Alpha Lifestyle Presentation.pdf

“Judge a man by his questions rather than his answers.” ~ Voltaire

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ALPHA LIFESTYLE 2

Welcome to Your Near-Life Experience

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Choose...

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This is

• Relaxed & Resourceful • Effective & Energized • Authentic & Alpha • Lifestyle & Lasting 5

Welcome... to NOW 6

The Power of NOW • NOW is the only moment you have. • NOW is unburdened by the past and unshackled from the future

• You can only be effective with a woman in the NOW

• NOW is when you must change... if you ever will

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“PICKUP FALLOUT” • We’ve been hit with a barrage of “pickup artist” information

• BACKWARDS - that we need to learn

from the outside in rather than the inside out

• Modeling - Yes. Imitation - NO • Alpha Lifestyle is the answer 8

“PICKUP FALLOUT” • Time to transcend techniques - PROJECT OUT • Become the NATURAL • The opposite of Natural is... ARTIFICIAL - Sweeteners, fat (Olestra)

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DOING NOTHING MEANS

PAIN 10

The Alpha Man’s Lifestyle • MENTAL LIFE - Learning, goals, purpose • PHYSICAL LIFE - Sex, health, image • SPIRITUAL LIFE - Attitude, faith, balance MIND - BODY - SPIRIT

ENERGY 11

SINCERITY •Be REAL with yourself, others •Enlightened or Deluded?

EGO 12

There will always be one more technique to learn... ... find the right attitude and you'll ALWAYS have a technique. Techniques are simply borrowed confidence 13

FAILURE-FOCUS

•Mindset A: Every woman can be

conquered - After all, she’s going to sleep with SOMEONE

•Mindset B: You must choose your

battles and accept MORE instead of ALL 14

You’re about to become a “NATURAL” - a natural success...

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“Kobayashi Maru” YOUR LIFE

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ALPHA MAN or VICTIM 17

This is a complete strategy for turning your “pickup” life into an ALPHA LIFESTYLE

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EXERCISE CONNECTION - BE PRESENT

•Get a partner •Random numbers - Tune in! 19

DO IT NOW DO IT NOW DO IT NOW DO IT NOW 20

LIFESTYLE

• Powerful Expansive

Influence: Expand your presence and impact in the world - redefine your beliefs

• Write down 10 painful outcomes if you stay inert or do nothing

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DO IT NOW

• Get the book: The Power of Now Eckhart Tolle

• Get the book: You Can Be Happy

No Matter What - Richard Carlson

• Learn meditation 22

ALPHA LIFESTYLE

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DEVILS ENTICE... ANGELS INVITE...

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YOU CAN DO IT

• Every guy can do this • Connect your REAL life with your attraction skills

• The most psychologically addicting behavior is striving to achieve

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TECHNIQUES

• You cannot hide your lack of social

skills and confidence behind Techniques

• Techniques are another form of ‘excusing’

• It’s not WHAT - but HOW 26

Life is Where You Are

• The party starts HERE • Welcome to MY reality • Look at life from your own view 27

FLIP THE SWITCH •

Fun is where THEY are

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They have what YOU want

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Act based on manipulation

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Reactive Controlled

F L I P

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Fun is where I AM

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You have what THEY want...

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Act based on principle

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Proactive Powerful

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ALPHA LIFESTYLE LEGACY MISSION (purpose) GOALS (competencies) CORE VALUES

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R.E.A.L.

VALUES MORALS ETHICS CONVICTIONS I know what I stand for - I am ROCK SOLID 30

CORE VALUES

• What are your Values? • What do you stand for and

believe in more than anything?

CORE VALUES

• What would you teach your children?

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CORE COMPETENCIES • Career/Mission • Family/Relationships/Community • Spirituality • Hobbies/Recreation • Financial • Personal - Skills/Education • Health/Fitness

GOALS (competencies) CORE VALUES

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BALANCE

• “Sarging” seven days in a row • “Bootcamps” • It’s about profound change in all areas of your life

• Pendulum Theory 33

FLOW

• Lose Self-consciousness • Distorted sense of time (NOW) • Effortless action • High concentration and focus •High demand AND Skill 34

EXERCISE

•REAL-TIME NARRATION

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LIFESTYLE

• Set goals in ALL areas of your life • “Pickup” on everyone • You write your horoscope - not an astrologer or psychic

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DO IT NOW

• Get the book: FLOW by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

• Start your journal (tell your own future) • Create a personal workbook for goals 37

DO IT NOW

• Collect pictures of everything in life you desire - look at them regularly

• Study a Martial Art • Read The Tao of Jeet Kune Do Bruce Lee

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THE ALPHA MAN

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IDENTITY

• Baby/Infant - No identity - shared • 2 Year old - Separate identity • 3-10 Year old - Adolescent identity • 10-13 Year Old - Sexual identity • 13-? Year Old - Adult identity 40

FEELINGS YOU ARE A FEELING CHASER

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STATUS INDICATORS

• Wealth...? • Looks...? • Power...? • Fame...? • Associations...? 42

REAL Attraction Traits

• Height • Fame • Wealth • Body Symmetry • Athleticism • The Best Spreader of Ideas (memes) 43

ALPHA MAN

Controls the Attention Structure of the Tribe 44

The Most Attractive Trait

• Empathy and intelligence SINCERITY 45

ALPHA RULE #1

• Master Your Emotions • Observe your ego •SELF-CONTROL 46

Growth - The Path APPRENTICESHIP COMPETENCY

MASTERY TEACH / MENTOR 47

Are you a Mature Alpha Man?

