average, to connect with those in Spirit. They have a natural gift to be in tune with those in Spirit. The ability to be a Medium, just as any other profession, can always be improved. And then there is calling – it’s that feeling, like a pull, like a nudge that some people with natural Mediumship abilities have, a calling that “makes” them do Mediumship work on a larger scale, offer it as a service to others. Being a Medium is similar to being everything else. Let’s take “being a singer” for example. Some people are born with a natural talent to sing beautifully. Some people are born with no natural ability to hold a tune when singing. Does this mean that people, who are born without a natural ability to sing, can never sing? No, if they want to, they can learn to sing. It probably will take years and years of practice and learning, but it can be done. People who are born with a natural ability to sing beautifully, they can usually practice to improve their abilities. It will take years for a person who was born without a singing talent, to learn how to sing. As they practice, they will learn to sing in tune, sing beautifully, and to hear the music. The person, who was born with an out-ofthe-ordinary ability to sing, will move forward to perfection in her/his abilities to learn this talent and skill from the inside out, on a deeper level than the person who learns this ability from “scratch”. At the end – they both can sing, yet the quality and complicity and the depth of singing won’t be the same. They both can sing yet the level on what they do it will be different. Or, if they will sing the same or almost the same, the work they put into it will be different – for one person it might have come easy and effortlessly, for another it comes with hard work. The same idea applies to being a Medium. Everybody can be one yet the level of the Mediumship work they do will be different. So, the amount of work each person will need to put into being a Medium will vary. It is important to remember that not everybody who has Mediumship abilities will be willing to work as a Medium professionally. Some people will be interested in Mediumship because they are curious or maybe just wanting to understand and know how to deal with possible paranormal experiences on a personal level, not publicly as a Medium.

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There are many reasons people are interested in Mediumship: Some are interested in being a successful professional Medium, some – for their own personal growth. Some are excited to learn more about communicating with those in spirit, some are experiencing paranormal and are somewhat “forced” to learn more so they would know how to cope with these experiences. Whatever the reason is, it is important to understand how this process of “communicating with deceased” works, how is it possible. I am going to explain it the way I see and experience it working. Living in a physical world, it’s easy to see everything that has a physical “body” – whether it is a human or animal or a physical object. When humans or animals pass away, they don’t have a physical body anymore and therefore connecting with them can’t and won’t happen the exact same way it was possible when they were still here in a physical body. Usually when seeing physical, we don’t give a second thought as it seems to be a common sense, but what happens with everything that’s beyond physical? Physical is only one small part of what exists. Undeniable is the fact that we all have feelings and emotions, we feel, we see, we hear, we sense and we also have knowing that is beyond what we consciously learn. How do we measure all of this which is not physical? If something is not a physical object, yet it is there and on a daily basis, we usually don’t question its existence. We don’t really discard sadness just because it doesn’t have a physical form, or joy or happiness! Even if we don’t know what exactly it is we feel, what exactly is going on for us emotionally, it is undeniable that emotions are felt. Even though emotions and senses don’t have a physical body, they are expressed through a physical body. Another example is dreams. How is it possible that we find ourselves in a wide variety of situations in our dreams, yet our physical body is sound asleep and doesn’t really move around reflecting all we dream about? In order to see and experience dreams - we do have to be asleep (not to confuse with daydreaming which is not the kind of dreaming we are talking about here). If we pay closer attention to when we see dreams, when not, and what kind of dreams we see. We will most likely be able to see some sort of pattern. Maybe we dream more around full moon, maybe our dreams are affected by what happens during the day or maybe they are affected by what we eat. For each person it will be different. If we want to see dreams, we have to go to bed (or find some other place) to fall asleep. If we want to get the job, we have to go and look for one. If we want some food and are hungry, we have to physically go get the food and eat it. If we want to connect to those who are in Spirit, and hear them, to communicate with them, 15

we have to get into a certain space energetically in order to connect with the Spirits. Physical is not an option anymore, a different kind of state is needed for communication by Spirits who no longer have a physical body. What is important to know when thinking about Mediumship, is to keep in mind that there is a common spiritual bond between all the things and Beings in the Universe. Even if you are not very knowledgeable about Quantum Physics, just knowing the basic idea that it has proved that everything in the Universe is the result of frequency. Understanding that everything is energy is good enough to better understand the Mediumship process and how the connection with those in Spirit is possible. In order to understand how we connect with those in Spirit and how those in Spirit connect with us, it’s important to think beyond rationality and tangibility. It’s important to use the right brain more than the left, to be able to do Mediumship work successfully. Think FREQUENCY ! And think – when we change the frequency, physical matter changes! Physics has explained that solidity of this world is just a mirage and in Mediumship work it is fundamental to know this part of physics. The best way I can think of, to explain how Mediumship works, is via the following example of Radio waves, Radio Frequencies: Connecting with those in spirit is similar to turning on the radio and switching the stations. Physical world is one station, a frequency where we beings, in a physical body operate. Another station, a different frequency, is the world where those in spirit reside and can be heard. Let’s say we are tuned into 99.9FM and therefore we can clearly hear what is happening on 99.9FM. Let’s say those in Spirit are on 107.5FM frequency. In order for us to hear what is happening in 107.5FM, we have to tune into 107.5FM. As an example – if an average humanly frequency were to be 99.9FM and the frequency of those in spirit would be 107.5FM then there is a gap between those two and how can one hear another? I always say that it is a team effort – those who are in 107.5FM frequency are reaching out to those in 99.9FM frequency and the other way around. You know how at times when we change radio stations, in between there is kind of a static noise and we can hear parts of the stations next to each other? And you know how this noise and happenings and other stations come in for a split second, unexpectedly without even trying to change stations? This also happens in our connection with spirit. At times, an average person experiences 16

connection with Spirit without even trying to connect and it is quick and it comes in parts. They may not even realize what is happening. Maybe a dream or persons, favorite song comes up on a radio, making them remember or think of a special person or a memory of this person or event pops into their head. It happens all the time. It hasn’t happen with conscious effort from our part to connect with Spirit, we are not sure 100% that it was Spirit that was communicating. When we make a conscious effort to connect with someone in Spirit, we usually are more aware of what is happening. We are most likely to be quicker in believing that it is Spirit. Continuing to look at the Mediumship process with the example of frequencies and radio stations, each one of us is born resonating with different yet similar frequencies. Which one exactly depends from many factors like what part of the world were you born? what language were you surrounded by? Is it a city or countryside that you are raised in? What are the family values? How many siblings? How many children are present? Are one or both parents present in your lives? Dwelling into it deeper, our frequency also highly and most importantly depends on the life’s purpose we each have come forth to experience on Earth. We each have our natural talents and abilities and many other factors tied into individuality. Based on all of the above, our personal frequency might be closer or further apart from the frequency that Spirit is. We attract what we are. The closer our natural frequency is to high vibrational Spirits, the more easily it is and will be for us to connect with Spirit and for Spirit to connect with us. The further we are from the frequency of Spirits the more we have to work to connect with Spirit. If we put in the effort to communicate with Spirit, Spirit will do it’s best to communicate with us. It’s a team effort. Going back to Radio example – if we are in 99.9 FM frequency and Spirit is in 107.5FM frequency – we will meet somewhere in between like – 103.5 FM for example. We will have to raise our vibration to move up the frequency scale, Spirit will on the other hand, lower it’s frequency to meet us.

Different ways to communicate with the Dead Is there more than one way to communicate with the dead? Yes there is! The most common methods of communicating with the dead are referred to as Mental Mediumship and Physical Mediumship.

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Mental Mediumship Mental Mediumship is when a Medium is using one or all of the following forms of communication (I will talk about each one of them more in the Part II): * receiving visual images * hearing voices or other sounds * sensing Spirit presence and energy * knowing – Spirit is around

Physical Mediumship Physical Mediumship is when a Medium is able to withdraw within and disengage from conscious control of their mind so much that they allow their physical body to function under the influence of a channeled spirit.

What do you need in order to be a good Medium The most important thing about being a Medium is awareness. Awareness about all that is. To start with, every good Medium needs to be his or her own best friend! What do I mean by that? If we think of our best friend in the form of another person - how did our best friend became a best friend? In order for anybody to become our best friend, we first need to meet, then we learn about each other. We establish an energetic connection, we usually have similar likes and dislikes. With every interaction we have with each other, we learn more about the other person as well as we learn if we like or we don’t like to be with this person. The more we “click,” and by “click,” I mean, we just feel great about this relationship, about this connection, we feel uplifted, empowered, heard, cared for by each other, the more interest we have in each other, the better friends we become. Yes, there might be some negatives as well, but mostly there are positives and positive is overpowering possible negativities. To become our own best friend – we do the same – we learn about ourselves, we know ourselves, we become experts about who we are and our actions, reactions, likes dislikes – all about us. Awareness of ourselves: We as spiritual beings exist and operate in this physical world, how we perceive information and everything that is happening in our lives, is controlled by how our body feels, how our 18

emotions feel and how we are handling it all. Why is how we feel important for being a good Medium? To be a good Medium, is to work with energy, something that is not tangible. The more aware we are of ourselves, our actions, reactions, how we feel in certain situations, how we feel different energies, and being able to recognize energies for what they are instead of just noticing something, yet not being able to pinpoint exactly what it is, the better Mediums we can be! Knowing ourselves helps us to recognize when Spirits are around. It helps us to recognize what kind of Spirits they are. How our body and mind operates, is what opens doors for being more aware of the spiritual world and how it operates. This concept is the key to being a good Medium. Even when we are born with natural Medium abilities and constantly have Paranormal Mediumship experiences, without awareness of what these experiences are about these abilities can be a burden instead of a great experience. When we learn about Mediumship and expand our knowledge and experiences in Mediumship through the awareness of ourselves and our uniqueness - the process of life and how we fit into this process becomes clear. It becomes very clear to us how we operate and how we perceive information. Through this process our Mediumship experience becomes more and more clear. We gain deeper awareness of the world of Spirits and how it works. We need this awareness to be able to do a great job as a Medium. It’s entirely up to us to work on our awareness and how we do it. There is a lot of information available about spiritual growth for us to choose methods that we resonate the most. About growing specifically in Mediumship aspect of spirituality - in the following pages of this book!

How did Mediumship Start People have been communicating with the Spirit world since the beginning of time, however the major Mediumship movement (Modern Spiritualism) happened in the mid 19th century. That was the time when people began to speak about communicating with the Spirits of the dead, who were able to lend insight to the living. Daniel Dunglas Home (1833 - 1886, Scotland) was one of the first famous Mediums. In 1848, the Fox family in Hydesville, NY, were visited by Spirits 19

who came to show them that life after death exists. During the 1850’s, Emma Hardinge Britten, born in England who later moved to America, became famous as a Trance Medium. Early demonstrations of Mediumship were more physical, and involved rapping, table tilting, and materialization whereas now Mediums focus more on delivering messages from the dead using their mind and senses as a receiver. There was a time when people who practiced Mediumship were subject to ridicule and persecution from the church and skeptics. Nowadays however, Mediums are more highly thought of and they can easily work openly, write books, teach classes, and offer private sessions. It is more common now to see Mediums on television and radio, just as many TV shows have been created based on true Mediumship experiences such as ‘Medium’ and ‘Ghost Whisperer’ and others.

Death is Fair We humans tend to fear everything that is unknown to us therefore death has been feared by many. Death is one thing we can be very sure about in our lives; we are all going to die one day which makes death fair. Death takes everyone and spares no one. Whether we are rich or poor, black or white, a banker or a homeless person, a king or a queen, no human will escape it. No money can buy human eternity. Having said this, I suggest that we accept death for what it is and help those around us to accept it for what it is. I suggest that we learn as much as we feel guided to about the subject so we may expand our knowledge and help others expand theirs. In Mediumship work it’s important to be accepting of the inevitable. With knowledge and awareness we are then prepared, and help others to be prepared when death touches our lives directly or indirectly. That way the journey of transition from the physical body to spirit form is done with ease!

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PART II Fundamentals of Mediumship

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Purpose of Mediumship I never understood why would anyone want or need to connect with the dead, with those who have crossed over. I grew up in a society where nobody really talked about connecting with those in spirit. It was more of a taboo topic. I would hear people say, “why bother the dead? They are gone and that’s it! Let them be in peace!” Little did I know that there was a whole world out there of communication between Spirits and us in a physical body! I did take a Mediumship class, but I only did because I felt guided to do it (you can read how I got to embrace Mediumship work in my first book, “The Power of Being Different – Embrace Your Uniqueness”). To make it short – the guidance (in a form of synchronicities, gut feelings, physical manifestations of dreams I had…) I received, was so strong and wouldn’t leave me. It was continuously bringing synchronicities in my life leading me to take the class - I was curious to see what it was about. I didn’t take it out of a willingness to learn more about connecting with those in spirit, I didn’t take it because I wanted to be a Medium (at least I wasn’t consciously aware of it). I still was of the belief that the dead need to be left alone and not bothered. And what could possibly be so great about connecting with them? Little did I know that through the process of following my inner guidance, I would learn how beneficial connecting with those in Spirit can be. Talking about fundamentals of Mediumship - first I want to bring to your attention the fact that connecting with Spirit is not only about us connecting with those who have crossed over, but about those who have crossed over connecting with us as well! What I mean by that is - just as we want or are interested in and can benefit from connecting with those in Spirit, Spirit can benefit from connecting with us as well. The interest is coming from both sides - spirit is wanting to and interested in connecting with us too. It’s a team effort and it works both ways! We need to remember that connecting with Spirit can happen with either us, people still in a physical body initiating communication with those in Spirit as well as it can happen by those in Spirit initiating communication! First it’s important to know that there might be general reason for being interested in Mediumship, in Paranormal, in being a Medium. This general reason can be learning more, experimenting with Mediumship, practicing to 22

be a Medium, curiosity about Paranormal. It would be most likely when a person doesn’t have an interest such as loved one has passed away but they are simply interested in everything Mediumship in general. Then there are Personal Reasons for being interested in connecting with those in Spirit like – a loved one has passed away and loved one who is still here seeks ways to communicate, wondering how their loved one in Spirit is doing. Another personal reason can be the fact that one has natural Medium abilities that he/she wants to learn how to control, how to use them in the best way possible. Next – it’s important to recognize that there is a difference between reasons why Spirits would want to connect with us and why we would want to connect with those in Spirit.

Reasons we seek communication with Spirit Why would people, who are still here in a physical body, want to connect with those in Spirit? The main reasons I have come across, are: * They want to know if their deceased loved one is okay – especially if their loved one had been suffering from a lot of pain before passing away. This is also often the case if loved one had passed away unexpectedly from an accident like car accident or some other – Loved ones who are still here think it must have been painful death and wondering if their deceased loved one suffered a lot before passing away? * Loved ones of those Spirits who died unexpectedly, whose bodies are found dead, usually wonder how exactly they died, what happened? Especially if there is something suspicious or of a criminal matter that has happened and it’s a possible or “for sure” reason of death. * Loved ones of those who have crossed over, have a hard time letting go of the deceased and they are looking for some message from them, some assurance that they are okay, that they are around etc.. * Those who still remain in a physical body, have some unfinished business with their deceased loved ones – they have questions they always have wanted to ask but never done it and now they don’t have that chance anymore to communicate with their loved ones as they used to, they have some unfinished business that causes them feel guilty and they would like to know that deceased person forgives them, doesn’t hold a grudge. * Deceased loved one hasn’t left any instructions for what to do with their 23

belongings and assets after their death and those who are still here, wish to know from their loved one in Spirit – what to do! * Loved ones who are still here are looking for some message from their deceased loved ones! * Loved ones who are here, feel their deceased loved ones around, have noticed some signs or what they think are signs from their deceased loved ones, felt their presence, seen them in their dreams and want to make sure it’s really them, it’s really their deceased loved one and not their imagination, not their wishful thinking to connect with them… * People still here are experiencing paranormal events that feel frightening and do not know how exactly to go about dealing with it, they want to find it out, want to learn more about their experiences, who is causing them, what’s behind these experiences and what to do about them! * People who are still here, have paranormal experiences like seeing Spirits, hearing Spirits, Spirits that are not deceased loved ones, trying to communicate with them and they don’t know how to go about it yet they want to learn. * People who are still here often want to know if their deceased loved one is around and how to know he/she is around. They are wondering if their deceased loved one was at their wedding or graduation or any other significant life event. They are wondering if the deceased loved one was at his or her own funeral and if they liked it. * Often people wonder if their deceased loved one approves of their decision, if they have deceased loved one’s blessing to do what they want to do. They ask if the deceased loved one has some advice for them, what they think he/she should do in some particular situation. They are wondering if their deceased loved one can provide some insights from the spiritual point of view, from how they see the situation of concern. They wonder how their deceased loved one would act in their situation, what would loved one in Spirit do. Sometimes people wonder not only for themselves, but about their loved ones who are still here, like – what advice maybe Spirit has for some of their other family’s member who is not present in person, but lives in a different part of the country or world.

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* They wish to let their loved ones who are still here know that they are okay, that they are at peace! Even though they understand the fact that their loved ones are grieving, they usually want them to move on and enjoy their life and to remember deceased loved ones with joy and happiness, remember good times, keep positive and happy memories in their heart instead of focusing on the fact that they are not around anymore like they used to be. * Souls in Spirit have unfinished business in physical world – especially if the Soul has left the physical body unexpectedly in accident of some sort. For Spirits like that, it’s often more challenging to let go of physical world, they feel attached to physical world still wanting to live in it, still focusing on physical, still thinking about work, about business etc.. * Souls in Spirit have a message for someone (one person or a group of people) in physical world. * Earthbound Spirits often miss their Earthly life or something more specific from their Earthly life and they hang out around the house or in the house/ building, where they used to live or house that has a great significance to them. *At times – Spirits see that someone in their loved one/s family is going through a hard time and they want to help. So they try to connect with their loved ones to pass on the message that they believe and know to be helpful!

Benefits for communicating between the worlds You know that feeling that you get when you need to talk to someone, to “clear the air”, to find out how that person is feeling, how is she/he doing? Maybe you have gotten into an argument with this person and don’t feel good about it, you want to make up, maybe it’s something you want to tell the person, but you haven’t found the right time to do it or it’s something else of this kind, and until you “clear the air”, until you talk to this person, until you address whatever it is, sort it out - it’s on your mind all the time? You go through the day, do daily activities, yet, your mind is busy thinking about the situation… And there is really nothing that makes this feeling go away completely until you talk it through with that person? And you know that feeling you get after you do take care of the situation by talking it through, “clearing the air” etc.? Know that feeling of peace in your mind, that feeling of relief and that feeling of no more thoughts racing in your mind. There is feeling of peace and completion. Know that feeling 25

when you have done something that wasn’t right and you apologize for it, you make it right? This is exactly how it happens when communicating between the worlds! If there is something unfinished, the emotions I just described are experienced by Spirits and the living, and they are the reason for wanting to connect. We usually want to connect with those in Spirit for a reason. Those in Spirit want to connect with us for a reason. It’s usually some kind of “clearing the air” situation. Once the connection has happened and we have addressed the reason why we (or our client) wanted to connect, it results in us (or them) feeling that peace of mind, that relief. It brings that feeling of completion! It stops thoughts and feelings of the unfinished, circling our minds…

Tools and Methods used in Mediumship ~ tools we use to contact Spirits ~ Because Souls in Spirit don’t have a physical body anymore communication can’t quite happen in exact same way that it did when they still had a physical body. As I described in the first chapter, “how does Mediumship work” – because it’s energy and frequency and vibration we are talking about, when it comes to Spirit world and how Mediumship works, in order to communicate with each other between the worlds, the tools we use will be different than just speaking and listening how we do with people “alive”…

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most well-known around the world is also known as a Spirit Board or Talking Board. It is a flat board that is marked with letters of the alphabet, the numbers from 0 to 9, words “yes” and “no” as well as in some cases “hello” and “goodbye”. This board uses small heart-shaped piece of wood (or some other material) that is a movable indicator to indicate Spirit’s messages by spelling the message out on the board during the séance. Participants of the séance place their fingers on this movable indicator and it’s believed that the Spirit is moving this indicator, spelling out words and messages. That’s how it got the name of being a “talking board”. Officially it has been trademarked by Hasbro Inc. as a board game, yet it’s believed to be more than just a game. Pendulum – a weight that is hung from a fixed point so that it can swing freely backward and forward or sideways. It has been and is used in Psychic Medium readings quite often where it serves like an extension to intuition. It helps to access information from Spirit similar to Quija Board only Pendulum answers are limited to “yes” and “no”. Cards – like Tarot Cards which is a pack of cards that originally (in 15th century) was used to play card games yet later (from about 18th century) was commonly used by mystics and occultists in efforts of divination and a map of spiritual and mental pathways. This idea of using cards for Divination and for connecting with Beings in spirit realm including those who have crossed over, has developed into other than Tarot card creations like – Angel cards, Ascended Master cards, Goddess cards, Saints and Angels cards, Mermaid Cards etc.. Some Mediums have come up with Mediumship cards as well. They are specifically designed to help communicate with those in Spirit. Five Senses – the tool that is not tangible, yet we have it available at all times as it is something that’s within us, it’s our abilities to feel, see, hear, smell, know etc.. There are 5 main senses that we have and use daily. We use them to understand better what is happening around us, we use them to connect with physical world. As Mediums, we also use our senses to communicate with Spirit. We usually have one of the senses more naturally dominant than others, yet it’s most likely a combination of several of them (if not all) that we involve in communicating with Spirit. My belief is that using our senses to connect with those in Spirit is the most direct way for us to communicate with DLO.

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Clairvoyance – meaning “clear seeing”. This is the ability to see Spirit, the ability to see the messages from Spirit in the form of images, pictures and symbols. It doesn’t necessarily mean “seeing physically”… it often means seeing with mind. Clairaudience – meaning “clear hearing”. It’s hearing voices and other sounds that come from Spirit. Again, just like in “clairvoyance” case – this doesn’t necessarily mean hearing physically, but often it’s hearing with the inner hearing. Now – we often have this inner dialog going on in our heads and the question might come up “how to know when it’s our mind “talking” and when what we hear is coming from Spirit?” Usually our inner dialog is happening in the sound of our own voice but when it’s Spirit talking, it’s happening in a different voice (for every person it’s different – for some it’s male, for some, it’s female and depending if it’s a male or female Spirit, it can be a different voice each time)… Clairsentience – meaning “clear feeling”. It’s when we get distinctive feelings of what needs to be said, it’s like a gut reaction about something specific that needs to be said or done, specific names, advice that needs to be given etc... Claircognizance – meaning “clear knowing”. It’s when we just have this inner knowledge of what to say, what to do, what Spirit is trying to say etc… It’s when we know we know it, yet we have no physical proof of how we know it! Clairaugustine – meaning “clear sense of taste or smell”. It’s when we clearly sense some smell in the room, smell scent of a spirit, of a perfume Spirit was using, smell of tobacco. We get a taste in our mouth or something that’s significant to Spirit etc... ~ How to know which one of the senses is dominant in us naturally? ~ The most simple way to determine that is to think, when you watch a movie – after the movie, what is it that you remember the most about it? Is it - how it made you feel? This would indicate your primary sense is Clairsentience. Is it – the images from the movie? This would indicate your primary sense is Clairvoyance. Is it – the knowingness about the movie, if it was great or not etc.? This 28

would indicate your primary sense is Claircognizance. Is it – the scent or taste associated to the movie? This would indicate your primary sense is Clairaugustine. Is it – the sounds of the movie? This would indicate your primary sense is Clairaudience. Usually, when doing Mediumship work, it’s a combination of more than just a primary sense that we use. It’s usually a combination of either few of them or all as well as it depends also on a Spirit. If the Spirit for example, was more talkative in this lifetime then he/she might be trying to communicate with us through a sound and we will pick up messages from Spirit via Clairaudience etc... Automatic Writing – this means writing without conscious knowing what we are writing. It’s writing that is a result of external source like Spirit/s dictating what to write. Dictating meaning not necessarily whispering words that we hear and then write, but just more like, sitting down with a pen and paper and starting to write without conscious awareness of the content. Channeling – this means allowing the Spirit to communicate through us as if we were that Spirit in a physical form. It’s like having our consciousness step aside and let the Spirit enter our physical body and speak through us – us giving Spirit a physical body to express itself through us.

~ tools and methods Spirits use to contact us ~ When it comes to the tools and methods Spirits use to connect with us, there is a variety of them. It’s important to know that the way Spirits try to communicate with us depends not only on how we hear Spirits most naturally, but it depends highly on Spirit’s personality, abilities and awareness. Also – if a person has just recently passed away, they might have harder time communicating what they want because they are still in a space of learning to adjust to not having physical body and remembering how to operate from a Spirit form. In order for us to more easily and more clearly see Spirits and hear their messages, it’s important that we are in as relaxed state as we possibly can be, as focused and as clear as we possibly can be. Communication with Spirit is a team effort team being us and the Spirit. One of the easiest ways Spirits try to communicate with us is through Dreams. That’s the time when we are most relaxed and our consciousness is 29

more open to receiving messages that are not coming from a physical source! A few most common tools that Spirits use to get our attention, communicate with us are: * thoughts - Spirits love to communicate through thoughts. There is a misconceived idea that when Spirits talk to us, we will hear it loudly and in such a way as if they were still alive. It’s not quite true (unless you are clairaudient). Most of the time when Spirits talk, they talk through thoughts their words and messages come to us as thoughts. Here I need to refer to the point I mention later in this book - the better we know ourselves, the more we have invested into our own Spiritual growth, the better we are able to recognize which thoughts are ours and which one’s are Spirits talking to us. One way to recognize thoughts that come from Spirits are - usually Spirits come to us with thoughts that remind us of them, with words or phrases that they used to say while still in the physical body. * images – giving us, sending us images, pictures is another way how Spirits are trying to communicate to us. At times they show us themselves, at times they show images or pictures of something that was significant to them or significant to us and Spirit (if we know the deceased person in person) together (maybe we went for a trip together or were family or friends, loved going to movies etc. – that’s what Spirit would most likely show us to remind us of them or to confirm that they are around…). * feelings – another way that Spirits communicate with us is through feelings… Many times people say “I felt my [DLO] around me,” “I feel my [DLO] is helping me”… etc.. That usually happens when Spirits are either trying to get some message across or just simply want us to know about their presence, want us to know they are around. * sounds/ voices / knocking… - if we are clairaudient – we are most likely going to pick up on Spirits talking, however, even if hearing is not our main sense to pick up a Spirit’s presence, at times we might hear knocking, sounds ( like doors opening closing, like footsteps), voices – either loud or whispering, footsteps or any other sounds. That is one of the popular ways of Spirits trying to get our attention. My personal experience growing up was often hearing whispers in the dark even though there was nobody “alive” in the house, also – footsteps in a corridor even though nobody was there, doors opening and closing… These are just few most common sounds Spirits make to get our attention. Ever had that experience when you woke up in the middle of night and were pretty 30

sure you heard someone call your name? Spirits have a tendency to that too. * dreams – dreams is one of the very common ways how Spirits contact us because, like I said above, relaxed energy is the best for us to hear Spirits. When we are asleep, we are fully relaxed, our mind doesn’t get in a way trying to limit our experiences. If you do see or hear deceased loved one in a dream, whatever it may be, know that it was your deceased loved one connecting with you… * electronic devices – (phone, TV, Radio, lights) - many common electronic devices may be used by Spirits to connect with us. The most common one is flickering lights and lightbulbs burned out even when it was a new lightbulb. Phone is another o very common tool that Spirits use to connect with us, or try to connect with us. Phone ringing (especially if you have a caller id) in many cases a deceased loved one’s phone number shows up, or name. It hasn’t been my personal experience, but I have stories of people telling how their deceased loved one showed up on a TV screen, or Spirit of someone they didn’t know. What I have personal experience with is Spirits talking through Radio. Besides Spirits talking through the Radio, they also send songs our way. It is happening when we hear the same song over and over without even trying to hear it. When we scan through radio waves or TV waves or walk into a store or restaurant and the same song is on in all those places. And we either have a significant memory together with our deceased loved one and this song, or it is a favorite song of deceased loved one or it has some other significance. * change in temperature – Often Spirits notify us about their presence through a sudden change of temperature in the room. Most often it is cold energy which feels like a cool breeze showing that Spirit is around. Also – many of you most likely have experienced chills, goose bumps or as I like to call them “angel or magic bumps”. That is often a sign that Spirits are around. It also works the other way around - if you think of a Spirit, of your DLO and get chills it’s most likely your deceased loved one confirming that he/she heard you and is around, is thinking of you too. * apparitions – that is when Spirits show us in such way that they are visible physically – most commonly known as ghosts. They often appear and disappear very quickly. They also can appear in pictures – photos.

