Guaranteed How To Get Women

Guaranteed: How To Get Women

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Table Of Contents Table Of Contents ______________________________________ 3 Introduction __________________________________________ 4 Chapter 1: Men Don’t Get Women: The Real Problem Lies Here ___________ 5 What You Have To Learn ___________________________________ 6

Chapter 2: A Lack Of Confidence Got You Down? ___________________ 9 Do You Have Enough Confidence? _____________________________ 12 Strategies For Confidence___________________________________ 14

Chapter 3: The Ability To Flirt: It Will Define Your Success _____________ 24 Learning To Flirt: Steps To Success ____________________________ 25 Step 1: Step 2: Step 3: Step 4: Step 5:

Learn About The Girl __________________________________________25 Take It Easy ________________________________________________26 Flirt With Her _______________________________________________28 The All Important Touch ________________________________________30 Know The No’s ______________________________________________32

When Time Is Short ______________________________________ 34

Chapter 4: Getting From Flirting To Asking Her Out _________________ 37 Tips To Get The Conversation Rolling ___________________________ 38 Leave On A High Note With Her Number _________________________ 42

Chapter 5: Get A Woman Online ____________________________ 45 Where And How ________________________________________ 45 Flirting Online ____________________________________________________48

Moving On ___________________________________________ 50

Conclusion _________________________________________ 53

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Introduction Getting women to fall head over heels for you is an option that you have. Many men are self conscious, inexperienced or simply aren’t sure what the first step is in attracting women. Women don’t make this easy as they are very difficult to understand, rarely able to be predicted and they require time and energy. In this book, we will reveal several key strategies to improving your chances with a woman. No matter what background you are coming from or what your goals in attracting women are, this book will reveal the methods to making it happen. Take the time to thoroughly read through it and learn what benefits you can have in your life with these simple to follow tips and strategies. For most men, it’s simply a matter of changing the way that you think about women and the way that you approach them. You can find success in dating women with the strategies we’ll present here. Get started at changing your own life and do it today.

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Chapter 1: Men Don’t Get Women: The Real Problem Lies Here No matter what your goal is in meeting women, if you don’t understand them, or try to, you are unlikely to actually meet them. While you will never truly get inside the head of every woman that you meet, you should understand some real fundamentals about the way that they think and the way that you need to interact with those thoughts. When talking to women, it is evident that there are many different ways that they do think.  A woman is likely to think about the future as soon as she meets a man. “Is this someone I can spend my life with?  A woman looks at a man and determines if he fits her idea of the perfect man. This usually comes into play with the way that you look, act, talk with and interact with her.  Most women want to be treated as a person that deserves full attention from you. A man that makes sure to give her this attention will be more attractive.

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 Most women don’t think about money that a man has per se. Instead, they consider if a man can support himself, and that he’s not going to rely on her to do that.  Most women first think of a man in terms of if he meets her needs. He has to impress her, rather than her impress him. To attract women, you simply must understand how to present yourself in such a manner that will play against her needs, her desires and the type of man that she wants to be with. Throughout the next chapters, we will define what you need to do to make these feelings come from deep inside you to attract the women you are interested in. The female mind is confusing and difficult to predict. Yet, with a few simple tips and suggestions, you will be well on your way to defining who you want to date and get to know rather than who will date you.

What You Have To Learn There are several key areas that men must be experts at in order to attract women. These areas are what will define success with women or not. Rate yourself on a scale of 1 to 10 on how well you perform at these things: 6

 Are you confident in your approach and dating?  Are you able to flirt? If so, do you get results when you flirt?  Are you humorous? Do you make women smile and laugh?  Can you hold a conversation with a woman? Are you comfortable in doing so?  Are you comfortable with your masculinity and being a positive, attractive male? There are some things that you will not learn here because they simply do not work with great success. For example, there are no hidden tricks to dating women. The use of pick up lines simply doesn’t work for most men (even when it does, its something that must be done on a per person basis.) Finally, manipulative or sleazy strategies are not used here either. When you learn to treat women for their value, you will get them far more attracted in you than any of these strategies could ever provide. You will find many different scenarios for meeting women offered throughout the web. Yet, the goal of this book is to provide you with ample ammunition to actually attract women based on positive methods that work that also address the real problem you face.

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You could be sent out into the world to meet women with a pre scripted set of lines. You may meet someone. Or, you could learn how to identify the real problem you are facing, such as those aspects that we teach here, and never have to worry about remembering lines. You can be yourself and attract women. Getting to the root of the problem can define success. If you think back to the last experience that you had with a woman, what do you remember as the problem? Perhaps you were unable to say something to her to show your interest. Perhaps you were too shy to even approach her. You could have been lacking in confidence to ask her for her phone number. The challenge that you face is a lack of confidence, a lack of skill and the experience that brings it all together. In the real world, you must know how to approach a woman and then how to react to the individual situation. When you do these things, it is likely that you’ll improve your chances as well as improve your self esteem. Meeting and attracting women is a process, one that takes time and patience. Get started by learning the methods that work and then implement them into your everyday life. You will learn how to interact with women for real success.

