Fundamentals Of Texting Game

Learning The Fundamentals Fundamentals – In This Section: • • • • • • • • • • • • • • •

INTRODUCTION YOU CAN NEVER HAVE TOO MUCH TEXT – FALSE! WHY SO SERIOUS? LEAD THE DANCE DON’T ALWAYS BE AVAILABLE KNOW WHO YOU ARE! – AVOID FAKE COMMONALITIES YOU MUST BE DIFFERENT – BREAKING HER OUT OF AUTOPILOT NO NEED TO BE NEEDY SHOULD YOU USE A QUESTION MARK???? SHOWING YOU HAVE STANDARDS – USING FALSE DISQUALIFIERS LOWER HER GUARD WITH YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR MASS TEXT MESSAGING HOLIDAY TEXTS PASSING A WOMAN’S TESTS SECTION RECAP

Introduction As you continue your training to become a stealthy text ninja you will find there are certain underlying concepts that govern all successful text interactions. Go over this section several times and refer back to it often as you will be using these concepts in each and every text interaction you have with a girl you are interested in.

You Can Never Have Too Much Text – FALSE! One of the biggest mistakes guys make when texting a new woman they are interested in is texting or calling her way too much. Just because she doesn’t respond immediately to your text messages or answer every call doesn’t mean you should just text or call her again. Persistent text messages when there is little or no response communicates neediness and a scarcity mentality.

This is a guaranteed way to kill attraction. So how do you know when you are texting her the right amount? Here are some key indicators that will help you calibrate. You’re haven’t build enough attraction and are texting/calling her too much if: • her response time is consistently slow • she doesn’t engage you in conversation or latch onto your conversational hooks • she consistently gives you one word/super short replies (ok, sure, yep, etc) • she doesn’t initiate text/phone call interactions You’re texting/calling her the right amount if: • she initiates text/phone call interactions • she responds to text/phone calls quickly • she readily engages you in conversation, latches onto your hooks • She answers your questions • she propels the interaction forward by asking questions of her own Keep these in mind so you’re in tune with whether you are texting or calling her too much. This will give you a good idea of her interest level. If she stops showing interest in you, do not just continue to text and call her day after day without a response. Take a few days off from contacting her then try using the principles from the When She Stops Responding – Sending The Re-engaging Text section or contact her through your Myspace or Facebook profile using the principles from Using Social Networking Sites to Boost Attraction and Build Comfort. Send her periodic text messages over the course of a couple weeks. If she doesn’t respond favorably after this, cut her off and move on.

Why So Serious? Unless you are in the middle of emotionally connecting with a girl, you should be CONSTANTLY giving off a lighthearted persona about your self. Keep your text message conversations easy going and fun. Hold off on trying to build an emotional connection over text. Save this for when you meet up in person where it will be far more effective. If it is something you must discuss and share with each other before you are able to hang out again, CALL HER and do it over the phone. See the HANDLING PHONE CALLS section.

Lead the Dance The process of building and sustaining attraction is like a dance. As a man, you are expected to be the leader. It is sad that most women are tired of waiting for men to step up and lead the interaction. Now is the time for you to step up and lead the interaction every step of the way. This isn’t to say that she cannot make any sort of decision in the relationship, far from it. Relationships are about compromise and mutual respect. This just means that it is up to YOU to guide it where you both want it to go. Don’t wait for her to take the reigns and make things happen. This is a fundamental component to being a leader in other areas of your life as well.

Don’t Always Be Available Don’t always reply immediately when she texts you. Taking some time to respond communicates that you have a lot going on in your life and that she is not the most important thing in your life (she doesn’t want to feel important to you until she has earned it). If you are constantly available to respond immediately or are non stop continually texting her she will wonder why you don’t have anything else in your life keeping you busy. On the other hand, don’t take this to the extreme and wait hours to respond to each and every text. Mix it up. Bottom line is you want to demonstrate to her you have a (preferably exciting) life full of friends, hobbies, events, etc – even if you don’t at the moment. Besides, soon you will be extremely busy having fun with all the cool people you have met using the principles taught in this system! Important: If you are in the middle of an important conversation topic stay involved with the interaction until the subject changes or you indicate you have to go.