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Just like with everything we do, Mediumship work too, requires preparation. You reading the information provided in this book is part of preparation. Reading everything you come across that is Mediumship-related, is part of preparation. Taking Mediumship classes, attending Mediumship-related events, looking into everything that’s paranormal, even watching TV shows and movies that are about ghosts, ghost hunting, spirits etc. is preparation as we can learn from everything we come across. Only difference is that the content of what we learn is different in each experience. It is important not to discard our life experience. Might sound like something you didn’t expect to hear when wanting to learn more about Mediumship work, but my belief is that most importantly us working on ourselves, us working on our own spiritual growth, learning about life, how life works, gaining awareness about different aspects of ourselves and how we perceive information, how we perceive life is a huge part of preparation for Mediumship work. In order to be a good Medium – we have to be able to discern energy, to discern what we hear, see, feel, experience when we focus on Mediumship work. The better we know ourselves and how different experiences and energies make us feel, the easier it is for us to discern what we get. It’s easier to recognize if it’s Spirit voice we hear or it’s our “mind”, our “ego”, if it’s our own feelings we feel or if there are Spirits or Spirit around us and we pick up the feelings from Spirit/s etc… You see – being a Medium and doing Medium work is not like going to an office, using skills we have gained to do the job and then coming home. Being a Medium whether it’s on personal or professional level, is like a way of living, it’s part of life because it does blend in with our daily life, it’s more like a lifestyle. We discussed “How Mediumship works” in the first part of this book. We talked about energy, about frequencies, about purpose of Mediumship, terms used, types of Mediumship. We touched a bit of the history of it. Earlier in this chapter we talked about tools used in Mediumship. It’s all part of preparation for Mediumship work. Following are few more aspects of preparation for Mediumship work that are important to mention…

Importance of Setting Boundaries We all have personal boundaries - rules and limits that we create to make sure we feel comfortable when connecting with others. If anybody breaks those rules and steps over our boundaries, we react. If boundaries are 32

overstepped by others over and over again, it makes us feel uncomfortable and sooner or later we let the other person know they have overstepped our boundaries. For each one of us it’s different - some of us have soft boundaries, some strong, some flexible, some rigid and some of us have lost a sense of boundaries at all. However we set our boundaries with people alive, is most likely how we are going to naturally be with Spirits. If we have hard time setting boundaries and they are soft, and especially, if we are focused on following the crowd afraid to show our personality, it will most likely result in us having the same kind of boundaries with Spirits where our and Spirits feelings and thoughts and words and emotions will be mixed together and hard to tell them apart. In life in general, it’s important to be and feel in charge of our own life, feel like we are and do it, be in charge of our life – boundaries, likes and dislikes, do what feels right, take action that takes us towards our soul’s desires. Just like in life in general – when connecting with Spirit it is important to feel in charge and be in charge of the situation, be in charge of our Medium abilities! What I mean by that is – instead of letting Spirits “take over” your interaction with them, make sure that you let them know what you are okay with and what not. In other words – set healthy boundaries with Spirits. Many of us who are naturally tuned into Spirit realm, often get Spirit visits in unexpected times and in unexpected situations. If you are okay with it – it’s great, if not, make sure you let Spirits know when you are willing to be contacted by them. Explain your boundaries to them just as you would to people alive. You don’t even have to say it out loud, you can just do it in your mind – Spirit will hear you. It’s energy! Connecting with Spirits, doing Mediumship work is a team effort – the team being you and Spirits. They (those in spirit) want to have this connection and find it just as valuable and helpful as you do so, they will do their best to respect your boundaries. As I write this, I am aware of the fact that there are exceptions to everything and every rule and it’s okay if communicating with Spirits doesn’t happen “by the book”. That is why it is important to know ourselves well so that we can effortlessly trust ourselves in communication with Spirits and know what is happening, what Spirits are telling us, what they mean instead of trusting some outside source to tell what Spirits are trying to communicate. ~ “Setting Boundaries” and Meditation ~ Now a little bit more about boundaries and meditations. In relation to communicating with Spirits learning more about it, doing it, 33

practicing important to keep in mind is to set boundaries even before you do meditations (also the ones at the end of this book). When I say “set boundaries” here I mean not only boundaries with those in Spirit, with deceased, but with all who are in Spirit realm, with all and everything that doesn’t have a physical body. Not to scare any of you, but the fact is that any Meditation can be an opening for Earthbound Spirits to enter. I would suggest to try to focus on everything positive, believing that that’s what working with Spirit is all about. However depending on where each one of us are on our Spiritual Growth journey, where we are in understanding about life – any Meditation can be an opening for Spirits and other beings in spirit to come in. As long as we set boundaries, we are on the positive track! Not to scare any of you, but the fact is that any Meditation can be an opening for Earthbound Spirits to enter. It might never happen and I want to believe it won’t, but because there are cases where Paranormal activities have started as a result of listening to Guided Meditations with an intention to relax, I have to mention this! It’s just like with using a Quija Board – set the boundaries, be clear about them, what’s acceptable for you and not, and you are good to go! When it comes to Setting Boundaries in Mediumship - the most important is for you to be in charge, to let Spirits know, what your rules are and stick with them! How to set boundaries? Check out exercises in Part VIII – Exercises & Meditations

~ importance of energy clearing ~ Because in Mediumship energy is the main realm we work in, it is important that our energy is clean and clear. We take showers when we need to clean our physical body but we need to clean our emotional body, our energy and to do that – we meditate! It’s great if we can keep our emotional body, mind, energy clean and clear at all times, but especially when we do Mediumship work. You know that chatter that we often tend to have in our mind? All kinds of thoughts go through our mind and they seem to race at record speed? And how we jump from one thought to another and all the thoughts that cross our mind are all mixed together? And how many emotions we have about different aspects of our lives and how they get mixed up together too? If we have the same happen when we do Mediumship work, it will only make us confused if we jump from one thought to another, from one spirit to another, from one message to another. That can get and will get very confusing. It can 34

be hard to separate which ones are our thoughts and feelings and which ones are the messages, thoughts and feelings of Spirits. If that happens and when that happens, the quality of our work as a Medium won’t be and isn’t as good as when we are focused and our energy is cleared. Focus and clear energy are extremely important when doing Mediumship work! How to clear the Energy? The first step would be to clear the Mind, which we can do using a tool like Meditation. What is Meditation? Meditation is quieting the mind, clearing the mind of all the chatter, all the outside stimulants and influences etc... How we do that with a help of Meditation? We choose the type of Meditation that suits us the best. Meditation in it’s basic form is focusing on nothing, just being present, trying to think of nothing. It might sound simple and easy, yet it can be the most challenging thing, because we usually have a lot of chatter going on in our minds. To help ease us into meditation of this kind, there are different types of Meditations that are helpful and powerful on their own. In this book we will look at the few most basic and simple Meditation examples that you can implement in your everyday life. If you do feel a need for more complicated meditations, for trying out different types of meditations to see what works the best for you – I encourage you to do it! There is a lot of information out there (books, CD’s videos) about meditating and Meditations making it easier for you to find the one that suits you the best. But, like I said, in this book we will look at few most basic and simple Meditation examples. Energy Clearing Meditations/Exercises are great to do on daily basis and it is important part of preparing ourselves for as well as doing Mediumship work. It is especially important when we work with some challenging Earthbound Spirits. ~ types of Meditation ~ Basic Meditation – that’s the meditation where you sit in a comfortable position and try to quiet your mind by thinking nothing. It might sound simple and easy, yet it can be challenging especially when we always have gazillions of thoughts go through our mind. A good way to succeed with this meditation is to think of yourself as an observer of your own thoughts – noticing what thoughts come up as you try to quiet your mind yet, not engage 35

in them, let them just pass by. Important is to remember, when starting this kind of meditation, that it can take time. Do not give up if it seems like is not working because it is… it’s a process. Focused Meditation – this is a kind of Meditation where you focus on something intently but don’t engage your thoughts about it. For example – focus on something visual or focus on a sound or word, positive emotion, positive affirmation, positive idea. It all depends on the circumstances and what we feel or think would be the best object to focus at the time. How do we focus, for example, on a word or emotion or affirmation? By simply repeating this word or emotion or affirmation in our mind, seeing it, feeling it, being it. The idea of a Focused Meditation is the same as the idea of a Basic Meditation – to stay present and clear our mind only instead of just trying to think of nothing, we have something to focus on. Result will be pretty much the same – we stay present and all the chatter falls away.

Structure and Validation When in comes to structure and validation – they are important part of Mediumship work. ~ Structure ~ When Spirits talk – they talk - and there is no telling in advance how the conversation and connection with Spirits will unfold, what exactly and how the connection will turn out. My point is – there is no knowing what exactly is going to happen and it can’t be planned to the detail yet there is some general structure to Mediumship work. When Spirits have an urgent need for connecting with us or if we haven’t set boundaries, if we are open to talk to them at all times – we will be contacted by Spirit at any time, especially if we are naturally more tuned into the Spirit realm. If that happens and when it happens the best we can do is just go with it, listen to what Spirits have to say and then go from there. It is however different if we set an intention to connect with those in Spirit. Those are the cases where structure would be good to apply. Before we connect with someone in Spirit, especially if someone is coming to us for a session or we do a platform Mediumship – it is important to set an intention for the connection. Everybody does it differently, but the idea is 36

to do a little prayer of some kind, setting intention to be a clear channel between the worlds, to be of help to people who have come to see us (those alive and those in Spirit), be in a best space energetically to receive the messages and pass them on, to “hear” Spirits clearly, set intention asking Spirits to speak loud and clear so that it would be impossible for us to miss them and what they have come to say. If we work with Spirit Guides then call them in and let them know what is it we want their help with etc... It all can be done silently and there is no one specific script to follow other than guidelines like above. Create your own personal “before the Mediumship work” prayer. If you go to a haunted place either for your own personal reasons or to do some work, some paranormal investigation – let the Spirits know you are coming, or that you are there (even if seems like it’s obvious to them that you are there) and what you want. Be clear with your intentions and show Spirits the respect just as you would show respect to people who are still here in a physical form. The other aspect of structure is - it depends on how we approach Spirits. What I mean by that is – in some cases people who will come to us, or we ourselves (especially when doing paranormal investigation) will be wanting to connect with Spirits who come through, Spirits who want to come through that way, giving Spirits opportunity to choose who wants to come through or, in paranormal investigation/paranormal experience case when we want to find out who is/are the Spirits and why they are here. In those cases we will do our pre-connection meditation/prayer and after that, address the Spirit(s), tell them we are here and want to connect, talk, help if we can, if needed. * If we connect with someone’s deceased loved one and person who has come to us for a session just wants to see who from their deceased loved ones would like to come through – we would turn to this person’s deceased loved ones as a group and ask who in spirit would love to connect. The next step after that would be for us to determine who is the Spirit who comes through (and yes – somebody always wants to talk, I have never yet encountered the situation where I would try to connect with someone in Spirit and nobody wanted to connect… on contrary, they love to connect and talk and usually not only one, but more Spirits come through when given the opportunity. When I learned Mediumship we were told and taught that Spirits don’t always want to talk. I also heard quite a few other Mediums say that, yet I have never experienced it in my Mediumship work so, I don’t support this idea). 37

When determining who has come through, what is the relationship between person who has come for a session and Spirits, structure to follow would be – is the Spirit male of female? Is the Spirit older than their loved one who is still here? What is the age range of the Spirit? Is the Spirit bloodrelated family? Or someone who was like a family? Is it a friend? Neighbor? Etc. If it’s a family member then – is the Spirit connected to male side of the family or female? We also want to include asking the Spirit to show some significant memory either of their life or something they did together with their loved one still here. We would ask for such significant memory because we want a person who has come for a session to be able to have something they can validate (more about validation in the following chapter). We would ask Spirits silently all these questions as appropriate, and according to the response we would get, we would relay what we got to the person who has come for a session. It’s a team effort in this case between Medium, Spirits and client/s. We want to make sure we tell the person or a group of people (if we do Platform Mediumship) that’s it’s a team effort. They don’t have to give us too many details about their deceased loved ones, but they need to be able to validate us connecting with their deceased loved one. And we too need to have the validation so we can move on and don’t spend too much time just validating who has come through but get on with the messages. Once it’s clear who has come through, we would ask then what the Spirit wants to tell. We would also ask the person who has come for a session, if there is anything they want to tell or ask the deceased loved one, the one who has come through. It’s important for us as a Medium, to listen. The better listeners we are, the better we can hear with all our senses. Important to know that often messages come in a form of symbols and the person receiving would have hard time understanding what spirit means by what they say, it’s our responsibility as a Medium to ask the Spirit for some deeper insight, for clarification of the message, of the symbol. Spirits want us to understand them so they are and will do their best to make sure we know what they are talking about. If it’s still hard to understand, sometimes there is a message in it. What I mean by that is – it might be that the Spirit, while here in a physical body, had hard time expressing him/herself and therefore they might have still hard time expressing themselves even after crossing over. Spirits still keep the character they had while in a physical body. Them giving a hard time to Medium in this case would serve as a great validation of who we have connected with. Once the communication feels complete, once Spirits have said all they want 38

to say, their loved one who is still here have communicated all he/she wanted, we would ask if there is maybe some final message that Spirit/s want to communicate before leaving. At the end, we would most definitely thank the Spirit for showing up and connecting. Like I said before – show the same respect to Spirit as you would to anyone still here in a physical form. *If we have a person here in a physical body, a client, who comes to us and wants to connect with a particular deceased loved one – We would first call in the Spirit of the person they want to connect with. We would do it silently by thinking of this person, their name, if we know it. We can also ask our client to think of their deceased loved one while we do it, to increase the energy for connecting. To double-make-sure we know Spirit is here, we can ask Spirit “please give me a sign that you are here!” or “you have heard us” etc... Once you feel/see/hear/know (depending on what is your natural primary sense you pick up the presence of Spirits), then pay attention to Spirit who has come through… Describe what you see – is it male or female, what age, how she/he looks, how she/he is dressed and ask for a significant memory – something that would help the receiver to identify and validate if the Spirit who has come is the person they wanted to connect with. If it is then you can continue with questions, messages – whatever Spirit wants to say, whatever your client wants to know. If it’s not a Spirit that you were trying to connect with, don’t just give up the connection you have made. Ask who the Spirit is, follow the steps described a little bit earlier in this chapter. Make sure you do ask the Spirit what is his/her connection to the client. Besides everything the Spirit wants and has to tell, make sure you find out from Spirit: a significant experience, a memory that Spirit has and client can recognize, the cause of death, a message Spirit has for a client, for his/her loved one who is still here in a physical body. If any of the responses to these questions or any other are not clear, always remember to ask for clarification. Something else important to remember and keep in mind is to always give Spirits recognition of some sort even if you don’t’ talk or don’t want to talk 39

with them right away. It can be as simple as “hi”… We wouldn’t like to be ignored either and neither does Spirit. Also – it’s nice to thank them for coming through and bringing messages at the end of the connection!

Validation Validation is an essential part of Mediumship work. Even though we connect with Spirits and receive messages, pick up energy of the Spirits or the energy of some event that’s related to Spirits, not every message that a Medium receives and gives, is a validation… But validation is important! Just as much as client, receiver, wants and needs validation to know that connection is made with the “right” Spirit, Medium needs validation as well. For client - validation is helping client to know that medium is in fact truly connecting with their loved one/s in spirit. If the Medium gives general information like : I have your grandmother here with me and she is asking me to tell you she really loves you and is very proud of you. Does that sound like something you can validate? Even if it is your grandmother that Medium is talking to, how can you, as a client, know for sure? True Mediumship requires validation! Now a different scenario – “I have your grandmother here, she is showing me she liked sewing. She is also telling me her name was Adele and she loved the pictures you used to draw for her as a child. She is also showing there was a show on TV that you both loved watching when you came over to her house for a visit, she really loved that time together…” This is a type of information that can be validated. Now – if and when the information gets validated, then the person receiving messages can be sure that Medium has indeed connected with his/her grandmother. This would be, what I call – valuable validation. Once Medium has established a connection with Spirit and recipient has received a valuable validation then the message from the first example (about grandmother who is here and proud of the recipient) has a meaning to a receiver. This message then would be considered “message from loved one”. It’s important to ask Spirit for information that receiver can validate, at the very beginning. For Medium – validation is important so that we too know for sure who is 40

the Spirit we are talking to and how Spirit is related to the client. When we, as Mediums, get information from Spirit, answers from Spirits to our questions – whether the answer comes as a sound or a picture or a vision or knowing etc. – it’s important to pass this information to a person receiving without trying to make sense out of it first. Let’s say – we see a kitchen, Spirit is showing us kitchen. The first general association with kitchen for us might be cooking but for person receiving the message might be for example, that they met each other in the kitchen at some friend’s house party. If we tell the person receiving the messages something like “your deceased loved one liked to cook (as for us kitchen means cooking)” – the person receiving most likely would say “not really, can’t relate to that”… but if we tell “your deceased loved one is pointing out kitchen as being significant” – receiver of the message/s would be given opportunity to know exactly what Spirit is trying to say. That would also be part of receiving validation. Remember – if you get only messages without facts, that means you are connected psychically, if you are getting facts – you are connected as a Medium.

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PART III Signs and Symbols

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Role that Signs and Symbols play in Mediumship Signs and Symbols play a major role in Mediumship. Like I mentioned before – because Spirits do not have a physical body anymore, they can’t communicate in the exact same way when they still did have it. Often they use symbols to get through to us. The message is clear, but interpretation of the symbols is where the true meaning of the message can get lost. The more we practice, the better we become in understanding the meaning of symbols. This chapter is written to help you to better understand how symbolism in Mediumship works and to give you a basic idea of how to interpret symbols.

Different types of Symbols To better understand the meaning of symbols it is important to understand and know that there are several kinds of symbols. Symbols can have a general meaning as well as a personal meaning. When interpreting symbols it’s important to look at both. If we look only at one of the meanings, our interpretation of the message might be incomplete. If and when we get messages from spirits in a form of symbols, we might be in need for clarification. All we really need to do is – to ask Spirit to clarification. At first we really need to pass on the message the way we got it. It’s important that the person receiving gets the message, not us because we are just here like a telephone connecting Spirits and their loved ones. If a person who is receiving messages doesn’t know or doesn’t understand the meaning, then we can ask the spirit for clarification, then we dig deeper for better understanding. Sometimes we might need to use our intuition and psychic abilities to get the most detailed information from Spirits. Just like with everything – the more we practice, the more familiar we become and continuously grow in understanding the Mediumship process including understanding the meaning of symbols.

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mean by that is – if I would say “mother”, what’s the first thought that comes to your mind, when I say “mother”? What do we associate with mother (in general, not personal)? Nurture, care, love, birth… Those are just few general meanings for “mother” that we all associate. But what happens when we think of our own mother? Does this general meaning change, or stay the same? For people who have had a nurturing, loving, caring mother, the personal association with “mother” will be quite different from people who have had irresponsible or careless mother, a mother who was an alcoholic or people whose birth mother gave them up for adoption. We are simply looking at the meaning of “mother”, one word, yet when thinking of our own mother, so many emotions come up, so many personal associations. Just as important as it is to take into consideration general and personal meaning of symbols when needed, it is important to allow it to be client’s personal meaning, not just ours! With time you will definitely develop better understanding and knowing how to balance both of them. It takes practice. Following are some ideas of the general meaning of the most common symbols!

~ colors and symbols ~ Color is something we all are very familiar with, we have it all around us, we use it all the time and we often don’t even pay much attention to what the deeper meaning of our choice of color might be. When it comes to Mediumship work – in combination with the message Spirit is giving, noticing what colors are involved in a message, can be a very helpful tool for delivering a powerful message. Most well-known colors and their basic meaning: White – perfection, purity, grace, divinity, innocence… Black – mystery, unknown, end of the cycle, transformation… Red – action, passion, power, desire, anger… Orange – creativity, shock of any kind, fear (or removing fear)… 44

Yellow – joy, intellect, rational thinking, criticism… Green – new beginnings, growth, harmony, balance, healing… could also mean – possessiveness. Blue – communication and feeling safe (or not feeling safe), speaking, speaking one’s truth, standing up for ourselves… Purple – spirituality, connection with spirit… Pink – softness, sensitivity, problems being heard… Brown – groundedness, feeling secure or looking for security, possible depression… Indigo – connectedness to Higher realms, other worlds, clear seeing… Grey – uncertainty, confusion, compromise, transition… Turquoise – creativity, creation, communication through creativity… Gold – alchemy, true power, wisdom, inner power, royalty, success, triumph, prosperity, luxury, value… Silver – emotional, ebb and flow of the tides, moon, divine feminine, intuition… There are many other colors, color shades and each one of them have a different unique meaning as well. Also important to keep in mind that there is more to the meaning of each color than I have mentioned here and to not only rely on the information given in this book. I just wanted to give you a basic idea and insight into color. Just like symbolism in general - colors have general meaning as well as a personal meaning. For one person coming for a session, meaning of certain colors will most likely be different than for another person. First and most important is to let them know what is the color that Spirit is giving us, before we go into the symbolism. Sometimes it’s just as simple as Spirit showing their favorite color, or showing their loved one’s favorite color. 45

~ numbers and symbols ~ Just like colors, numbers too have been around for a long time and are something we are familiar with. Is there more to numbers than we see from the first look at them? Yes, yes, yes! Every number has a connection with Universal principles and Nature. Here is general basic meaning of numbers: 1 – number of new beginnings, stepping into new. It applies not only on a physical level but spiritually as well – stepping into new. 2 – number of partnership calling us to unite. 3 – number of Magic, intuition and creativity, success and rewards. 4 – number of stability, grounding, home and angelic realm. It also represents a need for persistence and endurance. 5 – number of travel, adventure, motion and radical changes. It’s the number of action. 6 – number of harmony, balance, sincerity, love and truth. It also represents enlightenment – lightning our path where the balance between spiritual and physical is needed. 7 – number of Magic, esoteric and esoteric meanings. It also represents imagination and our use of conscious thought and awareness. 8 – number of business, success and wealth, continuation and cycles. 9 – number of satisfaction, accomplishments, intellectual power, recognition of our internal attributes and extending them out into the world to make positive and influential difference. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

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also mention other options of meaning of the numbers that Spirits give us! When Spirit gives us number, it can also be a date or an age or house number or any other significant number. It’s not necessarily always the case for us to try to get the symbolism of the number. It can just be the number that has a significant meaning to a person.

~ animals and symbols ~ Just like numbers, when we are given an animal as a message, it can be literally an animal – maybe person’s in Spirit animal, maybe our animal in Spirit… however, animals can be a symbol for something more and give us a deeper meaning for the message as well. When coming across animals in a message from Spirit, think first, what’s the first association you have with this particular animal? That is the best way to understand symbolism of the animal. Think, what is the character of the animal? That is what the meaning of this animal showing up in a message is about. First association with the animal holds the key to understanding what the message is about. Here are some of the most well-known animals and just the basic idea about symbolism they hold. Ape (primates) – animal that represent intelligence, curiosity, trickery, communication… Bat – animal that represents facing and transcending above the fear, above obstacles… Bear - animal that represents confidence, courage, strength, stamina, unpredictable emotions and self control… Beaver - animal that represents construction, building and acting on our dreams Bee - represents luck, prosperity, fertility, hard work that results in productivity… Butterfly – represents soul, rebirth, reincarnation, change, metamorphosis, transformation and joy… 47

Bull- animal that represents strength, stubbornness, stability… Camel - animal that represents long journeys, replenishment and survival… Cat - animal that represents independence, wisdom, magick, mystery and healing… Lion - animal that represents strength, courage, pride, power… Sphinx - animal that represents secret knowledge and protection… Tiger - animal that represents personal power, sensuality, passion, perception Cow – animal that represents fertility, purity… Crocodile/Alligator - animal that represents taking risks… Deer - animal that represents divine guidance, spiritual journey, perception, gentleness and regeneration… Ant – is a representation of hard work, never giving up, discipline and order… Caterpillar – represents new beginnings, never-ending cycle of life… Dragonfly- represents dreams and balancing of emotions and thoughts… Fly – represents spiritual death and regeneration… Dog - animal that represents loyalty, protection and guidance… Dolphins - animal that represents enlightenment, sacred breathing and sound, creation, messages from spirit… Elephant - animal that represents memory, knowledge, perpetual learning, prophecy… Fish - animal that represents fertility, rebirth, renewal, spiritual sustenance…

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Fox - animal that represents invisibility, cunning, slyness, secrets, shapeshifting, keen hearing… Frog / Toad - animals that represent transformation, fertility, sensitivity… Goat / Sheep - animals that represent virility, masculine and projective energies… Rabbit - animal that represents astuteness, transformation, swift movement, uncertainty… Horse - animal that represents companionship, astral travel, travel (in general), adventure, freedom and overcoming obstacles… Lizard - animal that represents wisdom and good fortune… Dragon - animal that represents true raw inner power, cosmic mind in motion, knowledge, concentration, determination, spiritual strength, courage, transcendence and transformation… Mole - animal that represents blindness and sensitivity… Mouse - animal that represents details, alertness and hesitation… Octopus - animal that represents unfolding of creation as well as going in different directions, need to prioritize… Otter - animal that represents swiftness and rejoice in life, playfulness… Porcupine - animal that represents discrimination, creating your own lifepath… Raccoon - animal that represents curiosity, disguise and masks… Seals - animal that represents imagination, creativity and sacrifice… Sirens / Sea Nymphs - enchantment, dangerous attraction, supernatural lovers…

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Serpent / Snake - animal that represents healing, transformation, renewal, rebirth and eternity… Shark - animal that represents longevity, strength and power… Skunk - animal that represents sensuality in every aspect of it… Squirrel - animal that represents resourcefulness, preparation and activity… Pig - animal that represents courage, protection and sacrifice… Turtle - animal that represents longevity and feminine/maternal energies… Whale - animal that represents creative intuition, psychic perception, telepathy, past lives and sound in magick… Wolf - animal that represents intelligence, ingenuity, master of disguise, communication and cooperation… Zebra – animal that represents agility and individuality… Grasshopper – represents massive forward leaps, progression and following instincts… Moth – represents lunar guidance, adaptation and following the light… Praying mantis – represents stillness, silence and prophecy… Scorpion – represents survival on earthly plane, mysticism… Spider – represents creation, networking, continual creation and destruction… Birds Blackbird – symbol for knowledge, mastery and understanding… Bluejay - symbol for development and proper use of power, dedication vs. dabbling… 50

Cardinal - symbol for vitality and self-worth… Chicken - symbol for fertility, sexuality and sacrifice… Stork - symbol for maternal and feminine energies and new birth… Dove - symbol for guidance, protection, prophecy, hope and peace… Duck - symbol for emotional comfort and grace… Eagle - symbol for wisdm, keen vision, majesty, freedom, power, strength, and victory… Falcon - symbol for swift astral energy and travel… Goose - symbol for spiritual quests, new directions and communication… Hawk - symbol for messages, keen insight and protection… Hummingbird - symbol for divine love, happiness and joy… Owl - symbol for ancient and magical knowledge, divine wisdom, death and renewal, ability to see in the dark (literary and symbolically in the dark…) … Peacock - symbol for watchfulness, wisdom and colorfulness… Raven - symbol for prophecy, wisdom, messages, death, resurrection, transformation and magic… Robin - symbol for spring, morning, growth and happiness… Seagull - symbol for messengers of emotions… Swan - symbol for intuitive dreams, spiritual guidance, expanding psychic talents and inner beauty… Turkey - symbol for blessings and sharing…

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Woodpecker - symbol for rhythms, discrimination and changes… Phoenix - symbol for transcendence, transmutation, transformation and life after death…

~ nature and symbols ~ Nature elements are a great way to communicate with, as all of us are familiar with nature on one level or another. Moon – psychic abilities and hidden emotions… Sun – strengths, hope, courage, inner power… Star – guidance, spiritual awareness… Lightning – illumination, Divine Spark… Comet – momentous events, change, cosmic knowledge coming to us… Rainbow – balance of life, living life fully, being present – being in the moment… *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Water usually represents emotions, feelings and psychic abilities… When it comes to what kind of water it is and what the specific message of water is – think of the first association what you have with it. * ice - frozen emotions, frozen psychic abilities, feelings * waterfall – cleansing, emotional cleansing * rain - releasing emotions, letting emotions flow * river - flowing emotions * ocean – depth, deep emotions, source of emotions * lake/pond - controlled emotions * swamp – stagnant energy, stagnant emotions * drowning - drowning in emotions Fire – rebirth, transformation, strengths… Air – light, lightness, connection with spirit, intuition, ideas * sky – realms of spirit, connecting with the realms of spirit * storm - erratic thoughts and emotions Earth – physical, grounding, subconscious… 52

* roots – grounding, root of the situation, problem, cause, foundation * mountain or hill – overcoming obstacles, moving forward * cliff – taking leap of faith, trusting the process * cave - inner realms of one self, the unconscious * forest - journey into the inner self * jungle - hidden parts of oneself, hidden urges and actions * desert - lack of joy Some random but often used symbols are: Road – representing life-path, path we or spirit/s are/were on… Bridge – representing transition, change, crossing, traveling between two worlds… Fence – representing obstacle/s, choice/s, two opposing energies being present in situation

~ crystals and symbols ~ Crystals are part of nature and therefore often used as symbols. Each one of them has a different energy and is used for different reasons, has a different purpose. Crystals and gemstones have been created from Earth’s inner core, they have went through geologic process of heating, cooling and displacement of their way to their present form. Healing properties of each crystal depend on vibration they are in, color, and process crystals have went through to get the form we are seeing… Amethyst- is a stone of change, protection and enlightenment. Aventurine- is a stone that brings balance to the intellect, emotions and physical being. Blue Topaz- is a stone that assists in attaining clarity, lift burdens, attracts abundance. Carnelian- is a stone that stimulates the energy of love and joy, and clears negative energy. Citrine- is a stone that balances energy, enhances personal power.

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Fluorite- is a stone that helps to find truth, eases change and brings strengths during transition times. Goldstone- is a stone that is manmade – rich in copper. It is a stone that enhances energy of intuition and sexuality as well as acts like mood stabilizer Hematite- is a stone that enhances memory, concentration and focus. Jasper- is a stone that helps to balance and unite the energy of physical with the spiritual which is needed to achieve goals. Labradorite- is a stone that protects aura, helps to keep it clear and balanced. This is also a stone that supports originality and uniqueness. Malachite- is a stone of transformation that assists with changing situations. It also helps to release negative emotions. Moonstone- is a stone of changes and wishes! It is a stone that helps to clear obstacles on the path of destiny. Clear Quartz- is a stone that empowers and protects. It stores, releases and regulates energy facilitating growth and awareness. Rose Quartz- is a stone of Love. This stone soothes and comforts bringing deep inner healing attracting the energy of healthy love. Sodalite- is a stone that unites logic and intuition, enhances meditation and inner wisdom. Tiger’s eye- is a stone that helps to gain insight, helps to concentrate, think more clearly and organize details. Turquoise- is a stone that helps with creative projects. It also helps to dispel negative energy, helps to resolve problems in a creative way.

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Some of the most well-known flowers and their symbolic meaning: Acorns- represent fertility, seeds of knowledge and prophecy… Apple tree- is considered to be Tree of Life but Apple represents rebirth, knowledge, reincarnation, wisdom… Bay tree- is considered to be Tree of Healing. Birch- represents rebirth and regeneration… Cones- are considered to be seeds of potential… Daisies- represent wishes and new cycles of thinking and being… Evergreens- represent strength, longevity… Ferns- represent sincerity, luck and protection… Hawthorn- is considered to be a sacred tree to the fairies and Druids… Hazel- represents white magic and healing… Honeysuckle- represents flight, protection, hidden secrets… Iris- represents purification and wisdom… Ivy- represents friendship and continuity… Lilies- represent protection… Lavender- represent healing, relaxation and long life… Maple- represents longevity… Mistletoe- represents regeneration, rebirth and healing… Mugwort- represents clairvoyance and divination…

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Oak- represents strength, truth and longevity… Pine- is considered to be a Tree of the Sun, purification and immortality… Pomegranate- represents fertility and are considered to be seeds of knowledge… Poppies- represent sleep, luck and fertility… Rose- represents fulfillment of goals and desires Silver Fir- is considered to be Tree of Birth… Sunflowers- represent the sun and regeneration… Vines- represent eternal flow of energy and tangles of life… Violets- represent protection, healing, peace and wishes… Willow- represents fertility, flexibility, prophecy and wisdom…

~ Movies, Books and Songs as Symbols ~ When Spirits give a message via showing something that is: movies, books or songs… there can be many different meanings. It might mean literally that particular movie, book, character, or a song is something extra important – maybe it was Spirit’s favorite while he/she was here, maybe it was your favorite and Spirit is trying to bring up emotions you feel when thinking of this movie or book or a song, the meaning it had to you as there is most likely a key to a message.

