Talking Endlessly Vol 1.pdf

How To Talk Endlessly Become An Overnight Black Belt Master At Talking Endlessly Using The AEIOU System CR James

Hello my friend. I'll get straight to the point, as you already realize this is a report on how to keep the conversation going - specifically for guys who sometimes find themselves in situations where they don't know what to say next. Before I get started this is one of my favorite type of reports because it's something that I use + it's something that a lot of people have asked me about. And it's easy to test. You'll know right away how valuable this is. And I promise you - this is not like anything you've ever seen. At any rate, once you understand the system, you'll be able to smoothly keep the conversation going with any woman (...or any person - because technically, it's not gender specific.) At any rate, I created it for several reasons. Number one, for myself. And number two, I've had several people ask me about this sort of thing. Normally, when someone asks, I would just provide a few strategies based on what I currently do. However (those old responses) don't compare to what you're about to learn. As you may know, many of my reports (that have to do with improving the attraction and chemistry) are generally structured in terms of saying something for the purpose of having a desired effect. Whether that's to:    

Increase your level of attraction Increase the connection Get her sexually aroused Etc.

If you were to read a few of those reports (especially back to back) you might end up coming to the false conclusion that 95% - 100% of what you'll end up saying is intended to send some sort of signal of impact. In reality, it's more like 2% - 10%. If you've had any sort of success with 'strategic signal sending' (or however you choose to label it), then you know that most of what you end up saying (overall) is normal/neutral stuff (that defines who you are). To make it even more clear: If you were to talk to any woman on an ongoing basis over the course of several months, in terms of the breakdown of impact during the conversation, it might be something like:

10% - High Impact (Positive) Signals (i.e. builds/maintains sexual value, builds/maintains sexual tension, builds/maintains the connection, etc.) 88% - Neutral Impact (doesn't hurt you, doesn't help you) 2% - Negative Impact Signal (something that backfired, caught her at the wrong time and didn't realize it, didn't know any better, etc.) In terms of building/maintaining the relationship (or dating interaction), you're basically playing a game of minimizing the negative impact experiences and maximizing the high impact events. And still overall, most of what you'll say will still be neutral. Let's move on. Question: Are 'moments of silences' bad? Not really. A lot of times it may feel as though a vocal stream has to be perfectly continuous the whole time. But in reality, a few breaks are fine. And it's normal. In fact, it's much better to have a few breaks with a generally good dialogue flow (with a good sprinkling of high impact signals) than to have a perfectly continuously dialogue exchange with a high concentration of negative impact events (i.e. not allowing her to talk and/or indirectly conveying lots of antiseductive behaviors). The only time 'moments of silences' are bad is if they drag out way too long and/or they take place at key moments. For example:   

if you're on a first date with a woman and you're at that early 'getting to know each other phase' you and your girlfriend are on a picnic in the park and there's way too much silence. etc.

The good news is when you can keep the conversation going (the right way) it will convert neutral filler talk into a high impact signal (i.e. increased connection, increased interaction value, etc.) And on the flipside, if the conversation is crammed with lot stretches of 'awkward silences' it can turn neutral filler talk into a negative event (i.e. she'll be bored -- and/or -- she'll be frustrated -- and/or -- she'll think that you find her boring -- and/or -- she'll think you're ready to leave/get off the phone -- and/or -other negative 'misreads'). With that in mind...

Let's dive in.

The Overview of This System What we'll be covering is an easy to remember system for keeping the conversation going for an extended amount of time. We'll go over each step and you'll be able to use this unique system forever. From this point on, you will greatly minimize awkward silences by using this clever system. And keep in mind, we're not going to cover how to send attraction signals or how to conversationally seduce a woman. We're also not going to cover any sort of game plan for first-dates or how to improve the relationship and sex life. This will be a system for keeping the conversation going because when you're effective at that, it builds the connection, it opens her up, and it increases the impact of other effective techniques and much more! In fact, I never thought about this at the time until I decided to create this report, but at the time when I first met my wife, I actually was trying to decide between two girls. The first girl was in my college English class. I had been checking her out in class for months before I finally introduced myself and got her phone number. Then the very next day, I met my wife when I was buying feeder-fish (gold fish) for my piranhas. She was working at the fish store, and she asked me did I need any help and then started getting playful and friendly. We (my wife and I) talked for while and got to know each other a little bit and then I ended up asking for her phone number before I left. Later on in the day, I decided to call the English Class girl (who I met the day before) and we talked a little bit. The mutual attraction was definitely there at first. In fact, she hinted a couple of times about this awesome jazz lounge downtown. But after awhile, the conversation went stale pretty fast. Probably a result of the both of us being 'not so good' at keeping the conversation going. Although at the time, I kind of felt like a failure. But I picked myself up pretty fast because what's done is done. At any rate, after I got off the phone with her - literally minutes later - I called my wife and talked to her on the phone for the first time. The conversation was a whole lot smoother! And I can't take all of the credit.

It's not like I became instantly skilled in a matter of minutes. lol. It was only because she (my wife) was way more skilled in this area (than the other girl)(and me). And the impact is incredibly amazing when you really think about it and break it down. She (my wife) turned me from 'not knowing what to say' to a 'chatter box'. I wish I had the awesome at that time to appreciate the simplicity of what took place that day. When you think about it, Good/Skilled/Natural Conversationalists are often great at knowing what to say + getting you to talk + talking in a way that 'fills' your brain with ideas of what to talk about. Some people are just easier and more fun to talk to. In fact, I clearly remember the next day or two thinking about which one of these two new girls I was going to call and the choice was super easy. Luckily in this case, the easier to talk to girl just so happen to have a lot of qualities I liked. And the point of this story is pretty obvious - as people, we want to hang around likable people who are easy to talk to. The interaction value is much higher. And if you look at it from a conditioning perspective - the more pleasurable an interaction is, the more you'll crave that experience. With that in mind, let's get to the good stuff. This system (although this is the first time it's been released) is actually the result of several evolutions of an earlier version that I came up with years ago. For me, some people are easier to talk to - and I don't need a "nerdy system" to have an entertaining conversation with them. With other people it's tough. In fact, even though my wife is a natural 'endless talker' (literally speaking. lol), there was times when I noticed that our conversations (at key times) would get somewhat stale/bland. So I created a simple system (the early version years ago) where I basically made it a point to just get her to elaborate on what she was talking about. You may have instinctively done this before. It wasn't nothing fancy that I wrote down. In fact, lots of people do this naturally and lots of people do it on purpose.

Let's cover how this system evolved. Version 1.0 - Just focus on getting her to elaborate on something. Version 1.2 - Then later, I would make it a point to just have some stuff to talk about ahead of time that way if any 'moments of silence' took place, I would just POP OFF one of these stories. Pretty simple. And whenever someone asked me 'how do I keep the conversation going', my reply would generally be something along the lines of one of those two versions (1.0 or 1.2). Version 1.3 - Then I Made it a point to do both. As you can imagine, a really good strategy for keeping the conversation going should involve: Part A - Ways to keep her talking Part B - Ways to keep yourself talking

When you think about some sort of system that would help you to keep the conversation going, chances are you want something that does two basic things. 1. Very easy to memorize 2. Very flexible That's what this system is. With Version 1.3, the game plan was simple: Get her to elaborate on something she just said + Have something to talk about

Not bad! Does it work? Yes. However... We can do much better! (Over time, the 'system' evolved beyond this.) For me, whenever something works great, I try to think of ways to add layers on to it. In this case, there are more opportunities to create a much more superior system. And we're not going to scrap the one above (as a way of arriving at something better). Instead, we'll add layers to it -- since it works already -- as a way of arriving at something better! As far as the 'keeping her talking' part of the formula, if we look closely we can see that 'getting her to elaborate' is really just ONE TYPE of question. It's pretty good because it's somewhat flexible. If she says: The car ran over the dog. You could say many things (as a way of getting her to elaborate). What kind of car? Who was driving the car? How fast was it going? Where do this happen? What type of dog? How old was the dog? And even though it's a flexible method, we could ask other questions. So if we zoom-out, we can see that ASKING HER A QUESTION (Asking For

Information) is the most 'general' way of doing this. And for the keeping yourself talking part of the equation, we'll rephrase that to Sharing Information.

Quick Background: I have 3 books on my bookshelf on the subject of "How To Talk To Anyone" (2 are bestsellers and the other one is my favorite of the 3). One of them has a chapter on how to keep the conversation going that involves repeating back what the person just said. I've done that sort of thing before. It kind of works. But there are three issues: It's not flexible. That means there are times when it's not appropriate. Two, if you keep repeating too much, you'll just sound silly. Three, there are better and easier ways to keep a person talking. So it's an ok tactic. Another one of these 3 books has a chapter on how to keep the conversation going that involves saying phrases like "awesome" "great" "wow" after the person is done speaking. (This book is a best seller.) In fact, the first 3 on the list are: absolutely aha all right ...and then the author lists 133 more of these simple phrases! Yes. A total of 136!!! The good news: This works and it shows that you're listening. But to me, the main issue I have with saying these sort of things after someone is speaking (as a 'get her talking' talking) is that there are better ways to do this.