Know Who You Are! – Avoid Fake Commonalities One of the most attractive qualities a person can have is knowing who they are as a person, what they are all about, and what they are or aren’t willing to agree with and accept. What I am trying to say plain and simply is: Do not agree with everything she says just because you like her. Whether or not she is testing you, she can tell when you are just agreeing with her so she’ll like you, or agreeing because you actually agree. Girls sometimes will ask hard questions to see if a guy will stand up to them. Guys often disregard their own beliefs and preferences by agreeing with the girl they are pursuing in an attempt to create a fake commonality. They believe this will make her like them more. This is not the case. She will find you weak and assume she can walk all over you. It is better to voice your opinion when you disagree. There is no need to apologize for it. It is not a big deal. Agree to disagree or come to a compromise. However, do not disagree with her just for the sake of arguing because then you become annoying. Know what you want, need, and desire and be ok with voicing them even if she disagrees with your tastes.

You MUST Be Different – Breaking Her Out of Autopilot If you don’t already know, attractive women have plenty of guys already chasing after them. What does this mean for you? It means she is already receiving countless texts from other guys all day long. Unfortunate for her and lucky for you they are all saying pretty much the same stuff. Why is that lucky for you? Over time she becomes conditioned to all these texts and they no longer have much of an effect on her. But what if she were to receive a text from you that was

unique and fun forcing her to come out of her autopilot responses? It is as if all she has been having is vanilla and you just gave her chocolate. Now you have her curious and attraction begins with curiosity. In order to set yourself apart you must demonstrate that you are not going to just put her through the same things she has already experienced. There are multitudes of ways to do this, many of which are covered in this Program (Nicknames, Role-playing, Guessing Her Answer, etc).

No Need to Be Needy Non-neediness is one of the most important attributes to cultivate. Think about it, if you already had a life full of amazingly beautiful women would you really care if an interaction with a new one failed? Hell no. You have enough going on in your life that it is ok if one interaction doesn’t work out! This is the type of attitude that drives women wild. This is one of the major reasons that 10% of guys are able to get 90% of the women out there. You must come across as nonneedy and be willing to walk away if she does not live up to your standards and expectations. I cannot emphasize this enough: you must release your attachment to the out come. There are so many opportunities to meet women every day, you can afford to mess up. Just learn from it and move on. It is time for you to see the world as a place with countless opportunities. Everyday you run across hundreds of woman many of which are attracted to you. Adopt an abundance mentality.

Should You Use a Question Mark???? When sending a text, statements that require an answer are often more powerful than sending actual questions. When you are continuously asking questions it can come off as overbearing and actually push her away. As trivial as it seems, when you put a question mark at the end of your statement it evokes a certain response. You are now in a position of needing something from her, namely a response to your question. Since you are not there in person to deliver your question with a downward vocal tonality indicating a statement you have to word it in a way that allows you leave off the question mark. Stating a question as a statement indicates that you expect an answer. Not in a demanding way but in a way that you are used to getting your questions answered. One way is to simply replace the question mark with a ellipsis (…). This indicates that the rest of the statement needs to be finished and her answer to the question is that finish. Another way is to just leave out the question mark altogether. Incorrect: “Are you coming tonight?” Correct: “Shall I be expecting you this evening my dear” Incorrect: “What is your favorite color?” Correct: “And your favorite color would be …”

Another funny way to counteract this is to go overboard in the other direction and make fun of the fact you are doing it. Here is an example from a message i actually sent out recently to a new girl who is trying to get into the police academy. Race: the police academy? what do you have to do to get in? Where are you working now? do you have facebook? is this too many questions in a row? should i stop now? lol Now remember this is a rule of thumb. Don’t go overboard and never use question marks again. Just make sure you are not using them constantly. Otherwise you come off as the needy interviewer guy.

Showing You Have Standards – Using False Disqualifiers A false disqualifier is simply a playful statement that gives reasons why you wouldn’t be able to move forward with her. The reasons you give need to be silly and outlandish. You want to sporadically use false disqualifiers in your text messages. Even though you are obviously joking, you are conveying that you do have standards and if she meets them, then you will move forward. You don’t just settle for anyone. When a girl feels like she has been disqualified in your eyes she will start doing things to try and get you to accept her – even if they are silly. While it is possible to start a conversation with a disqualifier, chances are you will get more consistent results when you use them within the context of an interaction. A perfect opportunity to use a false disqualifier is any time she voices her opinion about something. Example: Woah woah! You like {__thing she likes___}? I didn’t know you were that “type” of girl! I might have to get my moms permission just to kick it with you… lol Wait, you were born in {any month}, right? So you’re a {associated birth sign}. Damn it! I knew it. Oh well, I guess i’m just gonna have to break up with you now lol

Lower Her Guard With Your Sense of Humor Nothing brings a woman’s guard down like humor. When she is laughing she is relaxed, comfortable and associating you with a good time. When this occurs, she is no longer judging or analyzing you. It also lets her know that you will be fun to be around when you hang out again.