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PART IV Challenges and Solutions

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Challenges and Solutions ~ Main challenges that Medium might experience ~ Hard to make a connection or can’t make a connection It could be due to many reasons: ~ Depending on the character of the Spirit in this lifetime, he/she might not be willing to communicate. You can experiment and come up with some creative way to talk to the Spirit and see if you can provoke communication. You could try again later because this might not be the right time to connect with that particular Spirit. ~ Earthbound Spirits have a tendency to have challenges with communication. It is possible that the Spirit you are trying to reach, is Earthbound. Look for more information about Earthbound Spirits and how to be with them in Chapter V. Act accordingly. ~ You, the Medium, might be too tired or not focused enough. Perhaps you are letting personal emotions get in the way. If you have situation happening in your personal life, those thoughts can get in the way and clog the clear communication line with Spirits. Know yourself. If you are too tired to communicate with those in Spirit, then you are just too tired. Know what your limitations are, if you have some trick or way to bring up your own energy you can make it work. Do make sure that you have cleared your energy before you begin. Make sure you have set clear boundaries with Spirits. If you have done it and you are still feeling too tired, then you might need a good sleep, a nap, relaxing bath or something of that kind to rejuvenate. Don’t try to force communication to happen. ~ If a person in a physical body who wants to connect with someone in Spirit, has certain expectations and wouldn’t accept anything other than what is on their mind. In that case, no matter what a Medium tells their client, even when Medium has made a connection with the right Spirit, it won’t be good enough for the client as this person will only accept the information that he or she is expecting and nothing else. Depending on you as a Medium character, the best solution might be to 59

explain how communication with Spirit works and suggest that letting go of any expectations the person might have can be a key to successful communication. Maybe you are a very straight forward person and tell the client straight up that you feel he/she has certain expectations. I have seen it work well both ways and therefore saying that it depends on your personal character how to handle this kind of challenging situation! Not getting strong enough information for validation ~ A Medium might be too tired or not focused enough and therefore connection that is made with Spirit, might not be as strong! Get some rest or do whatever it takes for you to get focused, clear your energy, your mind, your head. ~ Also in this case a client might have a certain expectation of the validation they want to receive and even if the information the Medium gives, is validation, client will ignore it. Sometimes the client doesn’t see it as validation only because it’s not what they expected. You, as a Medium can explain how the communication with the Spirit process works and suggest for them to let go of any expectations the clients might have. Ask if what Spirit is telling is true even if it is not what they expected to hear! Messages Medium gets are not the one’s recipient wants to hear Read the comment above about expectations. Misinterpreting message ~ Remember to first always give the message you receive just the way you receive it. If client can’t validate it or doesn’t see the connection and meaning in it, then look for clarification. Recipient can’t validate ~ Sometimes it only seems at the first look that messages gotten are not strong enough validation. Sometimes it is needed to leave the message as it is and it will make sense to the client later in a session or later when the client will already be home. ~ If there is more than one person or if someone is waiting in line to talk to a Medium, it might be that someone else’s deceased loved one has come forth and the message is for the next person in line. Messages 60

can get mixed up in situation like that! Each situation will be different and important to remember here is to not discard the connection you have made with Spirit. There is always some reason why Spirits talk to us and in messages they give! It’s even in those situations if messages can’t be validated right away and make no sense at first. Keep going. Recipient has expectations that Medium can’t reach ~ Look to the comment above about expectations. Do not let this discourage you from doing your work as a Medium! People’s expectations are not validation of your work and abilities. They only show what and who they are. They do not show who you are, or how strong or weak you are as a Medium! Something comes up during a Mediumship Session that you don’t know how to help with It can happen! If it comes up that a client who has come to you for a session needs some medical help, for example, you might know who to suggest they go see. If you feel you won’t be able to help, don’t be afraid to let your client know that you can’t help. They will be more happy for your honesty and your efforts to help, than you trying to help knowing you are not the right person to help them!

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Main to do’s and do not’s in Mediumship work Do not’s Don’t just connect with Spirit and leave (even when it’s Spirit that can’t be identified at first). Don’t “hit and run.” Don’t do a session when you are tired, ill, not feeling well. Don’t do any Mediumship work when you have consumed any alcohol. Don’t do a reading in a location where you don’t feel comfortable. Don’t give a reading to any one person too often. Don’t try to force (with frustration or anger) connection between you and Spirit to happen. Don’t give up just because you have had a bad day. Don’t give up if you had a negative experience with some client! We all have those days. Do’s When you know you have a Mediumship session with someone or you are going to do some paranormal investigation - be sure to prepare yourself, think ahead. Set yourself up for a great and successful session. Yes, it can happen without preparation, but think, if without preparation you are already doing great, then how much more powerful and healing the experience will be if you are prepared, both - spiritually and energetically. If there is a negative message that Spirit wants you to give to the person receiving messages, make sure to ask Spirit how is this message going to help person receiving it? No matter what it is negative that you have been given to pass on, make sure you end a session with something positive. Give guidance on how to deal with negative. Leave recipient with some solution steps, guidance, positive and encouraging message. When doing this work we must: Focus on Service! Focus on Helping! Always, always work on yourself! Work on your Spiritual Growth! Learn something new, expand your understanding! Expand your knowledge! It will help you to connect with a wider variety of Spirits. 62

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PART V Paranormal Activities and Earthbound Spirits

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~ The concept of Earthbound Spirits and Crossing Over ~ To make it simple – Earthbound Spirits are spirits who haven’t moved on. They are souls who don’t possess a physical body anymore, but for various reasons discussed further in this chapter, haven’t moved on yet. Those are spirits that have unfinished business of some sort. Before they can move on, there is something they need to do. To finish! How to know the difference So, how do we know when spirits have moved on and when spirits stay earthbound? The basic and general idea of detecting and knowing that earthbound spirit/s are around, is being able to tell the difference between spirits who have crossed over and moved on who visit us Vs. spirits who are earthbound, is very simple. We think of spirits who have crossed over and moved on as they have went into the light and they don’t have any unhealthy attachments. They are free and feel complete. How could this energy possibly feel? Whatever your natural main senses are that you use to get information on energy levels, think how free, light and healthy moving on energy “feels” to you? That’s what you more or less will feel when there are spirits that have moved on are around. If spirits have moved on, they come with light energy – literally and spiritually. There is usually a sense of lightness, comfort, positiveness. If your main natural sense is seeing, you might see the light and/or light color around the spirit/s. If you are naturally good at feeling, you will feel light energy that is a comforting energy. When being around spirits who have moved on during connection and afterwards - you will get a positive and uplifting feeling. Connecting with spirits who have moved on will leave you comforted and empowered. Now think of stuck, confused, unfinished business, unhealthy attachment, addictions etc. How can this energy “feel”? How do you “feel” when faced with these emotions? How does this kind of energy feel in your body, with your senses? That’s more or less what you will feel as a key feeling when earthbound spirits are around. 65

If spirits are earth bound, they will come with a heavier energy – literally and spiritually. If you are more of a visual person, you might see darker colors around Earthbound Spirits. In my experience it’s grey or black. You might see a dark color trace following those spirits who are earthbound. If you are a person who feels first, you will feel some sort of heaviness around the earthbound spirits. When you walk into a place that has earthbound spirits, you will not feel at ease as well. You will feel heavy as if an extra weight is on your shoulders. You will also most likely feel like an urge to leave the place right away. It is a sense of feeling unwelcomed. Often Earthbound Spirit presence can be recognized by the sudden change of temperature. Earthbound Spirits tend to bring the feeling of cold. When connecting with and even after connecting with earthbound spirits, you are most likely going to feel tired, maybe even drained. Feeling lack of energy, lack of concentration and hard to focus are very common when faced with these situations. Also a sign of earthbound spirits being around or even attached to us is a sudden and without visible reason, change of behavior, character or mood. It is like having an addiction that seems impossible to break. In both cases, there will be more to it that a general feeling, you might “see” not only one sign but a combination of various signs that will help you to recognize if Spirits are Earthbound or not.

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When Spirits can’t Move On Usually spirits can’t move on after crossing over, if there is some unfinished business that they have left behind. What I mean by unfinished business is, they feel emotionally that there is something they haven’t said, something they haven’t done. They have passed away unexpectedly and have important unfinished projects. They have unresolved relationship/s with someone. Here are a few more reasons a spirit may stay earthbound: They might be held back by negative emotions like guilt of something they have done or haven’t done. Said or haven’t said… They might be held back by grief. It could be their own grief about not being able to enjoy life in the physical realm anymore (especially if they passed away unexpectedly), or they might be held back by the grief of loved ones who are still in physical bodies. Too much of grief from either side, can cause spirits to be unable to move on as it can cause too many energetic ties that hold the spirit back from moving forward. Spirits also can’t move on after crossing over, if they have been closed minded about life after death while in a physical body. If it happens, they have to come to terms (you as a Medium can help with that) that even though, they don’t have a physical body, they are still “alive". There is life after physical death. Before they can accept this fact, they tend to have a hard time moving on. When spirits are over-attached to the physical realm they value, it also makes it hard for them to move on. They feel frustrated, even angry at people who are still in physical bodies and enjoy things or activities spirits once enjoyed.

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Some spirits stay earthbound because they are confused and search for loved ones who have passed away before them not realizing that all they need to do is to let go. They will be able to move on where the loved ones are in the Light. If the spirit, while in a physical body, had done harmful things, actions towards others or themselves, the spirit’s choice of action may be negative or harmful to others. They might stay earthbound out of the fear of being judged and/or out of the fear of going to hell (as many religions suggest will happen).

When Spirits Choose to Not Move On If those in spirit know they have crossed over and don’t have a physical body anymore, they might choose not to move on. Why? Reasons may be: They might want to hang around their loved ones who are still in the physical realm to make sure they are okay. They might not want to let go or are having a hard time letting go of earthly attachments like a certain place or certain physical things like people, activities or addictions. They might have a hard time adjusting to the idea that they are in spirit now and choose to hang around. They stay earthbound until they adjust. They are looking for revenge or justice (usually it happens when their death has been sudden, when they have experienced some injustice etc.) Tools used in working with Earthbound Spirits My experience is that the best tool to help earthbound spirits to get unstuck and move on is - us. What I mean by that is – us as a Medium - the way we talk to spirits, the way we approach the matter of them moving on. Physical tools are not needed to help spirits move on except for us doing energy work and communicating with spirits. Talking to spirits and working with them is 68

of high importance. The way we choose to act, listen and hear, being open and creative to work with Spirits, and taking action accordingly is the best way to go about helping earthbound spirits. It’s us working with them by using our senses and mind. If needed, we can use tools like Paranormal Investigators use, to detect and confirm with some physical proof, that spirits are present. But to help spirits move on we can do without any physical tools.

More Detailed Signs We briefly touched this subject earlier in this very same chapter. Let’s look deeper into the ways EarthBound spirits let us know they are around. Feeling a presence of spirit/s is one of the most common ways we can know that they are around. I can’t tell you how often I have heard people say that they feel as though someone is there with them even though there is nobody in a physical sense there. That is a common and popular sign that it’s a spirit/s there. Hearing noises, knocking, footsteps and whispers even though nobody in a physical body is there, is another very common sign of spirits being present. Another very common sign that spirits are around, is experiencing interference with electrical equipment such as flickering lights, interference with TV, Radio or Computer. Something else that many people experience is a sudden change in temperature. Usually a sudden feeling of cold or a cold breeze. Just like with spirits who have moved on, with earthbound spirits we might notice certain scents hanging in the air when they are around. Objects that seem to move by themselves is another sign that spirits are around and trying to get our attention. One common sign of earthbound spirits being around is we may have a sense or feeling of constantly being tired or drained. This may also include having cravings or addictions that they had a hard time 69

overcoming. Sightings of spirits: we might see spirits from the corner of eye or seeing spirits as shadows.

Reasons for attracting Earthbound Spirits Earthbound spirits, being in in-between worlds as I call it, need energy to feed on. If the person in a physical body, is a strong person (energetically strong), she/he is most likely not going to attract earthbound spirit/s to her/him. Maybe the place where this person goes, will have earthbound spirit/s attached to a place, but not the person. At times it’s possible that the emotions or circumstances of the person still here are similar to the ones that Spirit experienced. Spirit then would be attracted to something similar. In most cases earthbound spirits attach to people who have a hard time setting boundaries. People who are in a vulnerable emotional state, people who are going through challenges, who don’t value themselves fairly, who haven’t worked on their spiritual growth or don’t have spiritual understanding, awareness… Those are the kind of people who are most likely to attract earthbound spirits to them. Earthbound spirits are kind of sneaky and do use people’s week moments, weaknesses as an opportunity to “jump in” and use it for their own purposes. If an earthbound spirit happens to get attached to a person with a strong character and spiritual awareness, the attachment most likely won’t last long as the person will most likely notice the difference and know it’s an earthbound spirit. She or he will most likely take action to set boundaries, to break the attachment, to either ask earthbound spirit to leave or help him/her to move on.

What to Do When Coming Across Earthbound Spirits The simple formula is: Acknowledge – Set Boundaries - Talk - Help What do I mean by that? Acknowledge 70

We all like to be recognized. It gives us a feeling of being valued, being seen and being part of something. That’s pretty much how spirits feel as well. Earthbound spirits feel this just as much as spirits who have moved on. They like to be recognized. It can change the whole energy in the room or space if we recognize the presence of a spirit, especially if it’s an earthbound spirit who is not being nice. To put it simple – respect the dead just like you would respect the living. First sign of respect is – acknowledgment. Set Boundaries Determine how you feel and set boundaries with earthbound spirits accordingly right at the beginning. You will be better able to do your part and your job as a Medium if you do. If you feel overwhelmed let the spirit know. Let them know what you’d like to see happen. If it’s more than one spirit who is there to talk to, it maybe a good idea to tell them talk one by one and not all together. If I come across more than one earthbound spirit, I usually ask them to form a line persay according to who’s matter is most urgent or most important to look at first. I have never encountered a problem with this approach. Remember – spirits, especially the ones who have something to say, want to say something, want to be heard, and are happy that you talk to them at all. They will do the best they can to communicate and make it easier for you. Like I said – successful communication between the worlds is a team effort. Also, part of setting boundaries is letting spirits know when you are going to talk to them. It might seem like a common sense thing to talk to earthbound spirits when we come across them. But you might experience it as being a bit too much. You might be busy with something else when randomly coming across earthbound spirits. If you can’t talk to spirits for some reason right away, let them know when you will be talking to them. It’s kind of like making an appointment. It will benefit everyone – you and the spirits. Try and experiment different approaches until you find the one that works the best for you! *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

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Keep in mind that by setting your own boundaries you will be in your own energy bubble. But a particular place that experiences paranormal activities will not necessarily be your bubble. What I mean by that is you, yourself will be strong and unaffected by earthbound spirits, but not necessarily the haunted place. Do not think that your boundary setting didn’t work if you still experience paranormal activity. There is a difference between you setting boundaries for yourself and setting boundaries for a place. Talk Now that you have acknowledged spirit presence and set the boundaries you can talk to the spirit. Whether you are talking to spirit one on one or talking to spirits as a group – you will get the feeling how it’s best to approach talking to spirits in each particular case. Ask the spirit who he/she is. Ask them to tell you, show you as much as possible about themselves and who they are. Once you got that, then ask earthbound spirit why is he/she here. Why are you here? What are you waiting for? Why haven’t you moved on yet? What needs to happen for you to want to move on? What help can you use? What can I do for you? What do you remember? What’s the last memory you have? and other similar questions. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Ultimately what we want to see happen is the earthbound spirits move on. We want to see them free and see them let go of UNHEALTHY attachments. You know how we here in the physical world are when we think too much of the past or are too attached to past happenings. We tend to miss out on the present. We miss out on moving forward because we are stuck in the past. Until we let go of obsessing with the past, we can’t move on and get to new experiences. That’s how it is for spirits as well. Unless they let go of obsessing too much with holding onto earthly or physical life, they cannot get a sense of completeness, finish unfinished with the past. They can’t move on. Like I have said before, because spirits don’t have physical body anymore, we as Mediums are their key to helping them finishing unfinished. We are their help for moving on! 72

How we facilitate it happening, is not easy to describe in a few words. Each situation is different. By following guidelines given here and practicing more is what is going to help you learn your own way and own style of helping earthbound spirits. Asking the right kind of questions is important, talking is important. Using every tool we have in our Spiritual tool bag to help earthbound spirits, is part of the process. See yourself as a counselor to earthbound spirits when you come across them. Whether it’s them who reach out to you for help or it’s you who reaches out to them to help. Help The ultimate goal when coming across earthbound spirits is to help them to move on and help them get unstuck. Help them be free from being bound to the earth realm. Methods to Help Earthbound Spirits People always talk about the dead going to the light, seeing the light and moving into the light. We see it in Hollywood movies. We can hear about the light from people who have had near death experiences and have actually been dead for few moments or minutes. My own experience is that there is indeed light that shows up when spirits are ready to move on (I am talking here specifically about Earthbound Spirits). The way I always see it is that it’s a bright, golden-white light that is like a spiral going upwards with brighter side at the bottom and getting narrower towards the top. There are however several ways how this light happens. Light either shows up when the spirit is ready. This somehow happens automatically while we talk. The more we talk, the more of the stuck energy gets cleared and the more clear the energy gets the closer it is for the light to show up. The light can be called to show up, either by us or our spirit guides, angels 73

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If you go someplace that feels like has earthbound spirits (assuming that by now, you will already know how to recognize earthbound spirits) and no spirit in particular “sticks out”, what you can do is to call in the light. By calling in I mean, visualize and see the light in your mind’s eye. Ask for the light to appear. Whichever way is the one that resonates with you the most is what you would use. Once the light is there, let the earthbound spirits know that it’s there and they can go into the light to move on. When calling in the Light set intentions for the light to be there for as long as it’s needed at that place for that particular situation. It might be all that is needed to clear the energy and help earthbound spirits to move on. If it’s still not enough you will know. Maybe not at the very beginning, but at some point while calling in light and even seeing spirits go into it. There might be spirits that don’t go into the light yet you see they are there. What you can do in situations like this is to ask all the possible questions you can think of, to learn what else these spirits want to happen or need to happen in order for them to go into the light. Why are they are there? Why they won’t go into the light? What can you do to help? What would they like for you to do to help? If the Earthbound spirit refuses to go into the light. you might want to call in help from other beings in the spirit realm that you communicate with and are connected with such as angels, god, etc.. While talking to earthbound spirits, call in, for example, angels. Let the angels know what has happened and tell the angels you’d like them to help you to help earthbound spirits move on. Keep in mind that it’s like us here in the physical body. Even earthbound spirits can’t be forced to do something that is against their will. Here I want to touch the subject of smudging and clearing the space, house clearing, banning ghosts, removing ghost and everything related. If you just want to clear the energy in your space or in someone else’s place, great! Go for it! Usually, when clearing space, people tend to burn sage, smudge the place, use candles, in some cases some sounds like bells, singing bowl, incense etc. . It’s great! But to think that it will get “rid” of ghosts or 74

earthbound spirits would be not wise. It might keep spirits out for a while but sooner or later they are and will be back. Clearing a space is one thing but helping earthbound spirits is quite another. There is a difference. Think about it. If someone wanted to get rid of you but instead of talking to you, they burn incense, burn sage or chant some mantras to get rid of you, would you really care to go away? I don’t think so. What would most likely help is if the person or group of people, who didn’t want you to be in some particular place would come and talk to you, find out why you are there and ask you to leave. They might find out why you don’t want to leave and if they could help in some other way for you to want leave, and - then help. And even if you didn’t like the scent of sage or oils burnt or incense, you might step out of the place for a moment, but it wouldn’t really keep you away from it if your needs weren’t addressed, would you? It’s exactly like that with earthbound spirits. The more understanding we are of them and what their needs are, the more likely we will be able to get them to want move on without struggling for it happen, without forcing it to happen. It will happen naturally instead. It will happen as a result of us being understanding and using an individual approach. If you see that just calling in the light doesn’t help, then it most likely means that spirits have something to say before they want to move on or before they are ready to move on. The best way to help them in this case would be to talk to them, to start a conversation, to find out what they are doing, what they are looking for, what they need to move on and go from there, act accordingly. Be creative and open to anything! If you already are open enough to talk to the dead and to do Medium work, then being creative and open I would think shouldn’t be much of a problem! Some examples from my own experience: I once came across an earthbound spirit who was killed while waiting for a bus. First thing he told me when I acknowledged his presence was he was pointing to his watch saying “You are late! Where have you been?” At first I didn’t quite understand what he was talking about but the more I tuned into this spirit, the more I got it. He had no idea he had passed away. He was stuck in the space of waiting for a bus. I was shown (and when I say shown I mean visions, pictures, story, images flashed in my head showing the story) how the accident happened. I saw how this guy was killed and how he got up from the physical body without realizing what had happened as he was very focused for the bus to come. The only way he was going to go willingly into the light was if the bus was going to take him there. Once I got that, all it took 75

was to visualize a golden white bus arriving. He got on it, and the bus spiraled up into the light. A good friend of mine calls this kind work of “getting spirits to go into the light” - spirits being tricked. Maybe it’s tricking, but it works, it helps. Spirits make their choice to move on and it is all that matters. Nobody is pushing them to do it, more like guiding them to the point where they want to move on! This is what I meant by being creative and open minded when helping earthbound spirits to move on. Sometimes, when spirits have stayed earthbound because they have deep regrets of something they did or didn’t do in this lifetime. The only way for us to help them to be willing to let go of unhealthy kinds of attachments, is to remind them that they can come to earth again for another lifetime and choose to be with the same person to do things differently. Sometimes when earthbound spirits are earthbound because they are looking or waiting for other deceased friends or family members they have. It’s helpful to remind them that they are in between realms and their deceased loved ones might be in the light. So the only way to find them would be to go into the light. What I usually do here is, focus my intention to calling in the person that the earthbound spirit is talking about. It usually only takes a few seconds and I see that person reaching out from the light. Once the earthbound spirit sees it happen, it’s a matter of seconds and the spirit wants to move into the light. Earthbound Spirits don't always want or need to rely on messages to their loved ones who is still here in a physical body. In many cases spirit just wants to tell someone what’s on their mind or be recognized. I have had earthbound spirits come and show their ID, just becasue they have passed away in conditions and in a way they weren’t recognized or weren’t identified. They just want to let someone know who they are. Sometimes earthbound spirits have stayed earthbound because they have had a hard time to watch their loved ones in the physical world grieving and suffering their loss. Telling them that by moving on and going into the light, from there, they will be able to better help their loved ones, is often the key for earthbound spirits to be wanting to go into the light. Also in this case, you might want to call upon a spirit’s loved one's energy, just by focusing on them for a few moments. It will be as if you talk to them in person only their physical body won’t be present. The result will be the same. 76

Sometimes, if it seems extra hard to help earthbound spirits realize it’s time to move on, we as Mediums are in a need for extra help by others in spirit realm ( I personally tend to call upon angels in these situations). We don’t always need to know what is being done or worked on by others in spirit but just trust that if we ask for help from someone in the spirit realm, we will be helped. If an earthbound spirit is giving you a hard time in regards to moving forward or moving into the light, sometimes it’s the other loved one in spirit that can be called upon, to help. If an earthbound spirit has some unfinished business with a person still alive but you don’t know the person is alive or the person alive is not local, you can still help. You can connect with this person’s energy and relay the message from the deceased loved one that way. There is always a reason and a way to help earthbound spirits you come across. Just look for alternative methods to help, be creative and create a way to help if the traditional “Mediumship – Healing/Helping Earthbound Spirits” methods seem to be of no help! *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

A note about sucide: misconception about suicides is that people commiting them are automaticaly earthbound. My experience is that it’s not entirely true. If a person commiting suicide is complete or feels as they have a completed lifetime therefore has no unfinished business and no regrets to stay bound to earth. They move into the light in no time. It’s only if the sucide has been commited without that sense of completion rather than as a result of emotional turmoil going on in life or something negative on a physical level. etc.. Only then the soul has a potential to stay earthbound.

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What is Ghost Hunting Ghost hunting is a process of investigating locations that are reported to be haunted. Ghost hunting teams will usually attempt to collect evidence that is 77

supportive of paranormal activity. To collect evidence, ghost hunters use a variety of electronic equipment like: EMF meter, digital audio recorder and video cameras (infrared & night vision). Ghost hunting teams also use techniques like researching the history and conducting interviews. When people experience paranormal activity of any kind or when they have ghost haunting experiences, it’s understandable to wonder what it’s all about. Is it for real? Is it even possible? How is it possible? What’s happening and how it is happening? In some cases the situation or reasons for a haunting, are apparent like houses and lands that have a history that involve tragic deaths, a tragedy of some sort, but in some it takes more effort in getting to the reasons for a haunting.

Haunted Places In this chapter you will read the most common experiences people have when their house or land is haunted. You’ll also learn some tools that can be used to “fix” the situation. Of course, every situation is different and specific and will need an adjustment of using these tools. Once you read the whole book, follow the guidelines and practice. That is what will help you know how to adjust each tool for each specific situation when it presents itself to you! *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Haunted places are one of the very common experiences that people have with the paranormal. People don’t have to be Mediums to know that their house or land is haunted. My experience and the experience of many other people show that people usually feel and know when something is off, even if they have never believed in paranormal before. Even if they have never had an interest in paranormal. Even when they haven’t received any training in Mediumship. How They Know Something is Off and How Do They Know It’s a Paranormal Experience They are Having? Every situation is different and unique and needs to be looked at separately. However, there are common guidelines to go by in order to determine if the experience is paranormal or not. 78

At first, when experiencing the paranormal, many people tend to “brush it off” by thinking there is a logical explanation to this. They try to justify experiences with a logical story of why this or that is happening. It’s understandable because the paranormal can be as simple as lights turning on or off without anybody in physical form doing it. Few examples: Spirits often do have a tendency to turn the lights off and on which can be easily explained by “oh, I forgot to turn it off” or thinking you turned it off but maybe you didn’t, or something is wrong with the power or the power went out. When hearing footsteps we tend to think that somebody really was there just not telling us they were or maybe it was an animal. When hearing noises or experiencing doors or windows opening or closing and trying to explain it by thinking or saying "it’s just wind". In many cases it’s really true, there is nothing paranormal happening. The experiences are nothing more than ordinary. But in many cases it really is a paranormal experience. How do we tell the difference? When the experience is paranormal, there is more than a physical action that happens. To describe what I mean exactly by that, I’ll share with you the most common phrases people use to describe their experiences. Keep in mind, they are taken out of context. Each experience is unique and different, but they are emotional experiences that accompany physical experiences. Like when the physical experience is the light turning on and off by itself or anything else of that kind. I could just feel density in the air… I just got that overwhelming “get out of the building” feeling… I just had that strange feeling that someone was behind me but when I turned around, there was nobody… I had that feeling that someone is watching me, that someone is walking with me… I never felt anything as depressing as this place before… I couldn’t put finger on it, I just had this weird feeling… Hair on the back of my neck stood up… I just kept getting angry for no reason when I walked into this one particular room… I just had this unsettling feeling about being in this room… From the first moment I stepped into the house, I didn’t have a good feeling but I let myself be talked into buying this house… 79

I got the coldest chill I had ever experienced, even worse than when you have cold or fever… First time I stepped into the house, I felt something was not right. It was a sad feeling… Just sitting on the chair, I felt the burn on my back. When I looked, there were actual signs of a burn that looked like claws… All of a sudden it got very cold in this one part of the room… I just felt scared even though there was no visible reason to be scared… Our house started to feel like it was not our house anymore… Basement is the creepiest place in the house. You just get the feeling there that someone is watching you… We couldn’t sleep. There was just this strange feeling in the air… I just had this overwhelming sense of doom and gloom… As soon as we walked into a room, we could feel a change in atmosphere… If you walked to the wall, there would be one spot freezing cold, spine tingling cold… These are a few most commonly mentioned phrases or experiences that people living or walking into a haunted place, have. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

I already mentioned few like lights turning on and off without anyone visible doing it or hearing footsteps… Here are some more: I saw a shadow, a shadow figure… Cabinet’s doors were opening and closing by themselves… There was blood everywhere and we didn’t know where it was coming from… The door opened but there was nobody there… I noticed a white mist at the door… There was a black shadow, like a ball, flying downstairs by me and then it was gone… We heard people talking when nobody was there… sounded like they were in the room with us, but we didn’t see anyone… All I know is, somebody pushed me… I would go downstairs and all the drawers would be open… 80

Things were moved, things were thrown at people… I couldn’t catch my breath, felt like someone was squeezing me… This light misty thing floated in the room and floated through the wall… I started to notice strange sounds like footsteps on the roof… We heard voices in the basement but nobody was there… I felt hot breath right on my neck, turned my head and there was this ghostly figure floating by me… A quick shadow passed by… Vase flew from the shelf about 3-4 feet and fell on the floor and broke… It looked like there was tornado in the house… I would wake up in the middle of night and would see shadows that I couldn’t explain… Sounded like kids in the back yard… it was 10pm and nobody was there… I saw a face in the pool… I asked “if you are here, give us some sign”… big mistake… I felt like I was choked right away… I saw a mask coming out of the closet… I woke up to glowing eyes… My daughter saw apparitions… I have weights in my house and they just started to roll back and forth in the room… I have no idea how it happened… We heard this loud noise of something breaking… walked in a living room and found mirror that was shuttered… while there, we heard a similar noise upstairs… one after another all the mirrors were shuttered within a matter of seconds… I came home and couldn’t open the door to my room. My room doesn’t have a lock, so, it couldn’t be locked… once we finally managed to get it open when my dad came home, inside it looked like someone barricaded the door… my room is on the top floor and nothing that one could climb up to it, leading to my window… I heard terrifying scream from my son’s room at night… I run into his room and saw a terrifying look on his face… when I asked him why was he screaming, he answered “mommy, there are people taking to me… they know my name…”… There were particular areas in my grandfather’s house that were off limits. I remember, as a child, when we were visiting, people coming 81

to the house and going behind the doors that were off limits. We didn’t know these people… (family was haunted by grandfather who, as it turned out, practiced some satanic rituals…) I saw a dark figure… I felt like someone went through me… *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

In most cases people experiencing paranormal, don’t know what to do about it. Many get scared, many get worried and concerned about their family wanting to protect them, but don't know how. Many feel helpless and live in fear. Many call a local paranormal team for help or call a Medium or priest to do a house blessing. It’s great to look for help from the outside, but there is so much that people can do themselves. Maybe it’s you yourself having paranormal experience and you are looking for some answers or you as a Medium get contacted by people who experience the paranormal. Because this is about being a Medium, first I am going to share what to do from a medium point of view. As you may have thought my suggestion is for action to take place when experiencing the paranormal. -Whether in your own life or when being called for help by someone else who is experiencing the paranormal the best thing to do is to talk to the spirits! Use all the tools you have and all that you have learned from the information and exercises you have read here to connect with the energy of the place, spirit and everyone or everything involved in paranormal experience! *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

~ What To Do When Experiencing Paranormal ~ Prepare Since you most likely won’t know right away what spirits you are dealing with and what else each particular paranormal experience involves and how deep it is, it’s important that you get yourself into a space of inner strengths. Get grounded, make sure you have your energy boundaries set, get into a place emotionally, where you feel safe and comfortable. The better you prepare yourself, the better you’ll be able to be of service and help. 82

Next Talk to the spirits! It’s all very simple but not so simple at the same time. Just like I was explaining before, talk to Spirits and listen. Tune into the energy of the situation of spirits and everyone and/or everything involved so that you know what action to take to resolve the situation. Also, you might want to make sure that the experience (especially if it’s not your own, but you are helping someone else who claims to be having a paranormal experience) is in fact Paranormal! Be skeptical if needed! Use tools that I have mentioned in this book. Use your abilities as a Medium, Psychic Medium or Intuitive. Use ghost hunting equipment if that’s something you feel drawn to use. Combine the use of different tools and different experiences you have to determine that it is in fact a paranormal experience. Then do the same to learn what the paranormal situation is about and what can be done to resolve it! If you are reading this without an intention to be a Medium and are just curious or are having a paranormal experiences and trying to learn more, I’d suggest documenting your experiences. It will help you to see more clearly if there is any pattern; detect any details that might be important. At times there won’t be any connection between experiences you are having, from the first look. But at times you’ll be able to see a pattern, a theme. When documenting, think: Is there any particular time of the day there is more paranormal activity than another? Anything in particular that triggers paranormal activity? Where in the house, or the property is the paranormal activity experienced the most? Any particular emotions this experience triggers? *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Something else you might want to do is, do some research on the history of the place where the paranormal experience is happening! See who lived there. What happened? Were there any death on the property or any tragic events happening? This information will help you to better understand who is causing the paranormal experiences and how to better handle the 83

situation. As you may know, spirits often tend to give messages in bits and pieces that we often are required to put together. Having everything you can documented, will help to put the pieces together. Ask Spirit/s questions like: Who are you? Why are you here? (also find out if earthbound spirit knows he/she is “dead”) What happened, what do you remember happening? Are you alone? Are you the one causing paranormal experiences? Why do you do that? What do you want to see happen? Are you waiting for someone? Do you need/want to tell something to someone? See what else you “get”. Whatever senses you use to tune into the energy, use them and see what comes to you regarding the situation. See what the spirit is saying clearly! Once you have done enough investigating and you talk to the spirits, then see how you can help them. How can you help yourself or others who experience the paranormal? See how you can help spirits to move on and clear the energy! Each time it will be different, maybe a lot different or maybe just few different aspects. Take action accordingly. In previous chapters you can find a lot of tools on how to do that. The more you practice, the better you will become and the better you will know what to do. When seeing shadow figures, when hearing noises and strange sounds, when seeing glowing eyes, masks, apparitions, when hearing someone talk even though nobody is there, when feeling like someone is watching you, when feeling like someone is there, when feeling scared because of some 84

paranormal experiences, when experiencing things being moved physically without anyone alive doing it, when feeling scared in certain areas of the house etc. … The best thing we can do is avoid being scared! No matter what happens, fear is an emotion that earthbound spirits feed on. The more you are afraid, the more energy they get. At the end of this book I give you meditation/exercise for strengthening your energy with Golden Light. I suggested to envision golden light within you and see it expand throughout your body – physical and energy. Do this exercise! It will help to strengthen your energy and push fear out of the way! Also “safe space” meditation/ exercise is helpful one to do for strengthening our energy, for feeling safe no matter what happens. Remember, we are dealing with non-physical therefore non-physical tools are the first to use when experiencing paranormal. This book is about Mediumship, but I have to point out that the way we react in any situation, including paranormal, depends on how well we know ourselves and how much we have worked or are working on our emotions and working through different challenges. It’ s about our character. We usually get scared of the unknown because we are not familiar with it. We don’t know what to expect. We don’t know how we will be able to deal with new and unknown. The more we learn and the more we know, the easier it is and will be for us to handle any situation which manifests in a physical reality! Even if you have never experienced the paranormal before, just by reading about it, learning, practicing or analyzing other people’s experiences, you will be better off when facing actual paranormal in real life (especially because paranormal experiences will happen unexpectedly). Even if you have never experienced Paranormal before and don’t want to be a Medium, if you start to have experiences that just don’t make sense, that are paranormal, look for some answers. Look for information. Learn what you can through books, classes, documentary shows about the topic and radio shows. Don’t just suffer in silence or think you are going crazy! It’s the 21st century. 85

By now, too many people have experienced the paranormal. There have been too many cases where Mediums have helped solve mysteries, find the missing and help solve crimes. There are just too many of them to think that experiencing the paranormal is not normal! In this century it is normal. It was always normal only now we can talk about it openly instead of fearing being punished for it. If you do experience the paranormal, if you start to feel, to think you are going crazy or imagining things – those are some strong signs that you (or people who are experiencing it) are visited by someone in spirit, that it’s indeed a paranormal experience. What else you can do? Do something, or suggest to people who experience the paranormal and are scared about it, to do something that uplifts your/ their spirit! Do something that makes your heart sing, that makes you happy, that you love, that you enjoy! Why? Because doing what makes our heart sing strengthens our spirit! The more we do what strengthens our spirit, the more powerful our energy becomes. The more powerful our energy is, the less chances for us to become scared from any paranormal activities. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Please know and keep in mind that the guidance I just gave you, is sort of an ideal version of “what to do". I understand and I want you to know that in real life at times, when experiencing the paranormal, when you are in the middle of the experience, there might not be time to follow every single step, one after another like I described. The more you know about the process and all the “how to’s” the better you will be able to know what to do when the need to take action presents itself unexpectedly.

