Magic_eyes

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Have you ever met someone, and immediately upon meeting eyes you felt comfortable, as if this was someone you’d known years? This book is about how to create that effect in the people (and especially the women) you meet. Don’t be deceived by the simplicity of the technique or its nature. This is one of those truly powerful interpersonal tools you can add to your socializing toolbox.

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This technique will change the texture of your courtships and interactions once you begin to use it. You’re going to like this one. – Chase Amante , December 2015

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One of the secrets I set out to unlock early on in my seduction career was the “magic eyes.” I’d read for years or heard women speak about becoming lost in a man’s eyes. Or that certain men had ways to look at you that would instantly suck you in. I heard people claim some men had a way to look at you that made you feel like the most important person in the world to them... you’d feel like an old friend. At once you’d be comfortable with them. I knew this was something I wanted to be able to do too. 4

I spent years experimenting with eye contact. I’d look at people different ways, monitor their reactions, adjust. Sometimes I’d look at them a little too funny and get a weird reaction. Sometimes they’d get uncomfortable – and I’d know to revise how I gazed at them then. Yet as time passed, I discovered when I looked at people, they could be almost hypnotized... girl after girl (and even guy after guy) remarked it felt like they’d met an old friend from the moment we first met. Friends who spent enough time around me marveled at how I sucked in the women I met simply by looking at them. 5

In this book, I’d like to show you exactly how to use these “magic eyes” yourself. I’d like to enable you to shortcut the learning process and skip the years of sometimes-awkward eye contact I went through to get them. It’s the aim of this tome to cut your learning curve to months, weeks, or days... and allow you to suck people in with a glance here, a gaze there. 6

To help you master this technique as quick as you can, I’ve broken this book into three sections: 1.  The Magic Eyes Technique, where I show you the specific mechanical parts of gazing at someone with hypnotic effect. 2.  The Magic Eyes Thought Process, because to use the technique well, you must know when and how to use it... not simply the mechanics of it. 3.  Troubleshooting Your Magic Eyes: what signs to look for to know you’ve had the desired effect, and how to figure out what needs a tweak when it doesn’t work as hoped. Now let’s get you seducing with eyes alone. 7

When people express strong emotion, they maintain a more direct, intense gaze.* Gaze focus + gaze intensity serves as a signal to how strong the emotion you convey is. When the emotion you convey is strong, people pay more attention, are more sucked in, and find you a more compelling figure. * Kimble, Forte, & Yoshikawa, 1981; Kimble & Olszewski, 1980

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Two key ingredients to that feeling of intensity and intimacy are your eye contact and your proximity. When these are high, the connection feels intimate.* As we go through the tech in this book, remember that as you deliver this eye contact, how physically close you are to her is key. The closer you are, the bigger an effect these techniques have. The farther you are, the less effective they will be. Note that the closer you are to her, the less eye contact she will make with you and the shorter each glance she makes will be. This is normal – people reduce their eye contact as they get closer.† (so to use this technique, you want to be close, but not right up on top of her) * Scherer, 1974 | † Argyle & Dean, 1965

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Your gaze focus is what your eyes are focused on, and how intensely. Gaze focus is happens automatically in most people: •  When you’re unsure what someone else feels, or you seek a reaction from or study a person, your gaze focus will jump from one of her eyes to the other. This is visible to her, as your eyes shift back and forth... you move from studying her right eye, to studying her left, and back again •  When you’re in a more intense or focused mood, you will stare intently at the other person’s face •  When you’re in a confrontational mood, you’ll stare into one of the other person’s eyes (typically, her right eye) 11

You want your gaze focus to be, well... focused. That means no switching back and forth between her eyes, which breaks the spell and makes you look like you’re seeking a reaction from her. It also means (usually) no staring into just one of her eyes, which can feel too intense or confrontational. Instead, you will stare at the bridge of her nose directly between her eyes, and plant your gaze there. It’ll feel weird at first, but the impression it gives to whomever you talk to is you are deeply and intently focused upon her. 12

Couples stare into each others’ eyes longer than non-couples,* so stare into her more if you want her to feel like you’re a couple. Cross-sex couples who stare into one another’s eyes feel increasing amounts of liking for one another, and attraction.† When you gaze into her eyes and have her gaze back into yours it feels like the two of you are together, and her attraction goes up. * Rubin, 1970 | † Kellerman, Lewis, & Laird, 1989

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Other gaze foci you can use occasionally: •  When it’s hot and the sexual tension is through the roof, you can shift to staring into her right eye only. This gives an intense, predatory feel, perfect to ratchet the sexual tension up higher. Don’t use this in less sexually tense situations, or she may feel threatened or uncomfortable... although it can be a useful screening tool before raising tension to find sexually receptive women. •  If she goes off on boring tangents or says things harmful to the seduction (“Men only want sex!” “All men are the same...”), you can change your gaze focus to the tip of her nose. She can tell you’re looking at her face instead of staring into her eyes; it’s a punishment for bad behavior. She’s killed the vibe, and lost that warm, sexy, connected feeling she was getting from you. Then as the vibe recovers, you can return your gaze to the bridge of her nose. 14