When asked what they find most attractive in men, women consistently rank a sense of humor as the top attribute. Why is this? Humor indicates that you take neither yourself nor the interaction too seriously, and seriousness is the exact opposite of the types of emotions we are trying to elicit in order to build attraction in the beginning. In fact, there are many examples of where a woman is not initially attracted to a man, but because she finds his sense of humor so irresistible, ends up falling hard.

Mass Text messaging Work smarter not harder! If you have several girls in your phone that you are interested in and trying to set up dates with, why not save your time and be more efficient by sending out a mass text message to several girls at the same time. However, it is important to realize that woman are far less likely to respond to mass texts because they remove personal responsibility of response. If she can’t or doesn’t want to come she doesn’t need to respond because it wasn’t to her personally. On top of that, some women actually are put off by mass texts. How do you continue to use convenience of mass text messages without the drawbacks?. It is ALL IN THE WORDING! You want to send out a mass text message that makes the person receiving it feel like you sent it to them personally. But at the same time it has to be general enough to make sense to all the recipients. For instance, if I want to hang out with any of 4 girls I just met, I would text something like this: “woman head! What kinda trouble are you getting your self into tonight? Lol ” or “Hey there my little trouble maker. We are cruising down to {event} with a kick ass group of people if you wanna join the fun! Can u keep up though is the question! what do ya say?” The point here is to make it seem personal so she feels compelled to respond. Important: Be aware that some people’s phones list the other phone numbers the text went too. Keep that in mind depending on what kind of message you are mass sending. Sometimes it is smarter to send individual texts.

Holiday Texts Holidays give you a perfect opportunity to engage or re-engage a lot of people at once through mass texts. Women will be much more forgiving of the idea of “mass texting” on these occasions. Even though she will be forgiving of it, you still want to make her feel like you sent it TO HER, not everyone. Example: “happy (what ever holiday) snuggle bear! did you have a good holiday!? Or did you just cause a ruckus!?? lol ”

By adding a nickname and a question to the end of the text message you make it feel a lot more personable. She is far more likely to respond to something like this than to a text message that just states: “happy thanksgiving!”. She already got 50 of those. If she questions you on whether or not it is a mass text just respond by saying: “You caught me! I sent it to 2,436 people lol far today? I think I am at 37!”

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Passing a Woman’s Test Using all the techniques in this system you will begin to build attraction really quickly with women. They are not used to this happening. Because of this, they will often test you to see if you really are the fun, cool, high value guy that you are portraying yourself to be. Based on how you react, she will either become far more attracted to you or realize that it was just too good to be true and move on and stop responding to you. This does not mean she is being bitchy or mean or doesn’t like you. In fact, it is the exact opposite. IF SHE IS GIVING YOU A TEST, THAT MEANS SHE IS STARTING TO LIKE YOU! Cherish the moments a woman suddenly gives you resistance or gives you hell about something you said. She has to do this to filter out low value men to get to the quality men. So how do you pass a woman’s test and solidify in her mind that you are the high quality guy she wants to be attracted to? You must be NON-REACTIVE. Don’t buy into the argument or sassy comment. She is trying to get a rise out of you and when you don’t stammer to try to explain yourself, start apologizing, or get upset her attraction to you goes through the roof. It shows that you truly are an awesome guy who doesn’t need her acceptance or approval to feel good about yourself. You do what you want to because you want to not because of how others will form opinions of you. This is insanely attractive! Do not…I repeat…DO NOT take it personal! Instead look at it as a fun game. It is cute. She is telling you that she likes you and giving you an amazing opportunity to make her even more attracted to you. Here are some of the main ways to successfully handle a woman’s tests: - Ignore it. Sometimes the best way to handle a woman’s test is to simply ignore it and keep doing what you are doing – having fun texting back and forth. This let’s her know that you, unlike most guys, are not going to play her little games. If done correctly, it will be forgotten and the conversation will move forward as if it never happened. Only she will be way more attracted to you. - Say: “u r cute ” This is a great way to show her that you are unaffected. You find it cute that she is trying to test you because you now know it just means she likes you.