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When objects are haunted that just means that Spirit has been attached to an object making life of the people who have this object, a living nightmare. What usually happens in cases where objects are haunted is, it starts with an experience of the paranormal. To find out if an object is haunted and which object exactly it is, we need to 86

investigate. Determine if people experiencing the paranormal, can associate the beginning of paranormal activities with a certain object being brought home? Like buying something in an antique store or second hand store, getting a present of something that was used by another person, for example. If you are just moving into a new house, notice if there is anything that has been left behind by previous owners. If it is a land you bought and built your own house, there might be some object you find on the property which can be haunted. Once you determine which object is haunted, then you will need to work on it! Whether it’s a haunted house, haunted property or a haunted object, a haunting has to do with negative energy. Haunted means, there is an unhealthy Spirit attached to it. The best action to take would be to set the attached Spirit free not just run away from the object or hide it. Also – no put it somewhere away. Haunting is not going to magically go away just because we put the haunted object out of our sight! We need to deal with whoever and whatever is haunting the object. How to do that? Use all the tools you feel guided to. Make a connection with the spirit that’s haunting the object to learn more about the spirit and to determine what action to take to help! To stop hauntings temporary while you are looking for a permanent solution, you can put natural salt around the haunted object. Circle the haunted object with sea salt or Himalayan Salt. Salt Crystals have this amazing, natural built in ability to erase programming of energy! You can also wipe down the haunted object with washcloth that is dipped in salt water. Or better yet, put the object in salt water. Energetically you can envision the light surrounding the object. Imagine this light dissolving any harmful energy that this object might emit. You can also ask celestial beings for help to hold the energy of the haunted object so that it doesn’t do any harm to anyone!

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Animals are believed to be more sensitive to spirits than humans therefore they are easily subject to ghost hunting more so than humans. Following are some of the behavior people have reported their animals had when encountering paranormal. Cat was running up to the attic the first day we moved into the new house. She wouldn’t come down. It was a complete personality change that we saw happen with her… Our dog looked in the corner, followed with her head, eyes as if watching someone across the room and barked at that someone. We didn’t see anything or anyone… Dogs would be lying down and then suddenly jumping up and following something… Horses - In the evening we would put them each inside their own stall but in the morning we would find them in a different stall than where we put them… Dog was barking and there was this cold chill as if I was walking into cold breeze… Our dog walked up to the middle of the room and started to bark at something… Dogs behavior changed the day we moved into a new house. It was as if she was depressed, she would not want to eat, seemed like she didn’t even want to live. Her hair fell out… Cats would sit and stare at something where there was nothing… Sounded like animals running up and down the stairs. We later learned that the house we lived in, was owned at some point by a doctor who did experiments with animals and killed them… Our otherwise calm and friendly dogs started to fight and bleeding… Dog would be barking at something or someone and wouldn’t get off the bed. He wouldn’t allow me get off the bed either (it was in the middle of night). I would just see the dog’s hair on his back all sticking up as he was barking and growling… Our dogs would lay down to sleep and suddenly jump up barking and run away to the other room as if running away from someone… As soon as we moved into our new house, dogs would start to act weird. They would sit and stare at one point or corner or area in the house… Dog looked up the stairs and seemed like he was scared of something 88

but there was nobody except me and my husband and we were both downstairs… I heard someone cough, it was like a smoker’s cough and then dog started to growl looking at that area where the cough came from. Nobody alive was there… Dogs started to act weird as soon as we started renovations in the house and dirt in the kitchen got exposed… They stared at the holes for a long time as if waiting for someone to come out… Once we moved into a new house, our cat changed. He was all of a sudden skittish, was hiding a lot as if scared of something… Dogs started to act as if they were frightened, but we didn’t see any reason why… Our dog was pretty relaxed dog but once we moved into a new house, he started to act weird – bark a lot and act as if he was trying to protect me from something I just never saw what he was protecting me from… It was a combination of us hearing the sounds and our dogs reacting to them… What To Do When Experiencing Your Animals Act Strange as a Result of the Paranormal? The best action to take would be to find out - what paranormal activity is happening. Who is the spirit? Who is haunting your environment and communicate with this spirit or spirits and to find out why they are here. What do they want? Basically go through all the steps we have talked about earlier: identifying the spirit, getting some validation, asking for messages and doing earthbound spirit release work. Call for your spirit guide team to help, if you feel too overwhelmed to do it on your own! Look for exercises in Part VIII – Exercises & Meditations chapter.

Haunted People It’s more common to think and hear about places and objects being haunted, but we can’t forget the fact that people can be haunted as well. It’s those cases that I mentioned earlier, where earthbound spirits kind of hitchhike or piggyback onto the living. It’s when they use people and use people’s energy to live and grow making people do what Spirits want to do. Spirit attachments are not uncommon. It’s the energy that attaches to someone who is still alive following this person home. They can cause this person to have some alter-ego changes. It’s like obsession. 89

Earthbound Spirits will look for weaknesses and for negative emotions to feed on. Following – what people who have experienced being haunted and people who witnessed them being haunted say about the experience: She started to growl like some animal and seemed no matter how she tried, she couldn’t stop it… I saw a shadow and then the shadow came into me… She was possessed. Her eyes were black. It wasn’t my daughter. She tried to bite, tried to kick while talking in a deep voice saying “you leave! It’s my house! Get out!”… She wasn’t herself… it was her body, her voice but it wasn’t her, she was not acting like herself… I was like frozen, I couldn’t move, couldn’t’ say anything… it was like someone took over my body or froze it in time and space… I saw this shadow figure with red eyes. Next thing I knew I was feeling, like I had no space on earth, like I am a waste of space, that I don’t’ deserve to live, that I needed to kill myself. It was like as if I was possessed because it wasn’t who I was, it wasn’t what I would think or do… I saw a shadow figure with red eyes and right after that I was overwhelmed by negative thoughts about killing myself, feeling depressed, I felt like I had no place on earth and had to kill myself. I thought I was going crazy... I knew it wasn’t quite me…

Ghost Hunting Equipment Mediums usually don’t use outside tools for communicating with spirits, meaning they usually are able to connect with those in spirit by using one or more of their senses. However, as you may have seen in popular TV shows like “Ghost Hunters”, “Haunted Collector” etc., paranormal investigators do use tools to detect spirits and to communicate with spirits. It’s not only on TV. In real life there really are tools, physical tools that can be used and are used to enhance communication with spirits. Communicating with spirits using physical tools can be helpful in any case but especially helpful for people who are skeptical, people who need to have physical evidence or people who are looking for tangible proof for communicating with spirits. For Mediums who use their senses to connect 90

with spirits, using physical tools can simply make the communicating with spirits more colorful, more exciting, more interesting! There is a difference: True Mediums don’t need physical tools to connect with spirits. People who are interested in the paranormal, but are not necessarily Mediums (haven’t developed their Mediumship abilities) are usually the ones who need physical tools to communicate with spirits Medium or not, using physical tools can be helpful. The following are just some basic pieces of equipment that paranormal research groups use on their investigations. EMF Meter (EMF) – Device used for detecting electromagnetic fields. The idea is that presence or movement of ghosts might disrupt or otherwise affect an EMF field. If using this device, it is important to keep in mind that many things in a house can affect it such as wiring, electronic equipment or power sources. Digital Camera – A 5 megapixel camera is the minimum resolution. The higher the resolution, the better. If you are just starting out, do not worry about getting the most expensive camera. Just get (or maybe you already have one) with as high a resolution as you can afford. The way it works is, the higher the resolution the more details you'll be able to see in your images. Note: cell phone cameras won’t work for this, even if they have 5 megapixel or higher resolution because image sensors in cell phones are too small. Digital Recorder – Digital Recorder will help you to record electronic voice phenomena (EVP). Motion Detector- Paranormal investigators use motion detector to detect movement of anything that is usually “invisible”. This is an ideal tool for indoor investigations. Thermal Scanner - Paranormal investigators use thermal scanners to detect "cold spots". There is a belief that the presence of ghosts drains the ambient air of energy or warmth. There are also Infrared (IR) thermometers. They use an infrared beam to read temperature from a distance. Just keep in mind that just because you detect a cold spot doesn’t mean there 91

is a ghost. Use more tools and signs than just “detecting a cold spot” to determine it’s a ghost or not. Flashlight – It’s very basic, but if you are doing ghost hunting at night, flashlights will be very useful! An LED flashlight would be a great choice because they last a long time. Ghosts are thought to be electromagnetic therefore their presence can cause batteries to drain quickly. Great idea is to always have with you extra alkaline battery. Compass – This device is not only very useful for navigation but also great for picking up electromagnetic forces as compass will react to any magnetic or electrical stimulus that may be out of the ordinary. Because of this reason it is probably a good idea to avoid an electronic compass instead using the needle points north kind of compass. Night Vision Equipment – monocular or binocular equipment. Night vision devices can be very useful for seeing in the dark what we normally wouldn’t see and recording the light that is normally not visible to the naked eye. Talcum Powder – This tool in paranormal investigation is a useful substance for capturing footprints or handprints. You can sprinkle it on the ground around where the investigation is taking place and see what unfolds. Ghost box – This is a device used to supposedly communicate with the dead. The ghosts are seemingly unable to pick just one frequency, stick to it, and speak clearly. Instead they speak on lots of different frequencies, quick and in cryptic syntax. Ghost boxes are simple radios with a scanning function allowing them to search airwaves until they find a station to stop on. Disable the stopping bit and PRESTO, instant ghost box. The ghost box then permanently jumps through available frequencies, playing each one for a fraction of a second. The various sounds from snatches of transmission, static noise and interference are then interpreted as words and communication from spirits on the other side. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

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What Happens When We Die? Afterlife! Subject that has been talked about a lot. It has been thought about a lot. It has been wondered about a lot. Is there an afterlife? What happens when we die? Where do we go? Is that it? We die and nothing happens? Is there a life after life? Is there Heaven and Hell? *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

How do we know, what the real truth about after life would be? How do we know about afterlife and if something even happens after this life? I would say, we probably will never know 100% for sure what exactly is happening until we get there ourselves, but if we listen to the people who have had near death experiences, we can get a glimpse of the Afterlife. Even for the greatest skeptics, the fact that there are many people around the world, who have had NDE - the fact that the stories of these experiences are similar, would need to be at least some conformation that something happens after we die. There is more to life than life we can imagine. We all come for different reasons. We all vibrate at different frequencies. This world is teaming with life, just as the afterlife in my opinion. Many people who have had near death experience, share their stories and their experiences. If we look closer at the experiences they share, we can see a common thread through them. As a Mediumship worker, you can most certainly ask Spirits to tell you where are they, what happens when we die. You can easily ask them what their experience is. For now I have some insights into Afterlife stories! There are some basic Core Experiences of those who have had Near Death Experience: * They all have had out of body experience. They are aware of what is happening, they see, they hear, only they are not in a physical body anymore. *They all talk about seeing or entering the Light, merging with the Light. *Some Being of Light accompanies them. At times, it is their deceased loved ones. *Many experience panoramic life review where scenes of their lives are being shown like in a movie. *They feel pulled back into their physical body. They say it feels like being sucked back into their physical body and as soon as it happens - they start to 94

have physical sensations and pain which they didn’t feel while out of the physical body. Many report going through the tunnel towards the bright light. They report seeing heavenly bodies bathed in light. Their life flashing in front of their eyes for life review. Many report having feeling of going home. Many report having overwhelming peace come over them. Many say they wanted to tell their loved ones who were still alive, that they were okay, but didn’t know how to communicate without having a physical body. Many report feeling one with the Universe. We enter another state of existence. different from the physical world.

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From all that is said and heard of Near Death Experiences, we can conclude that consciousness is what continues to live. Consciousness is what rises up. Consciousness is the energy of our souls, of what houses these physical bodies. One NDE survivor explained it so greatly. “It is like we are unplugged from the source when we are born and we take that plug and try to plug it into each other: this person or that person will make me happy, this car will make me happy, this job will make me happy. We try to draw energy from this world, from people but only when we take the plug and plug into the source - that is when we will get the energy!” (From “Afterlife”) If you’d like to explore this subject deeper – I encourage you to look up Association of Near Death Experiences – www.iands.org

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PART VII Psychic Children Kids of the Paranormal

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Countless families have children with psychic abilities. These children and their families are often feeling isolated and frightened. Often people do not know where to turn or what to do. The following pages have answers and insights into the concerns for the children with these abilities, and for their parents!

“I see Dead People” You are not alone! First and most important, know that if you are a child, a teen, or a young adult and you experience paranormal you are not alone in this! Even if you don’t have anybody to talk about your experiences, or if you feel alone with your paranormal experiences, know that you are not alone! I know that knowing there are others who have similar experiences, doesn’t really change much if you don’t have anyone in your life to help you understand what is happening! I know from experience how it feels to be young and having paranormal experiences because I was one of the children who saw ghosts! I didn’t have anyone to talk about my experiences. I remember this feeling of having someone around me at all times, especially when it got dark. Hearing and feeling someone breathe next to my face or from above me, like a grownup spirit. As soon as I would turn off the light at night, I would hear voices, whispers, footsteps, doors opening and closing. It can be quite frightening for a child. I didn’t feel okay to leave the light on either because I felt like then, whoever was there making all those noises, would see me better. I felt like I would be like on a stage, with the light on so that didn’t seem like a good idea either. Often I felt touched by someone, when it was dark. I never had a bed time as a child so I always stayed up late. I delayed my bed time for as long as I possibly could because I was afraid to go to bed. I was afraid to turn off the light. When I finally did I would cover my ears with the blanket to soften the noises I heard. I still heard them, but not as loud. As a grownup I still fall asleep with my ears covered and now it is not because I am afraid, but because it is a habit and my body is used to falling asleep this way. I remember feeling petrified when I needed to go to the bathroom during the night. Even though it was quiet in the physical world, I always had a feeling that it was busiest for ghosts in the night time than it was during the 97

daytime. Often the light in the bathroom was already on, even though nobody alive had turned it on. I remember seeing silhouettes of a human body. I saw a kind of foggy looking figure and it was without a clear face. This figure would lean over my bed and me. I never really felt like they wanted to harm me. As a child this experience was unfamiliar to me, nobody talked about these kinds of experiences. As a child, I grew up in a former Soviet Union country which meant that everything was very focused on fitting into a “norm.” Seeing spirits, hearing voices and sounds, as well as, seeing things in the night and feeling beings that were not human, were not a part of the norm! I also remember seeing colors around people and objects. What I later learned was that the color was called auras. It was a fun experience with the auras, until the moment I heard my parents talking about how concerned they were about these experiences of mine and how maybe I needed to get my eyes checked. That scared me and from then on, I didn’t share my experiences, not even with my family. I had to keep it to myself. In school, I always felt different. I never fit in, I was always an outsider. I was feeling alone and isolated. I was feeling like a freak. I felt like there was something wrong with me. I had nobody to talk to. I had no idea where to turn or what these experiences were about. I didn’t know how to deal with them. I had fear of the dark; I had fear to fall asleep. So I understand children or teens that are experiencing paranormal activities. I understand all those feelings and emotions. They are all very familiar to me. Luckily, we as the human race have grown, evolved, talked and studied more. We are more open about all kinds of experiences. We also hear more about paranormal experiences in modern times. We learn more and more about how we are not to be afraid of the paranormal, but that they can actually be used in a positive and helpful way for our lives. The most commonly expressed concerns from children and young people I have listed below. In connection with Spirit and from my own experience, I am giving some insights and better understanding to how this works. We are usually scared of something because we don’t know what it is. We can’t understand what it is about? We don’t know what is going to happen. We don’t know what is happening, or how to deal with these experiences. When we are in front of the changes, we often fear the change. Not because of the change, but because we don’t know what this change will bring! Now, when it comes to paranormal experiences; I believe that the better understanding we have about the paranormal and the affects that these 98

experiences have on us, the more knowledge and understanding we will obtain and that will help us to better deal with these experiences. Understanding helps us to improve our lives for the better! Remember you are not alone in experiencing the paranormal. Those days when people got burned to the stake and prosecuted for talking to Spirits and having that Sixth sense, are over. These days, are days when having the natural abilities to see Spirits, and to communicate with those who have crossed over are when people who are actually being honored. Many Mediums are invited to be part of investigation teams to help locate missing people and objects. Mediums are also helping to solve crimes in modern times. We are helping to release Spirits! Kind of like being a real life Ghost Whisperer! Of course, there are and most likely always will be people of religious nature who will be against understanding the paranormal. I believe if we have a natural gift to communicate between worlds, trying to suppress this ability is not going to help anyone! Something that is naturally happening is not ever going to go away unless we drug ourselves like this society is pushing us to do! In this case, if we do suppress these experiences and feelings, we might be fitting into some norm of society, but our soul will never be happy! What is naturally happening in the universe is happening for a reason. That reason usually is to help, and we just really need to embrace this ability of ours and find the best way we can use it for our benefit and for the benefit of others. Most important to remember is that it is your abilities and gifts. Nobody else can deal with them for you! People who are close around you like your family, parents, siblings and teachers, they can support you and guide you through your experiences, but you are the one who has the gifts and abilities and they are not going to go away. If this gift is something you are naturally born with, these abilities are there for a reason and the best way to go about them is to learn how you can use these abilities in a positive way! It might take some time experimenting and trying out different tools and different ways to use your abilities in a positive way. The more you exercise your gift and practice techniques for the good, the better you will get at controlling your abilities. Imagine how empowering it can make you feel be able to be in charge of your abilities instead of them running your life in a negative and disempowering way! These gifts are very powerful and can put you in control of your life. Information in this book has been giving you plenty of ideas to experiment 99

with. Take charge of your abilities, your gifts and talents. Ideally with a help of your parents or those people who are close to you!

Most common concerns of the children, young people who see Spirits, and how to go about them: ~ My abilities make it hard to make friends~ That is understandable. People are afraid of what they don’t know about. We seem to be so pressured from the outside world to follow what is considered to be normal, yet more and more people realize that each one of us is unique and embracing our uniqueness is what makes us most fulfilled. When we follow who we are, express who we are and do it from our heart, we attract the right people in our lives. Sometimes it might take a bit longer to find them or have them show up. When we are being who we truly are at a soul level, sooner or later we do attract the people in our lives who become our real friends! It might be a good idea to find some local Mediums who will be able to connect you with someone in your area with the same or similar abilities! Even if another child you get connected with in this way doesn’t go to the same school as you. You will still be close enough to be able to meet and connect after school or on weekend and share your common abilities and experiences! Who knows maybe your families can even become friends and that way all would benefit. ~ If somebody else is angry, mad or sad. school because I feel too much ~

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There are some tools that you can use to eliminate how much of other people’s emotions you absorb. Try out different tools to find the one that works the best for you. Some of them are: * crystals – all black crystals are the ones that absorb negative energy, if in doubt – clear quartz is a crystal that helps with anything that you intend to achieve. For the best results it is great if you can have a crystal or crystals that are raw, not polished. You can wear them as a necklace or put them in your pocket. * Himalayan salt spray – Himalayan salt is known to have incredible property at the molecular level to be held together by electromagnetism. When it is mixed with water, it is a powerful combination that clears the excess electromagnetic gunk that is accumulated in our energy. Just simply 100

buying Himalayan salt in a store, adding it to the water, pouring in small, empty spray bottle and you have something you can carry with you. You can always use a bathroom to spray the salt water around you if you need a clearing of energy. You can use this spray when you feel overwhelmed with emotions. * Have someone in Spirit that is like your guardian Angel that you can turn to, when you feel overwhelmed. Find someone who takes care of excess emotions that are not yours. You can simply turn to different spirit beings and say that you need help (just talking to them in your mind – they don’t have physical body limitations, they will hear you even when you don’t say it out loud physically)! Tell them what kind of help you need and ask them to help you with it! You can do it silently, in your mind and you can do it in the morning while you are still home. Set the intention for the day, in case anything comes up that is overwhelming and unhealthy for you. Ask for them to watch out for you and take care of anything that may arise for you! That way you don’t need to worry about it during the day.

~ I don’t know how to tune Spirits out~ Talk to those Spirits you know or feel comfortable calling out on. Treat the spirit like you would treat any person who is alive. Acknowledge them, and let them know when you are going to talk to them and when not. Set the boundaries…

~ I don’t think I fit in with my family ~ Yes, I so know the feeling as it was my experience as well. All you really need to be and do is to be yourself. Each one of us is different, each one of us is Unique and we all have our own unique talents and natural given abilities. Your uniqueness just happens to be seeing Spirits, talking to them.

~ I don’t feel like I have a place ~ It can always feel like that if we are not doing or being, what or who, the majority of society expects from us. It is just a matter of finding at least one person who shares the same or similar experiences, beliefs, and abilities. ! You are definitely not alone in having experiences with Spirit/s.

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Be nice to yourself! Find and focus on something within you that is positive. Something you are great at. Something amazing that has happened or an amazing dream you have. Do something and everything you can to have a positive experience and fun memories. Live for experiences that will strengthen your energy, and who you are. As a result you will feel stronger in who you are, and have a more positive outlook on life. Fear and anxiety usually comes into the picture when we don’t know what is going to happen, or we don’t know how to deal with what is happening. We feel isolated when we don’t have anyone to talk to who “gets us.” Life becomes hard when we don’t feel accepted by others, or by society. It can happen to anyone and in any case! It is not only because you are seeing Spirits. Just keep being yourself and always look for ways how to be you. Being who you are can help others! Be of service; use your abilities to help no matter what age you are. Even young children have been known to help in major ways. Service will always help your abilities and connect you with others. Service is an amazing opportunity to get out of your own head and help where your help in needed. In helping others, you help yourself.

~ I am terrified that negative spirits will take over my body ~ Fear is quite an enemy in many situations and in many experiences. The more you embrace everything good in you, the more you strengthen your own energy. The more you strengthen your own being, the less opportunities you give to anyone else to push you around. Nobody can take over your life, or your body. The more confident you are about yourself and your abilities, the easier it is to set boundaries and even set boundaries with Spirits. In the meantime, build your confidence by telling Spirits what and how you would like them to interact with you. Let them know where you are concerned! Focus on what it is you would like to see happen and let Spirits know. ~ It is hard to make friends when you can’t tell them everything about me ~ Maybe it is about finding friends who you can tell everything to?! Maybe it won’t be a friend from your school, but a friend from your neighborhood. Who knows? See if you can find and contact some local Medium/ Psychic Medium and connect with people with similar experiences or interests. Just look for it and you will find a friend.