• Emotionally Mature? • Socially Mature? • Sexually Mature? • Spiritually Mature? • Financially Mature? 48

SELF-MASTERY 3 ZONES OF MASTERY

• Motivation - Fuel (Emotion)

• Internal Game - Engine & Transmission (Self-Control)

• External Game - Wheels (Charisma, Social Skills)

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DISTINCTIONS

• Alpha or Victim • Action or Pain • Character or Convenience • Purpose or Distraction • Sexual Success or Genetic Death 50

TRANSFORMATION

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Christopher Curtis

• Intro • Life is a series of awakenings • It’s a choice... 52

Boot Camp Force March

• Cadence - Inner Song • Separate Yourself from the Quitters - Engine & Transmission

• Focus on the Prize •K-9 Experience 53

Field Training

• Set the bar very high • Evaluate your progress • Stand your ground 54

Negotiator/The Jumper

• You are not who you were.

You are who you want to be.

• You are not who they say you are. You are who YOU say you are

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Negotiator/The Jumper

• Emulate traits, not individuals • Be passionate • Be authentic 56

You can’t sell an empty box... ... to anyone you’d want to be with. 57

CONFIDENCE

• Confidence cannot be faked to a woman

• Show-off or turn-off • Insincere displays are interpreted as an expression of insecurity

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ALPHA MAN

• Lives at the edge of his comfort zone • Thrives on criticism • High moral character and integrity • Clarity of thought/communication •Presence 59

ALPHA MAN Realizes that RESULTS - from ethical means - are EVERYTHING

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LIFESTYLE

• Identify/rate all areas of

development in your life - Core Competencies Mature and Master them

• How can you control the attention

structure at work, family, or in your personal tribe? STRATEGY

• Become the Leader 61

DO IT NOW • Make a list of your traits, cluster by

Alpha and Non-Alpha, and then prioritize. Create a self-development plan for each.

• Watch every movie with strong Alpha Man role models (hint: pre-1965)

• Invest in 2-3 Self-development programs per year

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ALPHA MISSION

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ALPHA LIFESTYLE MISSION (purpose) GOALS (competencies) CORE VALUES

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FIND YOUR PURPOSE

• Your purpose will not be obvious, and may take YEARS to find

• It’s the search that is most important • Purpose FIRST! - before women! • i.e., your purpose is NOT a woman 65

FIND YOUR PURPOSE

• Live on the edge, or live in mediocrity • Explore all possibilities • Be willing to move on - don’t get stuck

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YOUR PURPOSE...

• Will not be “easy” - possibly painful • Will force you to grow • Will probably not have anything to do with your college degree

• You will not ‘retire’ from it • Will not be directly tied to $ 67

WHERE DO I START? What would you do if you didn’t have to worry about money? ... or worry about other people’s judgment?

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WHERE DO I START?

• What are your talents? • What do you find yourself getting “lost” in? FLOW

HINT: Start with your hobbies... 69

FIND YOUR PURPOSE What is your intelligence?

• Musical • Mathematical-Logical • Linguistic - verbal • Spatial • Kinesthetic • Inter-personal • Intra-personal • Naturalist

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DISTRACTIONS Do not trivialize your life with meaningless pursuits...

• TV/Entertainment/Games • Porn • Alcohol/Drugs • Tension-relieving instead of goal-achieving

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LIFESTYLE

• List 3 areas where you have been living in fear of realizing your potential

• List 3 distractions from your life to eliminate

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DO IT NOW • Take a personality test to understand

yourself (Meyer’s Briggs, Enneagram, etc.)

• Get the program: “The Secrets of the Alpha Man” - Carlos Xuma

• Get the book: Awaken the Giant Within - Tony Robbins

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DO IT NOW • Get the book: The Alchemist - Paul Coelho • Get Brian Tracy’s “Ultimate Goals” Program • Get Brian Tracy’s “The Luck Factor” Program 74

THE ALPHA WOMAN

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ALPHA WOMAN The most important decision - or MISTAKE - you will make in life is your choice of a woman. Your goal is to read women better than they can. 76

WHAT WOMEN WANT

•Protein •Protection • Demonstrated by: AMBITION

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Attraction Strategies 1. Nice Guy - Provider Genes - Dull 2. Bad Boy - Hot Genes - Risky

• Women are afraid of being abandoned • Men are afraid of being trapped 78

EVOLUTION

• Women evolved sexual mystery to entice (addict) men - PEA/OXY

• More likely to form lasting attachment • Women are NOT monogamous Women cheat as much as men do 79

ALPHA WOMAN POWER

The ability to manipulate your perceptions

• Sexual partners/Her faithfulness • Your desirability • What she wants • Her orgasms •Your anger 80

ALPHA WOMAN POWER Women evolved the ability to anticipate, predict, sense, and manipulate male emotional and social responses

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SEX What do women need for sex? NOT commitment ...

•BONDING 82

WOMEN 101 • She doesn’t want YOU - she wants how you can make her FEEL

• She lives on a turbulent sea of emotions. If you don’t understand emotions, you won’t understand her

• She wants to feel safe and protected • She wants to have FUN 83

FEMALE EMOTIONS Men fear women’s emotional states - because we don’t experience them and we don’t understand them.

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FEMALE EMOTIONS 2 ESSENTIAL ALPHA SKILLS:

• Firmness - Consistency/Resolve • Fluidity - Flexibility/Non-attachment Wuss

Fluid

Firm

Jerk 85

COMMON EMOTIONS 4 ESSENTIAL DESIRES:

• Acceptance/Approval - LOVE • Control/Dominance/Power • Security/Safety • Independence - conflict 86

FEMALE EMOTIONS 6 ESSENTIAL Female Qualities: ★ Nurturing - Authentic feminine ★ Stability - No major issues ★ Chemistry - Mutual attraction ★ Compatible - Common interests ★ Flexibility - NOT structured ★ Timing - Availability 87

JOB DESCRIPTION TESTING Prod you, poke you, and push every button you’ve got to make sure that you are not dependent on HER

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FEMALE EMOTIONS COMMUNICATION: Women do not speak LITERAL truths. She is only ever speaking about her current emotional state.