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Chapter 2: A Lack Of Confidence Got You Down? For 80 percent of men, the largest problem they face in meeting women is not the way that they look, the money that they have or the lack of a cheesy pick up line. It is a lack of confidence. Confidence gives you the ability to make that first move. It also exudes from you which mean that a woman is attracted to it. Confidence alone is one of the most desirable methods for attracting women. A confident man is likely to meet many more women. Are you confident, then? A confident man is realized in the way that he interacts with people, in the way that he presents himself as well as in his ability to portray himself as a masculine but genuine man. How can you be a confident man? There are several key things that you should attempt to learn and fold into the process.  Determine what your fear is.  Fear is a powerful emotion that’s limiting you.

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 Overcome your fear by forcing yourself to do whatever it is.  By overcoming your fear, you actually gain confidence that is irreplaceable. To take this simply designed plan into account, you will gain confidence through conquering a fear. It does not have to be the fear of talking to a woman, either. Start out by determining a fear that is easier for you to conquer. No matter what fear you tackle, the goal is simple. Give yourself a foundation of confidence, even a weak one at first. By conquering some fear that you have, you can build upon this small amount of confidence and later tackle a larger fear. Once you have overcome some small fear, next, test the waters by conquering your fear of talking to women. The first time you head out to do this, give yourself some rehearsal. Plan what you will say, even rehearse the lines beforehand if it offers a bit of help to you. Next, approach a girl, but pick one that you are more comfortable with rather than the one girl that you really want to talk to. Approach her and simple say, “Hi, I’m Adam. How are you?” This simple approach will give you a huge boost in the confidence department. Even if she doesn’t talk to you, you got the words out. Try to work up

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to a level where you are really talking to someone and the conversation is going well. Once you get the conversation to a good, positive point, excuse yourself. Leave on a high note. If you aren’t attracted to her, there’s no need to worry about asking for a phone number. Since you left on a high note, you are now more prepared than ever to talk with the girl that you’ve been too worried to talk to. You have more confidence and feel better about it simply because you have overcome this fear. You forced yourself to talk to a girl and now you feel amazingly confident and can make your next move. You may be thinking to yourself, “I just can’t do it.” The fact is that most men go through this. They feel like they can’t take that first step. Yet, you have to make a decision here. Do you want to spend the rest of your life alone or will you get over your fear and simply walk up and start talking to her? If you do it, if you say, “Forget this, I’m doing it” you’ll overcome your fear, gain confidence and all of the anxiety that goes with the fear will be gone, just like that.

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When you push yourself to that moment when you are very close to turning around and saying forget it, you gain benefits ultimately. You gain the benefit of confidence. Once you get through your first fear conquering step, take a step back and ask yourself a few questions. For example, do you feel that you were successful in talking to her? What could you have done differently? Perhaps you did all that you need to and now you feel good about the whole situation? Step back, analyze and make changes as necessary. Then, approach another girl and start the process over. Don’t wait too long between talking to one girl and talking to the next, as this lowers your confidence level again. Just like after a big game that’s one, the team is better prepared to win the following game when momentum is high. Take advantage of this.

Do You Have Enough Confidence? Remember that we revealed that men not only need confidence for themselves, but also because they need to attract women to them with confidence. A woman is attracted to a man that is confident. You have to ask yourself if you feel that you are confident enough to exude it and therefore attract women.

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One way to know how confident you are is by listening to what the women you meet say about you. A confident man is someone that is alluring, but with a cunning charm. For example, a man that has a woman guessing what he will do next is one that is attracting her. Has a woman ever said to you that they “aren’t sure what you will do next?” This is a great sign that you are confident in your actions. How else can you be confident with women? Here are a few more tips to keep in mind:  Confidence is defined by the way that you interact with women. Do you approach them directly, without coming from behind or approaching them shyly?  Do you speak them in strong, positive words in a clear voice? Does your voice shake when you speak? Do you feel confident when you are speaking to them?  Do you make eye contact while you are speaking to her? Looking at your glass or looking at everything around you is not only a distraction to you, but it shows her that you aren’t interested in her. Eye contact is very attractive and often appealing to a woman. In later sections, we will reveal ways that you can learn to say and do the right things in an effort to actually exude confidence.

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Strategies For Confidence Being confident allows you to have the courage to talk to women. Being confident attracts women to you. Therefore, you must incorporate this into your skill and your approach if you are to improve. To help you, we have broken down several key aspects that you can do today to improve your level of confidence and therefore get the girl. Practice Your Skill Although it is hard to get your foot in the door and get started with asking girls out and even just talking to them, it’s the best way for you to actually improve your skill. Practice makes perfect which also means that the first few times that you talk to a girl, you are likely to fall flat on your face. That’s a learning experience and each time will get easier. You should talk to several women, not the same one over and over again. If you wanted to learn how to ski, you would have to get out there on the slopes several times. The same methodology is effective here. Practice!