To be fair, two of my reports (Super Approach Power and Super Interaction Power) would be more useful if they even had a section on how to keep the conversation going. But they don't, which is why this report exists. To continue, instead of the strategy of 'ASKING her to elaborate' as the exclusive way of getting her to keep talking, we're going to replace that with ASK FOR INFORMATION (i.e. Ask Her a Question). As you can see that's even more flexible. Instead of asking her to elaborate (where, essentially you asking "Can you give me more details?"), you can ask ANY QUESTION. However, there is a problem. Having a strategy when it's your goal to ask any question is way too general. There's only a zillion different questions you can ask. And because there's no 'target question' to help you with narrowing down a specific type of question (i.e. "Can you elaborate on XYZ?"), it's pointless in its general form. That's like saying: "...in order to keep her talking you need to say stuff to keep her talking?" So if 'Asking Questions' (as a way of keeping her talking) is way too general and 'Asking her to elaborate' is too specific, then we need to meet in the middle. Before we do that, let's at least establish that this is the core structure that we're working with.

That's the core layer. Which again, at this point isn't that useful... but we're going to build layers on to it.

So think of Asking Questions + Sharing Information as the inner core (orange) circle. And think of each 'gray layer' as a more evolved (more useful) version on the core layer. Keep in mind that even though the 'Asking Questions + Sharing Information' core strategy isn't as useful as what it will eventually evolve into, it is better than what most people do. So it's a big difference to know & focus on the core structure. Let's face it. If you're in the middle of an extended 'blank brained' moment of silence, there's a difference between thinking to yourself "I don't know what to say." "I don't know what to say." "I don't know what to say." VS. "What could I ask her?" "What could I share with her?" Would you agree? Let's move on. And guess what? I have a surprise treat for you. Because if you can remember those 2 things (Asking & Sharing) then...

Congratulations! You have earned your White Belt (Level 1)!

Level 2

Remember: If 'Asking Questions' (as a way of keeping her talking) is way too general and 'Asking her to elaborate on XYZ' is too specific, then we need to meet in the middle. As far as level 2, we're going to meet in the middle. All you have to do is remember: A E I O U. A: Advice E: Elaborate I: If O: Opinion U: Unique As you can see, you're not being challenged to remember 136 words. You just need to take the time right now (whether it takes you 1 minute or 2 hours) to memorize these 5 simple words. Did you do it? Are you able to close your eyes right now and give yourself a test? Ok give it a try. Wow! Not bad... Do you want another surprise? Here you go... At this point, if you're able to memorize these 5 words, then...

Congratulations you've quickly earned your Yellow Belt! And I will say that most people don't get their Yellow Belt that quickly after their White Belt, but you must be pretty smart. lol In all seriousness, most of the people I personally know who aren't too smooth conversationalists - and often quite at times - tend to be relatively more intelligent. People's brains operate differently. Some people are naturals at fighting. They were born with good instincts. However: Many people (who aren't naturals) who are interested in this sort of thing, end up training and becoming better than the 'naturals'. On a similar note: Some people are born being naturally stronger than most

people. However: A lot of skinny people who end up training (lifting weights) end up becoming stronger than the 'naturals'. You may have noticed this sort of pattern in many areas of life: fighting, strength, athleticism, being skilled with women, intelligence, etc. It applies here as well. Except in this case, the cool bonus is that the training phase is much shorter. Look how fast you got your Yellow Belt? lol At any rate, let's break down the current (Yellow Belt) system visually.

As you can see, if you can remember Asking + Sharing (White Belt) and you can remember 5 simple words (Yellow Belt), you can merge the two to create 10 ways to keep the conversation going. And to really break it down - at the Yellow Belt level - if you're in a moment of awkward silence, there is a difference between saying to yourself: "I don't know what to say." "I don't know what to say." "I don't know what to say." VS. Asking Her: "What advice could I ask her about?" "What could I ask her to elaborate on?" "What (if-based) scenario could I ask her about?" "What opinion could I ask her about?" "What's something unique I could ask her about?" Sharing Information "What advice could I share with her?" "What could I elaborate on?" "What (if-based) scenario could I share with her?"

"What opinion could I share?" "What's something unique I could share?"

I would recommend that you test this out first before moving on the other levels/belts.

One obstacle that you might run into (or you might not) is trying to listen to her and process what she's saying, while simultaneously thinking about the concepts of: Sharing/Asking & AEIOU In other words, while she's talking, you might end up trying to process what she's saying while internally thinking ("Ok A is advice... E is elaborate...ummm") So even if you have it successfully memorized, when you're in the moment, the recall might not be as strong. If you have trouble mentally managing Sharing/Asking & AEIOU, don't worry about it. Keep doing it. You'll get better. Of course, you might not struggle with this at all, but if you do, it's no big deal. Moving on... Having the Yellow Belt is all about remembering the 10 Conversation Flow-ers. The next step is to actually use this in a conversation! This is the fun part. And once you do this in a real-life conversation (with anyone - male or female), then...

Congratulations you've Now earned your Orange Belt! Do you have to perform this perfectly in order to get the Orange Belt?

No. In fact, you could bomb big time and you still will get the orange belt. You just want to get your feet wet. There's other stuff that we're going to cover. Keep in mind, when you're doing this in real time, you're not going to be EXCLUSIVELY focused on asking these 5 questions or sharing these 5 details. In other words, the structure will NOT look like this. Her: Blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah You: Can you elaborate on XYZ? Her: Blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah You: What's your opinion on YXZ? Her: Blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah You: Can you elaborate on XYZ? Her: Blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah You: What's your advice on XYZ? In real-time, she'll say something ("blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah") and you might end up:   

Giving a reaction ("Oh really.") Making a quick statement ("Well that explains why XYZ is the case") or some other comment/question

And when the time is right, you could use one of the AEIOU details 

What's your opinion on Bob making her upset? (or something more naturally worded ==> "Do you think the asshole was trying to hurt her feelings?")

And you don't have to do them all to get your Orange Belt. Just do 2-4 of them and that's it. Get the feel of it. Keep in mind, we're just scratching the surface. You're going to get everything you need. Plus more! But for now, doing is an important step. There will be some people who will be Orange Belt Masters the first time around. Some will struggle with asking one of the AEIOU details in real time. Don't worry about it. In many aspects of life, you need a lot of practice to get better.

For example, the first time you had sex you weren't nearly as good as you are now. The first time you drove a car, you weren't nearly as good as you are now. However, since this system is based on 'talking' something you've done your whole life (whether you're generally quiet or very talkative), it's very possible to become very skilled pretty fast (at the Orange Belt level and beyond). In fact, if you've read and performed successfully my other conversation-based techniques (for building sexual value and/or building sexual tension and/or other signals) you have an even greater advantage, because you already have the 'brain experience' of thinking while talking.

So that's why the orange belt can only be achieved by doing (even if it's only a 5 minute conversation via IM chat with your mother or buddy). Once you see how easy and fun it is to do (with a male or female) you'll be excited to add this to your ongoing game plan. And it's a warm up to the rest of system. Plus you may end up coming up with your own modifications. It's always a good philosophy to test on a small scale first - which involves doing. That way you can let the results/experience dictate how to improve the system or add slight modifications that work for you. With that in mind, you can only get your orange belt by testing this out (male or female). Don't worry about being perfect or nailing it. The success is just getting in there and doing it. Let's move on to the next step... Do you think it will be hard? Of course, not! All you have to do is memorize 4 words. A. B. C. D.

You Her Someone Else Something Else

That's it. If you can do that (and you can test it right now by closing your eyes) then...

Congratulations you've Now earned your Blue Belt!

And when we put it altogether - visually - we get this:

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This is the stage where you have to know yourself. You might be able to test this sort of thing out the first time @ the blue belt level or it might be easier to first start with the Orange Belt (everything above without the topics). And since we're taking an "adding layers" approach, we're going to merge the new information (topics) with the existing information. You see it's much simpler to remember: AEIOU + Ask&Share + You/Her/Someone/Something However, if we want to list all of the combinations, it would look this:

1A. What advice could I ask her about me? 1B. What advice could I ask her about herself? 1C. What advice could I ask her about someone else? 1D. What advice could I ask her about something else? 2A. What could I ask her to elaborate on about herself? 2B. What could I ask her to elaborate on about me? 2C. What could I ask her to elaborate on about someone else? 2D. What could I ask her to elaborate on about something else? 3A. What (if-based) scenario could I ask her about me? 3B. What (if-based) scenario could I ask her about herself? 3C. What (if-based) scenario could I ask her about someone else? 3D. What (if-based) scenario could I ask her about something else? 4A. What opinion could I ask her about me? 4B. What opinion could I ask her about herself? 4C. What opinion could I ask her about someone else? 4D. What opinion could I ask her about something else? 5A. What's something I could ask her that's unique about me? 5B. What's something I could ask her that's unique about herself? 5C. What's something I could ask her that's unique about someone else? 5D. What's something I could ask her that's unique about something else? 6A. What advice could I share with her about me? 6B. What advice could I share with her about herself? 6C. What advice could I share with her about someone else? 6D. What advice could I share with her about something else? 7A. What could I elaborate on about me? 7B. What could I elaborate on about herself? 7C. What could I elaborate on about someone else? 7D. What could I elaborate on about something else? 8A. What (if-based) scenario could I share with her? 8B. What (if-based) scenario could I share with her? 8C. What (if-based) scenario could I share with her? 8D. What (if-based) scenario could I share with her? 9A. What opinion could I share about me? 9B. What opinion could I share about herself? 9C. What opinion could I share about someone else? 9D. What opinion could I share about something else? 10A. What's something unique I could share about me? 10B. What's something unique I could share about herself? 10C. What's something unique I could share about someone else? 10D. What's something unique I could share about something else?