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If you have a natural ability to see Spirits, it will most likely be that you will see them everywhere. However, you can always set boundaries with Spirits letting them know what is acceptable to you and what is not. You can let them know when you definitely don’t want them to bother you. Be in Charge! ~ I see spirits and I want them to go away For the most part Spirits show up when they are looking for some help. They show up when they can’t move on, or when they have some unfinished business. They will most likely not go away just because we want them to go away. If they have found someone who can see them and hear them, they will do all they can to get your attention. Not everybody is attuned to seeing Spirits naturally and effortlessly. When Spirits who are Earthbound detect someone who is naturally attuned, they usually do the best they can to get their attention and get some help. Using our natural given abilities for something better, is much easier than trying to fight our abilities. What we resist persists. It takes so much more energy and effort to fight them, than to embrace them and figure out the best way to help spirits. ~ They appear as clear as daylight~ It is great when that happens! After letting them know you see them, and you are acknowledging them, ask them who they are? Ask why they are here and if there is anything you can do to help? It could be much more easy to talk to someone you see, not only feel or know he/she is there. ~ I can’t always decide between my emotions and spirit emotions. My emotions get really mixed up~ Emotions can be challenging, yes, but there are ways to go about it like: Clearing energy! Start every day with setting intention to have a clear mind and a clear knowing between your emotions and spirit emotions. Also, your emotions you will most likely feel in your heart, in every cell of your body but if it is spirit emotions; they will make you feel not quite like yourself. Emotions from Spirits will often come in randomly, unexpected, often not making sense as they can be completely not related to what’s happening in your day! Learn to be one with your own heart and soul and you will know what is yours. ~ Spirits want to make sure I know they are there~ Yes. They are looking for attention and when they find someone who sees 103

them, they want to make sure you know they are there in hopes that you will talk to them. Remember, it is quite a privilege to be able to see Spirits naturally. It’s your Uniqueness! ~ You are a witch, and you need to go to the psych-ward~ Yes, I am a witch and if you continue to bully me, I’ll turn you into a toad! Just kidding! Just kidding! The point I am trying to make is: don’t let any words like that get to you. Ideally, nothing other people say or think about you, should bother you. It shouldn’t matter what people think of your abilities. The more you will learn about your abilities, the more charge you will take of them and the more you will experience how they can help others, the less it will matter what others think! In the meantime - protect yourself with prayer, golden light and also here are a few actions that you can take if you do choose to respond: Whatever anyone says – you can always use it to make a joke or say something completely unexpected. People usually feel threatened by everything they don’t know and that they don’t understand. The best way the majority of people know how to cope with unknown is to make fun of it, make it be a joke! What else you can do is to learn a bit more about well-known Mediums and how their abilities help others. When someone tries to make fun of your abilities to see Spirits, you can always say something about the positive works that are being done in today’s times, as a response if you absolutely feel the need to respond. ~ I wish they did believe me~ The human side might think, it would be great if “they” believed, but the fact is that we can’t make anyone believe anything. I’d like to go back here to something I mentioned earlier. Look for people your own age who are having similar experience as you are. They are everywhere! Maybe they are not openly sharing their experiences. Somebody has to start doing it. What if that person is you? You know, what happens when one person starts to speak up? Sooner or later others start to open up talking about the subject as well. Go beyond your neighborhood, your school. Look in places like non-denominational churches, contact Mediums in your area, your state, Mediums, Psychic Mediums, Energy Healers, Body- Mind-Soul Fair or any of the many other events held in this field of work. Focus on finding someone who believes in you. Do some research online looking for people 104

who may connect with you. There are a lot of internet Radio shows that you can listen to for free online, including radio shows that are hosted by Mediums. Many shows have Mediums as guests. Focus your energy on the mediums and good conversations, instead of people and experiences of doubt or misunderstanding. The journey will take some time and patience with self, but it will be worth it ! ~ they call me a freak ~ The more you embrace your abilities and find positive and helpful use for them, the less it will matter what others call you. People need to come to a place where what others think of you or your abilities, don’t matter to you! Be confident in who your soul is. More and more these days, being a “freak” is a good thing! It means that you are different; you do something different than the majority of people. You stick out in the crowd. You shine! You embrace your uniqueness! People who stick out in the crowd can do great things on a bigger scale. They help others and shine their inner light. They help the world on a larger scale because they get noticed much easier than those who are in a crowd. With this said – you are born to do greater things than the crowd, use your powers for good ! ~ I wish to learn how to tune in and out ~ You definitely can do that. Great start could be to set boundaries with Spirits. The fact is, if you are born with these abilities, they won’t go away. You were born with them for a reason, it is like your abilities are an X factor that you have! Think of a situation where you have set boundaries before, and said “no” to something. Think of a situation where you negotiated something. You set your boundary. Use the same mind set and energy to negotiate and to set boundaries with Spirit. If you have these abilities, trying to cut them out completely won’t really work, but negotiating, telling Spirit, when you are open to communicate and when you are not able to communicate is essential for your growth in this work. Also, another great idea is to have a friend in Spirit. A Spirit guide that you can talk to. What I mean by that is to tell the Universe, just by thinking it or saying it out loud, that you would like to have a Spirit guide. Someone you feel comfortable and safe with. Someone to have around you all the time. You can also just make the Spirit guide up by visualizing his or her character. Just by imagining if you could have a Spirit Guide you could turn to, you are creating your spirit guide. This 105

guide will be by your side to guide you when you feel challenged by Spirits, by your abilities, by people around you, by anything really. Just visualize the being, your own personal Spirit Guide. Imagine how your ideal Guide would look, how his/her presence would feel to you, how you would like to see her/him help you. Use your imagination as you are a powerful creator. Your spirit guide can be like your best friend in the Spiritual realm. You can rest assured that someone in Spirit ALWAYS has your back, you can always turn to your Spirit Guide, tell your concerns and feel comforted. Indeed, it is not the same as talking to another person “alive” but it is better than not having anyone at all. You can also ask your Spirit guide to be like your body guard. A Spirit guard that helps you with tuning in and out, keeping unwanted energy out of your life, and wanted energy and people in your life. Another option for tuning in and out could be you imagining, seeing in your mind, creating in your mind a fence around you. A fence with only one opening, one door! Imagining the space inside the fence being your space! This is your “tune out” space where only you are allowed. When you want to “tune in” you imagine opening the door. ~ I think my mom/dad/parents/family don’t understand because they don’t know how it is~ Most likely they don’t understand how exactly it is if they have never experienced anything like you have. If that is the case, then it is also harder for them to know how exactly to support you. As long as they try to support you, it is the best they know how to help you. Even if they try to tell you that your abilities are “bad” – it’s the best they know! They don’t know and don’t realize and are not aware of how to handle your abilities and therefore try to “make them go away” by telling you they are bad and you need to stop having them. It’s the best they know how to handle your abilities but that doesn’t mean that they are right! ~ I can’t sleep spirits wake me up in the middle of the night~ Boundaries and learning which of the techniques or tools work the best for you in situations like this. In order to set good boundaries, keep your energy, your space, your mind and your diet clear and healthy. One way to set boundaries is to simply tell Spirits, either every time before you go to bed. You can also tell once, with strong intention to make this boundary a permanent one until you feel any different. Tell 106

Spirits that you need to have a good sleep at night and them waking you up in the middle of night is not acceptable to you. You can also tell spirits that you won’t be able to help them, if you don’t get to have a good sleep. Let them know that your need for a good sleep is and will benefit everyone, including Spirits. Maybe a solution for you would be telling Spirits that if they have a need to talk to you at night, to communicate with you through dreams, without waking you up. One other way to set boundaries could be by you imagining, visualizing yourself in a circle where only energy and experiences you would like to have during the night, is allowed. Just visualize the best you can. See yourself being safe in the space you are in. See yourself in your room, and see light around you. See the light in a circle around you and any Spirits that might want to mess with your sleep, see them bouncing back on the outside of the circle of light. This is your space for sleep! Allow your imagination and mind be open and free to all the possibilities. If you have connected with your Spirit guide, you can invite them to help you. You can also invite Angels to help you. What I like to see, is when I ask Angels for their protection - I see them standing around me in a circle. If anything or anyone unwanted would try to even get inside the circle, they couldn’t because my Angels wouldn’t let them. If it happens before going to bed, I would see many bright Angels being around my bed in a circle. This can be a tool or technique you could use. Remember what I am telling here are suggestions. Everybody is different and therefore the way we deal with our experiences will be different. What works well for one person, won’t work as well for another. To find out what works out the best for us, we each need to experiment. We need to try different ways, try different option to see what works the best. We can find our own rhythm and routine that works for us by experimenting, trying out different options! ~ I am afraid that my abilities are going to completely overcome me~ 107

That is understandable to have a fear like this. There is always a way to deal with our fears. Why are we afraid of something? It is usually because we don’t know what is going to happen. We don’t know what to expect. We don’t understand what the experience is a about. Unknown can be scary! The more we learn about “what we are afraid of” the less scary it becomes. With this, I am suggesting to learn everything you can about your abilities. Look for the answers, look for the insights, and look for the information! Look in books, online, seek out people locally who might help (usually they would be found through every place that has connection to Metaphysics. (Health stores, fairs, non-denominational churches etc. – like I mentioned before). Also look for workshops, classes, and events. A lot of information about pretty much anything, these days can be found online simply searching on google. ~ Dead people speak to me~ It usually happens if and when they are looking for some help, when they have something to say and they happen to come across you, a person who is an open channel - the Soul, who is still in a physical body and can hear Spirits, hear what they want to say. They can talk to those who can’t hear them, but there won’t be much point doing so as it would only be one way conversation! ~ Negative spirits contact me ~ Negative Spirits need help too. Set an intention to be safe, not when you come across a negative spirit, but before you do. Always protect yourself through prayer or meditation, envisioning… from lower vibrational spirits. You can learn to help them in such a way, that it doesn’t affect you negatively. You can always ask Angels or some other Spirit Beings like God, Jesus or Buddha to help you to help Negative Spirits. In some cases it might mean that the evolved spirits will help the lower spirits without your interference. In some cases it might mean they will help them with your participation. You can always talk and come to an agreement. ~ I feel like I am being watched ~ there is a man staring at me ~ I know the feeling. Like I mentioned earlier in this book that was exactly my experience growing up and it hasn’t stopped yet. What if you talked to Spirit/s who are watching you? Find out who they are, what they want, why they are here? Ask them questions? Help them to move on, call in the Light for them. Some of them are lost and unsure what 108

to do without a physical body. Call on the highest lights to help you. If you don’t want to be watched, it helps if you tell them strictly, to leave! My experience has been that it never really works long term; therefore my suggestion is to take care of this lost spirit, long term to start with. Help them solve their problems. We are all eternal beings. ~ I want spirits to leave ~ The more you learn and know how to handle Spirits in a healthy way, the better your life will become. Once you come to a place where their presence doesn’t affect you negatively, the more you will know how to handle their presence on an on the spot basis. You will know what actions need to take place for them to move on. Remember, asking or telling them to leave will work short term, but never long term. If you have a natural ability to communicate with Spirits, they won’t leave your side just because you want them to leave. It is a good idea to learn as much as you can about communicating with Spirits so you know how to handle their presence. Books, classes, workshops, videos, private lessons, listening to Radio or TV shows that are about paranormal will teach you what you need to know. There are many options! Learn about Spirits in a safe environment and protect yourself by always doing good deeds and calling in the highest light beings in the universe to assist you. ~ I have been having mood swings as a result of being so connected with Spirits~ This is most likely Spirits affecting you. Possibly even you are channeling Spirits! It can be a result of some unhealthy Earth bound attachment. The best way to deal with it would be to identify, who the Spirit is? Take hot salt baths, burn sage and hold a vision of your inner Light beaming so bright and shiny that nothing less than that can enter your energy, your space, your aura – just to name few solutions for not letting yourself be affected by Spirit. Also, I mentioned before in this book about focusing on everything that makes you happy, makes your heart sing! It will strengthen your energy and the stronger it will be, the less it will get affected by outside sources. ~ I am afraid of spirits that I see~ This comes down again, to knowing what is what, and how to handle the paranormal situation. The more you learn all the in’s and out’s about Paranormal and how to deal with Spirits in a healthy way, the less fear you will have. Keep learning ! 109

~ I always think that spirits are going to manipulate me, even with my eyes closed~ This is about setting boundaries. Yes, Spirits can manipulate us but ONLY if we let them. It depends on what kind of Spirits they are. What kind of motives they have! It is Earthbound Spirits who can manipulate with us, not the ones who have moved into the Light. So, it is about us setting boundaries, standing our ground and helping in any way that we can. Asking questions and finding out what the story is behind these Spirits is your job as a Medium. Finding out why they would want to manipulate, and what has caused them to be so angry that they are willing to manipulate? What they need to feel better? What do they need to be willing to move on into the light? You don’t always need to talk to Spirit directly, if doing it frightens you. You can tune into Spirits energy psychically if it feels safer way for you to connect with the Spirit. ~ Spirit/s are warning me about something happening~ That’s a good thing, isn’t it? I mean if Spirits see something not so good, not so positive possibly happening in a future event, that you can avoid. They are letting you know about it, and that knowledge gives you a chance to avoid the possible negative experience. Perhaps not only you, but others as well can be saved from some mishap. Not everybody is able to get that information beforehand and how great is it that you are?! These kinds of visions and communications are a gift. ~ Spirit is scaring me away~ Let Spirit/s know that their actions are scaring you and it needs to come to you in a way that feels safe for you. Find out: if it is Spirit/s who is looking for help such as, looking for someone to help them rely message to a loved one still on Earth? If a spirit is looking for some help in moving into the light? If the Spirit needs help - it will be happy to learn how to better talk to you and do the best he/she can to approach you. Spirits will want to talk to you in a way that is acceptable and comfortable for you. If it is an Earthbound Spirit who is scaring you then set boundaries! Envision your personal space as being very clear, envision a golden light 110

around you. Speak clearly and set your boundaries. The Spirit that scares you can be mentally put on the other side of your boundaries. You are always in control. If it is an Earthbound Spirit that scares you, do your best to find a time and space when you are feeling safe and comfortable, to talk to this Earthbound Spirit. Find out if and how you can help. There is always a way to help. Sometimes it takes more effort and sometimes it takes less effort to clear the energy, to clear the space, to find out how you can be of service to a Spirit that is here to visit you. Experiment and focus on SOLUTIONS! Keep this question in mind – How can I best deal with this happening? How can I feel safe with Spirits that scare me? What can I do for the spirit? Sooner or later you will know what to do! Like with everything – practice makes perfect. You most likely will need to try different approaches to find the one that works the best for you, but once you find it you will be on “top of the game” with this new information on the paranormal life that lives around all of us. ~ I don’t feel like I have someone to talk to about this ~ I feel alone and lonely ~ having my abilities makes me feel extremely isolated ~ At the first it might seem that way, but if you look around and research a bit, and find some local Mediums via online or local message boards or other places I mentioned. You will most likely be able to connect with others who have similar or the exact same experiences as you have. Use your intuition, your gut feeling when connecting with someone. There are all kinds of Mediums out there – some are more real than others – it is just the reality of life, we are all different! Make sure you feel comfortable with the person you are connecting with. Just because someone is a famous Medium, doesn’t mean he/she is the best person for you to connect with and share your experience with. Let your intuition speak when choosing who to contact, who to turn to. You can even call on your angels to choose who is best for you to connect with. The best person will show up. It is possible that you might not find someone your own age at first, but even if it is a grown up, or even if it is one person who understands you, it will be a great start and you will have someone to talk about your experiences. Ps – I am sharing some resources and giving some web info at the end of this book in “Resources” section - make sure you check it out ! ~ I hear voices calling my name~ That is quite a common experience to have. * Identify first what kind of emotions this experience causes in you? Does 111

this experience scare you? Does it make you wonder why the voices call your name? Do you want to find out what they want? Do you want to know what they have to say? Do you want this to stop? Do you want the voices to stop calling your name? * Once you have identified what emotions and reaction this experience causes in you, you can decide how to handle the situation with help and/or tools mentioned in this book. ~ I am afraid that I will be ridiculed from other kids, afraid that others will be laughing at me ~ kids at school think I am crazy ~ Yes, it is understandable. However, know and keep in mind that kids who want to laugh about someone, kids who have that kind of mindset, to laugh at others - they will find any excuse, they will use any reason to laugh at you or any other kid. They are called bully’s. When I was growing up, as a kid, I got laughed at. The bottom line is if kids have that kind of mindset to laugh at others, they will always find a reason to laugh, to ridicule, degrade and bully. Seeing Spirits or Ghosts is just one of many reasons that they might choose to try to bully or pick on you. Even if it seems like it is personal, it isn’t. It doesn’t show who you are, it shows who they are. As much as we would like to accept the world and be accepted by everyone for who we are, it is impossible. It is a very diverse world. We come forth to experience many different things on this planet. We did not all come for the same experience. The more you embrace your abilities and the more positive experiences you have using your abilities, the more confident you will feel. A lot of how we get treated by others depends on how we let them treat us! It might be tough for some time, until we stand up for ourselves and show who we are. It will be uncomfortable until we establish our place and boundaries, but it is well worth stepping up for self and to keep looking for creative ways to do it! Just think, for as many haters as there might be for you and your abilities, just as many might find it amazingly cool and you might be the one setting example for others. This may create an allowing to open up for others who may have had similar experiences. Others may speak up and admit their abilities. You might even find a friend or two through speaking up and sticking through tough times with this experience! Remember, people also have a tendency to make fun of something they are not familiar with. Again, if they laugh at you and your abilities, it just tells and shows how afraid they might be from this experience. Having went 112

through this experience myself, as an adult I can assure you, life is so much more fun having these abilities and being different than being one in the crowd of the majority. ~ I know things will happen, but I can’t do anything about it~ There is always something we can do. Yes, we might not always be able to do something on the physical level, but we can always send some positive thoughts, prayer or positive energy to the situation (especially if we know or have seen something negative is about to happen). The power of prayer, the power of positive thoughts, positive energy is more powerful than we might think. ~ I want to learn how to use my gift without getting sick~ Here again I want and need to bring up “setting boundaries”! It is important to learn how to use these abilities we have as I write about them throughout this book. The more we know about everything that is related to our abilities, everything that is connected to our abilities, the better we know how to use them. The better we know how to deal with situations that require for us to use our abilities, the stronger we are, the stronger are our boundaries. Also, the more we learn different aspects of our abilities including how to use them, how to go about situations involving them, the better we know how to use our abilities without letting ourselves get sick because of them. We must learn to work on setting boundaries when it comes to the paranormal. When we have natural abilities to talk and connect with Spirits, when we can see them, talk to them, see energies, auras, do healing work (anything of that kind of stuff) - we are naturally more sensitive to everything around us, and within us! Working with energies is very delicate work. You will find yourself working with higher vibrating energy than everything that is physical. When we are naturally more tuned into this energy, every experience we have affects us more deeply than those who are not naturally as sensitive as we are. To use these abilities without getting sick requires learning how to set boundaries and remembering to set them. This work requires a knowledge about how to clear the energy and remember to clear the energy (we often know what to do and how, just in everyday life forget to put it in use!). ~ Spirits won’t leave me alone~ 113

Again, this as well, has to do with setting boundaries! I know I am repeating myself but it is one of the key-tools in having these abilities. Setting boundaries not only helps us to better deal with our abilities and actually learn to enjoy them, but it helps the Spirits and those around us here in the physical world. When we haven’t set boundaries, then our energy is mixed together with the energy of Spirits and it is much harder to see clearly where our needs and wants end. It is harder to see where those of others start and end. When we set clear boundaries and enforce them, it is much easier to see the difference between our needs and wishes, and those of others, including Spirit. It is much easier for us to know what to do! ~ I am afraid at night~ I so know the feeling. I still fall asleep with my ears covered with a blanket, because that’s how I used to fall asleep when I was a child growing up. Doing so helped me to not hear Spirits as loud as I did when I didn’t have my ears covered. As soon as I turned off the light, it was as if the real life started. This is so scary for a child to hear noises, whispers, footsteps, and sounds of doors opening and closing. Now I still fall sleep with my ears covered, not because I am afraid anymore, but because I am so used to falling asleep like that. My point is – there is always a way how we can deal and cope with our experiences, that helps us feel better! Set boundaries with Spirits. Tell them that it is not okay to come and bother you, or to keep you awake during night as you need sleep! What I also have found to be a valuable point to bring up to Spirits is that you getting a good night’s sleep, will better able you to help Spirits! So, ask for them to let you sleep and not to bother you or keep you up. Not to scare you at night is beneficial to them to start with! Think like this, if you are bothering someone like your parents, how do they handle it? What do they tell you? Does it work? Do you stop bothering them? If it does work, you might want to try to use the same kind of approach when telling Spirits not to bother you at night. If the way people around you or even your parents, deal with you bothering them, doesn’t work. Think, what would help? What would it take for you to listen and not bother me? Use that kind of approach with Spirits! Like that saying goes – do to others what you’d like them do to you! Maybe it helps if you leave a night light on at night? I know for me it seemed even scarier as I thought; if I leave the Light on, Spirits will be able to better see me. I preferred to be in the dark, but you might want to leave the Light on. Keep in mind that Spirits are energy and it doesn’t matter light or 114

dark, if they decide to come to you they will do it in the light or the dark. It is about your preference, what makes you feel more comfortable – light on or off? If Light on – maybe it can be a small night light? Or couple of night lights instead of the bright light? Experiment. Don’t just focus on one solution that you think would work! Try out different solutions! ~ Spirit is in our house~ Spirit is energy! Spirits obviously don’t have a physical body anymore and therefore no physical being or thing is an obstacle for the Spirit. Think of it this way Spirits are everywhere! There are many people who don’t have natural abilities to see Spirits, yet they have Spirits in their house. How privileged are you to see them? How privileged are you to see if they are or aren’t in your house? To see them and sense them and to know what do about it is a gift. A person who knows how to handle Spirits and how to deal with having Spirits in the house in such way that helps the spirits and helps you and helps those around you - that is an amazing ability to have. Own your gifts and do not fear them. Who knows you might be drawn to, or willing to help people with problems with spirits. You may be drawn to those who have Spirits in their house, yet can’t see them. The more knowledge and experience you gain, the better you know how to handle any situation involving Spirits. ~ Paranormal experiences intensify at night~ They definitely do! At night when the world around us is quiet, we simply can hear Spirits better. Day’s chatter often quiets Spirits down, but at night, when the world around us is asleep, Spirits have more of a chance to be noticed and to be heard. Just like we like to be heard and need others to be quiet so they can hear what we say, Spirits need silence in the background to be better heard. They don’t have a physical voice to silence others to be heard, so, they wait for silence to be better heard. ~ I see them in flash That is how Spirits often let us know their presence. Even if you see them in a flash, you still see them, they are there. It takes an effort from their part, to connect and communicate with us. Some of them might show themselves for a longer period of time, some in a flash. Even a flash of Spirit is conformation of their presence. ~ It’s not normal~ 115

Everybody is different and therefore everybody’s version of “normal” is different. In our society it is common to believe that the majority’s believes, majority’s point of view is “normal” and everything other than that is not “normal” but it is only an illusion. Think about it - if you were born with this ability, how can it not be normal? For somebody it might not be or feel normal, but it is not your job or your problem to worry what their version of “normal” is. If you have these experiences with Spirits, if you have natural ability to talk to Spirits, to see them, hear them then it is your “normal”. ~ I want to be able to control my abilities ~ The more you learn about your abilities and different aspects of them, the more you put into practice what you learn, the more you will know and naturally learn how to control your abilities ! Never stop learning as there is always something new, there is always something more to be learned. There is somewhere deeper we can go with what we already know, even when we think we know everything. ~ Spirits call my name and they are scary~ You know how celebrities usually have bodyguards that go with them everywhere to protect them? Imagine having Angels or other Spirit Beings as your bodyguards! These beings that protect you will be scanning what comes through to you. You can create your own body guards by calling in an army of Angels to be your bodyguards! Call in an army of cats in Spirit or Superman to be your bodyguard (it can be anything, anyone you wish as it is all about intention. This is about having someone around you that you feel comfortable and safe with. It can be someone in physical body or in Spirit). People alive, with a physical body, they can act badly towards one another, because there is some pain within them that they don’t want to look at and try to hide by giving pain to others. Spirits can do the same thing. The Spirits who are the scariest have the greatest amount of pain, which they hide behind, by scaring others. The more we learn about ourselves and about how life works, and about different aspects of our abilities, the healthier and happier we are. Also, we will be able to better identify what the situations are that we experience, is about and how to deal with the Spirits who come across to us as scary. Maybe we need to talk to them, maybe we need to have our Spirit bodyguard team step in and help us? Maybe we need to set boundaries? Each situation is different.

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~ “My Child Sees Dead People” ~ ~ Most Common Concerns of the Parents of Children/Young People who See Spirits and How to Address these Concerns ~ Following are the most common concerns parents of the children who see Spirits, have and the insights of how to handle these concerns:

~ The Bible teaches when you die you go to heaven or hell. That is it. ~ If you open your mind beyond what the Bible teaches, if you look around, and explore different beliefs and different approaches to life, you might find that there is more to life than how the Bible is interpreted. There are many people who have had experiences that are similar to what your child is experiencing. Many have written their experiences in a book. Many have shared their experiences in movies, on a video, on youtube, and in many other ways. Many people hold workshops and there are classes about the subject of your child’s experience. Many have been on national television to share their experience, and to tell the world what has happened to them. There is more to life and death than the Bible teaches. ~ I don’t’ know what to do to help him/her ~ I run out of solutions ~ I feel helpless~ Learn! Research! You are the parent or guardian, you are the adult that your child looks up to and counts on. Yes, it is understandable that you might not know what to do to help your child who is seeing Spirits. If your child is seeing Ghosts or communicating with Spirits, please take the time to learn and be ok with what is happening. In the times that we now live 2013 this modern world provides so much information out there: books, movies, reality shows, Radio talk shows, TV shows, workshops, classes are available. The information about everything paranormal is easily researchable online from comfort of your own home. These days there is some kind of Mind-Body-Spirit store in every area, lots of Mind-BodySpirit fairs around the world, lots of Mediums, Psychic Mediums, Energy Healers that you can contact either locally or distance to learn more about experiences your child has. Before you pay anyone any money or invest in any paranormal products, there is a lot available online for free. Great resource is Online Radio Talk shows (see more detailed info at the end of 117

the book in “Resources” chapter) where you can either listen in hoping to find answers or even call in asking questions you have. Talk to experts in the paranormal field with the intention to learn how to help your child. If you invest time and energy researching what is available locally, you might be surprised about all you can find! There are many people around the world who do this work! ~ Energy work, Mediumship, paranormal and much more. It is most likely that there is someone in the area you live in. Do keep in mind that not everyone who does this kind of work or claims to have similar or the same kind of abilities and experiences as your child does, is honest or actually has these abilities or is the right person for your child to connect with. Do not follow blindly, everything that every Medium says even if he/she is famous and well known. Because we are all different and unique, we all have our own and unique way of understanding different paranormal experiences. Keep an open mind about everything you hear, read and learn. Don’t take anything as absolute truth, but more like a possibility. Trust your gut when choosing what to believe the most or better yet, offer different options and possibilities to your child giving him/her the opportunity to choose a solution based on their gut feeling, on their intuition. If you yourself have paranormal experiences or have had them as a child, you will most likely be better prepared knowing how to help your child, but if you haven’t had your own paranormal experiences then you can’t know exactly and for sure, which idea for solution would help your child the most. Allow them to make the choice, be there for your child, support your child, encourage your child to look for solutions. Tell your child (and mean it) how you love him/her no matter what, how you are there for him/her. Kids need that support. You can’t do everything for them but you can be there for them, guide them and hold their hand as their find their own way. ~ I am afraid that if we don’t’ get help, our daughter/son will never find a place to fit in~ Take action! Look for help! It is a big world full of opportunities for all walks of life. Look for people who can help and let that be your way of helping! Sometimes it just takes finding one person who is on the same wavelengths with your child. Whether it is another child or an adult who can connect to your child, for things to change for the better! ~ I worry because my daughter/son is scared~ Worry is not going to help! Not for you, nor your child! 118

Why do you think people usually get worried? It is when we don’t know what to do. They worry when they don’t know how to handle the situation they experience. We worry when we don’t know what is going to happen? We worry when we step into unknown! The more we learn about situations and different aspects of life, the better we are prepared, the better we can handle any experiences that might come up! In your case the more you learn and the more prepared you are to know how to help your child, the easier it will be for both of you! As a parent and the closest adult in your child’s life, the best way you can help is to be there for your child. Listen to your child and take your child and his/her story, experience he/she shares seriously. Believe your child and believe in your child, empower your child. The more safe a child feels in any situation, the more confidence they will have in themselves. The more support a child has to deal with his abilities in the paranormal world, the more strength he or she has to handle the experiences and be able to take action. Be that person in your child’s life that helps him/her to feel safe, to feel empowered and to draw his/her own powers from within to overcome feeling scared. Remind your child of the tools he/she has and can use to draw that inner power to deal with any situation in a positive and empowering way. Be the cheerleader for your child’s abilities. Encourage your child to use his/her inner power to overcome challenges! Having fear from Spirits is normal. Having experiences with Spirits is not going to go away if you have that gift, but taking action to work through the fear in a positive and empowering way is. It is not only going to help the Spirits, but will help your child to get a control of his or her abilities and everyone involved will benefit! It is the value that you as a parent or guardian can help your child to experience and learn for him/her to be able to deal with any situation that causes fear. These tools and knowledge will prepare your child for life in the big world as well! ~ I don’t want her/him to think that it’s a curse~ Encourage a positive kind of belief in your child about his/her abilities. As a parent do some research on the topic and experiences that your child is having. Find how people have been helping with abilities like your child has? Share it with your child! Find out names of the people and what they have done to make it more real? We do not get burned on the stake for these abilities now days. People with abilities to communicate with those in Spirit are helping to solve crimes, helping to locate missing people and are 119

not looked down at like it used to be in a past. Search for everything that speaks of the abilities your child and how they can help others. This research and knowledge gained can be beneficial not only to your child but you too. Maybe you can arrange with some local Medium or energy healers that your child can visit them and watch them in their work? Perhaps let your child help them? Children are true clairvoyants. Hands on experience of helping others with these abilities are most likely going to show your child that it is not a curse but a gift. It is just a matter of learning how to use these natural abilities to help others. This work is about how to control the spiritual connections so that they are used in a healthy way and don’t harm your child nor the people around your child. ~ My child having abilities, makes it difficult to relate to people in the normal world~ It just means he or she hasn’t found the right people. Yes, the abilities your child has might make it harder to relate to people, but not to all people. It is just a matter of finding the right people. It is also possible that even among the people with similar or the same abilities, your child might feel different. I am saying it from my personal experience. As an adult I am still finding it challenging to relate to people, but what I have come to understand is, concluded from my life experience, is that some of the people with abilities like your child, are just meant to feel different because they are meant to be leaders. They are meant to walk the path that nobody else has walked yet and be leaders. It is not an easy path, but it can be a fun and a rewarding path if we make a choice to make it a fun and exciting experience. In this case, your job as a parent could be to help your child to make this choice. Of course, not by forcing, but by helping to see how it can be exciting and that it can be exciting! Be excited for your child rather than sad or frustrated. Children look up to adults, to those closest to them. Children look up for help and for guidance. Just be there for them, remember that it is their path. A path that is for them to walk and you can help by showing opportunities that will help your child to be excited to walk this path ! ~ Children who see Spirits say: “I think my mom/dad/parents/family don’t understand because they don’t know how it is”~ Parents and Guardians, if you have never experienced it, of course you can’t know what exactly it is that your child goes through. The best you can do is to believe your child! If they know that you don’t trust them or you 120

don’t believe them, even if you try to hide it. Think, they can naturally see Spirits which are beings that don’t have a physical body. For your child to know what you think and believe about their experiences, comes just as natural to them. When you love your child, does it really matter if you know what exactly he/she is going through for you to love your child? We are not talking about your child doing something that is inappropriate, not talking about your child taking drugs or drinking alcohol or being violent. We are talking about your child seeing Ghosts and being scared. We are talking about your child not knowing how to deal with it! They need you to be there for them! You are their closest grownup they can talk to, they rely on, they look up to!! If you know your child well, you will know in your gut, if your child is lying and when they are telling the truth! I mean if your child sees a ghost and is so scared of them that they want to sleep with you or are crying. Then you know you can probably believe them. If you get a conformation about your child seeing ghosts like your child shares some information that comes from the dead and your child couldn’t have known it from any outside resource available, you will know what a made up story is, and what is reality! Your child needs you to be the strong one in this situation! You might be the only person your child has to talk to about the experiences that they are having. ~ I feel guilty for not knowing how to help, for not being there for my child, for not believing. I don’t see them, I can’t help~ I don’t’ know how to help my daughter/son ~ You don’t need to see them to be able to help your child. Yes, it would give you a better idea what exactly your child is going through when having experience with Spirits, but there are ways you can help even if you don’t see them. You can help even if you think you don’t know how to help. First and most important love your child no matter what and be there for your child! It can be scary experience for your child and your disbelief, your “not knowing what to do” approach is not helping. Think, when you don’t know something, you learn it, right? You didn’t know how to drive and you learned how to drive. You didn’t know who to walk and you learned how to walk. You didn’t know how to read and you learned how to read. If it was important to you, you learned how to do it. You had some help or maybe you did it on your own? Some learning took longer than others, but the end result was that you learned it. The same with experiences your child is having, if you don’t’ know what to do, or how to 121

help, learn! How, you might wonder? Like I wrote a bit earlier – research: online. Look in your neighborhood for Mediums, you will find information of some kind under: “paranormal, paranormal experiences, Mediumship, psychic medium, or intuitive workers, energy healers, Medium, mediums”. ~ I want her to see that it is bad to see Spirits~ Please remember, please, please dear parent/s or guardians who have this thought! Please remember that your child’s abilities, your child’s experiences as a result of these abilities - is their life! It is NOT about you! It’s not about what you want them to believe or be like! It’s not about what you think! If your child was born with this gift, how can they be bad? Please support your child in this journey called life. Support your child and his/her abilities! Isn’t the most important for your child to be happy? If he/she was born with these abilities – they won’t go away and the only way to be happy will be to learn how to go about these abilities, how to be in charge of them, how to handle them in a positive and helpful way! Something that’s natural, can only be positive! ~ I would like her to have coping mechanism, strengths and ability to deal with Spirits~ Most important is to remember that nobody else can do anything for your child than your child themselves. Yes, it is about gaining strengths, and confidence to deal with Spirits, but you can’t do it for your child. Your child has to do it for him/herself! This book gives a lot of information about Mediumship. This book offers tools and techniques to gain confidence and to gain strengths to put you in control with the spiritual realms. Parent, you as the closest adult in your child’s life, can encourage your child to practice these techniques, to use the tools I provide in this book, to do the exercises required to make your child experiences understandable. Not only tools I provide – use any tools that you have read, learned about for this matter! Your child can create their own exercises that help to gain strengths. Be creative with this. The more your child will know and the more experience the child will have, the more confident he/she will become. In time he/she will be able to easily deal with Spirits. ~ I fear that it is bad~ that it will hurt ~ Here again I am going to remind you that we experience fear, when we don’t know what we are dealing with. When we don’t know what is happening or what is going to happen. The more we learn and explore the 122

different aspects of the topic of our abilities (in this case – your child’s abilities), the easier it will be to use these abilities in such ways that it will be empowering, inspiring and rewarding without hurt or pain of any kind. ~ Daydreaming, becoming disengaged~ It is easy to become disengaged when the physical world is mixed together with the Spirit world. It is easy to drift away. Once your child sees the purpose to their abilities and learns how to deal with their abilities and how to control them, your child will feel much better. Once your child learns to use these abilities for good, it will be easier for him/her to be present and switch between the worlds effortlessly. ~ I am ignoring when my child says he/she sees spirits~ Be a good listener! Especially if you don’t see Spirits, if you can’t quite relate to what your child is experiencing - be a good listener! I keep saying it over and over again but it is important! You are in your child’s life to set an example, to guide him/her to live the best version they can live. You are there to support them and to encourage them to use their talents and to be the best they are born to be. Ignorance is the worst thing that we can do. Ignorance is not only, not good for our children, but what we do to each other as well. Think, how would you feel if you shared your deep emotional experience, an experience that possibly scared you and you were ignored? Worse yet belittled or beat? Would you like it? Would it help you? Be supportive! Having support plays a major role in child’s life! It plays a major role in anyone’s life, but especially child’s! If you are exhausted, if you have just reached your limit and went beyond it, let your child know when you will be able to listen and pay full attention to them when you do listen. Even that is better than simply ignoring, or not talking about it, or not asking. You need, of course, to follow through with what you tell your child, as well! Without following through your words won’t have meaning, but in order to make this whole experience success for your child as well as for you, it is important that you do make every action matter. ~ I think, my child just says this because he wants to get attention~ If you don’t believe your child’s experiences and abilities, if you need some physical proof that requires more than your child is telling you, how about you search for and find a local Medium/ Psychic Medium and see if you can 123

arrange a session or meeting for you and with your child! Session where Medium lets you child do some work. Be present when it happens. I can’t tell you what exactly will happen, but if your child does have natural abilities to see Spirits, and talk to Spirits, and sense energies, you will get your proof! Again, Support your child in this, they need you more than ever if they are Medium, if they see spirits and don’t know how to handle their experiences. ~ I am trying to protect my child but don’t’ know how? He is scared of something I can’t see and don’t understand~ The best way to protect your child is to do everything you can to provide your child with the resources, opportunities, support and encouragement they need to use their natural abilities. Help your child to be a selfconfident, powerful, strong person. ~ She should be able to play in her own room without being scared~ Yes, that’s the idea of the ideal, but if it doesn’t happen and in this case is related to your child seeing Spirits, then there is a need for a solution. Keep working at it and you will get there. Your child has to make peace with what they see. They have to learn to manage it and be in control of it with their words and actions in the spiritual realm. ~ She thinks is her fault~ Your job as a parent would be to make sure, your child knows how valuable and precious this ability to see Spirits is! Even if you don’t like it or believe in it or it goes against your religion! It’s not about you! It is about your child, who is their own person! It is nobody’s fault! Your child was born with this ability that is beyond average and there is a reason for it! Here I want to mention once again – to remind your child of all the people that bring great help in the world by communicating to Spirits! It is a Blessing and only seems like a curse because your child doesn’t know yet, how to control his/her abilities. Be happy for your child, for him/her having these amazing abilities! When we think, if he/she was born with this ability, it can’t possibly be something bad! We are born with arms and legs and face. Some people are naturally good at playing some musical instrument, some people are born being good with animals and your child happens to be born with abilities to see Spirits. Children rely on their parents to know what to do! If not knowing what to do then knowing where to go for some help, for answers! 124