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Realize You Are Worth It Far too many men don’t realize that they are a good choice for a woman. Give yourself credit, you are worth dating! If you are someone that’s too hard on them, you’re letting yourself down in the end. Instead, what you need is to be positive and motivated. If you aren’t sure what makes you a good mate, its time to define that. List all of your good points. Keep in mind how important it is for you to realize that women should be flocking to you. In fact, once you learn why you are so valuable to women, they will be even more attracted to you because of this increased confidence. A man that is confident in what they can offer to a woman is one that will attract them. Look Under Her Skin Are you a man that gets a little shaky when he sees a beautiful woman? You think to yourself that she’s too good for you. No way will a woman like that be with you. This is one of the largest mistakes a man can make. A 10 on the attractive scale is only skin deep. The fact is that you really don’t know what her flaws are.

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As a man, you need to realize that even the most beautiful of women have flaws and other drawbacks that may even keep you away from them. Therefore, don’t put so much pressure on yourself. She has flaws, too. Allow yourself to rest assured that she’s not perfect as you are not. You do deserve to talk with this woman just like any other. That’s your goal: treat them no different than the average looking woman.

Date Multiple Women Once you get married or find that great girl that you really enjoy spending time with, that’s when you can begin to worry about dating just one girl at a time. While that may shock some of you, the reason for this is simple. A man gains confidence when he realizes that he has more than one girl to be with. Here’s the situation. If you meet Jane and think she’s okay, what happens when you no longer find her interesting? You may even stay with her because you would rather not be alone. One the other hand, if you meet Jane, Annie, and Jessica, if you get to the point of being bored with Jane, you are more likely to let her go because you still have Annie and Jessica

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to call. What’s more, you are also gaining quite a bit of confidence knowing that there’s someone else out there that’s interested in you, too. Keep It Going Let’s say that you find a bit of confidence and start talking to several women. You are just approaching them and asking if they would like a drink. It’s worked for you as you have talked to several girls and gotten their phone numbers. When something starts to work for you, whatever that is keeps it going. Make sure to keep up the good things that are you doing. Perhaps it is just the location that’s working for you. Maybe you are meeting people at a new club because of the unique atmosphere. Keep it up. What’s working for you is worth keeping up as long as it doesn’t become tired and boring for you. In the process, you will also gain confidence because you are seeing results. The most important consideration here is the fact that you are gaining confidence in such a way that it is allowing you to try new things, too. Keep up what you are doing and add in something new to test the waters as you go.

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Keep Working On Fears As we revealed, working through the fears that you have can really improve the confidence level that you have. Whatever your fear is with women, overcoming them is a key part of actually improving your confidence level. You may not feel that you can talk to a woman. You may feel that you can’t ask her for her phone number. Perhaps just approaching the woman is more than you can handle. In any of these situations, you need to overcome your fear which means forcing yourself to do it. Whatever your fears are, confront them. Force yourself to do what that fear is so that you gain experience with it and can then overcome it. Pick up the phone. Walk over to her. Or, just say, hi. As you force yourself to confront these situations, you will ultimately improve your skill and reduce the fear. Stewing over it will only make them that much worse, though. You will improve your self esteem and of course your confidence by forcing this to happen.

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Remember To Enjoy Yourself Dating and getting to know new people is supposed to be fun. How can you have fun when you can’t stop worrying and fretting over what’s going to happen next? The fact is that you need to let yourself have fun and stop the grief. One problem with worrying and feeling nervous is that the more you feel like this, the more likely it is that she knows that you are feeling it. This makes you less attractive too. How can you have fun in such a stressful environment? Make jokes and talk about things that you enjoy. Relax by going places that you find to be enjoyable and fun, rather than formal settings. Realize that you are just talking to another person, not the President. The more laid back and natural you can be, the more enjoyable the entire experience will be for you, too. Of course, it is also beneficial to do things that she finds enjoyable as well. Catering to her experience is one of the key elements to impressing her. But, for now, you need to concentrate on the confidence you’ll gain by having fun and lightening up the mood.

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Make The Date Your Date There are several key things you need to do here. First, make sure you are the lead player in the dating game. This means making sure that you know what is going to happen, as you have planned it out to be such. You shouldn’t have to ask the girl what she wants to do when she gets in the car. Have this planned for her so that you can gain the confidence that it brings to you. Leaders are likely to be much more confident. Next, never do things that you consider are wrong or compromise your value system. A man that defines who he is by his values is a man that is confident and well respected especially by the lady at his side. If that means stopping to help a stranger even though it interferes with your date, do so. If you don’t like the atmosphere of a club, then ask if you can try a different location. By doing something about it, you keep your values high, keeping your confidence high. You will also impress her with your ability to make decisions about the situations that you find yourself in. Not only this by a guy that can take charge of the date as if he’s spent all day planning it, is one that’s confident and attractive to virtually any woman.