Seems like a lot to memorize. But we're not going to attempt to memorize this long list. We just need to know: Ask&Share ==> AEIOU ==> You, Her, Someone Else, Something Else That's it. We can "Generate/Access" an item on the "long list", if we are able to remember those 3 simple chunks: White Belt

Yellow/Orange Belt

Blue Belt

Ask&Share

AEIOU

You/Her/Someone/Something

To make it even easier, here's a special trick you can do. You may need to do this to help you. You may not.

To start, visualize 3 Big Screen TVs next to each other (it can be: vertically, horizontally, triangular, randomly floating, etc). Read the part below and then do the instructions with your eyes closed. It can be done in a matter of 20 seconds! On TV #1: Imagine seeing someone ask someone a question. Now, see that person sharing information. On TV #2: Imagine seeing YOURSELF in a weird mini-movie where you are Advising a Lab Rat. And then you are asking him If his Opinions Are Unique. (And because it's a silly visual to be talking to a rodent, it's another way of remembering: Advice. Elaborate. If. Opinion. Unique) On TV #3: Imagine seeing You, Her (a woman), Someone with a blank face and a big box with question marks all over it. (And because it's something a little unusual that you never visualized before it's another way of remembering: You, Her, Someone else, Something else.) Now go back to TV #1, and then TV #2 and then TV #3 and then keep repeating the cycle 4-10 times. After that, it will even more deeply engrained. Note: I'm certain that most people reading this will not need to do the 3 TV memory exercise. In fact, I was tempted to 'edit it out' of the report. But who knows, maybe a few people reading this might need it. At any rate, if you find that you need a little extra help remembering, do it for a few cycles and it will be stuck. As far as the Blue Belt level, knowing about the topic targets "you, her, someone else, something else" provides a little bit more flexibility.

In other words...if she's telling you a story about how her mother should have raised her in a better way or something like that, and then afterwards she's kind of silent... ...if you think about advice, elaborate, if, opinion and unique, you might not come up with a way to use them. You might be stuck a little bit, because it's kind of new. That could happen when you first start out. It's no big deal. In fact, we have solutions for this sort of thing that we'll get to later. However when you think of AEIOU + the extra topic targets (i.e. "you, her, someone else, something else"), it makes it easier. In other words, if someone asked you:

The person: Hey. Give me an opinion on anything? (In other words, the person is literally asking you that question.) With that sort of direction-less question, you might hesitate a little bit - even though numerically there are infinite answers. However, if the person said "give me an opinion about women", suddenly it's an easier question to answer because it has direction. Aaaaaaand....if they said "give me your opinion about women.... who believe in giving their partners lots of blow jobs everyday".... That has even more direction and it's a whole easier to answer. lol. Right? (unless of course, you're a woman reading this and you don't enjoy seeing a man smile.) Seriously, those "topic targets" (you, her, someone else, something else) are design to provide direction. So if she's talking about how her mother should have raised her in a better way or something like that... if you think about advice, elaborate, if, opinion and unique, you might not come up with a way to use them. However the "topic targets" (i.e. "you, her, someone else, something else") point you closer in some sort of direction. We'll use this as a color-code key. White Belt

Yellow/Orange Belt

Blue Belt

Ask&Share

AEIOU

You/Her/Someone/Something

And let's say we focused just on the "O" (opinion) portion of AEIOU. So just by thinking of the topic targets, you might end up going from "how do I apply "opinion" to hearing a story about how her mother raised her to several options such as:     

asking her to give you HER opinion on how her mother should have raised her. sharing YOUR opinion on what her mother was attempting to do by raising her the way she did. sharing YOUR opinion on how her mother's parental philosophy helped in ways that she may not have considered. asking her about her opinion on SOMEONE ELSE'S philosophy. sharing with her a book [SOMETHING ELSE] that provided a list of opinions on various ways of raising kids.

So that's what the topic targets are designed to do. And that's another reason why it's better to memorize AEIOU & You/Her/Someone/Something vs. the long list of 40 items that was shown 2 pages ago. Let's take a step back for a second. The system is mainly about AEIOU. When it comes to a woman talking, there are many ways to keep her talking. The selection of AEIOU is very strategic. Before we cover that. Let's go over some possible questions you may have. Something you may or may not be wondering is what's the difference between advice (A) and opinion (O) in the AEIOU system? Good Question! In many cases, advice and opinion are somewhat interchangeable. In our case, advice has to do with a strategy or how to do something (left-brain processing). For example: Step 1 do this. Step 2 do that. And so on. And for opinion, that has to do with beliefs/feelings (right-brain processing). For example her beliefs or feelings about something. With that said, when you're in the moment - performing this live - and she says something like "blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah" and then you end up asking for her advice (as a way of keeping the conversation going) it doesn't matter if she gives you a strategy-type (left brain) response or a feelings/belieftype (right brain) response. Because the goal is to keep her talking. The reason why it's important FOR US to know the difference is because it allows us (when we do care) to ask the question in different ways. And in certain situations we may want to know her "strategy for doing XYZ" instead of her "feelings about XYZ" For example, by knowing the difference, for advice (A) we could end up saying: "...umm... so what's your advice on XYZ?" "...ok. I see. Let me clear this up. What should the first step be?" "... I see. So how would Bob go about doing that?" As you can see, we're asking her to explain a process. Something that is action-

based. And there are different ways of asking it without using the word "Advice". And with opinions, you could end up saying: "...umm...interesting... so how did that make you feel?" "...so do you think that jerk understood how XYZ affected her?" "...what's your opinion[thoughts/feelings] about XYZ?" Do you see the difference? Another question you may (or may not) have is what about the "if" part? What's that all about? It's simple. All you have to do is ask her: "What if xyz is the case, then what?" More examples: Her: blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah You: Interesting. That makes sense, but what if someone were to blah blah blah blah Her: blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah You: Does it also work if xyz is blah blah blah blah Her: blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah You: Interesting. Let me ask you this. What would you have done (if you were) in that situation? Do you see how simple it is? What about the unique (U) part? What's that all about? All you have to do is ask about something unique (unusual/weird) about the topic. That's basically it. Another question you may have is: Do you have to ask AEIOU details? No. The AEIOU details are just 5 types of questions. As time goes on -- based on your communication style and/or ideas -- you may end up 'adding a few more' to the list. When expanding on the old version (that just featured 'getting her to elaborate'), I thought it would be smart/useful to not only meet in the middle with a short (highly memorable) list... But on top of that, ask question-types that are designed to make the conversation

more interesting. So each one of the five is not only a way of getting her to talk endlessly, but it guides the conversation along and makes it interesting. For example:

#1. Women love to give advice. That's why that's built in. In fact, it will often register as a compliment (The message: You value her advice/methodology.) #2. Asking someone to elaborate is a good listening technique. It shows that you care about you're paying attention. In school you may remember learning that a way of elaborating on a story is to answer the questions: What, Where, Why, How and When. For us, that would fall under "elaborate". Her: The car ran over the dog. You: How fast was the car going? Her: Very fast. (The car quickly ran over the dog.) If you really want to keep the 'elaborate part' super simple. Just listen to what she's saying, and then ask details about the nouns (car/dog) and the verbs (ran over). #3. As far as the 'If' part, this was chosen because you can creatively add an 'if' to any type of conversion. And it's a simple way of accessing the creative part of her mind. Let's say a bunch of details were already provided. In that situation it might not be the best move to ask for more details (elaborating). However, you could ask for an if question. Her: The blue car quickly ran over the white young dog. And now the owner of the puppy is angry because the car never stopped. You: What's wrong with people these days. If that was my puppy, I probably would blah blah blah Her: My friend Mary's boss got angry with her because she made one little mistake. You: Did he yell at her? What happened? Her: blah blah blah.... You: What would you do IF you were in that situation? Her: blah blah blah.... You: Interesting. Ok what about IF XYZ were the case. As you can see, IF-based question are somewhat infinite. You can just come up with a scenario and then ask her IF XYZ were the case, how would she react ...or how would it make her feel IF XYZ happened. Note: The 'if' details work really great when you are providing the story. Remember the AEIOU details apply to asking her and 'you sharing' as well.