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FEMALE EMOTIONS

• Praise women, never criticize • “Punishment” is withholding adoration • Almost all of her insecurities and

emotional problems come from feeling unloved and disconnected 90

FEMALE EMOTIONS

• If a woman does not want you, you can’t make her, trick her, NLP her, hypnotize her, cocky/funny her...

• You can only show her a stronger

Alpha Man and then maybe she will come to her senses 91

FEMALE EMOTIONS

• Do not TOLERATE women UNDERSTAND THEM

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LIFESTYLE

• Apply your understanding of gender roles in business dealings, friendships, etc.

• Confirm beliefs with the REAL

women in your life - work, relatives, etc. 93

DO IT NOW • Get the books: • Woman: An Intimate Geography Natalie Angier

• Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women - Joe Quirk

• Women’s Infidelity - Michelle Langley 94

ALPHA ATTRACTION SKILLS

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LIFESTYLE Attraction and Pickup Skills are HUMAN RELATIONS skills PICKUP

Managing SOCIAL SKILLS

Parenting

Networking Persuasion 96

DIRECT METHOD •

Opposite of “Denial Method”

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Confront situations directly - talk about what is happening internally, externally, etc.

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Do not let things “slide”

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MOTIVATION INNER GAME OUTER GAME

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MOTIVATION

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Why do we DO?

• Because we feel we HAVE to... We MUST do it

• Someone else’s decision for us • Put a gun to a man’s head and he will change ...

... until he forgets about the gun. 100

SELF IMAGE “It’s not what you are that holds you back ... it’s what you think you’re NOT.” - Dennis Waitley

In a battle of will vs. self-image, your self-image wins every time.

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THE EXCUSER

• Almost every single thing

you do other than talk to women and take action is an excuse

• Protecting yourself - your EGO 102

THE EXCUSER

• Don’t blame your identity! • Most “reasons” are excuses • Feels rewarding to indulge - as with approach avoidance - self-justifying “I did that, I can do this!” 103

SELF-DISCIPLINE The ability to do what you know you should, even when it might be uncomfortable

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‘Self-Help’ Mistake You must fully associate with your emotions in order to change. You won’t change until it’s too painful NOT to change.

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SELF-DISCIPLINE All Action Comes from:

• Habit - Habitual Pain & Pleasure Associations - Autopilot

• Instinct - Gut feeling • Choice - “Pause conditioning” 106

THE STICK Aversive Conditioning - Avoiding fear or pain rather than pursuing the positive

• Remember past pain 107

THE CARROT

• Rewards - The most immediate

rewards will have the most impact to shape your future behavior

• Create reinforcers - something that will reinforce the habits you want to form

• First habit to form: Self-discipline 108

SELF-DISCIPLINE Re-describe reality in a way that makes it more actionable - Disgusting or Rewarding Make it EXTREME

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SELF-DISCIPLINE Example: Procrastination is when you’re really thinking “I want to keep being a loser for a little while longer...”

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EXERCISE “CHRISTMAS CAROL” EXERCISE

• Short-term example • Long-term example 111

SELF-DISCIPLINE RULE: Your rewards in life will be in direct proportion to the amount of discomfort you can tolerate on the way to your goals. Better: Make your pain FUN. 112

SELF-DISCIPLINE COROLLARY: Comfort is usually a sign that you’re about to start losing again.

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SELF-DISCIPLINE

★Keep it FUN • Why fun is absolutely necessary • Start NOW, don’t think • Identify avoidance behaviors • Focus on results 114

SELF-DISCIPLINE • How bad will it be if you DON’T do it? • You are always motivated - but you choose the direction

• Restructure your focus and objectives • Observe Ego - Become aware of your anxiety level and physiological responses

• Creative visualization 115

DO IT NOW • Start doing the least desirable thing as quickly as possible

• Eat veggies first • Do chores early • Exercise early 116

VALUES DRIVE

Moving Towards Moving Away

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TOWARDS - Pleasure

• Love • Joy • Respect • Excitement • Peace of mind

• Control • Freedom • Security • Success • Adventure 118

MOVING AWAY - Pain

• Rejection • Sadness/Depression • Loss • Frustration • Confusion

• Boredom • Loneliness • Overwhelm • Feeling Guilty • Worry* 119

DO IT NOW

•Dissect your motivation mechanism:

• What do you move towards? • What do you move away from? • To what degree? 120

MOTIVATION = ACTIVITY

• Activity breeds more activity • Activity removes negative emotions 121

3 RULES OF MOTIVATION 1.

Personal motivator

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Motivate EVERY DAY

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REMOVE de-motivators

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COMMITMENT DECISION 123

DECISION BARRIER • • • •

UNCERTAINTY HESITATION DOUBT FEAR

D E C I D E

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CERTAINTY ACTION RESULTS

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LIFESTYLE

• Motivation - leverage pain/pleasure in career, financial, etc.

• Identify “low” areas of confidence where you can apply yourself

• How is your motivation in your competencies?