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Be You, Improved Take a step in front of the mirror and look at yourself. What is it that you see? Is it a confident man? Stand up straight, broaden your shoulders. Put your chin up and look yourself dead in the eye. Are you confident? The way that you look is a key element in the confidence that you put out. It also is a key element in the way that you see yourself. You need to provide the right confident appearance, though, to make this happen for yourself. Here are some quick tips to use:  Dress with clean clothing that is free from holes, stains and other less than desirable markings.  Keep yourself well groomed. If you cut your hair, keep it trimmed. If you shave, stay clean shaven. Being well groomed has no limit to your tastes and your look, but she can tell that you put some thought into it.  Smell good. While you don’t have to wear cologne, you should smell clean. This instead shows a lady that you care about the appearance you present.  Take time to look good for an important date, but remain true to who you are.

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In turn, you should also remember, to speak clearly and slowly. Keep your eyes on her eyes. Walk confidently, too. Stand up straight. They seem simple and you may not think about them, but that’s the whole point: thinking about them shows how confident in whom you are. When you do these things, you’ll find yourself more confident to approach a woman because you know you look good to her. What’s more, she’ll look at you, size you up as a man that cares about himself and will be attracted to you. Sum It Up Confidence is an essential part of the project of attracting women. Not only do you need the right confidence level to approach her and to date her, but you also need her to see that you are confident. Any woman is able to tell how confident a man is when he walks up to her. Every women is willing to give a man a chance that shows that he’s confident in who he is. No matter who you are, you deserve to be confident in the person that you are. In that, there is no reason that you should walk up to a woman without all of the confidence that you need to impress her. Implement these changes into your lifestyle today. Force yourself to face your fears and transform yourself into a

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confident man. Each of these things is easily implemented into your life, too. Confidence is a key factor not to be forgotten about. Ultimately, it will be one of the key elements in defining how successful you are with women.

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Chapter 3: The Ability To Flirt: It Will Define Your Success Flirting used to be a term that was used to describe giddy little school boys and girls passing notes in class. Perhaps you were one that would flirt with a girl back then, but now, it just seems too daunting of a task. There is little doubt that you have to do it, though. A flirt is an experience that accomplishes several key things. 1. It shows the other person that you are interested in them. 2. It gives the other person a very small but powerful look at the type of person that you are. She will either come to you or she will turn and run. The decisive factor in this aspect is just how well you accomplish flirting. Before you become overwhelmed, though, realize that flirting is a process that you can be successful at when you take in our key steps.

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Flirting is a process that can be fun, too. Once you learn how to do it, chances are good that you’ll be good at it and it will work for you as a charm virtually every time.

Learning To Flirt: Steps To Success Flirting is a process. It takes a bit of learning, which we’ll provide you here. Consider these steps for successful flirting on your part. You’ll also be able to recognize easier when others are flirting with you!

Step 1: Learn About The Girl Because flirting is an individual situation where two very different people must find some parallel to get to know each other, the first step must be to learn all that you can about the girl that you are planning to flirt with. This means learning different aspects of what makes her happy and what will impress here. For example, if you are interested in talking to a girl that is very traditional and loves romance, flirting with her may mean flowers or even a sweet poem that you write just for her.

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One the other hand, if she’s more of a modernized woman, she may not find this type of treatment entertaining at all. She may find flowers boring. Instead, she may like it if you buy her a drink or even invite her for coffee before work one day. The only way for you to know what will work for the girl is to learn as much about her as you can. The facts are simple: the more you know, the easier it will be to tailor the type of flirting you do so it will work in your favor. What facts can you gather about her? What does she enjoy doing? What do you know about her from friends? Do you know about the types of activities she enjoys? If not, you can often gauge a lot about a person through their clothing and the way that they talk and act. Gather as much information about her as possible.

Step 2: Take It Easy It’s easy to gather information and stay back from the scene, but remember that you do need to approach her at some point to get to know her. Once you feel like you have gathered the amount of information that you need, you can then develop a method of flirting with her.

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Slow and steady is important. Start by just making sure she knows who you are and where you are. You want to make sure that she knows that you are alive. You can do this simply, just by making your presence known in the situation that you are in. Your goal is to go from the guy she may have seen someplace before to the guy that she has seen around several times. If you move too quickly here and simply jump at her with all the lines you’ve prepared, you’ll scare her or make her nervous. Instead, you want to come off as a natural part of her life, someone that would blend right in with the way that she’s living her life now. The best way to get to know her at this point, then, is as simple as saying, “hi.” That’s it, just “hi.” This will let her know that you are there, but that you are just an average guy that’s being polite. Even more so, it may spark her interest in you, too. A short and sweet conversation is the idea at first. Later, you’ll do more to meet her. Each time that you see her (which you should make a point to seeing her) do the same thing. After doing this several times, you can easily benefit from the current situation.