- Play along. Go over the top so she knows you are joking around and you don’t take this seriously at all. Example: Her: “you are a player aren’t you?” You: “How rude!…We prefer to be called gigolos” - Find out the REAL issue. If it is a more serious test stemming from her insecurities, find out what the real issue is and handle that instead. Don’t get caught up in a fake argument. Be willing to walk away. This is the most important concept you may ever learn about interacting with women. Know what you want and don’t want. What you are willing to put up with and what you are not. If it just doesn’t work out you have to be ok with that. It doesn’t mean you weren’t good enough or she wasn’t good enough for you, it just means you two are not compatible. No worries. There are a million fish in the sea and you are quite the catch. Note: Being able to pass a woman’s test is so important I have included extra examples so you can see how to do it in a variety of different situations. Example #1 Friday, Dec 12 2008 at 1:58:34 PM Heidi: What ever happened to picking my brain about all the places i have been? I feel like you charmed me into bed and that makes a good story to add to whatever your working on. Maybe im wrong but thats in your hands. Friday, Dec 12 2008 at 2:01:31 PM Race: What u decide to believe of course is always your decision my dear I have no interest in convincing u one way or another only in enjoying my time with high quality people. Friday, Dec 12 2008 at 2:05:16 PM Heidi: Good way to put it. Guess im in my head. Thanks for considering me high quality same to you. Example #2 Me2/2/08 4:05 PM Race: did u know it was Groundhogs day??? Chels cute sd ms? 252/2/08 4:13 PM Chelsy: I didn’t. Who is this? Me2/2/08 4:20 PM Race: Your future ex husband:-) Chels cute sd ms? 252/2/08 4:22 PM Chelsy: Well that’s funny cuz I don’t plan on getting divorced:)

Me2/2/08 4:24 PM Race: I know we didn’t plan on it but you just weren’t adventurous enough for me in the bedroom…but the passion was definitely there:-) Chels cute sd ms? 252/2/08 4:25 PM Chelsy: That’s hilarious cuz nobody else complains! Not even your brother:) Me2/2/08 4:28 PM Race: Well I guess he wouldn’t have being mentally handicapped and all…that is so sweet of u:) Chels cute sd ms? 252/2/08 4:36 PM Chelsy: Your dad too? Cuz he seemed 2 like it Me2/2/08 4:38 PM Race: I am all about keeping it in the family…that is why it was so hard to break up with you. Maybe we should give it another try;-) Chels cute sd ms? 252/2/08 4:39 PM Chelsy: Only if u say please Example #3 4/24/08 8:50 PM Emily:U do know girls right? Me4/24/08 8:51 PM Race: Sounds dangerous…im scared of girls. R u gonna bring some of your friends or what? Raquel moose head cute4/24/08 8:53 PM Emily: Yeah of course! Its not a big deal if u don’t want to just thought it could be fun:) and come on….we love girls;) Me4/24/08 8:55 PM Race: Naughty naughty … U r gonna get spanked when I get back Raquel moose head cute4/24/08 8:57 PM Emily: I’m not really sure what I did to deserve that but sounds good;) and stop talking like a douche bag lmao Me4/24/08 8:58 PM Race: Keep it up little missy and see what happens! Haha Raquel moose head cute4/24/08 9:03 PM Emily: Little missy? U can’t do better than that? So dissapointing….:(

Me4/24/08 9:04 PM Race: Hey I don’t need your sass…i need your lips on my … Raquel moose head cute4/24/08 9:05 PM Emily: On ur lips right?? Uh ur a fag…I hate chu Me4/24/08 9:07 PM Race: Awwe I miss u too you little cock slave Raquel moose head cute4/24/08 9:10 PM Emily: That was mean ino ur not a fag but u say fag things sometimes…like that:) yeah I don’t think I could miss u any more than I do…:-p Example #4 Lori thumb wrestle8/10/08 9:34 PM Lori: Ok…..ur smokin’ hot! So I have 2 ask- y waste ur time w/ me @ all? Shouldn’t all ur time b spent dealing w/ vapid, scantily-clad single 25 yr.-olds? Me8/10/08 9:59 PM Race: Who says it’s a waste of my time? Lori thumb wrestle8/10/08 10:33 PM Lori: Good answer! Perhaps I haven’t given u enough credit…..;-) 8/10/08 10:50 PM Lori: P.S……hope u weren’t offended by my last text. Ur not that sensitive……r u? Me8/10/08 11:04 PM Race: Haha…ur cute Lori thumb wrestle8/10/08 11:07 PM Lori: Haha……thanks. I luv being “cute”! Example #5 Wednesday, Nov 19 2008 at 11:54:23 PM Tara: I saw your website..sorry, not into that. Wednesday, Nov 19 2008 at 11:57:49 PM Race: Not into what? Thursday, Nov 20 2008 at 12:02:40 AM Tara: Being one of the girls from your website. I was interested in getting to know you because I thought you sounded really fun, so I guess you’re really good at what you do..