~ I am tired on many levels~ It is understandable, but it doesn’t do anyone good for you to be tired from this experience to give up! What I mean by that is, yes, it is understandable that you are tired. Yes, it is okay to be tired, but if it has been going on for a long time and you haven’t had a break, then from healthy tiredness, it turns into unhealthy! Think, it is your child who has experiences with Spirits yet you are tired on many levels. Your child might be even more tired! The more you learn about paranormal and everything related to it, especially everything related to the kind of experiences your child has and you as a result are having, the better you will be able to handle situation. The better you handle the situation, the healthier you handle situation, the more energy you will save. This situation, being tired is because of your child’s experience with Spirit. This type of tired calls for setting clear boundaries, your child setting clear boundaries with Spirits (which you can remind him/her) as well as you setting boundaries. When I say you setting boundaries, what I mean by that is: Even if you can’t see what your child sees, or hear what your child hears, you can still talk to the Spirits. You can still communicate to them what you wish because they will hear you! Burn some Sage and talk out loud. Ask spirits to leave your home. Call in the spirit of abundance or something pleasant to you. I talk a lot about setting clear and strong boundaries and keeping them. What you can do if the situation above applies to your child and you, is to set boundaries with your child as well. What do I mean by that? I mean to be strict if needed, reminding your child to set boundaries with Spirits. Don’t let yourself be sucked into the same story over and over again! Guide your child to focus on a solution and don’t feed the energy of the negative experience. Remind your child about looking for and focusing on Solutions! One visualization you can do: Imagine/envision/visualize your child in his/her energy bubble with intention that only something that is positive and healthy can enter. You can also imagine/envision/visualize your child in rainbow bubble, wrapped in rainbow colors or in a single color that feels the best to you! ~ It’s difficult for me to think that I can’t be there for my son/ daughter, to stop it~ It’s not really about stopping it because if your child is born with this 125

ability, if he/she is born more sensitive and intuitive than the average person, then there is no stopping it. It just is. It is however about gaining knowledge and experience about how to deal with Spirits. Learn as much as you can so that even if you don’t have those experiences that your child has, you still can relate to your child and understand your child. It is about your child learning everything he/she can to know how to handle his/her abilities in a healthy way. It is all about your child knowing what to do. ~ It’s like the whole world is against you~ The more you look for information and for help, the more you will find that the world is not against you. Yes, the majority of people might not talk about these experiences. The majority of people do not have these experiences. Rest assured, the world is definitely not against you. There are many people around the world who have similar, if not the same kind of experiences. Many families go through similar experiences and it is just the matter of connecting with these people and finding them to help you grow and understand more than you do now. I am sharing some resources, in resource section so make sure you check them out! I personally have created a Facebook page as part of this book for people who read this book and have something to say. I encourage you to share your experiences. People who are looking for connecting with others who have similar experiences could connect through Facebook! And this is just one way to connect and find others to share and grow with. . You just need to know what to look for and put time and energy into it. A lot of parents take kids to ballet practice, soccer practice and that is considered normal. You just might need to take your child to practice energy work. Learn about mediumship work and take your child to paranormal practices to strengthen and support them. ~ she/he absorbs the negative energy and that’s what making her sick ~ he/she gets headaches/ gets sick after encountering spirits ~ he/she was sick after seeing a dream of Spirit ~ Yes, it is most likely true and that’s why it is important to learn everything you can about Mediumship work. Help your child to learn everything they can about their experiences, and to know how to deal with them. Your child needs to learn how to not let becoming so tired happen. Children must learn how to not let the negative energy affect them. 126

I am giving some examples for what to do at the beginning of this book. Because everyone is different, make sure you do more research on this, so that you and your child have more options, if more options are needed. Whatever you read online or learn anywhere about protecting yourself from negative energy and not letting negative energy affect you. Keep those words in mind. Remember also, that not everybody who gives information about this subject is an expert in it and even if the person giving advice is famous, it doesn’t make what he/she says the absolute truth. Use your own judgment; let your child use his/her own judgment (aka intuition, gut feeling). What you need to remember, before making a choice, for what advice to follow… just a few important facts: * negative (energy, thoughts) feed on negative, on fear, on anger so don’t choose a tool for dealing with negative Spirits, that involves fear of involves something negative. (even doing something to “protect” comes out of fear “I am afraid of something, someone, I need to protect myself.) Encourage and guide your child to CHOOSE empowering methods to deal with all energies. Use words like, strengthen your own energy, and increase your aura. Increase your energy field so only that which is positive and empowering can enter! Call in Angels or other helpers in spirit to join the forces with you. Be more powerful, and use your powers to shine light, use crystals that have qualities to empower, to absorb negative and transform it into something positive or to dissolve the negative altogether. I mean to help and encourage your child to use these tools and methods that empower your child. You can also use these methods too and empower yourself. If you have strength and energy by practicing these methods too, you will have the needed energy and strength to help your child! Again, make sure that the MAIN FOCUS is EMPOWERMENT!!! Empowerment is the key for long term success in any challenging situation! The more you focus on EMPOWERMENT, the more powerful you and your child will be sharing in this experience. Feeling the inner strengths, and power within is what is going to attract more of the power and strength to your life. You will have more positive experiences without letting negative in! ~ most terrifying is that you don’t’ know where to go for help Please make sure you check out resource part at the end of this book! It will give you more ideas! We are living in 21st century – there are a lot of options to research, to learn, to connect to. When you are really looking for 127

help and answers – you will find them. You might not want to go look for answers, for help. You might feel embarrassed or scared of what other people will think if you bring up the topic of your child seeing ghosts. Do not feel embarrassed, it is your responsibility to deal with it. Your child needs you and there are many options available. Please be responsible for your child and these experiences. Our children are the future. ~ you just don’t know what to do~ Once you look more into the paranormal world and you research out information, you will gain knowledge of what to do. Keep learning! It will help not only your child, but you too as well as everyone around you! Believe and trust that the information in this book gives you some kind of insight and knowledge. I hope this book gives you what you need on some level, to deal with your child’s and your experiences. Make sure you check out “resources” part at the end of this book.

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Part II ~ “Developing Our Senses” exercises ~ No matter which one of our senses is naturally dominant, no matter how well-developed our other senses are, in order to be the best Medium we can be, it’s important to continuously develop our senses. Following are few exercises that will help! *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

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Seeing Few ideas for working on developing our clairvoyant abilities… Exercise #1 While you are out in a nature, pick something of a nature like flower, a leaf, a bush, a tree etc.. Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Open your eyes and observe the object of your choice, to the detail. Observe, notice everything you possibly can about it. Color, texture, size, shape etc.. Then, try to imagine that you can see through the object of your choice, think how it would look if you could see through? Imagine, how it would look if you could see through it. Would the color change? Would the texture change? Shape? Size? Notice if your body reacts somehow as you focus on the object (for example - temperature change, tingles in your body or other), notice if this exercise stirs up some emotions in you? Once you feel/think that you have observed everything you could, close your eyes again, take a few deep breaths and then open your eyes. At the beginning, as you do this exercise for the first time, first few times, you might want to write down your experience, what you felt, what you saw etc.. Writing down will help you to better understand yourself and remember. Sometimes we think, of course I will remember this, but as time 129

goes by, we start to forget. By writing down you will be able to monitor your experiences, your growth… Self-observation, learning about ourselves is part of becoming a great Medium. Repeat this exercise – as often as possible and with as many objects as possible. It’s great if you can observe the same thing you did the first time as well, and see how different or similar your experiences might be. You can definitely focus on things that are not nature as well, but, for the start, it will be easier when it’s out in a nature with something in nature as a focus. Experiment. Check out what you see! Exercise #2 When doing this exercise for the first time, it’s the best to be out in a nature and pick something from the nature to focus on. Once you have picked your object of focus, close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Do your best to clear your mind by not thinking of anything other than just focusing on your breath for few moments. Then – open your eyes. Now – focus on the object in a nature that you picked only – don’t look at the object directly but bring your attention to about few inches above the object. Just keep looking, gazing at it... Have no expectations… at some point you might start to see the energy, like a mist and then you might see it turn into certain color or colors. Not to worry if you don’t see colors or energy… still, keep practicing. Sooner or later you’ll see… Repeat this exercise as often as you can! It will just strengthen your seeing! Exercise #3 Magic Eye Great way to practice seeing energies is to look at the Magic Eye pictures! Following are some links to websites and book that can help you with that! Main Magic Eye Website – has information about different Magic Eye books as well as 3D picture of the week: http://www.magiceye.com/ View websites where you can see random 3D pictures and practice online: http://pinterest.com/reinavi/magic-eye-3d/ 130

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yourself and how you perceive sounds. Exercise #6 Feeling Physical feeling This exercise you can do when you set a time aside for it or you can incorporate it while going on with your daily “work”. Close your eyes for a moment and take a few deep breaths. Then, focus your attention to different parts of your body! To make it easier, start with either feet or top of the head and go either up or down… Bring your focus to head, eyes, nose, ears, neck, shoulders, chest, belly etc... Just for few moments, kind of like scan your body. Then, focus on different parts of the body, how they feel when you breathe in, when you breathe out. When doing this exercise while moving, notice how you feel when different parts of your body touch different surfaces, how you feel when making different movements. What’s the physical sensation that accompanies these actions! That’s what you can do all day long. Just keep the focus on your body, different sensations it goes through when doing different actions, making different movements, touching different surfaces. Don’t have any expectations, just observe, make a note of different feelings… It will help you to become more and more aware of differences and your body’s reaction to them, your body’s feelings which will increase your ability to feel and recognize what the feelings you experience, mean. Exercise #7 Emotional feeling exercise Again – this exercise can be done either like a meditation when you take time for doing it or when you incorporate this exercise in your daily routine. Just to get yourself in a space, shift the energy from what you are doing and where you are, close your eyes and take few deep breaths. Then pick an emotion – a positive emotion – and just simply focus on it… you can repeat it in your mind, feel the emotion, see if you can remember something that happened in the past when you felt it or think of something that you’d like to happen and you think it would make you feel this emotion… Like Joy, Happiness, Freedom, Confidence, Fulfillment etc.. 132

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The other way to do this exercise is to pick the emotion and focus on it throughout the day, try to see/notice it in other people as well, notice, how you feel around people who are joyful or happy, or uplifting etc. (whatever the emotion you choose to focus that day, is). Like in previous exercises, about this too I’d suggest to make notes about your experience! It will help you to learn connection between how you feel, what you feel and what the meaning of it is. Exercise #8 Smelling This exercise as well you can do in several different ways and great if you can have a partner for the one version of this exercise… *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Version #1 Pick several things that have strong scents, ideally – something natural, something from nature. About 3-5 different scents. First, close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Then – pick one of the “things” and breathe in the scent of it… Observe what comes up for you: does the scent bring up memories? Visions? Pictures in your head? Feelings? Anything else… Once you feel/think you are done with one thing, pick up the other one and do the same… Do it with all the things you have picked, al the scents you picked… Version #2 Go out in a nature and breathe in the air. Notice – what scents do you smell? Is there one stronger than other? Observe… Notice if any scents bring up some memories, remind you of something… 133

Don’t do it just for few moments, but try to notice different scents throughout the day, even if it’s not out in a nature… Being out in a nature and focusing on the scents of nature just is the most natural and easy way to connect with your sense of smell. Just like I suggested in other exercises – take notes, write down your experiences as it will help you in your self-exploration… Exercise #9 Tasting This exercise you can do every time you eat something… What you’d do is – focus on the taste, try to keep the food in your mouth longer than usual, chew it longer as it will allow you to better connect with the taste of it, observe it. Ideally try it with one simple food, then mix that food together with some other ingredients and see how the taste changes! Again – see if the taste you experience, reminds you of something or someone. What else you can do, whether you have someone as a partner for this exercise, or not – taste different foods. If you have a partner - you’d ask your partner to blindfold you. Then your partner would give you different food to taste and experience the taste. See how different food tastes and if the same food tastes different when you are blindfolded than when you weren’t blindfolded. Write down your experience! Practice it as often as you can ! The more we do something, practice anything, the better we get at it! That’s the case in this situation as well… *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

How to set boundaries? Exercise #10 It can be as simple as stating the following (in your mind, or out loud): I ask and affirm to allow only that which is positive, uplifting, powerful etc. (you can enter anything that’s positive here) enter my energy during this meditation. If there is anything or anyone that might cause me any harm, I ask that that energy is being transformed into the light before it ever even riches me… I ask and affirm to be immune to anything that’s less than 134

Love and Light… May the meditation I am about to do is this and something even better … thank you… (you can adjust the above using your own words… just follow the main idea – affirm what is acceptable to you, what you wish to allow happen… you can even skip the part about what you want to happen with anything less than “what you want”) Like I wrote before – doing Mediumship work, dealing with Paranormal it’s work with energy, therefore to prepare for Mediumship work we need to work on our energy, to work with energy… We need to work and play in the realm that’s non-tangible. How to set boundaries? Exercise #10 It can be as simple as stating the following (in your mind, or out loud): I ask and affirm to allow only that which is positive, uplifting, powerful etc. (you can enter anything that’s positive here) enter my energy during this meditation. If there is anything or anyone that might cause me any harm, I ask that that energy is being transformed into the light before it ever even riches me… I ask and affirm to be immune to anything that’s less than Love and Light… May the meditation I am about to do is this and something even better … thank you… (you can adjust the above using your own words… just follow the main idea – affirm what is acceptable to you, what you wish to allow happen… you can even skip the part about what you want to happen with anything less than “what you want”) Like I wrote before – doing Mediumship work, dealing with Paranormal it’s work with energy, therefore to prepare for Mediumship work we need to work on our energy, to work with energy… We need to work and play in the realm that’s non-tangible. Exercise #11 Meditation Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths… The kind of breaths where your belly expands like a balloon when you breathe in (instead of shoulders going up)… Scan your body just by bringing your focus on it from the top of your head to the tip of your toes… Bring your focus to your head, face, eyes, mouth, ears… if you feel like there is any tension in any part of your body then breathe into that part of your body to help it relax. Take a few moments to scan the body all the way down to the top of your toes… 135

*** Then – take a few more deep breaths and see yourself, envision yourself in the most beautiful place out in a nature that you can think of… Notice the surroundings, notice any details that might stand out. See yourself in this beautiful place, walking, running, jumping, playing, relaxing… doing anything you can think of. Notice the sounds of the nature, notice scents, vibrant colors. Maybe there is water or a waterfall – if so, listen to the sounds of water… If not, maybe wind blowing the trees – listen to the sound that it makes… Just be in this energy for a moment… See if there is any place in this vision where you feel most drawn to go to. Go there… Relax… Make sure that the place you are at, you feel safe there. You feel safe and you know you are safe! Feel your own vibrant body… Feel it filled with energy, with power and relax in this energy… Feel it! Experience it! Breathe in the fresh air! Breathe in deeply! *** Know that nothing that is less than this energy, these beautiful, peaceful feelings, can get in here. The energy here is just simply in a different dimension, on a different frequency level than anything less. Feel the abundance of all good and positive! Just breathe it in! Focus on your solar plexus area! It is your power center… See this energy in your solar plexus in the color gold, spinning. The more it spins, the more you focus on it, the more golden light expanding throughout your body as you relax in your safe, beautiful place! Know that only what’s real and powerful and positive is able to enter your energy world! You are safe! Just breathe in this experience and be with it for a moment… Ask to be shown what can and will bring you back into this space during the day or when you sit down to do other meditations. What else can and will remind you of the way you feel here in this safe place?! Maybe a picture, a word, a feeling… *** Take few deep breaths… Scan your body once again, this time, just noticing how it feels, noticing clothes on your body, where you sit or lay down. Take few more deep breaths and bring your consciousness back to the present moment in a physical world! 136

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Exercise #12 This exercise will help you to determine what’s acceptable for you what not, when it comes to communicating with Spirit, and let them know your rules! *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Start with finding a comfortable position, getting in it. To cut out all the distractions, close your eyes and take few deep breath. Breathe in, breathe out. And as you breathe in breathe out deeply take your focus to seeing yourself in your safe space. A place where you feel safe. Where you feel protected, where you feel comfortable. Possibly out in the nature, some great nature surroundings, and you know that you’re safe there. And once you are in the safe space imagine that there are spirits around, there are those who have crossed over around you. But they're not all over the place, they are in a distance and they are coming closer, coming closer to you. You see them coming closer to you, closer and closer, and then stopping at the border line of the place where you feel safe. They stop without stepping over the boundaries of your personal space. It might be few steps from you, it might be more than few steps from you, but set an intention to make them stop by that borderline, on one side spirits, on the other you and your personal space. Like there is an invisible wall, invisible fence, the spirits can't get past unless you let them. And notice how far or how, or how close it is to you. And then envision, create a gate, or door. Big or small, it’s up to you - how it looks it’s up to you. Within that space where you are at, the boundaries, that fence that is there, maybe it's visible, maybe it's invisible, but create a door and let spirits know just by telling them in your mind that this is your personal space and when you're open talk to them, the door is what they can use to come in. And the door will be open when they can come in. Also you can explain to them, tell them that in order for you to help them it's really important that they speak one on one with you instead of all of them talking together at the same time. You will be better able to communicate with them, to understand them, to hear their individual messages when it's one on one talk. Let the spirits know anything else that comes to your mind as far boundaries go, if you’re OK for them to come to you anytime or you're going to set up a certain time to talk to them. If you want to be bothered while you sleep or not. Just feel it out, what feels safe to you? When it comes to spirits, maybe one of the points in setting boundaries would be to tell them what you’re comfortable with or even if you don't know just 137

tell them to come to you in a way that won’t scare you. In a way that's most familiar to you, that feels most comfortable to you. Just be in this energy for a while. Cover as many aspects of setting boundaries as possible. You might need and want to return to this place and space several times to reevaluate boundaries, to add a new aspect that becomes apparent to you. Just keep breathing deeply and when you’re ready, you open your eyes and be back into this present moment and physical world. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Exercise #13 This exercise/ Meditation will guide you to receive help with boundaries from Celestial Beings. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Find a comfortable position, get in it and to close out any distractions, close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths. Breathing in deeply, breathing out deeply. In and out. Then bring your attention to getting yourself in a safe space. It can be any place, any place that you can imagine that feels the most safest for you. Once you’re there, call in your angels, your spirit guides, God, any Being that doesn’t have physical body (it could need to be someone you believe in). Maybe you have one main Being that you believe in, maybe more than one – call in all. Breathe in deeply. Breathe out deeply. Once you feel the presence of this Being/s or see this Being/s, ask them to be there for you and protect you from any harm when you are doing medium-ship work, whenever it might be. Put this request in your own words. Just talk to Spirits, ask them as if you would have in a conversation with any good friend, only this case this friend does not have physical body but tell them in your mind. Ask them to protect you from any harm that might come your way when doing Mediumship work, coming across Earthbound Spirits, when experiencing Paranormal. Make sure that you’re safe to do your work, to be of service to be of help in any paranormal situation without being harmed. If you feel you need to – ask these Spirit Beings to be there with you at all times. Put and extra effort letting them know that you like them being there. This will add more energy to it. Ask that any harmful energy that might come your way or you might come across coming from earth-bound spirit from anything paranormal, be transformed into Divine light. Be transformed into something that is positive and empowering. Ask if your Spirit guide, guides, angels, have any advice for you, to share with you at this moment, this time in relation 138

to you being safe when doing Mediumship work. What can you suggest Spirit, Angels? What do you see that I’d need to know? What can I do to be safe and do the best job I can being a Medium. Listen for the answers! Once you’ve heard the message. Once you feel finished, thank God, angels, or another Spiritual Beings that you have called upon. Thank them for being there, for talking to you, for helping you. Thank them. Then slowly bring your attention back to a present moment, wiggle your fingers, your toes, notice clothes on your body, anything that your body touching. Open your eyes… *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Exercise #14 Expand Your Energy This exercise involves you focusing on your own energy and expanding it. Solar Plexus area is our Energy Center. It’s where our “gut feeling” are, and that’s where our connection to “who we are” is. The more we do what we truly love (what makes our heart sing) the more we embrace who we are, embrace our Uniqueness and express it, the stronger our inner center is and therefore – the stronger our energy is! When we are standing in our power, our energy is strong and therefore nothing less than that can enter our energy field. This kind of approach to setting boundaries, I have found to be the most powerful, because when we come from the point of view where we strengthen our energy, do something to make our energy stronger, it’s empowering. We don’t need to ask for protection. We, with our own energy, are already the protection we’d otherwise ask for. The other approach, where we ask for protection, comes from a different point of view: it’s coming more from fear. There is obviously something to be afraid of therefore we ask for protection - something to fear or a possibility to have something to be afraid of. That’s not as empowering. It helps though. Do not get me wrong – asking for protection also helps, but it’s more of a temporary solution. Strengthening our own energy and continuously working on it is us working on a permanent solution and keeping up with being strong! *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

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negative vibrations *spend as much time outdoors as possible *get enough of healthy sleep *let go of self-judgment and self-criticism *keep your surroundings neat and clean Exercise #15 Find a comfortable position – whether it be sitting or lying down, close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Go to your safe space - a place where you feel the safest and most comfortable emotionally. Keep breathing deeply. Then, one by one, pick different positive affirmations and focus on them… think – “I am safe”… keep repeating in your mind… I am safe… I am safe… I am safe… feel it. See if you can remember when you felt safe or imagine, if you would feel safe, how it would feel in your body. Keep breathing deeply… Feel being safe… Now – switch to focusing on “I love and I am loved”… keep repeating it in your mind – I love and I am loved … I love and I am loved … I love and I am loved … Feel it… See if you can remember when you felt Loved and Loving (or feeling at all times) or, if you haven’t, imagine, if you would love and feel loved, how it would feel in your body. Keep breathing deeply… Feel Love… Now – switch to focusing on “I trust the Process of Life”… keep repeating it in your mind – I trust the process of life… I trust the process of life… I trust the process of life… Feel it… See if you can remember when you felt complete trust in the process of life or, if you haven’t yet, imagine, if you would feel their trust in the process of life, how it would feel in your body. Keep breathing deeply… Feel Trust… Take few more deep breaths and bring your attention to the present moment, feel your breath, feel cloths on your body, feel the place you are at… Then – open your eyes… *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

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happiness, beauty, gratitude etc. and focus on it throughout the day. Notice it when you experience that emotion, pay attention to others and notice when this emotion comes up in people around you. This exercise will help you to become more aware of different emotions and how they feel, how you perceive them which will help you to recognize them in Mediumship work. Exercise #17 When walking into the room, especially when it’s someone else’s house, place, it’s an office, store etc., notice the energy in the room/building/ place… what energy do you pick up, what emotions, what feelings… every place you walk in, take few moments to notice the energy in the room… how does the place/room feel temperature wise, how is the energy. What feelings you get, how do you feel when entering that particular room, place… Make it your daily practice! You go to different places anyway. This is an exercise that can be easily incorporated into your daily activities… Exercise #18 This, again, is an exercise that you can incorporate in your daily life. It involves noticing the energy people that you meet, have. We usually do it automatically anyway. For this exercise, make a conscious attempt to pay attention and become aware of the energy that people you meet have. Maybe even with some, like your friends, you can ask them for help by sharing what you feel about their energy at that particular moment and ask them if they can share if it resonates with them or not… See if the same emotion experienced by different people, see if you feel this emotion the same from those people or the same emotions feels different on different people. This exercise will increase your ability to recognize different emotions and different energy which is important part of Mediumship. Exercise #19 This following exercise may also be incorporated into your daily life. What you’d do for this one - notice the energy of what you read about in Magazine or Newspaper/watch on TV/ hear on radio… Just when you hear news, when you listen to different programs, read different articles… The best way to go about this exercise is – take a few deep breaths before you do it, and “shake off” the energy you might have picked up throughout the day, energy that’s not yours. It will help you to better experience the energy of what you read, what you watch, what you hear… How to “shake it off”? 141

You can either close your eyes for a moment and see yourself, imagine yourself literally shaking off all the unhealthy energy, energy of others from you, or you can literary do a movement of shaking of, brushing off with intention that you shake off, brush off the energy that is not yours. Exercise #20 This is another exercise that you can incorporate in your daily life. Throughout the day, make a conscious choice to be aware of your energy and emotions and whenever you experience any negative ones that kind of pull you in and you can’t seem to get out of feeling negative about something or someone, make a conscious choice to change this energy/emotion to something positive. Just, switch the focus from the negative to positive and pay attention how it changes your whole energy, the way how everything else around you seems that day! Stick with the positive. The trickiest part with this exercise might be to notice when we get into a negative space which will be practice on it’s own. Once we recognize that, switching the focus part will be easier. Exercise #21 For this exercise, you need several rooms, a place with different rooms that you can walk into. The idea is – to stop for a moment and scan yourself, how you feel at this very moment. Then – walk into the other room and before doing anything else, scan the room and scan yourself to see what feelings and emotions this room brings up in you. As in the exercise #5, it’s a good idea to “shake off” unnecessary, unhealthy, not your energy before you walk into a new room as it will help you to recognize the energies better. Exercise #22 For this exercise would be great (and ideal) if you can practice it with someone else, with your friends for example. What you’d do is: ask that person to give you something tangible that belongs to them like a necklace or a ring or keys or anything else. What you’d do is - hold the object you are given, in your hands and focus on it. Focus on it, ask this object to tell you what you need to know about this person (just by saying it in your mind). Then – you need to listen. Listen for any signs, any messages, anything… And tell your practice partner what you get. Your practice partner would then tell you how the information you got, relates to him/her. 142

The more you get a chance to practice, and with as many people as possible, the better you will become! This exercise as well, will help you to learn about different energies, messages – how you receive them, what they mean etc… Hold the object you are given in your hands and focus on it. Focus on it and ask this object to tell you what you need to know about this person (just by saying it in your mind). Then – you need to listen. Listen for any signs, any messages, anything… And tell your practice partner what you get. Your practice partner would then tell you how the information you got, relates to him/her. The more you get a chance to practice, and with as many people as possible, the better you will become! Exercise #23 Now – an even more fun part comes! For this exercise you’ll also need a partner and your partner will need to have an object, but in this case, it would be an object of someone who had passed away! It may be an object or it can also be a picture. Something that either has a person in Spirit on it, like a picture, or something that belonged to a person in Spirit. Just like in a previous exercise, hold the object you are given, in your hands and focus on it. Focus on it, ask this object, ask the person in Spirit who it belonged to, to tell you what you need to know about this person (just by saying it in your mind). Ask the questions you’d ask if it was a Mediumship reading – ask how this person died, ask what happened, ask for some significant memory, for anything significant, ask for a message… Then – listen. Listen for any signs, any messages, anything… And tell your practice partner what you get. Your practice partner would then tell you how the information you got, relates to the deceased person. The more you get a chance to practice, and with as many people as possible, the better you will become! This is a great exercise to practice any time, as much as possible ! Exercise #24 Now – this exercise is even more fun, when it comes to being a Medium. For this exercise, you’ll do a research on some local possibly haunted places/ houses and go there, see what you can pick up energetically from being in the place! Ideally, you’ll have either someone to share your experience with, or you’ll be able to find an information about the place somehow in another way – online, library etc... 143

The other way to do this exercise would be – watching some paranormal documentaries, ideally online or recorded, where you can control the speed. You’ll push a stop button before anything would be revealed and see what you pick up about the place. Then let it play and see if - what you got – gets confirmed! Maybe you can find out about any possible Paranormal Investigation teams in your area and ask to tag along when they go do their work. Then you’d have some real experience and would also get to talk to someone about your experiences, get them confirmed, get some guidance etc... Who knows – you might get invited to join their team at some point (that’s if you’d be interested in doing so ), learn about other people with the same interest in your area… *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

~ Energy Clearing Tools ~ Exercise #25 One of my favorites is, like I mentioned earlier in “shaking off any unhealthy, not needed energy that we have accumulated”… How to do it is very simple! I would imagine you have all seen how dogs, after coming out of water shake it off? Dogs or any other animals… The idea is the same… without getting into much details what and how and where… Just imagine all that unnecessary energy being like water that you shake off… Great if you even get to do it literary, I mean – find a place where you won’t be disturbed for a few minutes and just physically do the movements as if shaking off any unhealthy accumulated energy as if it was water you are trying to shake off from your body. Be silly… It’s not always as serious as we make it out to be. I like to think of all that accumulated energy being like a smoky grey cloud… that, like water drops, splash away when shaken! Keep envisioning this energy being shaken of for as long as you see these grey color drops. Once they are gone, your energy comes forth in clear and bright shiny colorful! It’s quite empowering! *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