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Now, she even expects you to say hi to her. Now, she’s waiting for a few seconds that she’ll be able to talk to you. And, she may even be hoping that you’ll say something more. You remain calm and collected, as if you have many other things going on in your life. Eventually, you’ll start a small conversation with her. At this point, she’s more relaxed and so are you. You’ll even feel less worried or scared about it.

Step 3: Flirt With Her Now, it’s time to flirt with her to let her know that you are interested in her. As you are talking to her, you want to flirt with her in a unique way, perhaps in the way that you have determined is the way that she’ll appreciate it. Flirting with a girl is a great way for her to actually know that you like her or are just interested in learning more about her. Every woman, and man for that matter, wants to feel important and valued and this is the ideal time to make sure that she knows that.

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When flirting with a girl, make sure that she knows that you value her. Give her the feeling that you value her, without actually saying those words. You’ll have to be a bit creative here, especially at first, but soon you’ll learn exactly how easy it can be to enjoy flirting with her or any other girl you want to get to know. Techniques To Use Here are some flirting techniques that aren’t too cheesy but that really do work in a number of different situations. Choose those that you know will impress and ignite her curiosity about you.  Use a bit of humor to get things started, but don’t be rude or otherwise negative in that humor. For example, don’t say, “Did you see that guy with the overalls and the full beer belly?” Instead, say something humorous but positive. Joking about your own behavior is a great way to start. “I thought for sure I was going to make a fool out of myself.” Make her smile, and make her laugh!  Be sweet. You’ve heard the saying that sugar is a better lure? It works here too. Be sweet to her. Use compliments about the way that she looks; hold open doors, been sweet in the words that you say to her. You can over do this to the point that she will become

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annoyed with you. That’s not what you want! Small, simple gestures make all of the difference.  Be her friend, but only a bit. The last thing that you want to do is to ask her for coffee only to spend the next three hours listening to her talk about her boyfriend or her ex. That’s not what you want. Nevertheless, you should be a distant friend, just not her confidant. Of course, being a friend does mean being open to her. If you let the situation progress to where she sees you as a friend instead of as a boyfriend, chances are good that you’ll never pull out of that situation.  You won’t look like a dork! Many guys refrain from doing what feels natural, such as holding her hand or opening a car door for her for fear that they will look like a dork to her. That’s not anywhere near the case as she’ll be impressed that you thought of her. Don’t feel like you are a dork if you want to make her laugh or you feel the need to say something stupid.

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have to be about sexual urges. But, it is one of the most powerful ways that you can show your interest and spark hers for you, too. The touch is a very complicated process right? After all, how are you supposed to get your hand to touch her skin? Instincts will kick in for you, we promise. You’ll know that it’s okay to make your move and experience will also help. How can you touch her? There’s no need to actually have a huge box of popcorn during the movie and to hope that your hands meet. Instead, look for other ways to touch her. Perhaps a strain of hair has fallen into her face as you have been talking to her. Gently move it to the side so that you can see her face. Perhaps you want to show her that you would like to get to know her even though you just met her. If her had is on the bar, for example, touch it lightly with your own hand to get her attention. Don’t move it away too fast. As you walk out of the location, you can easily open a door for her and brush her hand with your own. You can easily take a glass from her hand and touch her skin with your own.

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Other ways for you to flirt with her through touch include: a pat on the shoulder or her back, a hug goodbye, instead of a kiss, an invitation to thumb wrestle with you! These things are very simple and that’s the point. You want to motivate her to enjoy being touched by you even in this slight way. This method of flirting is one that will have her begging for more attention from you. When you touch someone, you are being a very small bit intimate with that person. This intimacy will later grow into an attraction that will bring the two of you together. What’s more it will create a link between the two of you.

Step 5: Know The No’s There are plenty of situations that qualify as “just don’t do it” situations. By knowing what you should not be doing, you’ll be well on your way to empowering yourself farther without taking steps backward. Here are some don’ts to know about:  Don’t be too macho or too arrogant. Don’t assume that you have the right to touch her if she doesn’t enjoy it.  Don’t touch her in any way that is provocative. If you touch her chest, your backside or her leg, you aren’t talking about getting to know her. You are talking 32

about wanting to do more with her. That’s a definite drawback for most girls.  Don’t call her too often. Once you get her phone number, you don’t want to make yourself look desperate by calling her several times. Call her once, leave her a message. If she doesn’t call you back, call her one more time and invite her to call you for dinner next weekend.  Don’t over do it in the friend department. As we revealed, this is not where you want to be.  Don’t say anything that could be insulting to her. You don’t want to say anything negative about her to anyone especially when you are talking to those that know her.  Don’t lie or make yourself look like more than you are. Even if the agree to see you, once they learn that you aren’t who you say you are, they’ll walk away. They will do this because you lied to them, not because you don’t have what they want. 99 percent of girls are interested in guys that are like them.  Don’t talk about other girls, ever. Just don’t. And, don’t let her see you looking at another girl across the room. This is an instant way to lose her once and for all. There seems to be many things that you shouldn’t do. The fact is that you can rule all of these out when you simply act like yourself and be respectful of the girl that you are