One caveat to focus: direct eye contact makes you less persuasive.* If you are trying to persuade a woman of something, break eye contact as you make your point. Just think of persuasion the same way you do a joke: when you get to the punch line, break eye contact as you deliver it. * Chen, Minson, Schöne, & Heinrichs, 2013

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It’s possible to focus your gaze intently upon a single point. It’s also possible to keep your eyes still fixed to the same point, yet also broaden the radius of your gaze. This is gaze intensity. And to do magic eyes, you must be able to focus in your gaze intensely upon the single point you have your eyes focused upon. On the next page, I’ll show you how. 16

Do this exercise: 1. 

Pick up a pencil or other small, thin object

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Hold the pencil about a foot from your face

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Focus on the pencil’s eraser (or end point)

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Initially, keep your focus light / fuzzy, with the eraser at the center of it yet still taking in other environmental details: the desk, your laptop, the mug you have next to you. This is a broad gaze.

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Now, narrow your attention sharply to just the eraser. Stare at the eraser as hard and focused as you can. Let the rest of the world fall away. This is an intense gaze. 17

The goal of an intense gaze is to communicate that this other person you’re staring at has your undivided attention. She is your sole focus. When your gaze is broad, she can tell. She will take this to mean you are monitoring the environment, either for opportunity (a prettier girl) or danger (maybe she should be worried). Or perhaps you’re just bored. A broad gaze, like how most men look at her, will also cause her to lose focus. An intense gaze, like how you will look at her, is one that will suck her in. 18

How long you gaze at her is key. The men who gaze at women the longest are the least attractive men to those women. Yet gaze at her too little, and she will find you inattentive and insincere.* You must gaze at her enough she feels the connection is for real. But not so much she feels like you are a little lost puppy who follows her around with his eyes. * Kleinke, Bustos, Meeker, & Staneski, 1973

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Even more key than your gaze duration is her gaze duration. The men women rate as most attractive are the men they gaze at longest.* The more you can get her to stare at you, the more smitten with you she will be. * Kleinke, Bustos, Meeker, & Staneski, 1973

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Your facial position has a big impact on how a woman interprets your intense, focused gaze. If you hold your chin parallel to the ground and raise your eyebrows high, you seem dignified. Yet combine this with the magic eyes technique, and you come across haughty and intimidating... or thoughtful and not “in the moment” with her. You must use the right look to have the right effect. 21

Sexual arousal (use with women) happens best with: •  •  •  • 

An underlook (chin lowered / tucked down) A playful/impish smile Slightly droopy eyelids (bedroom eyes) Slightly lowered eyebrows

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If you’re going for deep connection (use with men or women): •  •  •  • 

Your chin held high and majestically A placid, calm mouth, neither smiling nor frowning Open, discriminating eyes Neutral eyebrows (neither up nor down)

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The magic eyes technique is a way to stand out when you meet women. It lets you have an unexplainable effect on them. They will often feel like meeting you was fated or destined, simply due to the electricity they felt gazing at you. Several times I’ve tried to tell women who commented on my eye contact that it was something I had taught myself. They have never believed me. To a woman, the effect is too real, too magical, for it to be some consciouslydeveloped skill. She simply doesn’t believe it could be anything other than instinctive. 25

Magic eyes allow you to: 1.  2.  3.  4. 

Rapidly create a deep connection Spark a feeling of intense sexual arousal Calm a too-excited vibe, or relax her Intimidate antagonists without speaking

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Magic eyes tell her you’re paying rapt attention to what she is says and does (and, more to the point, to her). This is particularly useful during deep dives, when she tells you personal and secret information about herself. It lets you show her you “get” her, you like that she tells you all this, and you approve. Because people long to be approved of for their deepest, most core traits, thoughts, and qualities, magic eyes used here foster powerful connections. 27

Magic eyes create sexual arousal due to you signaling your interest in her, and her mirroring your signals back to you. Men often hide their sexual interest in women, out of fear they’ll scare girls away if they act sexual. Other men who show sexual interest may do so in clumsy ways that do scare women off. Magic eyes allow you to signal your sexual interest in a way that is subtle, seductive, and clear enough to excite any girl who’s interested in you. Mirroring comes into play when a woman catches your look and mirrors it back. Each human brain contains “mirror neurons” that cause us to mimic the expressions we read on the faces of others.* And each brain also contains a kinetic feedback loop that causes us to feel the expressions we wear.† If you make yourself smile, you feel happier... and when she catches you gazing at her in seductive fashion and mirrors it back, she begins to feel aroused. * Hatfield, Cacioppo, & Rapson, 1994 | † Damasio, 1994