#4. Women love to give their opinion (how things make them feel). They also love sharing their beliefs/thoughts and things along those lines. #5. As far as the unique (U) part. Most of the news and interesting viral videos are driven by something unique/unusual. The human brain loves stuff that in unique and out of the ordinary. We don't like hearing/seeing/experiencing the same stuff. So by asking about something 'unique', you end up by default guiding the conversation to potentially interesting topics. So that's why these 5 are selected. (Again, feel free to add to the list as you get comfortable with them.) I don't think you will need to because there so many variations with each one. As you can see, not only are they easy to remember. And not only do they work amazingly to keep the conversation going, but they are designed to force the conversation in the direction of something interesting. She may end up telling you a story about something interesting that happened and when you add these details, you'll end up bringing more life to the story/topic. And also (as another bonus), these five details force you to understand her better (i.e. her feelings, her beliefs, how she approaches situations, the type of advice she gives in certain situations, how she would react in some sort of imaginary scenario, etc.). Let's move on. When I used my old version (version 1.0) where I just focused on getting the person to elaborate on something he/she said, I noticed that there were plenty of times when it wasn't really appropriate to ask her to elaborate. It was somewhat limited. However, with this approach (AEIOU), you'll find it to be easy, very flexible and fun.

Phase 2 With Phase 1 (everything we covered up until this point), the emphasis was all about expanding what she is saying and expanding what you're saying. Now we're going to fill in some more "simple pieces" that will PUZZLE everything together in a smooth way. Take a lot at the last chart again.

With phase 2, we're going to do 2 basic things. Basic Thing #1: Pretend that we have all of the Phase 1 stuff practiced and mastered. Realistically, I know that while you're reading this section for the first time, it's possible that you may not have fully practiced the section 1 stuff. That's fine. Besides it's really easy and you'll be amazed at how quickly you'll pick this up. Basic Thing #2: We're going to be learning the "4 possible actions" as if we're in the middle of a live conversation. What are "4 possible [basic] actions"? That's what we're about to cover. Let's get to it.

Knowing The 4 Basic Actions Whenever a (longer than normal) moment of silence is taking place, it's based on just two conditions. Condition #1: She just got finished saying something ==> And now the both of you are silent. Condition #2: You just got finished saying something ==> And now the both of you are silent. After either condition, there are 4 basic actions: Action #1. More Details (AEIOU details or whatever). Action #2. A Reaction / Quick Comment Action #3. Similar Story/Information Action #4. New Topic (Changing the Subject) Keeping the Asking (Keeping her talking) and Sharing (Keeping yourself talking) philosophy in mind, these 4 basic actions expand to 8. To break it down some more... H = Her (Asking) Y = You (Sharing) Action #1H. [We covered this in Phase 1] You can ask her for more information (AEIOU details or whatever). Condition #1: Her: Sue is having relationship problems with Bob blah blah blah blah You: Did you have any advice for her? (or any of the AEIOU options)

Condition #2: You: Jim started working out at a new Gym blah blah blah ((pause)) Do you have any advice for what type of recovery drink he should use?

Action #1Y. [We covered this in Phase 1] You can share more details (AEIOU details or whatever). Condition #1: Her: Sue and Bob are back together again blah blah blah blah You: I figured that what happen. As far as I'm concerned {opinion} they are made for each other.

Condition #2: You: Jim started working out at a new Gym blah blah blah ((pause)) My advice to him is to blah blah blah

Action #2H. [We (kinda) mentioned this in Phase 1] This is where you would ask her for some sort of reaction (or quick comment). Condition #2: You: Sue just met a new guy named Bob blah blah blah blah ((pause)) What do you think?

Action #2Y. [We (kinda) mentioned this in Phase 1] This is where you can give some sort of reaction (or quick comment). For example: Condition #1: Her: Sue and Bob are going on vacation together next month blah blah blah blah You: Oh really. Good for them blah blah blah blah

Often times she will be done telling the story (for Condition #1) (or talking about what she's talking about) and a reaction (or quick comment/statement) will keep things flowing again. For Condition #2, you'll basically reacting to your own statement/story/information. Action #3H. [We didn't cover this in Phase 1] You can ask for similar information. Action #3Y. [We didn't cover this in Phase 1] You can share similar information. You're just basically sharing a similar story. Self-explanatory. Sometimes it will be brief. Sometimes it will create a new story (conversational thread). Important Note: This applies to everything in the report. Although we often will refer to conversations as "stories", during real-life interactions, she/you will have conversations that will sometimes be stories (event based), sharing plans, introspective-based topics, reflecting on life, etc. To keep it simple, we will refer to everything as "stories", "topics" or "information". Action #4H. [We didn't cover this in Phase 1] You can ask her to start a new topic / change the subject. Action #4Y. [We didn't cover this in Phase 1] You can start a new topic / change the subject. With either condition, you can blend the two different topics (i.e. "speaking of XYZ, I was wondering if...." OR "speaking of XYZ, did I tell you about....").

If you can't blend them, it's no big deal, just do what you probably already do which is saying something like "oh by the way...did I ever tell you about" OR just introduce the new topic. Moving on... And although we broke everything down in sections, the only thing you need to remember/know are the 4 basic actions. As you can see, after a moment of silence (whether it was condition #1 or #2), you can simply provide (or ask for)    

Action #1: More details (covered in Phase 1) Action #2: A simple reaction / comment Action #3: Similar topic Action #4: New topic

Those are the basic 4 actions. If you can remember those 4 simple actions, then

Congratulations you've Now earned your Purple Belt!

With the purple belt, it's based on remembering these 4 actions. That's it. However, at the next level, we're going to focus more on a system. And much of Phase 2 will focus on Action #4: Ask/Share: New Topics. In Phase 1, we covered Action #1. And as far as Action #2, those are just simple comments and reactions. It's not worth exploring deeply. And what I'm referring to is saying things like: "Oh really" "That's amazing!" "Wow!" Although we won't cover it deeply, I still think (when appropriate) it's great to do as a listening tactic to show that you're engaged. And as far as Action #3, since that's based on similar information, there's no need to create a system for it. In most cases, if she's telling you a story about when she first got a pet as a little girl, you don't need a system to help you remember that when you were a little boy you got a pet, too. So the value of Action #2 and Action #3 is remembering that they exist as 1 of the 4 basic options/actions. With that said, much of Phase 2 will focus on Action #4: Ask/Share: New Topics. This will be the meat of Phase 2.

The Meat of Phase 2: Introducing new topics

Before we get to our system for introducing new topics, we have to appreciate the simplicity of becoming an "overnight master". When you really break it down, talking endlessly is just a matter of getting really good at 4 basic skills. Skill #1: Keeping her talking (about the current topic) Skill #2: Keeping yourself talking (about the current topic) Skill #3: Introducing new topics Skill #4: Getting her to introduce new topics They all fuel each other. Right now, give yourself a grade (A, B, C, D, F) for each of the 4 skills. If you're not really sure, just quickly guess. The 4 Talking Endlessly Skills Skill #1: Keeping her talking (about the current topic) Skill #2: Keeping yourself talking (about the current topic) Skill #3: Introducing new topics Skill #4: Getting her to introduce new topics

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As you can imagine, if you were able to get an A for each skill, then by default you would be a Black Belt Master at talking endlessly. And the good news, is everything you need is to improve in each skill is in this report. And not only that, it's designed in a way where each Skill fuels/supports the other skills. Think about it... if you're really good an endlessly generating new topics (Skill #3) but you're not too good at keeping yourself talking (Skill #2) about that ONE INTERESTING topic, then you would be putting a strain on Skill #3. In other words, with this sort of profile (Strong @ Skill #3 + Weak @ Skill #2), in order to 'talk endlessly' you would have to be a beast at generating new topics. Because since you're ability to keep yourself talking about is weak, the only thing left is to keep generating new topics -- or -- figure out how to get skilled @ Skill #1 and/or Skill #4. Does that make sense? However, once you get good (i.e. using AEIOU details and understanding the 4 Basic Actions) at expanding a story/topic/information, you don't have to constantly come up with new topic after new topic after new topic. Right?

Because each topic/story/information is stretched out (in an interesting/engaging way). And on the flipside, if you're great at Skill #2, but not so good at Skill #3, then you're going to run into situations where things are really interesting and then they go flat and awkward really fast! I've been there it's not fun. One minute you're the funny/interesting guy on the phone and the next minute, you're boring & quiet. Point is, focus on all 4 Skills. At least know them. Give yourself a grade and challenge yourself to improve. When you're talking, get good at measuring & recognizing what's happening in the moment. Did you just have a mild Skill #2 collapse? Are you better at Skill #4 than you realized? In reality, the woman (or other person) also has 4 grades. For our purposes, we want to act as if the other person is F in all 4 categories. But you'll soon experience conversations much differently. You'll see how Person A is an A-C-C-F and Person B is a C-C-A-B In Phase 1, the AEIOU method was designed to introduce a simple way of doing Skill #1 and Skill #2. Skill #1: Keeping her talking (about the current topic) Skill #2: Keeping yourself talking (about the current topic) Skill #3: Introducing new topics Skill #4: Getting her to introduce new topics The only thing left is Skill #3: Introducing new topics and Skill #4: Getting her to introduce new topics. ...or Action #4: Introducing New Topics. That's what we're about to cover. When you really think about it, our goal really isn't about talking endlessly. We're not directly on a mission to FILL 'moments of silence' with just any sort of talking. If that were the case, then the next time you were talking to a woman and you experienced a moment of silence, you could just FILL that 'moment of silence' by: telling her something that happened during the football game (something you know she cares nothing about)...tell her that your favorite color is blue...tell her that tiger sharks eat

turtles and small whales.. start counting from 40 to 57......tell her that you can see her nipples through her shirt...start saying your ABCs really slowlyy...literally start saying the sound "blah blah blah"... tell her that Socrates was born in 469 BC...tell her speaking of let's do a 69 four times...ask her if she got the joke as if it was actually clever...start counting from 70 to 100.... literally start saying the sound "blah blah blah" (but louder and faster)... tell her that the Arctic fox is the only mammal native to Iceland...

