Text Game Handout

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! ! I. Why Text? !

TEXT GAME NOTES

a. Reinitiate contact after the first interaction. - Gets her used to communicating with you via phone

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b. Create MORE attraction & comfort

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c. Set up a date using text d. Can send to multiple recipients e. No obligation (she can check it or respond whenever she wants) f. She will see your text. - You know that she will read it at some point.

II. Texting Facts

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a. People text more than they make actual phone calls

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b. Girls text almost two times as much as they talk on the phone c. Texting is the preferred method of communication for women in their 20’s d. Text messages are usually read within 15 minutes of being received and responded to within one hour

! e. Women text more than men ! ! III. Texting Mindset !

a. Send it and forget it. - Don’t keep checking to see if she text you back

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b. She’s having a boring day and you’re going to cheer her up. - You’re just sending a text to make her smile.

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c. Don’t worry if she doesn’t respond. - She might be busy or just forgot to write you back.

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d. Don’t give up. - Be persistent and keep sending her non-needy texts every once in a while even if she doesn’t respond every time.

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IV. What NOT to Text

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a. No super long texts - Don’t text your life story. - Don’t try to DHV (demonstrate high value) via text

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b. Don’t text more than the girl - This means don’t write long texts if she never writes long texts. - You can still send her more texts than she sends you, but its better if she is texting you first once in a while.

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c. Don’t ask generic questions - Ex: “How are you?” - Ex: “What are you doing?”

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d. Don’t be overly nice or too predictable - Ex: “I had such a fun time with you” - Ex: “It was so nice meeting you” e. Don’t respond negatively even if she texts something negative to you or flakes on you.

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f. Don’t use excessive caps or punctuation - “HEY!!! WHAT ARE YOU DOING????”

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g. Don’t multi-thread your text - Average Guy: “what are you doing tonight? Btw how’s your dog?” Girl: “oh he’s back to his old self”

! ! ! V. Texting Basics !

a. Use emoticons - So she knows you are joking

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b. Stand out from the herd - Exception: foreign women

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c. Abbreviate as much as possible - Because you are a busy man and women like guy who have something going for themselves other than them.

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d. Reward good behavior and punish bad behavior - Heidi: “I can’t make it Friday night sorry” (non compliance) Artisan: “ok dork well that’s minus 2 cool points for ya :p” (tease)

Heidi: “seriously???ok I’ll have to make it up to you”(compliance) Artisan: “ok princess, u any good at backrubs?”(flattering nickname)

! ! ! VI. When & How Often to Text? !

a. Send the first text within 24hrs - Keeps the emotional momentum going - So she remembers who you are

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b. Don’t keep responding even if she does - Again, you are a busy guy with other things going on in your life besides her

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c. End the thread first - Try to end the text conversation first - Keeps you in control of the interaction

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d. Don’t text back in the same duration - If she waits X minutes to text back. Wait X minutes and add a few extra minutes.

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e. Don’t text Thurs – Sat 9pm-1am - That’s when most women go out with their friends to party

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f. She doesn’t respond, wait a day - If she still doesn’t respond then wait 2 more days. - If she doesn’t respond after that then wait 3 more days. ETC. - If she still doesn’t respond then you are probably in damage control.

! ! VII. Reinitiate Contact ! a. Texting gets her comfortable communicating on the phone regularly with you ! b. Use callback humor (gets her back to the emotional state) - A nickname you called, recall a joke you told, etc.

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c. Sign your name - Always sign your first text so she knows that it’s you - Avoids the awkward “who is this?” text

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d. First Text - “do you speak text?” - “hey X are you always so Y?” X=cutie, dork, crazyface, etc. Y=friendly to strangers, flirty, fun or just when you’re drunk, etc. - “hey…is it too soon for casual text?”

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VII. Create More Comfort & Attraction

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a. Need to already have some attraction - If you have no attraction with the girl or she didn’t remember meeting you at all then it is very difficult to create attraction through text - Text is good for maintaining attraction - If however, you get a girls phone number and she doesn’t remember meeting you for whatever reason, get to look you up on facebook (assuming you have an attractive facebook page)

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b. Fun, flirty, playful, witty, cocky-funny, breaking rapport, random, and qualifying texts

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c. She will start to associate good emotions with your name her phone - Thus she will be likely to pick up the phone when you call or meet you somewhere when you go for a date.

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d. Comfort is built through common interests, getting to know one another, and through the passage of time - Don’t spend too much time trying to get to know her through text. That is better through a phone call or a date.

! ! ! VIII. Setting Up a Date Through Text !

a. Try to get her on the phone first - It’s much easier to set up a date talking to her on the phone than it is through text - She’s less likely to flake if she’s talked to you on the phone first - Sometimes this isn’t an option though

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b. Tell her where you’ll be - “Going to X tonight…gonna be cray cray

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c. Just throw it out there - “Tomorrow. Hart Bar. 10pm. B there or B []”

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d. Find out her schedule first - “hey goober what’s your week looking like?”

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! ! IX. She Doesn’t Text Back !

a. Break-Up Role-Play - “We need to talk. Look it’s not you it’s me. Here are the rules to our breakup. I can see other people but you can’t. That includes sleeping with all your friends.”

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b. Punish

- This should never be mean spirited - Ex: “You are officially on texting probation young lady”

! ! ! X. My Favorite Texts !

a. Bait & Switch - “Those innocent eyes, those juicy lips, a great smile, that awesome bod, so hot! But enough about me, what r u up to?”

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b. Role Play - “Hey I decided where we are going to eat tonight, start looking for a strip club that sells food and has amateur night, your gonna win us some grub!” c. Push-Pull - “You just popped into my head….you must be using some weird ninja magic on me….I’m onto it….but I’m not gonna let it slide.”

d. Role Reversal - Her: “Guess What!” You: “You want to get me drunk so you can take advantage of me? You are so naughty :p”

! ! ! XII. Assignments !

a. Create a database on your phone or computer with all the numbers you have/get and keep track of the texts you send, the calls you make, and the results of each. b. Send a text to ever prospect you have. Send one of the examples above, out of the Ultimate Guide to Texting Girls, or something you came up with. Track your results in the database.

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c. Do at least 3 number closes this week. That doesn’t mean you have to get the number. Just go for the number close. This can be during the day or at night at a bar. Whichever you prefer. But make sure you at least go for a phone number 3X this week! No excuses! d. Most “Interesting” Girl of the Day Rule. Approach and open the cutest/most interesting girl you see every day….no matter what. If you’ve already opened a cute girl that day and you see an even cuter/interesting girl, then you have to approach her too. Make it a habit and condition yourself to always approach women you are attracted to no matter what.