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DO IT NOW • Make a list of the 10 things you are drawn toward in life, regardless of pain

• Make a list of the 10 things that you are

pushed away from in life, regardless of potential reward

• Construct a complete Motivational Frame - pain/pleasure/no action penalty - for every goal

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INNER GAME

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EXERCISE • CAR STICKER • OPTIONS • BASE PRICE • LIST PRICE • MARKET DEMAND - Rarity • Do you believe in you? Would you haggle? 128

LIMITER ONE big inner game obstacle to overcome

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“You should be ashamed of yourself...” “Shame on you...” “Shhh! People will hear you!”

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SHAME “A social condition and a form of social control ... caused by the consciousness or awareness of having acted inappropriately...” A painful emotion resulting from an awareness of inadequacy or guilt 131

ALPHA SELF-CONTROL CONTROL YOUR THINKING & SELF-TALK 132

EXERCISE

• Inner Dialogue for: • Approach • Going for the kiss • Asking for a raise • Calling a dreaded family member 133

THE 3 ALPHA QUESTIONS 1.

What do I focus on?

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What does this mean to me?

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What do I do about it?

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“DO NOT CONFUSE MY KINDNESS FOR WEAKNESS...” 135

TIGER’S MOUTH

•State your Rules •Go quiet •Get ANGRY 136

ADMIRATION + FEAR of CONSEQUENCES =

RESPECT

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MOTIVES / INTENT

• When you give to get, your

motivations are flawed and you sabotage REAL attraction

• You’ll never get the relationship you

want from a place of incompleteness and a sense of lack 138

ANALYSIS - GAME

• Occam’s Razor: All things being

equal, the simplest explanation tends to be the most likely

• Avoid over-analysis • The simplest approach is the best approach - SINCERITY

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CERTAINTY

• Your confidence is your overall

certainty in your decisions and your competence

• Be sure, but not stubborn 140

CONFIDENCE = SUCCESSFUL REPETITION OF ACTION

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CYCLE OF SELF-CONFIDENCE ACTION

RESULTS

CONFIDENCE

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CONFIDENCE = Absence of fear, anxiety, failure, need, etc. 143

CONFIDENCE =

RELAXATION 144

CONFIDENCE You are NATURALLY confident ... until you start to think yourself out of it

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LIFESTYLE

• Find your LIMITER and amputate it • Find and maintain your Calm • Command Respect 146

DO IT NOW • Lose the loser vocabulary: • Try... (WILL) • Coulda, woulda, shoulda, mighta, oughta • If... (WHEN) • Sorry... • Maybe... • Can I...? 147

OUTER GAME

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SKILL 4 STAGES of Skill Development:

• Do nothing - get nothing • Do everything - get nothing • Do something - get something • Do nothing - get everything 149

3 Reasons for social failure

• Don’t understand • Don’t have the skills • Don’t want to risk 150

COMMUNICATION 4 Communication Zones to MASTER:

• Inner Dialogue • Spoken Word • Written Word • Body Language 151

NON-LINEAR

• The Art of Attraction is a non-linear experience

• Think CORE elements rather than following a timetable

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NON-LINEAR APPROACH

ESCALATE

CONNECT

ATTRACT

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RULES OF IMPROV

• Think on your feet • Be spontaneous • Live in the moment • Commit 100% 154

RULES OF IMPROV

• Take your personal growth seriously

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Play with life Stop fearing judgment Change your perspective 155

RULES OF IMPROV

• Synergy - working with others in positive ways

Acceptance - you cannot •reject reality

• Avoiding the internal critic • Comfort with the unknown 156

EXERCISE • WARMUP - physical state • SILENT STARE - hold it • CLAPS - frustration 157

EXERCISE • EMBELLISH - energize • MIRROR - flow • PASS THE ENERGY • A TO Z - think fast 158

DO IT NOW

• Apply Improvisation to your LIFE • Find THREE guys to practice with • Create simulators for: • Approach situations • Testing stories • Improv Exercises • Life situations

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APPROACH

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ART OF APPROACH

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FAT CHICKS OLD CHICKS UGLY CHICKS

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ART OF APPROACH If you focus on any particular approaches as “different” or more important than others, you will sabotage your vibe and ruin your consistency. 162

BUZZKILL

• Scoping out the place - just get talking - right away!

• No analysis until after the night is over

• Making any kind of excuse to avoid an approach

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BUZZKILL

• Going to pee, getting a drink, or any frivolous avoidance behavior

• Following any “techniques” too closely

• Posturing or “gap” behaviors that separate you from your identity

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Catch a Buzz

• Music - prep your own soundtrack CD or mix • Good cologne • Wearing clothes that feel good and look good • Anthems • Visualizations, meditations, any mental prep • RELAXATION 165

ART OF APPROACH • Practice approach every day, whether you’re in a relationship or not

• Approach isn’t an event or incident, it’s a lifestyle

• Approach and flirt with every man,

woman, child, and small furry mammal...

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Talk to EVERYONE 166

Approach Anxiety Your “Approach Anxiety” started when you were a child, when your parents shamed you into socially “acceptable” behavior.

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Your shame then fed on itself inside you, creating a belief that other people’s opinions actually have value and matter. THEY DON’T. Shame evolves into an irrational desire for other people’s approval. 168

Approach Anxiety The Key To Eliminating Approach Anxiety: Feel SAFE in ANY interaction.

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BOOKENDS APPROACH ANXIETY SOLUTION: Control the start and finish have a ripcord...

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“2-TIMER” EASY APPROACH ANXIETY SOLUTION: Encounter the woman you want before you meet her...