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When Time Is Short The perfect girl just walked into the bar you are at. You want to flirt with her to get to know her better. How in the world will you do that when you don’t have time to get to know her first? Don’t worry; in situations like this, flirting can still be done. Here are some tips to make that happen.  Make eye contact with her from across the room. Here, you establish that you are there and that she sees you. She also knows you are interested. Hold her eyes until she pulls away.  For those a bit more confident, they can have the bartender ask her if she would like a drink on you. She may decline, which may mean she’s not interested. If she accepts, make sure to nod her way as if to say “you’re welcome.”  Walk close to her. Brush against her with your arm, just lightly without doing anything that would upset her.  Sit next to her at the bar. Start a conversation with the bartender that may interest her too. Perhaps talk 34

about what’s playing on the radio or what’s going on with the news report on the television.  Smile at her. A woman loves a man that smiles at her. He’s happy, he’s got that twinkle in his eye, and he’s interested in her. Those are enough factors to keep her interested in you. Although you may not realize it, most women will enjoy this type of interaction even if they have never seen you at all. No matter what situation you are in, these simple things can do wonders to help a girl to know that you are there and that you would like to get to know her. For some men, it is easier to meet girls in this manner, where they can simply decline a drink and there’s no sham in the process. Yet, it is still important to flirt with her and to develop an opportunity in which you can get to know her a bit better. In situations where you do have time to meet her, such as situations where you will see her over and over again, many men take for granted that their time to develop a relationship with a woman is unlimited. That’s not the case. You should only flirt in the long term model we’ve revealed over a span of a couple of weeks or meetings. Anything more than that and she’ll think that you simply want to be a nice guy to her.

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Learning to flirt is a must for any guy. When you can flirt, you can draw her in to knowing you.

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Chapter 4: Getting From Flirting To Asking Her Out You’ve made a major step in the process of improving your relationship with her. Flirting is a powerful tool that you can easily use to your advantage. Now that you’ve mastered it (don’t forget that you’ll need practice here to make it effective for you) its time to concentrate on asking her out and really getting her to want to know you. The key to getting from a friendly flirt into a conversation that will lead to her wanting to get to know you is by knowing how to develop and start that conversation. Most men feel that they aren’t good at talking. But, you may have the ability tot start a conversation without realizing how easy it can be. Don’t be too worried yet about how to make this happen. Many men freeze up with the thought of having to talk about something. Don’t worry, we aren’t asking life and death (or political) questions; just methods to get the conversation moving.

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Tips To Get The Conversation Rolling If you don’t feel that you can start a conversation, you need to go back a couple of chapters and realize the importance of dealing with fears. You can do this, you will do it and you will be confident when you do it. These tips will help you to overcome the fears that you have and help you to inspire yourself to keep the conversations happening. Start With Hi As someone that hasn’t had a lot of experience with dating or approaching women, you want to start with just saying hi to the lady you are interested in. No matter if you have had time to get to know her or not, you need to be straight forward about this in a situation in which you don’t have time to get to know her. When you are new to meeting women, the first and most effective approach is to simply walk up to her and say, “Hi. I’m Dave. How are you doing?” As corny as it sounds, it is one of the most effective lines you can use to get a conversation going. Yet, this method really is only effective when it is done for the beginner. And, it will limit you. Instead, use this very simple hello method until you have gained enough 38

confidence to do something more. In some cases, you may be put on the spot to keep the conversation going. For that reason, consider some other methods that may help you. Go For The Non Hello Methods When you are more confident, you can do a bit more than this. Perhaps there are two girls sitting at a table and you would like to introduce yourself. What could you say that would start a conversation? Here are some ideas.  Excuse me? I’m Dave. I thought that I knew you from someplace. By any chance do you work…?”  You two look like you are having a good time. Would you mind if I sat down with you?  I just noticed how beautiful your smile is. I was hoping that you would share with me what’s making you so happy. While these are “lines” they shouldn’t just be used. You should look at them as examples, as ways to help you to think about the right words to use to attract the girl that you are interested in. Perhaps one of these methods would work for you. The goal here is not to memorize lines for every situation, but to learn how to develop those lines.

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Be Unique Every girl that has been to a bar knows that most guys are going to have some cheesy line and that they are likely to be just the same old guy. In fact, some girls will talk to several guys in one night, which means that only those that stand out will get her attention. What can you do to show off how unique you are? Let’s assume that you have walked up to a girl and introduced yourself. The conversation goes flat…what else is there to say? Why not talk about something strange and unique? For example, perhaps you can ask her what her dream job would be. Ask her where she would visit if she could go anywhere. Once you have asked a question like this, you can then keep it going in a variety of different directions. Make sure to insert your opinion too. What’s more you can add humor into these conversations (the more unique they are the better) and really have her enjoying herself. She will enjoy these topics because they are different from everyone else. And, she will enjoy them because you are keeping the conversation going, just as a leader should be doing. Try to stay on positive safe subjects so that you don’t insult her in some way.