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It’s possible for a woman to become too excited with you. Due to “emotional cresting”, if her emotions “peak” too early (before you’re ready to escalate things or have sex), those emotions can crash... and the interaction will end. Magic eyes bring a woman into a steady, calm, seductive atmosphere. It tamps down overexcited emotions and prevents emotional crashes. The technique thus increases the “robustness” of your courtships... and allows you to avoid blow ups due to having done too well with a girl. 29

You won’t usually use intimidation with women. Yet it’s a useful trick to have up your sleeve for those (hopefully rare) moments when you lock horns with other men. In such situations, magic eyes + an underlook [tucked chin], lowered eyebrows, and a frown or grimace will back down most opponents. Few men can gaze with such focused, intense, and dangerous-seeming rage – it’s startling to encounter. 30

Once you’ve got magic eyes down, it pretty much always works. You’ll still run into the odd “off” scenario here and there (which I’ll discuss in this section), but it’s rare. On the other hand, while you’re still adjusting to the technique, you’ll find you get it wrong often. To aid your learning, I’ve included a small guide to troubleshooting magic eyes that’ll help you identify common mistakes and remedy them. 32

The three (3) most common magic eyes mistakes are: 1.  Never breaking eye contact 2.  Switching eye-to-eye 3.  Too-nice or too-timid conversation Let’s have a look at each. 33

Sometimes guys get focused on eye contact... and then they get too focused. So focused they never break eye contact, in fact. And then it starts to feel “off” to the person they’re speaking with. However, the general rules of eye contact are: •  When you’re the speaker, you should hold eye contact about 70% to 80% of the time, and break it (to the side – a neutral break) the rest of the time. Break while thinking, or at an emotional points or punch lines. •  When you’re the listener, you should hold eye contact about 90% of the time. When the speaker breaks eye contact, break eye contact yourself sometimes. Other times, maintain it. If she breaks it often you’ll have to break more often too... but not as often as her – by holding more eye contact, you show interest; by not holding too much more you match her. 34

If at any time you start to feel like you come across as “attention seeking”, or you feel like you’re trying too hard, check your eye contact. If you notice your eyes switching from one of her eyes to the other, stop, and focus on the bridge of her nose. Once you’ve spent a month or two zeroing in on this spot, you’ll do it automatically. This is chiefly a problem less experienced magic eyes users run into. 35

Magic eyes communicate confidence, boldness, sensuality, and desire. If you aren’t playful with women though... if you don’t flirt and tease and chase frame and touch and allure them... women can begin to feel an incongruence between your vibe and your behavior. Your vibe says “sexy”, but your behavior says “just friends.” If you have women react oddly, like they’ve picked up on incongruence, check to see if you’ve used magic eyes alongside a too-timid style. If so, rather than drop the magic eyes, be a little bolder with women. 36

Sometimes you will still run into women who are “sexually frigid.” That doesn’t just mean sexually inexperienced. There are plenty of sexually inexperienced women who find male sexuality intoxicating (they just haven’t been exposed to much of it yet). Likewise, there are some sexually experienced (occasionally, you’ll even meet very sexually experienced) women who are very guarded toward male sexuality. Sometimes they’ve always been that way. Sometimes they’ve only become that way recently... they decided it was time for them to “get serious” and quit “wasting time on players.” When you meet women like this and use magic eyes, even if you’re doing everything right, they’ll still get uncomfortable. They won’t be seduced; they’ll get weird. 37

The thing to understand here is (provided your fundamentals are in shape and you’ve followed the steps from this book) you’ve done nothing wrong. The girl in question finds male sexuality (or maleness in general) unnerving and doesn’t want it displayed around her. Or, more often, for one reason or another she’s decided she doesn’t want your sexuality displayed around her. While you could spend the next six months “working on” a girl like this and trying to get her, the better option is to move onto a woman who enjoys to view you as a man and interact with you as a woman. You’ll rarely run into this weirdness once you’re experienced. It’s a “several times a year” event, basically, even if you meet lots of girls. 38

Magic eye contact is made up of two parts: 1.  Gaze focus, and 2.  Gaze intensity Your gaze should be focused on the bridge of her nose, between her eyes. Your intensity should be zeroed in, full attention on her. 39

The most important rule for magic eyes: Focus on her, and don’t move eyes or un-focus! All she really needs is an attractive man zeroed in on her.

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Not everyone has a great natural intuition for eye contact. Men with autism spectrum disorders or men who’ve been socially isolated can struggle with basic social eye contact rules. If you’re in this category and want detailed, nuanced rules on how people use eye contact socially, I suggest you look up online and grab a copy of the paper below. It collects close to 300 scientific studies of how humans use eye contact to communicate, and summarizes their findings: Kleinke, C. L. (1986). Gaze and eye contact: a research review. Psychological bulletin, 100(1), 78. 41

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