Obviously, our goal is to keep the conversation flowing with topics that are (likely to be) interesting to her. With that in mind, we will factor that into our system. As you know, very few identify this sort of approach when they are talking to others. They're not as bad as the example we just demonstrated, but they're pretty close. Most people just talk about anything that pops in their mind whether you care or not. In some cases, this is ok if it's presented the right way. But it's best to talk about something that you know the person is interested in. Again, very few identify this sort of approach when they are talking to others. And the underlined letters above represent what the system is all about (in other words FEW ID stands for something). With Phase 1 we had a simple system. We just needed to remember: Ask&Share ==> AEIOU ==> You, Her, Someone Else, Something Else And then phase 2 (so far) we just needed to remember: More details/Reaction/Similar topic/New topic With Phase 1, we relied on a method that allows us to generate lots of possible options. For example, You could ask advice about how to deal with someone else. You could share an opinion about her You could share something unique about someone You could share something unique about something ...that just recently happened... from your past.... that happened in the news.... Etc.

And even though Phase 1 helps with Skill #1: Keeping her talking (about a current topic) & Skill #2: Keeping yourself talking (about a current topic), it also helps with: Skill #3: Introducing new topics Skill #4: Getting her to introduce new topics For example, as a way of starting a new topic, you could use PHASE 1 (AEIOU)... For example: You could ask advice about how to deal with someone else However, we're going to focus on a different system for creating new topics. However, it's good to remember that you can use AEIOU for this. This new method is the perfect complement to Phase 1. Because it's great at helping you with Action #4: New topics With Phase 1, we relied on a method that allowed us to generate lots of possible options. With Phase 2, we're going to work on compiling things to talk about ahead of time. The good news is you can use this information over and over again with different people. All you have to do is remember: FEW ID: F: Funny E: Entertaining W: Weird I: Interesting D: Drama (that appeals to women) And also as a bonus (from Super Approach Power), HIPS Her... H: Hobbies I: Interests P: Passions S: Spare time activities You can use a text file, a mindmap, excel file or a word document to capture these stories/topics. And there are two parts:

Part 1: Anytime you (1) find a story, (2) come up with a story or (3) some interesting story falls in your lap that falls in the category of FEW ID and HIPS write it down in the Part 1 Chart (or write it down wherever). Part 2: Anytime you have a 'question for her' that falls in the category of FEW ID and HIPS write it down in the Part 2 Chart (or write it down wherever). Here's the basic structure of the 2 charts. Part 1: Sharing Funny Entertaining The story of XYZ The story of XYZ

The story of XYZ The story of XYZ

Part 2: Asking Funny Entertaining Ask her about something that is by default funny

Ask her about something that is by default entertaining

Weird

Interesting

Drama

The story of XYZ The story of XYZ

The story of XYZ The story of XYZ

The story of XYZ The story of XYZ

Weird

Interesting

Drama

Ask her about something that is by default weird

Ask her about something that is by default interesting

Ask her about something that is by default full of drama

What's the purpose? This will serve as a growing database. You could also "copy and paste" the chart into an email-to-yourself as a way of keeping this database of stories and topics with you (if you have a Smart Phone). The object is pretty simple, before you have a conversation you're going to 'grab' or quickly memorize 3-7 topics/questions from your 2 MASTER CHARTS. Once you're good at the AEIOU details as a way of expanding a topic/story, all you need is 3-7 stories/topics in your short-term memory to work with. And although this skill is referred to as 'talking endlessly', in reality you're not going to be having a conversation/interaction that lasts for 34 straight hours. In most cases, it will be a couple of hours. So having 3-7 stories 'quickly memorized' in your short-term memory combined with the ability to expand the story is more than enough. And as a bonus (let's say you happen to run out of stories), you can always use AEIOU Structure (specifically with the directional topics: you, her, someone else, something else) as a way of helping you generate new topics/stories or a way of getting her to generate a new topic. So by asking yourself What advice did I ever give to someone else? (that could help you come up with a story of a time when that happened)

What opinion do I have about something? Think of that as a backup. For the most part, we will use the FEW ID structure as a way of creating new topics.

Here's an example TEMPLATE chart you can download and use: http://superpowermedia.com/FEWID-Chart.doc

Note: When you're asking about FEW ID stories (Chart 2), you're NOT going to say something like: You: Can you tell me a story that is funny? Technically you could say that, but that's not the intention. When you are asking her for a story (getting her to introduce new topics) you're going to ask her a question that is likely to lead to a funny story. So instead of directly asking ("Can you tell me a funny/interesting story?"), you are going to come up with a question that is designed to give you a funny/interesting story. Does that make sense? For example, you could ask her a question like: You: Has there ever been a time when you were on a date and it was going well, and then out of nowhere it just took a turn for the worse? As you can imagine, if she's had this sort of experience, then by default it's going to get her to SHARE (a new topic) that's going to be interesting/funny/weird. You might be wondering... What's the difference between funny, entertaining, weird, interesting and drama-filled? For the most part, nothing. They're all pretty close. In fact, a lot of stories will fall in all categories. We're just creating this list because in some cases a weird story may not be technically funny. And a funny story might not be technically weird. And a story that's interesting may not be weird or funny. So that's the main reason why we have this list. If you have a story and you're not sure where to sort, just put in anywhere. Let's starting taking it to the next level.

Let's pretend that you spend the time and filled out the 2 charts: Part 1: Sharing Funny Entertaining

Weird

Interesting

Drama

The story The story of The story of The story of XYZ The story of of XYZ XYZ XYZ The story of XYZ XYZ The story The story of The story of The story of of XYZ XYZ XYZ XYZ Tip: Think of stories from your past, stories people have told you, find stories online by searching in google (search: "weird stories").

Part 2: Asking Funny Entertaining

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Ask her Ask her about Ask her about Ask her about Ask her about about something that is something that something that is something that something by default is by default by default is by default that is by entertaining weird interesting full of drama default funny Tip: Compiling this list is different because you're asking her questions. Think of recent conversations where she was passionately talking about something. Think of about her HIPS (hobbies, interests, passions and spare-time activities).

At any rate, if you were to find 7 stories in each category, you would have 70 stories/questions! As a tip: It helps (for other purposes that's outside the scope of this report) to pick FEWID stories/conversations that have a relationship/love/sex element to it. That way for other strategies (i.e. building sexual value, building sexual tension, etc.) you can make things flow together seamlessly. But for this report, we're not going to focus on other strategies. As you will discover, if you end up going through this process of finding lots of stories, you would end up with a short-cut for being skilled at all 4 of the major skills (for having endless & interesting conversations). The 4 Talking Endlessly Skills Skill #1: Keeping her talking (about the current topic) Skill #2: Keeping yourself talking (about the current topic) Skill #3: Introducing new topics Skill #4: Getting her to introduce new topics

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Can you see how those stories make it easier to be skilled at the above skills? Let's put it in perspective. Let's assume that I have a list of 4 entries in each category for Chart 1. And 4 entries in each category for Chart 2 (Asking), which means I have a grand total of 40 stories/questions.

Again: The chart has this structure. Part 1: Sharing Funny 1. The story of XYZ 2. The story of XYZ 3. The story of XYZ 4. The story of XYZ

Part 2: Asking Funny 1. Ask her about something that is by default funny 2. Ask her about something that is by default funny 3. Ask her about something that is by default funny 4. Ask her about something that is by default funny

Entertaining

Weird

Interesting

Drama

1. The story of XYZ 2. The story of XYZ 3. The story of XYZ 4. The story of XYZ

1. The story of XYZ 2. The story of XYZ 3. The story of XYZ 4. The story of XYZ

1. blog post I read on 'growing your own vegetables' 2. The story of XYZ 3. The story of XYZ 4. The story of XYZ

1. The story of XYZ 2. The story of XYZ 3. The story of XYZ 4. The story of XYZ

Entertaining

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1. Ask her about something that is by default entertaining 2. Ask her about something that is by default entertaining 3. Ask her about something that is by default entertaining 4. Ask her about something that is by default entertaining

1. Ask her about something that is by default weird 2. Ask her about something that is by default weird 3. Ask her about something that is by default weird 4. Ask her about something that is by default weird

1. Ask her about something that is by default interesting 2. Ask her about something that is by default interesting 3. Ask her about something that is by default interesting 4. Ask her about something that is by default interesting

1. Ask her about something that is by default full of drama 2. Ask her about something that is by default full of drama 3. Ask her about something that is by default full of drama 4. Ask her about something that is by default full of drama

(Pretend everything is filled in with a total of 40 stories/questions.) Do you remember when we showed how the PHASE 1 AEIOU Details are designed for Skill #1 and Skill #2. The 4 Talking Endlessly Skills Skill #1: Keeping her talking (about the current topic) Skill #2: Keeping yourself talking (about the current topic) Skill #3: Introducing new topics Skill #4: Getting her to introduce new topics

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But as a bonus, it could be use for Skill #3 and Skill #4? And do you remember how we talked about how the 2 FEWID Charts is great for helping you with Skill #3 and Skill #4. Well, as a bonus, the FEWID Charts actually help with Skill #1 and Skill #2.