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STATE: ANTHEMS I am a powerful motherfucker... I own this place, and only a few women are going to be lucky enough to meet me tonight. No regrets... it’s time to unleash my power and passion on these women. Woe betide the woman that loses her chance at rapture with me tonight. 172

OWN YOUR WORLD Relax You must take ownership of the environment Do not let yourself feel like a guest or ‘intruder’ Living room example Point and smile example Power talisman 173

Create a PRESENCE You must present your REAL personality Confidence is nothing more than being YOU with no excuses - no fear of consequences Do not fear any woman’s opinion Think like a Rock Star Evangelize your life 174

ENERGY Alpha Lifestyle is geared towards having and communicating:

• Sexual energy • Emotional energy • Intellectual energy • Physical energy • Spiritual energy Think SOURCE - DRAIN 175

APPROACH ENVIRONMENTS EVERY environment has its merits and drawbacks Clubs - Warm market, cotton candy, practice Online Dating - Trading chemistry Speed Dating Parties Work 176

APPROACH DO NOT FORCE HER HAND Do not force her to make a decision as to whether or not she likes you or wants to see you again Do not broadcast interest Goal is INTERACTION Warmup - random sincere compliments 177

QUALIFICATION • Important step - she has to feel like she deserves you

• How to use disqualification by expressing

a difference of opinion - read her response

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“UNDER THE WIRE”

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Under The Wire

• What is it? • Who’s it for? • What does it do? • How does it work? • Why does it work? • Can you do it? 180

Attraction / Qualification What is qualification?

• The act of qualifying a person, that they are worthy of our attention

• Height, Weight, Looks, Wealth, Power, Fame, etc.

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Qualification

Men Vs. Women WOMEN

• Women Disqualify Men. Why? • Can’t go home with them all • Process of elimination • Get down to which one is worthy of her attention

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Qualification

Men Vs. Women MEN

• Men will Qualify a Women. Why? • Wants to go home with all of them... • Will find a reason to take each one as the available choices go down.

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Qualification

• When does Qualification Start? • The moment that she realizes that you are interested in Her - Can be subconscious!

• What are things Men do that start the Qualification process?

• Approach, Eye Contact, Stare, etc. 184

Qualification

• Why we don’t want the process to start... • How to start the process on your terms when you’re ready!

• How to reverse the Qualification process • Let’s disqualify her... Why? 185

DIS-qualification Disqualification - Tells her you’re not interested or not available

• Tells her that you’re not interested - from body language, and may be subconscious

• If you are not interested in her or not available she does not need to Qualify you

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DIS-qualification What do you gain from this?

• Time and control of what the interaction with her will be like

• Control over when qualification process starts

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STRATEGIES • How to approach and not give your interest away • What to say that will create interaction, and social proof

• What to say to disqualify yourself • How to reverse the Qualification process, and let

Her try and qualify Herself to you, and show that she is worth or your continued attention 188

Exercise / Bar Approach

• One or two women at the bar • Demonstrate Social proof • Show that you’re the Alpha male • Don’t ask permission • Create fun & high energy • Reverse the process 189

RESULTS • Instant Social proof • High Energy and Fun conversation • Reversal of the qualification process • Subconscious demonstration of Alpha Man behavior

• Her showing attraction and giving indicators of interest

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Where do you meet women?

• MANY people meet their mate at work • Example of the Under the Wire theory at work at a totally subconscious level

• We can do the same thing every day and in every situation

• Attract Women, Men, Business, Friends, and

everyone around you, this is a Primary Alpha Man Rule

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APPROACH LIMITED OPPORTUNITY STRATEGY Time Limitation - Act now In demand - You are SCARCE

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APPROACH OPENER Direct - interest known, high risk, high impact Indirect - Opinion, situational, medium investment Detached - “What time is it?” - Least effective, least risk, most work to transition MATTER OF FACT 193

R.E.A.L. OPENERS Indirectly Direct = CURIOSITY CURIOSITY = IMPORTANT to ME

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APPROACH OPENERS: “The Breakup Experts...” “Pants off / Dance off...” “Teens start having sex earlier because of music...” “I’m taking drink donations to help Britney through her rehab process...”

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APPROACH OPENERS: “Who’s the Alpha Woman here?” Jokingly! “I’m your host, and I’m in charge of your happiness. I take all kinds of tips.” “Have you guys heard of this book, “The Game”?

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APPROACH Silence Strategies - When she’s holding back “Are you not good at small talk?” Jokingly! “Hey, if you’re not digging me, just tell me to shove off...” “You’re a little quiet. Is it your nap time?” “Uh-oh. This is one of those uncomfortable silences. (Segue into...) So come on, tell me something about you that you’d want published in the paper.” 197

APPROACH TRANSITION TO REAL CONVERSATION Conversation skills - Improve - stay fresh and current RAISE THE ENERGY LEVEL!

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CALIBRATION PERSIST TO ESCALATE ENERGY

• Common problem: Opening is easier, but now you have to take it somewhere - DON’T LEAVE!

• You must risk wrecking it • “Throw me a bone here, I’m trying to learn a little about you...”

• “So ... what’s your story?” 199

CALIBRATION

•WOMEN EVALUATE YOU IN CONTEXT

• You are a situation • She wants to see how you interact in the environment

• She thinks and evaluates HOLISTICALLY 200

RISK MANAGEMENT Any interaction holds a balance of risk between the people involved

The one who is willing to risk more stands to win more

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KINO DEMO HOW TO TOUCH

• Initiating - approach with touch • Playful, discreet ★Hands • Body - proximity, bump/brush • Teasing/Games - Alternate palm read • Kiss • No sexual touching in public 202

APPROACH WHY DO WOMEN TOUCH?

• APPEASEMENT AND ASSURANCE • Women touch to apologize, appease, and assure • She uses touch to control emotional states and normalize

• Expression of connection 203

PLAYFUL ATTITUDE C&F / Teasing calibration

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Too much cocky, not enough funny...