Thursday, Nov 20 2008 at 12:05:49 AM Race: Really? So now you don’t want to get to know me because I write articles on how help guys develop their personality so they can meet awesome girls? Thursday, Nov 20 2008 at 12:14:33 AM Tara: It just sounds like I’m one of several girls you’re setting up a date with this week and according to your pg “one lucky girl will get to sleep w you” Thursday, Nov 20 2008 at 12:17:01 AM Race: Haha now I get it…I just want to help people have choices in their dating lives so they don’t settle but are happy..does that make sense? Thursday, Nov 20 2008 at 12:20:37 AM Tara: what about the part where you say you were unknown in the online seduction world till now Thursday, Nov 20 2008 at 12:27:13 AM Race: Seriously that make me laugh….I wrote the about us page

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Thursday, Nov 20 2008 at 12:39:40 AM Race: But hey if that is reason enough not to hang out and have fun goofing around I totally understand. Have a good night Thursday, Nov 20 2008 at 12:48:02 AM Tara: Well I’m interested in meeting u. So why don’t we just meet up and get to know each other. You’re not free till tomorrow pm? Example #6 Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 9:34:39 PM Cindy: So since i’m stuck in the airport, i’ve been pondering. Truthfully…how many girls have you acted the same as you did with me lately? Honesty is key here lol Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 9:39:45 PM Race: Zero Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 9:41:28 PM Cindy: Really? Hm…pinky promise? Sorry my curiosity is getting the best of me…mixed with a hint of cautiousness Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 9:55:30 PM Race: Well each person is unique Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 9:57:23 PM Cindy:Yea, but you know what i mean. Maybe…

Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 10:04:51 PM Cindy: So i’m guessing it was definitely not a new experience for you then… Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 10:15:53 PM Race: ? what is the real issue here Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 10:17:31 PM Cindy: Nothing. I’m just wondering if it was just another weekend in a day in the life of you Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 11:06:34 PM Cindy: Hm…guess thats a possibility…sucks Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 11:48:23 PM Race: I don’t understand..do u feel like I tricked or deceived you in any way? Did you not enjoy our time together? Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 11:51:12 PM Cindy: No not at all. And hanging out with you was amazing. I think i’m just stuck in an airport and just thinking you’re too good to be true… Tuesday, Dec 23 2008 at 12:13:41 AM Cindy: I’m boarding finally! i’m sad i’m leaving new york…but i’m happy to be getting out of the airport Tuesday, Dec 23 2008 at 12:14:22 AM Race: Have a safe flight my dear Tuesday, Dec 23 2008 at 12:15:20 AM Cindy: Thanks. see you soon hopefully. Tuesday, Dec 23 2008 at 12:15:49 AM Race: I’ll cross my fingers Tuesday, Dec 23 2008 at 12:16:18 AM Cindy:You really did make my trip memorable, so don’t think you didn’t Tuesday, Dec 23 2008 at 12:16:52 AM Race: I wouldn’t dream of it

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Just because she doesn’t respond immediately to your text messages or answer every call doesn’t mean you should just text or call her again. Persistent text messages when there is little or no response communicates neediness and a scarcity mentality.

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Unless you are in the middle of emotionally connecting with a girl, you should be CONSTANTLY giving off a lighthearted persona about your self. If you are constantly available to respond immediately or are non stop continually texting her she will wonder why you don’t have anything else in your life keeping you busy. On the other hand, don’t take this to the extreme and wait hours to respond to each and every text. Mix it up. Non-neediness is one of the most important attributes to cultivate. Adopt an abundance mentality. Don’t ask too many direct questions. A good way to ask a question without using a question mark is to replace the question mark with a ellipsis (…) Nothing brings a woman’s guard down like humor. When she is laughing she is relaxed, comfortable and associating you with a good time. When this occurs, she is no longer judging or analyzing you. It also lets her know that you will be fun to be around when you hang out again. IF SHE IS GIVING YOU A TEST, THAT MEANS SHE IS STARTING TO LIKE YOU! Cherish the moments a woman suddenly gives you resistance or gives you hell about something you said. She has to do this to filter out low value men to get to the quality men.

Conclusion As you can see you have a lot of fundamental tools and mindsets here to ensure that you continue to create, build and maintain attraction once you get a girls phone #. Keep all these principles in mind and begin practicing them immediately because the sooner they become habit the better. They will keep you from making the most common mistakes most guys make when texting a girl. And as always, remember that each woman you interact with is unique so treat her as such. Be willing to adapt and try new things. These are not rules set in stone but guidelines. However, before you can begin to master these skills you must first have a woman’s phone number to text. For that check it out at Getting Her Number.