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Don’t Go The Boring Route Men can easily make the mistake of falling for the “where do you work” line. That is, they are running out of things to say and they reach for something that’s even more dull and boring. You can talk about anything with a girl that’s new to you, as long as it is positive and not raunchy. Whenever you can, try to stay away from these types of questions. They can simply lead to a dead road and show that you are just like everyone else. Instead of delving into a world of real life situations, talk about light and open topics. Asking her about where she would like to spend her vacation is an open and light subject. Asking her how many vacation days she has, will limit the conversation to boring and dull work or school, which won’t interest her. What’s more is the fact that you want to leave her on a high note so that she still wants to experience more from you. This means that she’s interested in learning more about you by wanting to give you her phone number.

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Leave On A High Note With Her Number Again, we won’t give you lines here, because its important for you to learn to come up with you own methods for closing a conversation with a new lady. After you have talked to her, and you can sense that you are running out of things to say, excuse yourself. You can simply tell her that you have to go attend to something. The hard part is getting her number. As the conversation is winding down, simple tell her that you would love to keep talking to her. Did she enjoy talking with you? If so, then ask her if you could give her a call later and you could talk a bit more. You can not be weak here. For example, don’t say, “Call me sometime.” Instead, say, “Can I give you a call tomorrow evening?” Don’t say, “Maybe we can hang out some time.” Instead say, “I have tickets to a comedy club next week. Would you like to go?” Even with just barely knowing her, you can sense that she’s interested in you here. What’s more, she’s likely to be willing to commit to you because of how confident you are with her.

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You don’t have to ask her out at this point, though. What you do have to do, is get her number. Simply ask her if you can call her. If she says yes, she’ll give you her number. If she says no, say something about calling you if she changes her mind. NO matter what she says, be polite and upbeat while saying your goodbyes. Thank her for talking to you and compliment her in some way while you do it. Don’t Forget To Call You got the phone number. You gave her your phone number. Are you sitting by the phone waiting for her to call you? That’s a big mistake. No woman wants to have to call a guy to see him again. She wants him to come to her and that’s exactly what you should do. If you did as instructed, she’s already expecting you to call her at the time that you left with her. Perhaps you said you would call her tomorrow. When tomorrow comes, call her. Don’t avoid it because you want to seem arrogant. If you said you would, do it. If you didn’t give a time that you would call, wait a day and give her a call. A simple conversation can lead into something much more over the phone this second time

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around. You can now talk about many other things including those boring topics that are necessary to get to know her. What if she’s not available? If the first item you call she’s not available, then leave a message. “I really enjoyed talking to you last night. It made my day, actually. I just wanted to say hello. I’ll try to give you a call again tomorrow or you can call me, if you like.” One more call is all she gets, though. You don’t want to seem desperate at all when talking with a woman. If she does call you, by all means talk to her. Don’t let it slide for the next time as chances are slim to none that she’ll call you back. Never wait until she calls you. It won’t happen. Always call her. A woman wants to be pursued. She doesn’t want to pursue you! Make it happen for yourself rather than waiting. Summing Up Starting a conversation is a simple process when you approach it in the right manner. Don’t assume that you can just wait for someone to come to you. Flirt with her and then talk to her. Get over your fear and build confidence. In turn, attract more women than you ever have. Its that simple.

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Chapter 5: Get A Woman Online Today, many men are using the web to attract women. This can be a great opportunity for you to meet new people and to really break in your talents that you have learned thus. You can gain the confidence that you need online, but you should realize that this is just a place to meet others, not to actually date online. If you do want to date online, that’s fine, but realize it will only be a two dimensional relationship. The best way to use your online resources is to use them to help you to meet others. From here, you can use the same techniques for talking to them in person as you would otherwise.

Where And How There are two important considerations here. First, where will you meet someone on the web? Second, you need to know what to do to actually find someone to talk to. The web makes it very easy for you to make this happen. Here are some tips.

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 Choose a dating website that is paid for, simply because these people are serious about dating and you are less likely to get nothing but spam in your email.  Choose a dating website that fits any specifications that you have in those you date. Religious affiliations, sexual preferences, locations and other elements can be used to define a specific site. This narrows down the field for you. You can always use free trials to learn more about the service so that you don’t waste your money. Yet, you should realize that you’ll be very limited in what you can do in this manner. Once you have the website that you want to use, go ahead and get started. There are some important things to note here. First, you have to design a profile. We all hate it, but it’s a process that’s necessary if you will actually attract women to you rather than having to prove yourself through email. Your profile needs to:  Give a good picture of you. Use our techniques for dressing to maximize her impression of you. A picture makes you real and attractive, no matter what you look like.