Jokes in moderation - think: Humor GOAL: Building sexual tension / “Frisky” Raise Energy! - Be willing to risk losing to gain Be a complete GOOFBALL! 204

REAL BANTER Get REAL - Say what others would fear to say: “You have a cute smile. Did you have braces when you were a kid?” “I like the color of your hair. The natural color is darker, right?” “I like you so far, but you seem a little nervous and tense. Why is that?” “Those shoes are cool, but I don’t think they’re your color.” 205

APPROACH BREAK HER DOWN! A good social worker is one that can get past the social defenses of even the most wary. Get her REAL with you Cut up! EXAMPLE - Gun girl in Vegas Too much work? Move on... 206

EXERCISE PLANNED VULNERABILITY

• Write down one area of vulnerability • Create a way to reveal it that is safe for you and interesting for her.

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EXERCISE REVEAL PERSONAL DETAILS List 10 things you can reveal about yourself that gives you:

• Dimension and personality • History • Hooks for her interest (bait) 208

EXERCISE COMMUNICATE YOUR PASSION What are you passionate about or connected to...? List 20 things you are passionate about Take 5 and expand them 209

EXERCISE: SHY 100 • Approach 100 women • “I just wanted to say hello and let you know that I think you’ve got a great energy...”

• Smile • LEAVE

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DAY GAME

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Why Day Game?

• LIFESTYLE FIRST! • Women you want • More REAL 212

Day Game ASSUMPTIONS: Day game is often easier because ...

• ... there is no alcohol • ... there is no music • ... resistance is lowered • ... more lone wolves • ... you appear more real - natural 213

Day Game ASSUMPTIONS: Day game is often better because ...

• ... very short time required (she’s busy) • ... she might not go to clubs • ... very little competition • ... women in bars aren’t seriously looking 214

Day Game ASSUMPTIONS: Day game is considered challenging because ...

• ... you don’t know if she’s single • ... she’s more likely to see through any artificial game

• ... she may be in a hurry 215

Day Game DAY GAME SECRET FEARS: She doesn’t want to talk to a stranger What will they think about me?

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Day Game DAY GAME SECRET ANTIDOTE: We are ALL hungry for connection... The other people WANT you to succeed!

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Day Game • Talk to Everyone - EVERYONE! • Make it an addicting habit - like a video game • You must become a social connector • Plan your approaches - stock up on standard situational openers

• GOAL: Extend social circle 218

Day Game Approach SAME STRATEGY 1. Approach - Direct/Indirect 2. Raise attraction (not as intense) 3. Establish trust and rapport (reveal info) CHECK IN ON HER 4. Escalate for number (or bridge immediately to mini-date) 5. Inoculate! 219

Day Game Approach SITUATIONAL RELEVANCE

• Make the approach fit the situation • Direct vs. Indirect • Be sincere - Show vulnerability • “I was going to let you walk away, but then I said, No way!”

• “I don’t have a clever pickup line, I just came over to meet you...”

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Day Game Approach INOCULATE - every approach 1. “You’re not one of those girls are you...?” 2. “If I call you, are you going to let me go to voicemail?” 3. “You’re going to remember me, right?” 4. “I don’t want to be just another one of your boyfriends.” 5. Call your phone from her phone - put your name in 221

Day Game Approach CRYSTALLIZE - every approach 1. Be memorable 2. Don’t ignore warning signs of low trust 3. Find something you can re-connect on later

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Day Game Approach CALL

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Call her the next day (don’t wait too long!)

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Bring her state back up on the phone - Show that you’re fun - make her remember you

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Move right to a second meeting - within 2-3 days

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Proceed as normal 223

Day Game Approach TIPS:

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Make this a part of your day-to-day life

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Start with lower energy - be more cool and laid back

Warm up - waitresses, clerks, anyone Go to places where women you want will be

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LIFESTYLE

• Day Game is all about increasing

your social network with everyone

• Eavesdrop - cell phone calls, conversations, etc.

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ATTRACT

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ATTRACTION ATTRACTION IS: Pleasure, Utility, and Actualization

• PHYSICAL - Fitness, appearance, kino, body language • PSYCHOLOGICAL - Impacting her thoughts We are attracted to that which makes us feel good about ourselves, or rewards us in some way 227

Attraction ATTRACTION TOOLS: (H.S.V. - High Social Value)

• Humor - Playful, avoid jokes - Don’t TRY to be funny / Cocky & Funny / Busting Balls • Tease-to-Please (But let her tease you back!) • Games/Routines • Romantic viewpoint

(Don Juan DeMarco) 228

Attraction ATTRACTION TOOLS: (H.S.V. - High Social Value)

• “Neg hits” - Only on very attractive/attitude women • Better: BREAK HER DOWN* - Perception shifts • Unexpected and Interesting Depth • Mystery/Curiosity - Multiple conversation threads 229

Attraction Killers

• Anger at life’s accepted facts (flaking, etc.) • Anxious Vibe • Any overly emotional/agitated behavior matching her state or energy level • Not (out of sync) • Too “gamey” or too “smooth” • Lack of presence and focus 230

ATTRACTION = FUN

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ATTRACTION • Learn the power of charged words • Grab her attention and refuse to give it back - ‘Keep away’

• YOU steer the conversation 232

FLIRTING Flirting is the fine art of making a woman feel desired and making her wonder if she can actually have you at the exact same time 233

Sexual Tension

• Getting women attracted to you

is always about raising the sexual energy and tension

• POLARIZATION 234

LIFESTYLE

• Practice attraction building skills on everyone

• Observe the polarization in everyday social situations:

• Need/fulfillment • Dominant/submissive • Feminine/Masculine 235

CONNECT

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Rapport? Comfort, Rapport, Trust, Connection, etc., are all simply alternate forms of attraction... PLATONIC CHARGE 237

CONNECT = Rapport TRUST - I’m reliable & safe - Confidence and Consistency (“He will deliver...”)