If you don't see it right away, that's fine. You'll end up experiencing it. However, let's explain how the FEWID Chart (and actually any "interesting topic" that you end up sharing) actually works to keep her talking. In terms of how this chart would serve as a tool for all 4 skills: If I were to talk to my wife about an interesting blog post I read on 'growing your own vegetables' (something that she is interested in - HIPS) that 'sharing' of information is: #1: Going to be more interesting than me talking about a new player the Orioles might sign in the off season. #2: It's more likely to stimulate a long engaging response from her. In other words, had I said something like, "...the Orioles need better pitching blah blah blah", her likely response would be very short, something like: "Oh ok. That's nice" and that's it. But talking about an interesting 'grow your own vegetables blog post' is likely to stimulate a long engaging response. For example, she might ask me a lot of questions about the article. #3: In addition to that it's likely to "pop ideas into her mind" or "pull out related stories/knowledge". She might end up telling me about a few articles that she just read on this topic. #4: Once she is engaged into the story and sharing experiences (Action #3), from there I could do AEIOU stuff ("Interesting... could you elaborate on that? OR "So what are the first steps {advice} when you're deciding on a vegetable when you're about to XYZ?") Do you see how that ONE entry (blog post I read on 'growing your own vegetables') is very likely to lead to those 4 things above? That's the difference between selecting a dull story that creates an "oh ok" quick response and a great story that creates an engaged response where she is tuned in, asking questions and sharing similar stories. Dull story = 8 second conversation. Great story/topic = 20 minutes - 90 minutes. Typically when you think of "methods to get her talking", there is a tendency to think this is only done via questions. However, with this example, we can see how "pre-selected interesting topics" is another "method of getting her to talk" via strategically choosing topics that are likely to POP/SPARK ideas/topics in her mind. Does that make sense/ Here's the interesting thing about the 2 (FEWID) charts... Let's say that in the previous example, I created this "blog post about growing vegetables" entry as a result of knowing that she likes gardening.

In other words, in my mind I'm thinking about her HIPS and then I say to myself "Oh yeah. She likes gardening." And then from there, I go to google and type in "gardening blog posts" or something like that, and then I discover this article on growing veggies. That would of course fall in FEWID Chart 2: Sharing. On the other hand, and here's another cool bonus that makes this system so brilliant... I could have also thought about recent conversations that we just had. And let's say I started thinking and I recalled that two days ago, she was talking about growing veggies. And let's just say that recently I wasn't too engaged and I could have done a better job at AEIOU detailing. However, I could end up 'after the fact' thinking of questions and/or AEIOU details. And then put that on the chart. And then later I could initiate a conversation based on a question I had. Does that make sense? To make it crystal clear, let's say that Step 1: She was talking about veggies and I sucked at the AEIOU system Step 2: I realized an hour later that I sucked at the AEIOU system and that I clearly could have asked her "Could you elaborate on that veggie technique blah blah blah Step 3: (No big deal) Just put that on the FEWID Chart 2 Step 4: Use that the next time you talk to her as a way of introducing a new topic. For example: Me: Do you remember yesterday when you were talking about growing veggies and blah blah blah, I was wondering... What happens when you XYZ....? It starts an interesting conversation. And all you had to do is ask a question. Keep in mind, part of the PHASE 1 (Keep the conversation going via AEIOU details) Game Plan is to listen, ask questions about advice, get her to elaborate, ask her opinion, etc. When you're in the moment doing this sort of thing live, what could happen (on occasion) is AFTER the conversation is over, you would think to yourself: "I should have asked her to elaborate on XYZ!!" No need to worry. If that happens, it's a good thing.

So it's a win-win situation. And as a bonus (and this is something somewhat unrelated that I find interesting), but anytime a person has a habit of thinking "I should have said XYZ", it increases their "thinking on their feet" speed. If this is something that you wondered about (how to increase the speed of thinking on your feet), then the habit of thinking "I should have said XYZ" after the fact helps with that (combined with: exercise and overall brain health). If you're witty (and can think on your feet pretty well at times) then you have some combination of 'cognitive clarity' and the 'habit of thinking about what you could have said after the fact'. (If you're not witty and you don't think on your feet too well, as a bonus, this system will force you to get better.) A few years ago, I was helping a female friend who took a sales job. One day she started complaining that after the customer left, she had a pattern of immediately realizing what she could have said after the fact. She was frustrated that this sort of thing always happened. It just so happened that "ways to quickly think on your feet while you're in the moment" was something I was currently thinking about at the time. So I encouraged her to keep thinking of what she could have said, and I told her don't get angry. Instead, keep exploring everything you could have possibly said with an attitude of exciting and celebration. She agreed to give it a shot and a month later she said it worked really well. She said she's never in her life been quick on her feet and she was now doing it in an environment that mattered. And although she was thanking me, that's pretty much how our brains work. She was actually training herself by giving her unconscious mind feedback signals. Getting angry (what she was doing before) blocks the training. However whenever we celebrate (we release the right brain chemicals that work in our favor). And when we think about how we can do XYZ in the future that's essentially one of the most basic forms of improving. In fact, in some area of her life, she used this sort of "self-hypnotizing" to improve structure before. Even for seduction purposes (i.e. saying/doing things to get a woman horny) there are going to be times when you DO STUFF that doesn't work too well and then after the fact you'll realize that you should have done XYZ. The great news about that - again - it's a great habit. It forces you to rapidly improve. Getting back on track... When she's talking about XYZ, it's very possible that (regardless of how much of a Black Belt expert you become) there will always be times when you think AFTER THE FACT, when she said XYZ, I could have easily asked her advice on blah blah blah.... I also could have asked her to elaborate on blah blah blah... I could have asked her opinion on blah blah blah... and so on.

Don't worry about that. That's normal. It doesn't matter what you do in life, there is always a way it could have been done better. So embrace the fact that you were successful at picking up on something better get excited that you discovered something. So the good news is this sort of habit is kind of what some people intuitively do. The bonus effect (from a practical standpoint) is that we can USE these "misses" as fuel for our chart. So Phase 1 "missed opportunities" will always be Phase 2 "fuel sources".... Does that make sense? So if I realize after the fact that yesterday I could have done a better job at asking her to elaborate when she was telling me about a 'growing organic carrots' technique, I can simply put that into Part 2 FEWID Chart.

Part 2: Asking Funny Entertaining 1. Ask her about something that is by default funny 2. Ask her about something that is by default funny 3. Ask her about something that is by default funny 4. Ask her about something that is by default funny

1. Ask her about something that is by default entertaining 2. Ask her about something that is by default entertaining 3. Ask her about something that is by default entertaining 4. Ask her about something that is by default entertaining

Weird

Interesting

Drama

1. Ask her about something that is by default weird 2. Ask her about something that is by default weird 3. Ask her about something that is by default weird 4. Ask her about something that is by default weird

1. Ask her about growing organic carrots 2. Ask her about something that is by default interesting 3. Ask her about something that is by default interesting 4. Ask her about something that is by default interesting

1. Ask her about something that is by default full of drama 2. Ask her about something that is by default full of drama 3. Ask her about something that is by default full of drama 4. Ask her about something that is by default full of drama

Hopefully it makes sense. Once you have filled out your 2 FEWID charts with at least 3 entries each, then...

Congratulations you've Now earned your Red Belt! At this stage, we technically have everything we need! From this point on, we'll just be refining the details and adding some useful

bonus tips. Let's do a quick recap

Phase 1: Expanding The Current Topics White Belt: Focus on asking and sharing Philosophy: Instead of saying "I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say." Focus on asking yourself: "What is something I could ask her about?" and/or "What is something I could share with her?" Yellow Belt: Focus on a small set of detail-extractors (so that 'asking and sharing' is more strategic) Philosophy: Instead of wondering what should I ask her, focus on a small set of detail-extractors (that is highly memorable). This allows you to quickly (in the moment) come up with things to 'ask and share' Orange Belt: Focus on performing the Yellow Belt plan (The AEIOU details) Philosophy: Once you see how easy and fun it is to do (with a male or female) you'll be excited to build this into your ongoing game plan. And you may end up coming up with slight modifications. Either way, once you've gotten the first time under your belt, the second time is going to be easier and more fun. Don't worry about being perfect or nailing it. The success is just getting in there and doing it. Blue Belt: Focus on a small set of "topic targets" (you, her, someone, something else) Philosophy: Once you got the detail-extractors (AEIOU) memorized/engrained, the next level is to memorize a small set of "topic targets". When she's talking about certain things, these "topic targets" will provide a little extra flexibility to help you come up with things to ask/share a whole quicker.