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 Answer the questions honestly and politely. Women won’t talk to others that have a profile filled with profanity or with boring “yes and no” answers.  Make sure your sense of humor comes through in your profile. You want her to really know who you are. A simple joke will do wonders for you. Once you have a profile put together, you can then sit back and wait for the girls to come rolling in, right? That’s simply not going to happen. Even if you are the best looking, most well off guy, she probably won’t find you in all of the different profiles available. You need to do the searching for the girls that fit your needs. An important thing for you to remember here that goes for all dating and attracting of women is that you deserve the best woman out there. Don’t settle for a girl that you think is just average because you think you are average. The confident male, that goes after the girl that he’s attracted to, will be the one that succeeds in impressing her. When you are ready to, there are several ways that you can start talking with a girl that you meet online. The most common way to get things started is to chat with her if she’s online. Your greeting can be as simple as “I saw in your profile that you like to ski. Where have you gone skiing?” Open ended questions here are important. Don’t say, “I saw your profile. You’re cute.” What can she say to that?

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If not available online to chat, you can often send her a “flirt” type messages. These are simple to use. You will simply send them which will show her that you are interested in her and allows her to read through your profile. You can then follow these up with a note through email or through the profile email accounts. Ask her to meet you online when she’s available to chat. You can also go straight to email. In this case, you want to be sure not to simply send off an email that says, “I saw your profile.” Instead, say something along the lines of, “I use xxxx site, too and read your profile. I saw that you like to do some of the things I do, like hiking. Have you ever had the chance to hike at …..?” This allows her to write you back with something to say. It also gives a way that the two of you can link together and therefore begin the flirting process.

Flirting Online All of the tips that we gave you regarding flirting are still important when you are trying to attract people online. You simply need to learn how to make it happen. First off, you have the various online “flirts” we’ve mentioned. There are other ways to flirt though.

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 When you are chatting with someone, compliment them. “Your personality comes through over the chat. I really like it.”  Invite them to wonder about what it would be like to meet you. “One day I’ll show you a few of my favorite places to watch the sunset. Its amazing doing down over the hilltops.”  While you can’t touch them over a chat or email, you can definitely imagine it. “Your hair looks so soft in your pictures.”  Learn about her and play on this. “You said last time that we chatted that you were going to dinner. What did you have?” Then, when you do ask her out, you can mention having the same meal with you (assuming it was a good one!) Flirting online isn’t difficult. In fact many men feel it is easier to do because of the lowered level of rejection. You can use the same techniques that we revealed earlier to help you with conversations with her.

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Moving On Now that you are talking with her, you’ve created a situation in which it’s ideal to set the tone for getting her number and meeting her. Meeting her is more about finding out if you can first chat with her on the phone and then later actually getting to meet her in person. As for the phone number, you can use the same techniques that we gave you earlier to get her number. You can also use it as a method of flirting with her. “You sound so wonderful over chat. I would love to hear your voice. Can I call you?” One important note to remember here is that there are plenty of women dating online. Yet, not many of them completely trust all of the men that are online that want to date them. This is rightly so as plenty are just looking to take advantage of them. Therefore, when asking for her number or a meeting, you have to keep this in mind. Always give her the option of calling you if it would make her feel better about it. This means she doesn’t have to provide any specific information about herself to you. Here are a few other important tips like this:

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 Always agree to meet in person but in an open area where she’ll feel comfortable with other people around.  Never ask for too much personal information. Last names, addresses, where they work or go to school are simple off limits in this situation. They’ll tell you when they feel comfortable doing so.  Provide them with whatever information they want from you (within limits, of course) so that they will know you aren’t some crazy guy.  Make it a group meeting at first, just to make sure that she’s comfortable with you and to give you a way out if you don’t like her. Once you have talked on the phone, you can then invite her to dinner with you or even a cup of coffee. It’s easy to do this over the phone instead of in person and most people get to this point and already feel confident in the women on the other line. Online dating is a convenient and growing trend. Any man that is in the market for a new lady on his arm needs to consider using the web as part of his realm of interest for attracting women. You’ll find that there are many different types of women online, looking for a great guy like you. Even if you don’t find yourself interested in the ladies that you meet online, chances are good that you can use these

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Conclusion The strategies that we have revealed to you here are straightforward and honest. They won’t help you to get a woman if you don’t implement them into your life. Don’t try to memorize the lines that we placed here for examples. Instead, create your own methods of talking with her and getting to know her. Attracting women is very much about being who you really are as any woman can see right through a man that’s trying to play a role. Remember too that women are attracted to confident men, not men that are full of money and expensive toys. They want men that are confident in what they are and what their lives are. It translates to them that the man is suited for creating a long positive life. A man that isn’t confident isn’t likely to be successful later. He isn’t likely to be the leader of the family. He isn’t likely to do well with his career. He’s not likely to be the man that she wants, then. Most women want a confident man that’s going to exude confidence well into the future. If you can portray this man when you approach a woman, chances are good that she’ll fall head over heels for you. LEARN MORE CLICK HERE

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