CONNECTION - We’re alike (“You understand me...”) - Acceptance ALIGNMENT - We’re going the same way (“We share a destiny...”) 238

SOCIAL SKILLS • Your social skills will usually correlate to how “mature” you are

• Do you need to feed your ego? Cover up shortcomings?

• Do you feel like you’ve got to prove yourself?

• Rapport Conversation must now be freeform

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INVESTMENT PRINCIPLE • How do you treat something you get for free?

• How do you value something you paid for? • Getting her to invest in you in some way is the most powerful anti-flake and bonding mechanism there is

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Characteristics of Connection

•Mutual attention/interest •Shared Positive Feeling - empathy •Synchronicity - Interpersonal FLOW 241

Connection & Comfort SYNCHRONICITY = INTERPERSONAL FLOW:

• Facial Expressions - empathy & happiness • Body posture - animated - Relaxed shoulders • Eye contact - consistent, non-threatening • Speech - rhythm, inflection, tone 242

Connection & Comfort

•TOOLS: • Storytelling - REAL - Reveal - *keyword • Backgrounding answers to her questions

• Exploring common experience • Assumed Familiarity - preening 243

DEEP CONNECTION • Her Day - explore - go deep • Emotional Weather Report • Use Dad’s perspective • Kino game to restart attraction • NLP state recall • Acu-pressure points • Move locations right away • Call her on it - FIRM/COOL • TERMINATE 244

DEEP CONNECTION • Safety FIRST - “My friends say I’m too safe and reliable...”

• Get her to reveal her challenges in life and

then give her your insightful solutions - but abstracted

• Show her a new perspective and way of looking at life - magical

• Explore her feelings - guided! 245

DEEP CONNECTION • Anchor emotional moments through touch • Talk only in feelings • Explore childhood with her • Share a victory • Share personal details about you • Explore her dreams and ambitions and encourage her

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LIFESTYLE

• Spend 15 minutes learning

about someone else’s background and life

• Provide an insightful solution to someone else’s problem

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ESCALATE

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Escalation = RISK

• You cannot win without taking a chance of NOT winning...

... but you’re already NOT winning! Opportunity Cost = Guaranteed loss

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HOT SPOT Window of Opportunity - Roll with it

• Her hint to let you move forward • “I’m hungry...” “Great, let’s go to...” • “This place sucks...” “Yeah, let’s go to...” • “I’m a pretty good cook...” “Maybe I’ll let you cook for me sometime...”

• Fumbling for the keys, being in your path 252

WATERFALL METHOD 3 Reasons for the One Night Stand 1. Sexual Release 2.Validate Masculinity and Power 3. It’s a challenge

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WATERFALL METHOD 8 REASONS TO AVOID THE O.N.S.

• Numbers Game - Burnout • More harm to your attitude • “Stack” your efforts • Deepen AND widen your results - variety 254

WATERFALL METHOD • Better Skills - short and long game • More Options • Better “Vibe” and Integrity • You will be able to keep the good one when you find her

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WATERFALL TECHNIQUE

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NON-REACTIVE STATE ANIMAL MODEL: STIMULUS

RESPONSE

ALPHA MODEL: STIMULUS PAUSE

RESPONSE

• PAUSE CONTROL - AUTOPILOT 257

NON-REACTIVE STATE

• Patience and self-control are your allies

• Never change your mind to please a woman

•Control your emotions 258

THE CLOSE Go as far as you can! A phone number is simply the possibility of starting all over again with her Easy, tangible, but meaningless Get the next date - now or later... 259

LIFESTYLE

• Apply the Waterfall principle to business and social networking

• Push forward in interactions to expand your comfort zone

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ALPHA RELATIONSHIPS

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LIFESTYLE

• Relationship skills are the

deepest level of life skills

• The success you have in your

relationships is a direct indicator of your success in the rest of your life 262

RELATIONSHIPS Whatever type of relationship you’re looking for, it’s going to require enhanced and comprehensive social skills to last beyond the novelty stage. 263

LTRs

THE FIRST BIG MISTAKE: Getting into a long term relationship because you... ... feel like you could do no better (settled scarcity) i.e., lack the confidence to get the kind of woman you really want ... just want regular sex ... you don’t want to be single. (Loneliness, etc.) 264

LTRs THE SECOND BIG MISTAKE:

Getting into a long term relationship and then...

... acting like a wussy/chump again (giving up your Alpha Power) ... taking her and the relationship for granted (get lazy)

CHANGING YOUR BEHAVIOR! 265

RELATIONSHIPS • You will learn more about yourself and

grow more in the context of a long term relationship than anywhere else

• All but ONE of your relationships will

breakup (R.I.P.) - i.e., all relationships end.

• There is no such thing as “forever.” Forever is a scarcity concept.