Phase 2: Introduce New Topics Purple Belt: Focus on the 4 basic reactions post-silence (more details, a reaction, similar topic, new topic) Philosophy: The better you are at knowing a short list of possible reactions, the quicker you'll be able to respond which will lead to minimizing "silence time". Red Belt: Focus on building a short database of interesting topics (i.e. your FEWID charts). Philosophy: The more stories you can scan into your short-term memory in an easily accessible file, the better you will be at introducing new topics & asking her to share interesting topics. At this point the OVERALL Black Belt Philosophy should be crystal clear.

And that is this: In order to get better at talking endlessly, you need to just improve on what you're currently doing. In order to get better at talking endlessly, you need to just improve on 'expanding current topics' + 'introducing new topics' Focus on the 4 Skills Skill #1: Keeping her talking (about the current topic) Skill #2: Keeping yourself talking (about the current topic) Skill #3: Introducing new topics Skill #4: Getting her to introduce new topics Have conversations and grade yourself. That way you know what to get better at the next time. And all you have to do is introduce the stories on your chart + ask her questions on the chart + combined with using AEIOU details...and if you can do this for 15 minutes (with a male or female), then....

Congratulations you've Now earned your

Black Belt! With that in mind, the more you do it, the better you'll get. And to further speed up the process, I'm going to share some extra tips.

Extra Tips Tip #1: Realize that interesting topics are everywhere. Remember the MOTHER PHILOSOPHY: The best (most general/obvious/logical) ways of quickly getting better at talking endlessly is to focus on 4 simple strategies: Skill #1: Keeping her talking (about the current topic) Skill #2: Keeping yourself talking (about the current topic) Skill #3: Introducing new topics Skill #4: Getting her to introduce new topics When it comes to Skill #3 we gave examples of going online and searching. However interesting stories are everywhere. For brainstorming purposes, you could think of: 1. Someone you currently know who is currently experiencing something interesting/funny/weird 2. Someone you knew in the past who has experienced something interesting/funny/weird 3. Something you are currently experiencing 4. Something you experienced in the past. 5. Something someone online experienced. As a 2-prong approach, from time to time you can brainstorm or go online and dig up some FEWID stories and whenever one falls in your lap, make it a point to just copy it into a file. I know several people who have seemingly photographic memories when it comes to capturing interesting stories/topics. I'm not one of those people. Sometimes these stories have powerful lessons. Sometimes they're just funny/interesting and that's it. Tip #2: When creating your database/chart/mindmap of stories, pick ones that make it easier for her to ask AEIOU details and/or ones that make it easier for you to ask her AEIOU details. To give an example. Let's use number 5 (from above) since with this option there is an endless number of stories out there. You could type in Google 'weird stories' or 'weird sex stories' or 'weird XYZ stories' or whatever and then land on a site and read through a list of stories. Don't get too caught up, just quickly grab one that's interesting.

I'll demonstrate this "live" (somewhat. lol). I'm going to go to google right now (as I'm writing this portion of the report) and type in 'weird sex stories'. As of this writing I see one on the first page. I'm going to click it and start looking around. Btw, here's the site that I just clicked on: http://jezebel.com/5544903/the-10worst-sex-stories-weve-ever-heard

I read through the first few and I just realized the theme is bad sex stories. And boy are they right about that. They're barely believable. It doesn't matter, we're just quickly grabbing anything. I'm scrolling down to #4. It was the first time I had sex with this guy, and he was hitting it from behind on his big brass bed. At one point, I was getting tired, so I went to turn my head to make eye contact (I had read that that made guys crazy) and I realized that my head was stuck between the brass posts. I was like a kid in a banister, and kept imagining firemen having to save me. My date sure couldn't save me - he, in fact, laughed so hard that he peed on the floor. This isn't bad because it has that "what would you do" factor built in along with other questions: Was he being an asshole? Why did she put her head between the posts? etc. With these weird stories, don't try to find the perfect story. There are other techniques in other reports where "interesting sex stories" can be leveraged in the right way to build tension. In this case, we're just minimizing/reducing/eliminating "moments of silences" so anything that gets her to think about something unusual that she's never thought of before and/or anything that OPENS THE DOOR for more topics and personal experiences that she has never shared before is good enough. You just want to quickly find something unusual and something that allows you to ask the woman a AEIOU detail: "What would you do IF you were in that scenario?" (What would you do if your boyfriend laughed at you while you're head was seriously jammed between the posts? or something like that) And just in case you were wondering how to ask an "I" question from the AEIOU details, then this is pretty much one way of doing it. You: What would you do if you were in this situation? That kind of doubles as IF and ADVICE, but it doesn't matter. Tip #3: A great way to practice AEIOU is do it in order.

For example. All you have to do is have a basic conversation and what you're looking for is an opportunity to ask for her Advice (strategy). In other words, you're going to start with A. In this case, you're going to frame the question in a way that makes it so that you're looking for some advice or strategy or sort of step by step process. For example. And we're going to use an insanely basic example just to demonstrate this. You: The other day my sister met a new guy at her job. And she's wondering how she should ask him out? What's your advice? {A} Her: She should just be direct and say 'Hey would you like to go out some time'. I think he'll appreciate her being direct. As you can see, super simple topic that just allows you to quickly ask for advice (starting with 'A'). If she doesn't give it to you in a step by step way, get her to break it down for you. Because remember, when it comes to AEIOU, advice = strategy/process/step-by-step. (continuing...) Her: blah blah blah You. You think so? Ok so she should first walk up to him and then what? Her: She should first walk up to him. And then just start a friendly conversation.... You: (cutting her off a bit) Ok. Step 1 - Start up a friendly conversation. Right? Her: Yes. Step 1 - Start up a friendly conversation and then next, maybe smile at him a little bit. Touch him a few times. And then just say "Hey. Would you like to go out some time?" You: I like that. As you can see, we've done two things. We got her advice (A). And then after that, we got her to elaborate (E). If we wanted we could continue to get her to elaborate some more as long as it was appropriate (i.e. "so how exactly should she start this friendly conversation?"). In other words, once you get her to break the advice (A) down into Step 1, Step 2 and Step 3. If you wanted, you could get her to elaborate on Step 1. And then get her to elaborate on Step 2. And so on. You could even get her to reveal in-between steps. At any rate, it's somewhat of a cool approach that after advice (A) comes elaborate (E), because anytime you ask her for advice (from a strategy stand

point) you can also get her to break it down into steps. And then get her to elaborate (E) on those steps. At any rate, can you guess what's next? "I" We're basically going to go in order: A ==> E ==> I ==> O ==> U! So we're now going to ask her about an "If" question. (Scenario-Based). How brilliant is that?! Let's continue. Her: Yes. Step 1 - Start up a friendly conversation and then next, maybe smile at him a little bit. Touch him a few times. And then just say "Hey. Would you like to go out some time?" You: I like that. {getting to the "I"} Ok let me ask you this. What should she do IF everything goes great? Do you remember how E flowed so smoothly after A? Well, 'I' flows smoothly after E. Why? Because after she has elaborated on some details about the advice, you can always come up with an IF (scenario-base) situation and then ask her about it. What IF things go great? What IF things go bad? What IF step 2 doesn't work? What IF step 3 doesn't work? What IF after step 3, XYZ ends up happening? What IF after step 3, XYZ never happens? So A ==> E ==> I will always flow smoothly together in that order. Guess what's next? "O?" Correct! Continuing... You: I like that. Ok let me ask you this. What should she do IF everything goes great? And yes, I know that's a good thing, but hypothetically speaking if they start dating seriously should they keep that a secret? Some companies frown on that sort of thing. The way she was talking, they get along really well. And they both have been really into each other for awhile. Should she keep it a secret? What's your opinion {O} on office romance?

As you can guess, anytime someone provides how they would behave or how others should behave (i.e. IF 'blah blah blah' are the conditions), they are either going to reveal their opinion or part of their opinion. So it's natural to dig deeper (i.e. "blah blah blah so you don't believe in office romance" OR "blah blah blah so you don't believe in long distance relationships"). Continuing... You: ...The way she was talking, they get along really well. And they both have been really into each other for awhile. Should she keep it a secret? What's your opinion on office romance? Her: That's tough. I've never been a fan of office romance because if things go sour you still have to see the guy everyday... blah blah blah.. however, it depends on how much she values working at the company... blah blah blah.. You: To me, it seems like it never works. Have you ever heard of a unique {U} situation where an office romance actually worked out? Her: Well there was this one time when a friend of mine ... blah blah blah..... As you can guess, anytime some gives their opinion about something. You can always come up with a unique situation that challenges their opinion. Also, in this complete dialogue example, we used the words, "advice", "opinion" and "unique". When you're doing this live, you obviously don't have to use the actual words: unique, advice, opinion, etc. You could have easily have said: Have you ever heard of a situation where an office romance actually worked out? (as a way of asking for her opinion without saying the word 'opinion') That's it. Do you see how simple that was? It's kind of fun, too. (At least I think so. lol.) Keep in mind. Doing them in order (AEIOU) is a great way of practicing because it forces you to know what the next goal is. Note: If you're doing this sort of plan and you're listening and listening and listening and based on what she's saying, you don't see an 'A' entry point (i.e. a smooth/appropriate opportunity to ask for her advice, don't worry just do what was done in the example and provide the story yourself. Just have one story ahead of time prepared that allows you to ask for her advice and then go from there. Another thing you can do if you want to practice without providing a story (in other words, using what she's currently talking about). You can start with E (instead of A). And then just do an 'E ==> I ==> O ==> U ==> A' sequence. It really depends on the flow of the conversation.