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Another version of this meditation is – when you do actual cleaning of the house or room, or clearing your desk, think of it symbolically being you cleaning your energy or cleaning the energy of a certain situation in your life! Just envision either yourself or a certain situation that has gotten unhealthy, while you clean and focus your attention and intention to cleaning yourself, cleaning the energy! Exercise #27 This exercise asks for you to just simply imagine and see your energy being cleaned and clean! Just like that! No getting into details, no making it a big drama – simply imagining, visualizing, seeing, knowing that the energy is cleared and cleaned! Like on a snap of your fingers! That’s it! *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Exercise #28 Ask Celestial Beings, your Spirit Guides, for help to clean, cleanse, clear your energy! Whoever it is in a Spirit Realm that you believe in – God, Angels, Fairies, your Spirit Guides etc. – ask them for help with this. You most likely already have your own way of connecting with these beings! Do it your way and just simply ask for help with cleaning your energy from everything that’s unhealthy, unnecessary, everything that doesn’t’ bring you good etc.. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Meditation Get into a comfortable position and start with closing your eyes and taking few deep breaths. Just focus on your breaths for a few moments. Breathe in, breathe out, and remember to do deep breathing where belly expands like a balloon when you breathe in. Go visit your safe place. Just envision yourself being in a place where you feel safe. Where you feel the safest, most comfortable. Breathe in deeply, breathe out deeply. Enjoy being in this space for a moments. There is an angel coming towards you and this angel is showing you her hand, asking you to follow. You get up and you follow. You follow the angel and as you look down, you see that your feet are not touching the ground anymore that you are up in the air. Without a solid ground under you, yet you are safe, you’re fine, you’re ok. And the further you go, the more other celestial beings you notice around you. You see them surround you. And you’re in the space now where there are a lot of celestial beings. Angels, fairies, saints… Air is crisp and its

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sparkling and you feel this energy vibrating, this sparkling energy vibrating on every level. You feel it going through your body, you feel your body going through it and every cell in your body being touched by this vibrant energy that’s out there. This vibrant energy that is in this space. You are in this energy with celestial beings and you don't even need to ask for the energy to be cleared as you being in this space and feeling this vibrant energy is what clears and cleanses your energy. Just bathe in it. Just bathe in it and feel it. Angels and fairies and saints and other Beings who don't have physical bodies anymore, are around you, are there for you, this energy is vibrating high and your energy is cleansed, it's being cleansed and cleared and adjusted to resonate with the energy of all these celestial beings. Just enjoy it. Breathe it in, breathe it out. Take a few conscious deep breaths in and out… Let this energy flow through you. And you keep moving forward, keep moving forward and the angel is right with you, the angel who came to your safe space asking you to follow… this angel is with you and you keep moving forward… in a distance now you see your safe space. The one you started this journey on. You are returning back to your safe space, you come closer to it. And then you feel the ground under your feet, feel your feet touch the ground. Thank the angel for this experience… And then – bring your focus to your body… scan it. Notice how it feels, how different it feels from the moment when you started this journey, before you followed the angel. Just feel the tingling and sparkles and this vibrant energy within, feel your energy. Breathe in deeply, breathe out and then start to wiggle your fingers and toes and open your eyes to return your consciousness back in the present moment and in this physical world. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

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Find a comfortable position, get in it and to close out any distractions, close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths, breathing in deeply, breathing out deeply. Breathing in… Breathing out... And then bring your attention to going to your safe space. It can be anyplace, anyplace you can imagine that feels the most safest to you, feels most comfortable. Once you are there, call on your angels, your spirit guides, God or any Being that doesn’t have a physical body - someone you believe in. Breathe in deeply, breathe out deeply and once you feel the presence of these Beings, see them, feel them – ask them to be there for you and protect you from any harm while you do Mediumship work. Ask them in your own words. Just talk to them as if you would if you had a conversation with any good friend. The idea is the same only in this case this friend doesn’t have a physical body. You can talk to them in your mind, you don’t even need to say it out loud. Ask the

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Beings in Spirit to protect you from any harm that might come your way when doing Mediumship work, when coming across an Earthbound Spirits, when experiencing Paranormal. Ask them to make sure that you’re safe to do your work, to be of service, to help in any Paranormal situation, without getting harmed. You can also ask that any harmful energy that might come your way at any point during doing Mediumship work, be transformed into Divine Light, be transformed into something that’s positive and empowering. Then ask if your Spirit Guide, the Guides, Angels have any advice for you. Ask if they have any advice about “being save” - to share with you this moment, this time, being in this space. Spirit, Angels… etc. - What can you suggest? What do you see? What can I do to be safe and do the best job I can as a Medium? Once you have asked - listen. Listen for the answer/s. Once you’ve heard the message, once you feel finished thank God, Angels or any other Beings in Spirit that you have called upon, thank them for being there for you, for talking to you, for helping you. Thank them and then slowly bring your attention back to a present moment. Wiggle your fingers, your toes and notice clothes on your body. Notice anything that your body’s touching. And then - open your eyes. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Focused Meditations Exercise #30 Focused meditation is a kind of meditation where you focus on something intently without engaging your thoughts about it. For example focus on something visual or focus on the sound or word or a positive emotion, positive affirmation, positive idea. You can do focused meditation when you specifically set time aside and space for doing meditation or you can incorporate this particular focused meditation in your daily life just readjusting it to what you’re doing. Focusing on anything like a sound or a word or a positive emotion or affirmation or idea or anything else of that kind. The idea of this mediation is that you keep just looking at the object/place/ picture- if its visual or listening to a specific sound etc.. For example – if you are looking at something visual - just observe this object. Start with observing the object, place, picture… and then see this object even beyond what's visible to a physical eye. Imagine how this object would look if you could see through it? Just everything notice every detail of this object. Focus on this object. If you choose to focus on the sound then focus on it as much as you can - notice how your body feels when you focus on the sound, if there are several sounds around then a great way to do this mediation would be single this one sound out. Focus on this one particular sound so much so that all the other sounds that you are hearing just disappear in the background - fade away and it'd not that they are really going to fade away the more you focus on one particular sound, it's just

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going to be singled out and will seem as if it's louder and is dominant. Notice how your body feels when you hear this sound and feel this sound. When it comes to emotion - just focus on one emotion. Ideally it’s a positive one. I’d suggest it’s a positive one. One way to do focusing on emotion is - you can repeat the word of this emotion in your mind over and over again, feel it, imagine yourself feeling it, imagine how this emotion would feel in your body. Positive affirmation, you would just repeat this affirmation over and over again in your mind as a broken record. Repeat it, feel it, and notice again, how your body feels when you focus on this affirmation. Use some positive idea or positive thought. If your mind slips at some point while you try to focus on sound or emotion etc, (especially at the beginning it could happen more often) or your mind wonders off to think and focus on something else, do your best to bring your attention back to the original focus point. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Exercise #31 Breath This is one of the most basic meditations where you are asked to focus on your breath. It will bring you into a present moment as well as will help you to work on balancing your breath. Breath is our connection to being alive in this physical body. It’s important we develop and have healthy breathing habits! Focusing on Breath, working on strengthening healthy breathing habits will help you to be a better Medium, strengthen your energy, strengthen your ability to be present which is very important when doing Mediumship work. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Get in a comfortable position and to cut out any distractions, close your eyes, take a few deep breaths. Breathe in, breathe out and envision yourself in a safe space. See yourself, imagine yourself, visualize yourself, being in a safe space. Maybe somewhere out in a nature surrounded by waterfalls, underneath the stars. However your save space looks, go there, bring your attention there. Take a few deep breaths in, breathe out and then just breath naturally for a few moments. Just breathe naturally. Then start to count, how many counts it takes for you to breathe in when you breathe naturally. Breathe counting and then breathe out. After a few times start to balance your breath. Whatever your natural length of breathing in is try to breathe out on the same count so that your breath in and breath out are equal. If you count to five breathing in then breathe out on the count of five. Whatever the number is - breathe out on the same count that you breathe in. Don't try to make your breath in longer or shorter, just breathe in naturally and adjust your breath out to your breath in. Breathe like this for a few minutes. Then switch to breathing in on the same count you just did, holding your breath

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for the same count, breathing out on the same count, holding your breath on the same count and do it all over again. Breathe in on the same, hold your breath, breathe out, hold your breath, breathe in… After few minutes of breathing like this, switch to a different breathing pattern: breathe in making your breath in as long you can, and breathe out slowly. Then, breathe in counting how long it takes to breathe in. When you breathe out - make sure that breath out is the same length as your breath in is. Breathe in, take as long breath in as you possibly can and breathe out on the same count. Do it over and over again for few minutes. Now go back to breathing naturally. Just breathe in, breathe out as you naturally do and while you breathe in naturally scan your body from the top of your head to the tip of your toes. See if you feel or notice any tension in any part of your body now. And if you do, then imagine yourself, visualize yourself breathing in, in that part of the body. Also – breathe out through that part of body, just letting the breath to flow in clearing any stuckness that would cause this part of body be tense. Just breathe. Keep scanning your body from the top of your head to the tip of your toes as you continue breathing deeply. Then take a couple of deep breaths, the kind that make belly expand like a balloon when you breathe in, take a few deep breaths in and out. And then slowly bring your attention back to the present moment. Feel your physical body, wiggle your fingers, your toes, feel your body touching the surface where you're laying down or sitting and then open your eyes. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Exercise #32 Words This meditation is where you will be asked to focus on different words. It will help you to bring your attention and be in a present moment, in a different way. It will be a different energy than when you focus on breath. Get in comfortable position and close your eyes. Take few deep breaths. Once you’ve done that see yourself in your safe space. A place that makes you feel safe, comfortable, makes you feel supported, makes you feel good. Once you are there, bring your focus on the word “comfort”. Feel it. “Comfort”. Keep focusing on the word “comfort”. Just repeat this word in your mind, keep thinking, keep feeling” comfort”., over and over again. Just feel it, every word, every time you think “comfort”, get into the feeling of “comfort” and feel this feeling getting stronger and stronger, deeper and deeper… comfort… comfort… comfort… comfort. Feel comfort… comfort… comfort… comfort… comfort… comfort… comfort. Feel it. Feel comfort. Now switch your focus to the word “inspiration”. Inspiration… inspiration… Feel the inspiration. Feel it. Inspiration… inspiration… Feel it. See it. Inspiration. Inspiration. Inspiration. Feel inspiration. Inspiration. Breathe in deeply. Breathe out deeply. Breathe in Inspiration, breathe out inspiration.

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Breathe out inspiration. Feel inspiration. And now switch your focus on the word “creativity”. Creativity. Feel creativity. Creativity… creativity... Feel creativity. Feel it. Feel creativity. See it, feel it. Smell it, taste it, touch it. Creativity. Feel creativity. Feel creativity. Creativity. Creativity. Remember to breathe deeply… Then bring your attention back to your safe space, enjoy being in that energy a little bit longer and then slowly start to bring your attention back to a present moment. Wiggle your fingers, your toes, and open your eyes. Note: you can most certainly chose different words than I were given in this exercise. These words were just given as an example to get you started.

Exercise #33 Color This is a Meditation where you will be asked/ guided to focus on different colors! Close your eyes and go to your safe space, in your mind, with your feelings and emotions. Go to a place where you feel safe, where you feel comfortable, where you feel supported, comforted, a place where you feel safe. Breathe in that energy of feeling safe and breathe out and breathe in and breathe out. Now see yourself in a room that is all white. Everything in this room is white, even your clothes are white as well. You're surrounded by this white color… Just breathe in a few times this white and breathe out white, breathe in deeply, breathe out deeply. And now see this room turn into the color black, and everything in it turns black, It’s black. Breathe in this, breathe out, breathe in black, breathe out black. And then see this room turn red. Bright red, breathe in this red, breathe in the energy of this room, the color of this room and breathe out, breathe in red, breathe out red. And see the color orange the room and everything in it turns orange including your clothes. Orange, Breathe in orange Breathe out, breathe in orange breathe out. And then see orange turn into yellow. And you breathe in yellow and you breathe out yellow. Everything is yellow. Breathe it in, breathe it out. Then see yellow turn into green. Everything is green. And you breathe in green breathe out green, breathe in green. Breathe out green, And it turns blue. The room is blue, everything in it is blue, Your clothes are blue. Everything is blue. You breathe in blue, breathe out blue, breathe it in and breathe it out. Breathe in blue, breathe out blue. And then see turn violet, everything in it turns violet. Breathe in violet, and you breathe out violet. Breathe in violet, breathe out violet. And everything turns purple, dark purple and you breathe in purple and you breathe out purple. You breathe in purple and breathe out purple. Breathe in

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purple, breathe out purple. And then see everything turn turquoise. All the walls and everything in the room, including your clothes are turquoise color. And you breathe in the turquoise, you breathe out, you breathe in turquoise, breathe out turquoise, breathe in turquoise, breathe out. Then everything turns into color gold. The walls, everything in the room including your clothes are gold. And you breathe in gold, and you breathe out gold. And you breathe in gold, breathe out gold. You breathe in gold and you breathe out gold. Gold… Gold... Gold. Breathe in deeply, breathe out deeply. Be in this space of color gold for a little bit longer and then slowly bring your attention back to present moment, wiggle your fingers, your toes, and then open your eyes.

Exercise #34 This is a Meditation that you can incorporate in everyday life. It works really well, when taking shower. What I mean by that is – when taking a shower, you already have water running down your body on a physical level. It's tangible. The way you would incorporate color here is imagine, visualize, envision the water coming out of the shower head in different colors, to make it more simple, imagine the colors one by one turning into rainbow colors. The red, orange, yellow, green, blue. Imagine water color yellow come out from the hoer head and run over your whole body. Covering it with color yellow, washing you with color yellow, running down the drain. Then see the water changing into the color green. And running over your body, covering your body with color green. At the end once you have went through all the colors of the rainbow, switch back to seeing clear color. Color of water run over your body, cover it, wash it, go down the drain. Cleanse your body, your energy. Of course you can experiment if you feel like envisioning different colors then rainbow. Just go for it. If you envision and feel like envisioning just one particular color at a certain time then do it. The more aware you become, the more you do not only this exercise but any other exercise from this book or any other, some are kind of exercises or at least with the same purpose exercise, even the kind that are not in this book, but you find them somewhere else. The more you do that, the more aware you are becoming and will become of yourself, of the energies, your energy, of energies around you. And you will be tuning in and just going to happen naturally where you tune in to what you need the most at that certain time, or at that certain situation that might be circling in your mind as you go and take shower. Just go with it. Just go with it and follow your gut feeling, follow your intuition. Just giving the basic ideas, something you can incorporate in everyday life.

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Exercise #36 Number This is a Meditation where you are asked to focus on different numbers. Focus on numbers and associations that come with this number! You can use any number/ numbers…

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Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths… then go to your safe space. Whatever is that place in your mind, in your vision, in your thoughts that gives you that comforting feeling that makes you feel most safe - see yourself going there now and see yourself being there. Take a few deep breaths while you're there. In this mediation we are going to focus on numbers and let’s start by bringing our focus to #1. See this number. Imagine this number, you can repeat this number in your mind over and over again just get in tuned with this number. Just see if any thought comes up, any feelings with the #1, many associations that you have with #1. Breathe deeply. The symbolic meaning of number one, the general main meaning is “new beginnings”. It does have other meanings too, some to mention: taking action, starting a new adventure. Now switch your focus to #2. Notice if any thoughts or feelings come up a while you focus on the #2. What the symbolic meaning of #2 for you? What comes to your mind when you think of the #2? What do you associate with #2two? The main symbolic meaning of number is balance, harmony… Now with your focus on the #3. Feel it, be it see 153

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This is a meditation where you are asked to scan of your body. Focus on different parts of your body, notice how they feel, how their energy feels, if there's any tension in any part of the body and breathe into that part of body that feels tense. See golden white light in that part of the body that feels tense. Go through this process, through the whole body from the top of your head to the tip of your toes. You'd start this meditation with getting into your safe space in your mind, and then bringing your focus to your body… starting at the top of your head and going down towards the tip of your toes… Scan your body for what parts of the body feel free and great and if there is any part of the body that feels tense. At the end of the meditation, you would scan your body once again to double check your body, make sure it feels free without any tension. This meditation ideally you would do for as long period of time as necessary in order to see your whole body free without feeling any tension. The ideal end result of this meditation is – feeling your whole body relaxed without any tension. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Meditations that are Oriented to Activity Exercise #38 walking/exercising This is a Mediation which you can do while going for a walk or exercising. Instead of just going for a walk or exercising, you’d put an intention to what you do – work on something mentally while you do something physical! One of the simplest meditations you can do while walking or exercising is – to focus on your breath. What I mean by that is breathe in while taking two steps, breathe our while take another two steps. Breathe in on two steps, hold your breath on two steps, breathe out on two steps, hold your breath on two steps and continue like this! Another way to incorporate meditation/ mental focus into walking or exercising could be – you focusing on your 155

surroundings being your life, a certain situation in your life, a certain relationship in your life where you might feel stuck, which you might find challenging at the time… Walking, exercising in this situation see as you moving forward, moving out of this stuck situation, out of the stuck relationship… Exercise #39 Cooking This is a meditation which you do while cooking! It’s like an intention that you put into before you start working in a kitchen and while you work in a kitchen, while you cook, while you prepare a meal! One version could be – you focusing on all kinds of positive intentions, positive words, and phrases when preparing for cooking and while cooking, while preparing a meal… Another version could be you focusing on one particular topic, theme – a positive version of it – while you prepare for and while you make a meal… *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Guided Meditations Exercise #40 Magic Travel This Meditation will lead you on a Magical Journey. Get in a comfortable position, close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Breathe in deeply and breathe out deeply. Then go to your safe place. See yourself in surroundings, in your mind’s eye, see visualize yourself being in a place where you feel safe no matter what , place where you feel comfortable. Feel it , see it , visualize it and remember to breathe deeply in and out. Be in this energy for few moments. Then… as you look around, you start to see your surroundings disappearing in the mist and a pathway being illuminated with light in front of you. You know that’s where you need to go , you know that’s where you’re going and you make the first step on this path. You are surrounded by midst but you keep walking forward because the light is shining for you showing you where to go. You are following the light, following the road where it leads you and doing it step by step. You feel safe and you start to feel the excitement building up within you, you know something is about to happen. You don’t not know what exactly it is but you know that something is about to happen and you feel the excitement building

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up in you with every step forward that you make. Remember to breathe deeply. You see something in front of this path , a place illuminated with such bright shiny light that you hadn’t seen before and you are coming closer to this place. The closer you come, the more fuzzy feelings you get, you feel tingling in your body. Just enjoy this feeling… feel it , feel your whole body, your whole being, your soul happy, anxious and excited. The closer you walk to this place the more clear it becomes and you can see that it’s a door way. It’s a door , it’s a beautiful door in the middle of the path and the closer you come to this door the more you start to feel and see sparkles, sparkling lights moving very fast moving in different directions around this door. These sparkles are in many different colors and the closer you walk you can now tell that the sparkles are little fairies flying very fast from one side to another. The door becomes very clear to you and you can see it very clearly. It’s beautifully decorated door with crystals and symbols, and different materials. The closer you walk, the more excited you get and you're almost there, and you see the door is shimmering in even brighter lights and you're there, you're standing right in front of the door. Breathe in deeply and breathe out. It’s exciting but do remember to breath in deep, breathe out deep. Allow yourself to feel what you feel, allow yourself to feel excitement. You don’t know yet what’s behind the door but you feel excited about what you're about to see and experience. Stand there and keep feeling and enjoying the energy, the excitement, fairies and sparkles. And while you are standing like that and feeling the excitement, you see the door is slowly opening on its own. The more you are in the energy you are, just breathing it in, breathing it out - door is opening more and more, wider and wider. You make the last steps towards the door and you step through the doorway. Take a moment to breathe it all in. What you see is so magical, it’s magic at its highest possible state, highest that you have ever imagined. Everything you ever felt, thought, saw and talked about Magic is there. Just breathe it in. breathe it in and look around… what do you see? What had you and what are you associating with Magic? Take a few moments to observe! And then you go on a journey of this magical world, enchanted forest, waterfalls, mermaid lagoon and the dragons - the good kind of dragons, fairies and Fairy Godmothers. Most importantly - Magic Wand. Suddenly notice that you have a Magic Wand in your hands and you feel powerful because you do know that you can make magic happen. Being here you feel it more than ever before – you feel you can make Magic happen. Just breathe in Magic in and breathe out Magic. You are taken into this Magical world for a journey. You can even fly here. Just go with feeling and this flow of magic. You have a wand which means being here in this magic world you have all the power to make things happen instantly. Whatever you think of and wave your magic wand upon, is happening in a flash. As you travel through this magic land see what you would like to change or is

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there anything you don’t like or anything that is missing or not there . You have magic powers and Magic wand and you can make things happen. Make the changes that you feel like making ! Make the magic halogen. Bring your focus to a current situation in your 3D world - and think how you’d change it if you could with the wave of the Magic wand you hold in your hands? How could you make the situation even better! How would it look if you could work Magic on this situation? How would it feel? How would it be? Feel it out for a few moments. Keep breathing deeply. You can understand what every Being in this Magical world is saying! You might not even realize or notice what language they are speaking, you just simply know what they are saying! You also notice that the colors are bright and shiny and everything is so alive here in this magical world, everything is so alive – more than you had ever seen it in any other place. You are excitingly exploring this Magic world! Take your time! Then - you see a mist forming around you and just like before you came here, path it illuminated by light. You know you are meant to go on this pathway. Still feeling the energy of magic, energy of everything magical, you walk on this path of the bright light. You’re following this bright shiny light and it takes you to your safe space. It takes you to a place where you started your journey! Take a few deep breaths in, deep breaths out and then bring your consciousness back to a present moment. Bring your focus on your physical body. Wiggle your fingers and toes, and then open your eyes. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Exercise #41 Crystal Palace This Meditation will lead you on a journey into a Crystal World and the power of Crystals! *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

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notice shiny bright glowing rocks that are forming a pathway. You know that is where you are meant to go. One step after another, you step on these rocks on this pathway moving forwards into the mist but you are safe… you feel safe even if you don’t know where you are going. Step by step you follow the colorful and bright shining rock path. You walk, step by step following the illuminated rock path and you start to notice that the mist, the fog is disappearing, it’s lifting, it’s dissolving in the air. With the corner of your eyes you start to see surroundings, you start to see where you are at. The more fog and mist disappears, the brighter your surroundings become. You see that the rocky pathway is ending. You see that there is an end to this rocky pathway and it’s magnificent what you see. It is an amazingly beautiful great Crystal palace. The rocky pathway takes you to a Crystal place and you see that the rocks that you have been stepping on, the ones that have been shining so brightly and leading you to this Crystal palace - they have been crystals, they have been different Crystals. You walk to the palace following the last few rocks on the pathway and you can feel the energy, you can feel the energy building up from the rocks. You can feel the energy that rocks have , the glowing energy that each one of them have and this amazingly beautiful Crystal palace and you feel safe , you feel excited. You walk up the stairs to the main entrance door on the crystal path. The closer you walk, you see the door opening up for you to walk in, to walk inside the palace. You take the first few steps in the palace and stop there for a moment. Just breathe in the energy that you feel there. Now that you stand inside the magnificent crystal palace, pure raw crystal palace and breathe in that energy for a few moments - allow yourself, your body, your mind - to adjust to this energy. Notice this energy, be conscious of this energy. As you look around inside the palace, see a lot of doors. You see a lot of crystals and a lot of doors. Some of the doors are a little bit open, some of them are wide open, some of them are closed. You want to find out what is behind the doors, you are curious. You walk towards the first door that you are drawn to. You might want visit all the rooms and open all the doors but you might not. Go with the feeling and start with walking towards the room and the door that you feel most drawn to. Maybe one is calling to you. Just go with the feeling. Once you are at the door, just walk inside. Remember to breathe deeply. Walk through the door and you see that there are crystals. A lot of crystals. See what kind of crystal they are? Do you know this crystal? Have you seen it before? Do you know what it’s called? Whether you are familiar with this crystal that’s in the room or not, feel it, feel the energy of this crystal, breath in the energy of it. Breathe in the energy of many crystals being in one place together. The whole room is covered with these crystals. Energy is powerful. Ask just in your mind “What this crystal is about?" communicate with crystals and just ask crystals what they are about, why have you walked in through this door to experience their energy? etc”. If your primary sense is “feeling” you might not need to ask anything just be there and feel the energy, see

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what you feel. Ask, what is the significance for you at this time with this crystal? Who is this crystal significant to me at this time? Ask how and what is it going to help you with? Just be there for a few moments to feel the energy, to explore these crystals, their message, their power. Then walk out of this room and walk into another room that you feel drawn to. See what kind of crystal is there for you, what kind of crystal room is the next room. Breath it in, breath in the energy and power of this room, of this crystal. Experience it , feel it and just like with a previous crystal and previous room ask why are you there? What is this crystal helping you with? Why are you in this room and no other room? What do you need to know? What is important for you to know at this time from these crystals? Just breathe in the energy of these crystals. Just breathe in the energy and power of this crystal, take time to explore, to feel, to ask, to listen and receive answers and then walk to another room. There are a lot of doors… Go towards those and walk through those that you feel most drawn to. See what energy you pick up in this crystal room. What are the crystals? Do you know them? Are you familiar with them? Just like in other rooms – ask and wonder why are you there? Why it was important for this crystal to present itself to you? Breathe in deeply, breathe out deeply and explore. Take time to be in this room… Once you walk outside the room, go next to a place, to an area in this palace where you feel most drawn to. Maybe it is one of the other rooms but maybe it’s not. Maybe it’s some open area in the palace or outside the palace. There might be some Beings in Spirit that might want to communicate with you or some other Crystals that want to communicate with you. Asking your mind this question what is important for me to know at this moment, time, and place from being here? Why am I here? What is happening? What do I need to know? Breathe in and out deeply. Just notice everything that happens… Once you have spent some time in this Crystal palace exploring, feeling, listening - walk back to the pathway. Walk back to the bright, shiny, crystal rock pathway that led you here. Maybe it’s the same pathway, maybe there is a different pathway for you to go on. You don’t really need to think about it or worry about it because the pathway that you are meant to take, it is there for you – illuminated with Light so you can’t miss it. It’s just there for you to go on it without thinking. As you walk outside the castle , from the crystal palace, you thank the palace, thank crystals, you thank all the Beings in Spirit who were with you on this journey to Crystal Palace. Thank them for their energy and time connecting with you, being with you. At some point you feel your pocket and you notice there is something in it. You put your hand in there and you see that there are some crystals in your pocket, crystals from the palace. They are crystals that came from the rooms that you

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visited while there - just as a little gift. Standing outside the Crystal Palace you start to see the mist and fog forming. Soon you can’t really see anything other than a bright shining rock pathway, pathway that is illuminated by the bright shiny crystal light. You know it’s the pathway you need to follow and step by step you walk on the rocks. Feel this pathway out. Maybe on some rocks you just want to stand for a while. Just got for it! Do whatever feels right. Remember to breathe deeply in and out as you follow the pathway. After you have walked for a while, start to notice that fog and mist is lifting. It’s clearing and you see yourself in your safe place where you started your journey. Take a few deep breaths while there… Be there for few moments and then slowly start to bring your attention and awareness back to the present moment. Feel your physical body, wiggle your fingers and toes and maybe even shake out your whole body, move it. Then - open your eyes.