You might be wondering... "Well, we talked about how A naturally flows into E. And how E naturally flows into I and so on... Does U naturally flow into A??? Yes. That's the genius part of the AEIOU sequence game, once you get a feel for it and you get the rhythm of it down, you can keep looping over and over again (talking endlessly). AEIOU ==> AEIOU ==> AEIOU ==> etc. But in the event that you don't see how U flows into A... When you talk about some sort of Unique Situation, it's natural to ask her (the listener)... Something unique happened to Bob ==> What's your advice? Kelly's sister is acting weird around her husband ==> Should she say something to her? [Some unique situation] ==> What advice would you give her to move forward? [Some unique situation] ==> What advice would you recommend just in case she ends up in this situation again? Make sense? So when you end up talking about some unique situation that someone is in. Not only does this allow you to have an engaging conversation, but it naturally makes it appropriate for you to ask for the next detail (in the AEIOU sequence) which is advice {A}. Tip #4: Using Your FEWID Story Chart. Once you have you story chart created -- whether you have a total of 10 stories/questions or 100 stories/questions -- you are just going to keep it as a reference file and constantly 'grow it'. So Phase 1 will be taking the time to think of FEWID stories. And taking the time to think of FEWID questions until your charts have some "meat" on it. Phase 2 (the ongoing phase) involves adding to the chart anytime an idea, memory or good story crosses your path. And then when it comes to actually using the chart, anytime that you're about to talk to her (i.e. your coming home, or you're getting ready to call her or whatever) just look at these two FEWID Master Charts and pick 3-7 items (however many you can comfortably memorize). And then make it a point to inject those stories into the conversation. If you're playing the "AEIOU sequence game", you might want to just pick 1 or 2.

Tip #5: Using The FEWID Chart and 'AEIOU topic expander' as a safety net. Just in case it's not clear, using AEIOU details as a 'topic expander' doesn't require that you do them in order. The 'AEIOU sequence game' is a fun way of engraining the concept into your mind - so that you can quickly train your brain to become comfortable with this sort of approach. Then from there, when she's talking about whatever, you can start with 'A' and then go to 'O' and then back to 'A' and then 'some other question' then back to 'U', make a random comment, get her to elaborate on something, share a similar store, give a reaction and so on... At that point, you'll be matching with what's more appropriate. Sometimes it will be more appropriate to ask her to elaborate on something. Sometimes it will be more appropriate to share a simple reaction/comment (Action #2) "Oh ok. Interesting." Another bonus of the sequence game is that if she's talking and it seems more appropriate to get her to elaborate (instead of asking for advice), then at a minimum, you'll have the ability/skill to go from E ==> I ==> O ==> U. (even though technically you're not playing the game) Also, if she's talking and it seems more appropriate to ask an IF question, then at a minimum, you'll have the ability/skill to go from I ==> O ==> U ==> A. But the whole point is to use which ever one (AEIOU or any other detailgrabbing question) as part of your 4-prong Black Belt Strategy Skill #1: Keeping her talking (about the current topic) Skill #2: Keeping yourself talking (about the current topic) Skill #3: Introducing new topics Skill #4: Getting her to introduce new topics Of course, this tip is all about using The FEWID Chart and 'AEIOU topic expander' as safety nets. You see, you know how sports have a practice phase (i.e. practice games, preseason games, spring training, etc.), well with this system you can have somewhat of a preseason/practice phase. If you mess up, it's no big deal. That's why it's ok to practice with family members, friends, male friends... ....even though the real goal is to quickly get to a point where your conversations with a woman (that you're interested in) have a higher concentration of engaging topics and engaging listening and minimized 'awkward silences' - which logically builds interaction value, sexual value and a lot of other signals. That means once you're not currently in 'practice mode', and you're talking to a

woman, you'll focus is mainly on having a conversation that way you normally do (as if you never read this report). And then if you run across moments of silence (or the conversation starts to get stale) you'll focus on just thinking of what you can share and ask (as if you only read up to page 8) And then if you STILL run across moments of silence (or the conversation starts to get stale) theeeeeeeen (as a safety net) you can use one of the 3-7 FEWID stories/questions that you have currently inserted into your short-term memory. It's kind of like treating the stories as 'back ups' (just in case). And you would do the same with AEIOU details. So if she's telling you about how her mom and dad didn't raise her the best way and blah blah blah... you might (as a way of keeping the conversation going/engaging) ask her if they raised her sister the same way or something like that. In other words, you'll be trying to keep her talking (as if you didn't read the report)... And if (and only if) you run dry, theeeeeeeen you can use the AEIOU details. However, when you're in practice mode ("conversational preseason"), you'll be using AEIOU details & FEWID stories even though there are no awkward silences. "CR. Why didn't you mention using Y becomes sometimes it's a vowel." Good question. In fact, you can ask a person a (Y) why-based question as a way of keeping that person talking . And very often you will get them to explain more details just like I'm doing right now. And I gotta say I had no idea you would start so soon, we're not even done the report yet. Not bad. lol. "Ok. I'm excited. How exactly do I get started?"

Getting Started Step 1: Read the report completely (you've obviously done that.) Step 2: Memorize the sequence: Ask + Share ==> AEIOU ==> You, Her, Someone Else, Something Else (Chances are really good that if you read the report, this is already engrained.) You can test to see if you really have it memorized by closing your eyes and seeing if you can recall the sequence without looking (including what AEIOU stands for).

Did you pass the memory test? Great. In fact, I'm glad you passed. It would have been a little awkward for me (if you want me to be honest) if I had to request that you give me your belts back. Step 3: Fill out your chart with at least 10 stories. Download a blank sheet here: http://superpowermedia.com/FEWID-Chart.doc Once you've downloaded the editable file, you'll see that it's already filled out with one entry to illustrate the structure. Don't let these stories suck up your time. There are trillions and trillions of funny/interesting stories on the internet. And quite possibly millions are being uploaded every minute. So don't be overly concerned with grabbing the 10 best stories out there. Just grab 10-20 that are 'good enough'. Step 4: Start performing the system. You can start with a preseason/practice mood. Then do it naturally (using the system as a safety net). Then based on what you experience make personal tweaks. Practice some more. Do it naturally. Practice some more. Do it naturally. So there you go, it's a simple system that you can start doing right away. You can do it with anyone, through email, IM chats, texts and in person.

Review: Summary Steps: Phase 1: Expanding The Current Topics White Belt: Focus on asking and sharing Philosophy: Instead of saying "I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say." Focus on asking yourself: "What is something I could ask her about?" and/or "What is something I could share with her?" Yellow Belt: Focus on a small set of detail-extractors (so that 'asking and sharing' is more strategic) Philosophy: Instead of wondering what should I ask her, focus on a small set of detail-extractors (that is highly memorable). This allows you to quickly (in the moment) come up with things to 'ask and share' Orange Belt: Focus on performing the Yellow Belt plan (The AEIOU details) Philosophy: Once you see how easy and fun it is to do (with a male or female) you'll be excited to build this into your ongoing game plan. And you may end up coming up with slight modifications. Either way, once you've gotten the first time under your belt, the second time is going to be easier and more fun. Don't worry about being perfect or nailing it. The success is just getting in there and doing it. Blue Belt: Focus on a small set of "topic targets" (you, her, someone, something else) Philosophy: Once you got the detail-extractors (AEIOU) memorized/engrained, the next level is to memorize a small set of "topic targets". When she's talking about certain things, these "topic targets" will provide a little extra flexibility to help you come up with things to ask/share a whole quicker.

Phase 2: Introduce New Topics Purple Belt: Focus on the 4 basic reactions post-silence (more details, a reaction, similar topic, new topic) Philosophy: The better you are at knowing a short list of possible reactions, the quicker you'll be able to respond which will lead to minimizing "silence time". Red Belt: Focus on building a short database of interesting topics (i.e. your FEWID charts). Philosophy: The more stories you can scan into your short-term memory in an easily accessible file, the better you will be at introducing new topics & asking her to share interesting topics.

Black Belt: Consistently focus on The 4 SKILLS & Use AEIOU and FEWID as a safety net. Philosophy: The Absolutely Highest IMPACT FACTORS for talking endlessly is: Skill #1: Keeping her talking (about the current topic) Skill #2: Keeping yourself talking (about the current topic) Skill #3: Introducing new topics Skill #4: Getting her to introduce new topics

Keep improving your grade for each skill. So that's it. I hope you enjoyed the report. If you have any questions, just let me know. Warmly CR James crjames.com