Exercise #42 Change the Energy This Meditation will help you to change the energy of the room/place/property! *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

This exercise meditation will help you to change the energy of the room or a place or property. This exercise will be different for each one of you and for each situation! I am going to describe what to do so you can adjust these directions to your particular situation. The idea is, once you walk into the room, to scan it. Notice the energy in the room when you walk into it. Whether it’s a room or a place or a property – the idea is the same. Notice what is the energy in this place. If you notice any negative energy, energy that doesn’t feel good, energy that you don’t feel comfortable with - visualize this energy being transformed into a Light. Imagine the Light being sent to this place, Light shining above this place, on this place, through this place… However it feels most appropriate in each particular situation! Mediumship work is work with energies which includes imagining, visualizing, feeling, sensing, seeing with inner vision etc.. This exercise helps to expand these senses, expand the ability to envision and visualize! Imagine if this negative energy you’re feeling in the room or a place, if it was physically visible, you could see how it looked, what would it look like? Then use your imagination to change this energy into something that you’re really like, something that you think and feel would be positive, something that you really love. Maybe you see this energy as a certain being? Maybe as a color? Maybe as a mist? Keep changing what you feel, what you see, what you sense until you like what you see, what you feel, what you sense! Keep changing it until you love it. Keep changing it with your imagination. Once you have done that, notice how the

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energy has changed in the whole room, not only in your imagination. Do a scan of a place, room, property now and see how the energy there feels after your energy work? Practice this exercise as much as possible. The more you practice, the better we become in anything. That’s the case here as well! *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Structure and Validation ~ “Before” & “After” Meditations ~ Exercise #43 “Before” Meditation This Meditation will guide you through the process of preparing for Mediumship work – before you have a session with someone, before you do a group Spirit circle, before Paranormal Investigation etc.. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫

Before meditation is a meditation or a prayer that you would, ideally, do before any Mediumship session, before paranormal investigation, before anything that has to do with paranormal work. Of course, at times when things happen unexpectedly we might not always have time to prepare as we just need to take action right away. However, whenever it is possible, it’s beneficial to do” before meditation or prayer”. What I mean by that is - it's something you do before a session to kind of set yourself up for a successful one. To prepare yourself, prepare a space, set an intention for a session or for any other kind of paranormal Mediumship type of work. What you would do in your meditation or prayer, is, you would connect with your Spirit Guides or Beings in Spirit who you talk to the most. Might be God or Angels, Jesus, Krishna, Buddha or anyone else. Once you had made a connection, you’d ask them to help which would sound something along the following (just as an example – ideally, make your own, put it in your own words): I ask and confirm that this session that's coming up, that I am about to do is successful and I ask for Spirits to come forth and bring important information, speak loud and clear, straight to the point so that it is easy for me to hear, to understand etc.. If any challenges arise, I ask you my Spirit Guides, my Angels, God etc. to remove any possible obstacles for successful connection, for successful Mediumship work. Make sure that it’s easy for us to communicate and understand each other! Make sure that it's easy to interpret the messages from Spirit. Make sure that people who come for a session, come for help, understand what their deceased loved one is saying. Make sure that messages come clear, straight to the point and are easy to understand, easy to interpret. Also make sure that everyone involved feels helped that they are helped! Make sure I am in service! I ask for and confirm that whatever happens, however it happens during the session,

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consultation, investigation etc., the healing happens during this connection with spirit. I also ask and confirm that I am safe and protected and strong throughout this process, while doing this work and make sure that I am in service to the best of my abilities at this time, this moment, this situation. I ask to be and affirm to do my best and even better than my best. This and something better I ask for and confirm happening and I allow you God, Spirit, to step in and speak through me with intention to help! This is just a basic idea for what to include in your “before” prayer/ meditation. It's really up to you how exactly you form your prayer, your meditation. This was just an idea and direction to go with it. To make is short: setting intention to be in service- hearing clear, straight to the point, messages - knowing what to do, knowing how to act, how to react, how to respond - be the best Medium you can be, be in service with your abilities be and stay safe throughout the process… *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Exercise #44 “After” Meditation This Meditation will guide you through the “after Mediumship work” process. It will show you what to pay attention to after the Mediumship work to ensure that you are in your energy without unhealthy attachments that can appear in the process of Mediumship Work. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

This meditation, or prayer, however how you like to call it better, whatever resonates with you the most, is something that you would do, after doing the Mediumship work. First - it’s always great to thank Spirit after a session, after you’ve had the session with someone; you’ve done some paranormal investigation, or any kind of Mediumship work. It’s always great to thank Spirit for coming through, for bringing messages. It’s great to thank those in Spirit that you connect and that are present with you when you do this work. Whoever you feel most connected with and have called in from Spirit, to help you with Mediumship work – thank them for being there for you. If there had been any challenges during the Mediumship work, you might want to have a little chat with your spirit guides (in this case, I’m using word spirit guides, but thinking about all these beings that I mentioned a bit earlier) asking your spirit guides, what can you do to better for the next time. Not really dwelling into the past, what could have you done better, or why didn’t you do it better. What will happen is - the more you 163

do this work, the greater variety of situations you will experience. You will experience different spirits, different circumstances… sometimes things might come up that you might be not familiar with, and it doesn’t mean that you’re not a good Medium, it just means there is an opportunity for you to learn something new, learn how to handle new kind of situation. Always try to learn more, improve your abilities. If you are not familiar with some aspect of Mediumship, instead of avoiding it, look it straight into the eyes, face it and learn so that when situation comes up next time, you feel confident to handle it. Also - after the Mediumship work do a body scan and make sure that you are in your energies. Make sure that there are no unhealthy energies, no Earthbound Spirit energies, no other negative kind of unhealthy kind of energies attached to you as a result of doing this work. Ideally - if you go into doing Mediumship work with the right intention, with the true intention, then you will be safe and protected at all times. But it all comes with practice! The more experience you gain, the more easy it will be for you to be safe no matter what kind of Spirits you come across. However, especially at the beginning, it’s great to do scanning of the body, after the meditation. Scan your body and if you feel any tension, any gray spots, any attachments, then use one of the tools, provided in this book, to deal with it. Breathe into that tense area and breathe out to release tension. If it’s an Earthbound Spirit that is attached, then work on releasing it. Do whatever needs to be done for you to be in your own space, and energized after Mediumship work. I want to mention here that it is important to know, no matter, how much you do this work, it really should not be draining you. If you feel completely drained, then it would really be one of the greatest signs that there’s some kind of unhealthy energy attached to you throughout this process or you haven’t “put” yourself into a safe space properly… This is work with Spirits. And it’s kind of like when you do the physical work, let’s say some yard work, or any other kind of physical work, or work out in a gym, or do some running, or any other exercise. When you do it, you feel tired, but at the same time you feel energized. There are both of these feelings and emotions at the same time: feeling tired, but feeling energized at the same time. And you know you’re doing something great and you might feel tired, but at the same time, you feel good that you’ve done it. And that’s kind of how it really needs, in ideal situation, 164

feel after doing Mediumship work. When there is no unhealthy attachments, it could feel like you’re tired, but that same time you’re energized because you feel that you have helped, you’ve been of service using your abilities to help. That would really be the best way I could describe it in words. It really has to be felt. Tired but energized at the same time. If it’s not how you feel, then do something about it, using the tools that I have provided in this book as well as other tools you might know that would help! To conclude this and make it very short, after the Mediumship work of any kind: Thank Spirits. Thank everyone involved for showing up, for messages they brought forth. Thank yourself! Scan your body, make sure you’re in your own energy. Make sure you have no unhealthy attachments from doing this work. And third, make sure you have that feeling of tired, or maybe tired yet energized at the same time. Feeling good at the same time. Like feeling good tired. Or maybe not feeling tired at all, just feeling energized and if not, then look into it, scan your body, check what it’s about and using different tools, take some action, whatever needs to be done to clear the energy and give you that feeling. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Practice Validation Exercise #45 Weather This exercise you can easily do on your own. What you’d do is – pick a place (ideally not the area where you live, but a different one) and tune into the weather for the next day, for that area. How you tune in? Just by focusing on that area, place, city name for some time and asking, in your mind “what’s the weather going to be like tomorrow in…”… and then see what you get… write down everything you get and in a way you get! Try not to do your own interpretation of, what you see but just write down everything you “get”! When the next day comes, you can find a website online (maybe you already have a favorite weather website), and check the weather, check out how what you “got” related to the actual weather in that area that day! See what the meaning of what you “got” is. Maybe you saw something 165

that didn’t make sense, but once you read weather forecast - what didn’t make sense the day before, makes sense now. Exercise #46 Names For this exercise you’ll ideally want to have a partner! Ask your partner to think of a person he/she knows (for this exercise doesn’t matter – person in spirit or someone still alive). You’d ask your partner to think of this person’s name! You, in the meantime, will tune into this name. First times doing this exercise, you might want to close your eyes to shut out the immediate outside world. Then you’d just focus on this person and this person’s name. You and your exercise partner will be focusing on this name at the same time only he/she will know it for sure, yet you will be practicing to tune into it and hear it! See what comes up… and share it with your partner! Maybe you get only one letter? Maybe you get if it’s a short or a long name? Maybe you get a sense of your friend and turns out your friend’s name is the same as the name of a person your partner is focusing on. Options are countless… Writing down your experience will help you to better see the connection between “what you got” and “what the reality is”. You can also practice this exercise with a partner, asking your partner specifically to focus on someone who has crossed over! *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

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See how, when game day comes, what you wrote, relates to the game! Exercise #48 Numbers This exercise would be great to do with a partner! You’ll ask the partner to pick a significant number either in his/her own life or in the life of someone they know well. Your task is to tune into that number and tell what you got! The main intention of course is to get the number, but don’t discard therefore, everything else you get! Something non-number related can actually be connected to the number, it can be something symbolic for a number that your exercise partner is focusing on! Ideas for a number to pick: house number age (age at the present time, age when something significant happened, age of death) month or year or date etc.

PART III Signs and Symbols ~ Symbol Exercise ~ Exercise #49 This exercise will help you to make a connection with what you already know, but maybe haven’t been aware of. It will help you to become aware of associations that you have with different, common words. This exercise will help you to better understand your own personal symbolism. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Get in a comfortable position and close your eyes. Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Breathe in deeply, breathe out deeply. Breathe in, breathe out. Then, in your mind, go to your safe space - a place where you feel safe, where you feel comfortable, somewhere out in a nature or someplace else, wherever it is, just let yourself be in the place where you feel safe: safe and comfortable. Remember to breathe deeply. And now, being in the safe space, see/ envision/imagine like a screen in front of you. On the screen some words come up and the first is “mother”. What's the

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first association you have with this, when you hear word mother, when you see it, what is your first association? Are you thinking about your mother? Anything specific crosses your mind? Anything significant? Or are you thinking about mother in general? What's your association with Mother? When you hear this word, when you see this word. Just take a note of it. So the next word that comes up is “father”. Father. Notice what comes up for you with this word. What association do you have with this word? Is it just a word? Are you seeing it general? General meaning of this word. Or does your father cross your mind? What's the first association you have with father? Just take note of it. There's no one right or wrong way to see it or hear it. The next word that comes up there in front of you on the screen is “kitchen”. Kitchen. What's the first association you have with the kitchen? Do you see your kitchen? Are you thinking of kitchen in general? What happens in the kitchen or there's some significant, something significant that happened in your past in the kitchen? Take a note of what your first association with this word is. Now the next word is “summer”. Summer. What’s the first association do you have with summer? Is it warm? Hot? Sun? Ocean? Lake? Or do you have any significant memory of something significant that happened in the summer? What is your first association with summer? Now the next word that comes up is “hospital”. Hospital. What associations do you have with hospital? What's the first that crosses your mind when you think of, when you see hospital? When you see the word hospital without even being there? What’s the first association do you have? Just take a note of this as well. The next word that comes up is “games”. Games. What is the first association that you have with games? Is it a general association? What does it mean to you - games? Are you remembering some personal experience as a first reaction to this word? The first response, first thoughts, the first thing that crosses your mind when you see, hear, word games. Just take a note of it as well. And then bring your consciousness back to your safe space. The first associations that you had with these words, just keep them in mind for the future reference. They can come in handy, meaning when spirits try to tell us something, then each one of us have a different understanding. We each have our own unique way how we see and hear what spirits are trying to tell us. For one person, the sign of kitchen is going to be something different than for the other person. Or mother, or games, or any other word. The associations you had with these words that you just focused on, is just a small sample of what you can do to become aware of your own personal symbolism. When Spirit is trying to show you kitchen or hospital etc. - you might get the word “kitchen” right away but you might also be shown something that has to do with kitchen the way you perceive it: something that is your first association with kitchen. Just keep in mind these associations that you had.

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~ Learn your Personal Symbolism ~ Exercise #50 ~ color exercise ~ This exercise will help you to determine what associations you have with different colors and it will help you to better understand your personal symbolism of colors. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

This following exercise mediation will help to become aware more than you might be already, about different associations with colors. What you associate with different colors. To disconnect from the outside distractions, close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Make sure you're all relaxed, if you need to wiggle your fingers, your toes, shake out your body from any tension that there is or might be, do it. Take a few deep breaths and then bring your attention to color black. See color black. What is the first thought, feeling that comes to your mind when you see black? What do you think about black? What do you feel it represents? The color black Now see the color white. What association do you have with color white? What do you believe color white is about? What is the energy of color with? What message of color white? What is the meaning? There's no right or wrong answer when you do this exercise. Just see what it is for you, each color means for you. What do you feel? Now the next color is red. What do you believe, what do you think color red means? What's the meaning of the color red? Color red… Now switch to focusing on the color orange. Orange. What is your firs association with color orange? What does it remind you of? Do you feel about the color? What do you think the message of this color is? And now switch your focus to color yellow? What is the meaning of the color yellow for you is color yellow? Now switch your focus to color gold. What is the first association you have with the color gold? What do you believe the meaning of this color is? If you saw the color gold, what does it make you think of? Now switch your focus to color green What is your the first association you have with color green? Then switch your focus to color blue. What is your association to color blue? What do you believe the meaning of color blue is? Color blue. Now switch your focus to color purple. What do believe the color purple means? What's your first thought, feeling about the color purple? About the meaning of color purple? And then switch your focus to color violet. What is your firs association

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with this color? Violet, violet… And then switch your focus to color pink. What's your first association with color pink? Remember to breathe deep, the color pink, pink. Then switch your focus to color turquoise. What's your first association with color turquoise. What do you believe the meaning of turquoise is? What do you feel the meaning of turquoise is? Color turquoise. Turquoise. And now switch back your focus to your body, wiggle your fingers, your toes and bring your attention back to present moment and open your eyes.

Exercise #51 ~ animal exercise ~ This exercise will help you to determine what associations you have with different animals and it will help you to better understand what your personal symbolism is with them. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

With this exercise will help you to determine with what associations you have with different animals. It will help with better understand with your personal symbolism with them. Just to get in a space where you can more easily focus on this and to close out outside distractions, close your eyes. Take few deep breaths. Then think of a cat. Think cat. What is the first thought, first thoughts that you have about cats? What do you believe the symbolic meaning of the cat is? And if you have a hard time to get to the meaning of the cat, think what character does the cat have? Or any other animal that I mention in this exercise as well as animals that I don't mention but they may come up when you do Mediumship work. Back to the Cat. Just take a note of what your first, your first thoughts and feelings are about the cat. Next think of a dog. Visualize dog. The first association you have with dog. If you saw a dog, what do you think the message was? Just dogs present, what message it could bring. Take a note of it. And then switch your focus to horse. What is the first association you have with horse? Horse. And then switch your focus to mouse. What is your first associations with a mouse? Mouse. Then switch your focus to birds. What is the first association you have with birds? When you think of birds what of you associate with them? And then focus on wolves. The first association you have with wolf. What do you think of when you think of wolf? What do you think wolf would

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represent? Wolf came to you say maybe in a dream. What do you think the message would be from wolf? And the next animal you focus on is lion. Lion. What associations do you have with lion? Lion. Then switch your focus to elephant. What are your first associations with an elephant? And then switch your focus to snake. What do you feel, think snake is about? What would the message of the snake would be? And what kind of snake comes to your mind when you think snake? Dragons. Dragons is the next animal to focus on. Think of a dragon. What association you make with a dragon? What do you believe think, feel is the message from dragons? What are dragon’s main characteristics? And then bring your focus back to your physical body, to present moment - start to wiggle your fingers, tour toes, bring your consciousness to the physical world and open your eyes. There are a lot of animals, we only just covered a few of them but this was just to give you an idea and help you be more aware of what associations you have with different animals. It all helps in being a better Medium. These exercises help you to be more aware, to recognize, to be able to easily recognize the symbolic meaning of different objects, beings, things etc..

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In astrology each horoscope sign is connected and associated with different nature elements. It’s either, fire, earth, water or air. This exercise is going to help you to better recognize this connection between nature and people. Take a few deep breaths and close your eyes just get disconnected with outside distractions. Think of a “fire” person, what kind of person that could be? How would this person be? What would tell you that this person is a “fire” person, that this person's element if “fire”? What do you think the “fire” person is and what the characteristics of the “fire” person is? Whether you know what astrology says about “fire” person or not it does not matter. Think of a “fire” person and the signs of a fire person. Just a hint in case you are having troubling times with characteristics of a “fire” person. When you deal with any nature element - just think of it. Let’s say “fire”… What is fire? Its burning, its energy, it’s beautiful, it’s sparkling, sparks flying everywhere. It can

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be beautiful at the same time it also is very powerful and can burn everything to the ground. It can burn in such way that is beautiful and it and burn in such way that it burns everything down bringing transformation. Now think of the element “earth”, how do you think an “earth” person would be? What would the characteristics for the “earth” person be? How would you recognize the person who is earth? What do you think of “earth” when you hear it? What is most talked about and recognized about “earth” people is that they are grounded, they are earthy, they are on the ground, they can get things done because they are grounded, they like to be digging in the dirt and that can be literally or symbolically. They are everything that has to do with earth. Now think of a “water” person. What would the characteristics of the “water” person be? How would you recognize that this person is a “water” person? Water is tears, emotions, emotional, sensitive, feelings, Now think of an “air” person. What would the characteristics of an “air” person be? What do you associate air with? How can you describe air? What comes to your mind first? It’s kind of funny when people say “airy fairy” but there is some truth to it… “air” person would be really opposite from the “earth” person because the “earth” person is really grounded yet “air” person – airy, with lots of ideas but not always making them happen. Kind of all over the place but at the same time light and connected to spirit. Now the same or similar idea applies to seasons, winter, spring, summer fall. One way to look at it is that our life goes in cycles. Not only our life but different aspects of our life go in cycles. There is winter time, spring, summer, fall… Now focus on winter… what characteristics would you give a “winter” person? How would you describe winter? How would the “winter” person be? How would the winter cycle in our life look? Not literally that its winter outside but in some particular aspects of our lives, if we are experiencing winter what would it look like? What would it be? Let’s focus on spring. What would a “spring” person be like, what would the characteristics of a “spring” person would be? How would someone who lives in the spring time in their life cycle look like? Think of summer… what would the “summer” person be like? How would the summer time in our lives look like? What would it be like? Then comes fall. What would the “fall” person be like? What colors do you associate with fall? How would fall be experienced in your life or in somebody else’s life? What would be the signs that someone’s life or certain situation in life has entered the fall stage. Based on the previous ideas on the elements and seasons think of a tornado. How would a tornado look like in someone’s life. How sunny would look in someone’s life. Then think how rainy would look in someone’s life, how windy would look in someone’s life. What would they experience for us to be able to say it’s windy in their life. These are just few ideas for you to think about for making a connection between nature and our lives, between nature and ourselves. It’s all to help recognize

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For this exercise you will need pictures, ideally – card deck. What I mean by that is – those could be Tarot cards, Angel cards, Fairy cards or any other kind of cards that are used for doing/ giving readings… used for Divination of some kind. Also – ideally – these cards wouldn’t have much written on them! If one word is written or two to describe the message this card bring – it’s fine, but there are cards out there that have the whole sentence or even several, written on the actual card. This kind of cards wouldn’t be the best for this particular exercise! The best would be if there is nothing written on the cards, it’s only a picture! Why? Because the idea is that you would take a card, look at the card and tune into it. Look at it and feel it. See what picture is on this card and what feeling/s you are getting about the message of this card? If this card was the answer to the question, what would you, just looking at the card, holding it, answer? What do you believe the message of this card would be? Each card deck usually comes with a little booklet giving a longer, deeper message of the card, describing a deeper meaning of this card, giving more detailed message. Once you have tuned into the card to see what you get intuitively, psychically – you can look into the booklet, to see how your description, your feelings about the card resonates, how it matches with the original message of the card, how it matches with the message and meaning the creator of the card deck used for this card. What this exercise will help you with? It will help you to improve your intuitive power, your psychic power and give more confidence. It will help you to work on your own power! Great is the fact that this is an exercise that can be done on your own! You won’t need other people for practicing using this tool! Getting conformation, validation – it’s very helpful in Mediumship work for gaining confidence about the messages received, about the meaning of the messages. As a client – you want a validation that Medium talks indeed to your deceased loved one! As a Medium you want a validation that you have connected with the Spirit of concern! It’s helpful if you understand the meaning of the messages that you receive from Spirit! This exercise will help you to work on gaining a better 173

understanding of the messages received from Spirit. You won’t need to wonder if the meaning and the message you got from the card is valid or not! You will be able to check the deeper meaning of the cards right away! It will either give you the validation or will be shown where you can improve! In the process of practicing being a great Medium, getting validation to the information you receive from Spirit, is extremely important! It will help you gain more confidence and understanding about the messages that are received from Spirit. You’ll practice with cards but it will help you be a better Medium when not using any cards!

PART IV Challenges and Solutions Exercise #54 ~ Connect with your Spirit Guides ~ This Meditation will help you to connect with your Spirit Guides! You don’t necessarily need them for Mediumship work, but they can be helpful ! For some of you, your spirit guides might play a major role in communicating with Spirits. Spirit guides are helpful in avoiding some of the challenges I mentioned that can occur while doing this work! *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Get in a comfortable position and to avoid distractions close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths and get into a relaxed space. Shake out your body and if you feel any tension. Keep breathing deeply. Make sure your belly expands when you are breathing in instead of your shoulders going up and down. Take a few moments to breathe in and out deeply and then bring your focus and attention to going into your safe space. Just imagine yourself being in a place out in the nature where you feel safe. Once you are in your safe space and have been there for a few moments. Breathe in energy. The more relaxed we get the easier it is for us to experience anything that has to do with energy including meditation. Slowing breath, breathing deeply is one way to do it. Now, in your safe space, find there a comfortable place to be, to sit down or maybe lay down or maybe you want to stand there, lean against some tree or maybe there is some rock to sit on. Any place you feel drawn to in your safe space, go there. Once there, invite your Spirit Guides to show themselves to you, to speak to you , to come forth just by saying in your mind or out loud. You can just say something like: "Spirit Guides, I invite you to come so I can learn who you are! I’d like to connect with you, talk to you, see you!” and then notice any changes that might happen. You might see your Spirit Guide visually, you might

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Get in a comfortable position and close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths - deep breath in, deep breath out to change the energy in your body, to shift into the space of relaxation. Then in your mind with your thoughts, with your feelings go to your safe place in nature. Imagine yourself being in a place and surroundings that make you feel safe, that allows you to feel safe, allow you to feel protected, allow you to feel comfortable. For a few moments just observe , feel this energy of feeling safe and being out here in the nature. Observe and enjoy the energy of the spirit realm, and now bring your focus on Fairies - Beings that’s are most connected with nature, nature’s angels. Think of fairies, imagine them, visualize them, think of them, and feel them. Feel and think of everything you can think of about fairies and notice, make a note of how does this energy feel when you focus on fairies? How does it make you feel when you connect with fairies? When you tune into the energy of fairies? Just by focusing on them, thinking of them, how does it make you feel? What are the emotions that come up? What is the reaction, the response in your body, mind and spirit you get from Fairies? Then - switch your focus to mermaids. They are water angels. Maybe you do have waterfalls in your safe space or ocean waves or water fountains, but it’s okay if you don’! Either way - focus on mermaids, think mermaids… What comes to your mind when you think of mermaids and how the energy of mermaids, you focusing on mermaids make you feel? Notice it, notice how it is different and what is the difference between you tuning into fairy energy and now tuning into mermaids. Then switch your focus on those in Spirit – not one person in particular but just generally those who are in Spirit, those who have crossed over and moved into the light. Focus on the energy of all those Spirits who are there, who have moved on, who are in the light and notice how it makes you feel, how it resonates in your body. How does the energy feel to you? Then switch your focus to those who are in Spirit, but have not moved on. Again not one Spirit particularly but in general. Tap into that realm, get in tune with the energy of those in Spirit who haven’t moved on yet, those who have stayed close earth, have stayed earth bound . How does that energy feel? Do you feel it in your body in your being? What is the difference? How does it feel different from those inspirit who have moved on? Then see the angels. See yourself being surrounded by angels and as you do that they take you up, up, up. They take you to the top of the mountain and there is a dragon. Be for a few moments with the dragon’s energy. Notice how it feels in your body and spirit. Notice if there is anything significant with the energy of dragons. Once you have done it, you are travelling, flying higher and higher up with angels. You are connecting with angelic realm. Angels are helping you to connect with their realm. How does it feel in your body? How does the energy of angels resonate in your body? Breathe it in. Breathe in this angelic energy and breathe out. Just be here for a few moments.

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* If they miss loved one in Spirit - it most likely is in the Light and they won’t be able to meet their deceased loved one unless they move into the Light! * If they feel guilty for something they have or haven’t done in this lifetime and can’t get over it, it might be helpful to tell them they can come back for another lifetime to do better! * If they want to connect with someone who is still here in a physical body, yet this person is not local – you can help by connecting Spirit to this person energetically! * if Spirits are aggressive and cause harm to those still in a physical body – it’s a good idea to keep them safe (here you can envision them in a ball of Light or draw a circle in your mind, around them! It will keep them inside the circle and they won’t be able to cause more harm until they move on…) * If you have exhausted ideas and options known to you about what to do – call in Angels or Spirit Guides for help! Remember - you can only help the Earthbound Spirits to move on when they are willing to be helped! The most important is to guide Earthbound Spirits to a state of understanding that they need to move on! From there – it’s the matter of them moving on and how they do it ! Exercise #58 Dealing with Haunted Objects Understand that it’s not really the object that is the problem – it is Spirit that is haunting the object! What you want to do and need to do is to connect with the Spirit and Help the Spirit to move on just like you would do with any Earthbound Spirit! You might find that when you help the Earthbound Spirit that is attached to the object, to move on, the object won’t be haunted anymore! However – if you do feel that the route of detecting the object and dealing with Earthbound Spirits from there, is important (sometimes it will actually be the Best Solution) – here are guidelines for the steps to take: 1 – detect the object… if there are no clues for which object it is (sometimes people who experience paranormal, then you’ll have to tune into it psychically…or… connect with your Spirit Guides and ask their help for detecting the haunted object! 180

2 – draw a circle around the object – either in your mind or physically! When drawing the circle – do it with intention to keep anything harmful that might come from the object and Spirit that’s haunting it, safe and held in a circle! If you draw a circle physically – you can do it with Himalayan salt as it’s the best salt for cleansing the energy! 3 – see/ envision/ imagine/ call in the Divine Light to be over the object… 4 – ask and affirm that any unhealthy energy be taken by this Light and transformed into the Light! (youcan ask for the Light to stay there until the cleansing process is finished – sometimes it can take a while )! To help the Earthbound Spirit that’s Haunting the Object, to move on, move into the Light using tools provided in this book ! And…Enjoy the Process !

PART VI Afterlife Exercise #59 Afterlife Journey This Meditation will guide you into the afterlife. It will help you to open up and get a glimpse of it! *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

Close your eyes and breathe deeply. Observe your body while you breathe deeply. First remember that breathing deeply means that your belly expands when you breathe in and your shoulders stay where they are (don’t go up). Observe your body, scan your body and if you feel any tension in any part of your body, breathe in this part of the body. The more you focus on breathing deeply, the deeper you go into the relaxed space, which helps to go deeper in the meditation. Go to your safe space – a place in your mind, in your vision where you feel safe and protected. The more you breathe deeply, the more you connect with your safe space, the more you adjust to feeling safe. Take some time to enjoy this feeling. Look around your safe space and breathe in the beauty of it. Breathe it in and feel it as part of you. Be part of it. Be the breath you breathe and with every breath you take, become, more and more one with everything around you, with everything you see, with everything you breathe, everything you feel. See and feel your body melt with everything around you, as if you don't have a physical form anymore. Just embrace this experience. See a bright shining Light in the distance and the more you look at it, the more you feel pulled to go there.

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Be there. You know it's a light of the afterlife. It's a light everyone has been talking about. The light people see when they cross over, the light people see and experience when they have near death experience. Notice yourself being pulled to go there and it’s not only that you feel pulled to go there, you are curious to go there as well. You are curious about the possible experience going into the Light, peaking in there and you move closer and closer to the Light. At some point you notice that you don't have a physical form anymore, yet you’re still you. Without a physical body, you blend in with the energy of the Light. You are getting a glimpse of what happens when our Soul leaves a physical body. Do you see your deceased loved ones? Do you see anyone else deceased in this Light? Are there angels or any other ethereal Beings? What is your experience? Be open… let yourself flow with this… Let the experience flow through you, let yourself flow with the experience and breathe it in. Do you see some of your significant life events flash in front of your eyes like a movie? Is it any of that happening which you had heard about the afterlife or seen in some Hollywood movies? What is your experience? Just be with this experience… be open, embrace the experience and keep in mind that you’re safe. Allow yourself to experience whatever flows your way. Enjoy the experience just for a few more moments longer… If you have any questions about what you experience or about anything that has to do with the afterlife, now is a good time to ask Spirits, ask other etheric Beings that you have encountered. In your mind, listen for the answers, maybe part of the answer is you going on a journey, maybe it’s something else! Enjoy this experience a few more moments. Then – thank Spirits and other Beings in Spirit for the experience and then feel the pull to go back to where you came from - to your safe place. Once you return your consciousness back in your safe space, see yourself back in the physical body. Breathe in deeply, breathe out deeply. Just be in this energy for a little while longer! Then bring your consciousness back to the present moment. Feel your physical body, wiggle your fingers and toes, shake your and then open your eyes. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

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Afterword When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, 'I used everything you gave me. ~ Emma Bonmbeck ~ *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

We are all souls here in a physical body. Our energy has taken human form but it is temporary. Memories of our souls are permanent, as are the lessons we have learned, and emotions we have experienced, however the actual physical body only temporarily houses our soul. I believe we have a choice of living many lifetimes here on Earth. I believe in the law of cause and effect, and I believe that our actions decide our future fate. That way what we experience now is a result of what our actions were in the past. I believe that as a soul, we have a choice to experience everything we choose to, whether it takes one lifetime or many for that to happen. I believe that living this life today and sharing this lifetime is only one of many aspects of which our souls are capable. I also believe that in every given moment, what matters most is that regardless of the circumstances in which we find ourselves, that we do the best we can. Circumstances might change in five minutes and our best may change accordingly, however in the present moment we always have the choice of doing the best we can in a way that matters. We owe this to ourselves, to do the best we can and to be ourselves from the deepest space of our heart and soul. I would like to conclude this book with what I feel is a very important message left by those who are now in the Spirit World. *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

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Bronnie Ware, a woman who worked for years in palliative care with the dying, wrote a list of the top 5 regrets that people express on their deathbed: “1. I WISH I’D HAD THE COURAGE TO LIVE A LIFE TRUE TO MYSELF, NOT THE LIFE OTHERS EXPECTED OF ME This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. 2. I WISH I DIDN’T WORK SO HARD This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence. 3. I WISH I’D HAVE HAD THE COURAGE TO EXPRESS MY FEELINGS Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result. 4. I WISH I’D HAVE STAYED IN TOUCH WITH MY FRIENDS Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying. 5. I WISH THAT I HAD LET MYSELF BE HAPPIER 185

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end, that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to themselves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind.” (excerpt from the article “Top 5 regrets of Dying” by Bronnie Ware Article source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Bronnie_War e)

There is always room for growth in our lives, no matter what age we are, or where we are with respect to our Spiritual growth. Life is a choice. Living is a choice. Before it is our time to cross over to the Spirit World, let’s let the top five regrets of the dying be a great reminder of what’s important in life. This way when it is our time to go, we can look back on our life with a smile, knowing we did the best we could, we were the best person we could be, and that we lived a fulfilled and meaningful life that mattered, so when it is our time we will be ready to move on with no regrets!

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Resources mediums http://johnedward.net/ http://www.vanpraagh.com/ http://www.johnholland.com/ http://www.lisawilliams.com/ https://www.facebook.com/LongIslandMedium Movies & TV Shows that are quite true to how it works in a real life:

Ghost Whisperer The Medium Ghost Town Ghost Dad The Haunted Manson Talking to Heaven Ghost Hunters Ghost Hunters International Ghost Adventures The Haunted Psychic Kids – Children of Paranormal The AfterLife Investigations Afterlife Association of Near Death Experiences www.iands.org *. ✫ * ¨ *. ¸¸ . ✶ * ¨ `*. ✫ *

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About the Author Originally from the heart of the Baltics in North-Eastern Europe, ReGina L. Norlinde is an Empowerment Psychic Medium, Spiritual Teacher, Bestselling Author, TV & Radio Producer and Host, who helps others on their path of Spiritual Growth. She offers her services to people around the world and between worlds – wherever her help is needed. To learn more about ReGina, please visit her website at www.reginanorlinde.com

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Also by ReGina L. Norlinde “The Power of Being Different - Embrace Your Uniqueness” 2008 “Embrace Your Uniqueness and Be the Best Version of Yourself” 2009 “How to Be Yourself When You Are Expected To Be Somebody Else” 2012 “How to Get The Best Psychic Reading” 2012 “Mediumship Basics – How to Communicate With the Dead” 2012

Children’s Books Adventures of Little Boo series (ages 3-5) ~ Little Ghost Who Got Wings ~ ~ Little Ghost and Holiday Spice ~ ~ Little Ghost and Glowing Heart ~ ~ Little Ghost Gets Boo’ed ~

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If you or anyone you know is interested in learning more about this topic or wishes to sharpen their intuitive skills with respect to communicating with the Spirit World, ReGina offers online webinars on an ongoing basis. Audio Version of this Book as well as Online Class on this topic are also available for purchase. ReGina produces and hosts an online radio talk show dedicated to this topic called SoulSpeak with ReGina. See ReGina’s website for more details: www.reginanorlinde.com Visit her website for further information [email protected]

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Table des Matières Copyright Introduction PART I Mediumship Basics PART II Fundamentals of Mediumship PART III Signs and Symbols PART IV Challenges and Solutions PART V Paranormal Activities and Earthbound Spirits PART VI AfterLife PART VII Psychic Children - Kids of the Paranormal PART VIII Exercises & Meditations Afterword Resources About the Author Also by ReGina L. Norlinde

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