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RELATIONSHIP

• Don’t start a relationship too soon • Don’t be the one to declare the “relationship” status

• A relationship starts when you

(and her) understand things to be monogamous and exclusive 267

ROUTINE

• Avoid the routine • Most guys get in a trap of the convenient and the scheduled

• Spontaneous is SEXY • Keep the Tension 268

CHEATING

• A woman will typically only cheat if she is not feeling loved or not getting what she wants from the relationship

• Women want to be adored and desired • Men want to be admired and respected 269

Relationship Skills • Women are Indirect • PURGE THE PRESSURE - Learn

how to recognize the pressure buildup

• She NEEDS to argue - proof of emotional connection

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Relationship Skills • Learn complete emotional control - NONREACTIVE STATE

• Learn about women’s emotional states • Learn her triggers, patterns, and cycles 271

ARGUMENTS - Acting out Emotional Skills:

• Keep her feeling safe • Vent the pressure - Hear her out • Always accept, never deny • Redirect and steer with questions 272

FEMALE EMOTIONS

• NEVER argue with her logically • Wait until the heat of the moment has passed, and then you can address the issue, AFTER the emotional storm has passed.

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HOW TO ARGUE • Let it get emotional... but stay detached! • Don’t try to win logically because you’ll lose emotionally

• Never return to an old argument • LET IT GO! 274

Relationship Skills • Learn the art of Variable Reinforcement • Learn the art of Power Compliments • Learn the art of Sexual Variety • Learn the art of Unpredictability 275

DON’TS • Don’t read relationship self-help books with her (unless you are experiencing problems)

• Don’t get married without a prenuptial agreement

• Don’t become reactive to her emotions EVER!

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What you really need... Chemistry + Compatibility + Timing = Higher chance of LTR success Chemistry-alone/Compatibility-alone syndromes Compatibility is not about being “alike” or the “same” - it’s about having the same attitudes 277

Watch out! Number One Indicator of a Doomed LTR:

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CONTEMPT & RESENTMENT Bury your feelings and you bury the relationship

Expose grievances and issues fast and snuff them out

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It’s all good... •

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DO IT NOW • Design your woman - detailed profile - 85% • Identify your behavior patterns that will get in the way of a long-term relationship

• Chronicle past relationships and their patterns

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ALPHA LEADERSHIP & POWER

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POWER The 3 Sources of Power:

• Personality - Charisma • Property - Ownership • Organization - Status 282

POWER The 3 Forms of Power:

• CONDIGN - Force • COMPENSATORY - Rewards • CONDITIONED - Charisma/Influence 283

ALPHA POWER PRINCIPLE 1

• Knowledge is only POTENTIAL power • Acting on knowledge is REAL power 284

ALPHA POWER PRINCIPLE 2 The most universal power you can develop is your social power built on your base of personal power

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ALPHA POWER PRINCIPLE 3 You must have power and use it correctly for yourself, or others will take it and use it over you

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ALPHA POWER PRINCIPLE 4

• Use sexual tension as POWER • Use frustration and anger as POWER • Use love as POWER • Use hate as POWER 287

CORE SUCCESS SKILLS

• Motivated - Fire in your belly • Perseverance • Consistency • Busy and Active • Faith - sense of future safety 288

CORE SUCCESS SKILLS

• Enlightened and aware - NOT selfdelusional

• Non-Attachment to Results (Process) • Patiently-Impatient Duality • Constant and Never-ending Selfimprovement

• Positive - POSITIVE - POSITIVE 289

EVERYONE Leads

HERO 290

DO IT NOW • Read The 48 Laws of Power Robert Greene

• Read The 33 Strategies of War Robert Greene

• Read The Art of War - Sun Tzu 291

ALPHA LIFESTYLE REDUX

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ALPHA TIME MANAGEMENT

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TIME

• The most valuable thing in the universe

... and it doesn’t actually exist.

• Manage your “NOW” 294

TIME

• Learn basic time management skills • Get a planner or schedule of some kind

• Multi-task/Multi-thread 295

KILLER STRATEGIES

• Universal in-box • Universal to-do/idea list • Personal database 296

SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE!

• Get rid of anything that does not get your life lean and mean

• Empty your closets and your clutter outer clutter is INNER clutter

• Strip away unnecessary responsibilities 297

DO IT NOW • Read First Things First - Stephen Covey

• Read Simplify Your Life series by Elaine St. James

• Get a Mac 298

ALPHA CAREER & MONEY

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MONEY

• Money is merely a tool • Women look to a man’s ability to provide

Period.

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The Tub & Faucet

• Plug the leaks • Increase your earning potential • Budget 301

The Tub & Faucet

• Insure with intelligence - renters • Get debt free • Save 6 month’s living costs • Invest 10% of your income - FIRST! 302

Get Any Job You Want

• 60+% are referrals •“Can you see any reason right

now that you would not hire me?”

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Home-based Business

• Tax break • Stability - multiple streams •FREEDOM 304

DO IT NOW • Find an area to start a business • Get the Wall Street Journal guides to money and investing

• Read Think and Grow Rich - Napoleon Hill • Read The Richest Man in Babylon - Clason 305

ALPHA ENERGY (HEALTH)

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Exercise

• Cardiovascular • Strength • Flexibility • Core BREATHING 307

DIET

• Healthy eating - Quality • Balance carbs/fat/protein • Vitamins/Supplements • Protein and energy bars 308

SLEEP

• 7 to 8 hours daily - experiment! • Invest in a “sleep chamber” • Power nap 309

DO IT NOW • Join a Gym • Get “Look Great Naked” • Eliminate fast food and sodas • Learn how to cook • Get a checkup and blood work • Study Chi-gong/Yoga 310

ALPHA SELFDEVELOPMENT

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READ 1 book each week, or 1 hour a day minimum

•Genres: • Self-development • Inspirational • Recreational 312

CD PROGRAMS

• Nightingale-Conant • Rip to iPod • Listen on commutes/exercising/ housework

• 1 hour a day = 250 hours/year 313

DO IT NOW • Schedule reading time every day

• Invest in 3 audio programs per year • Journal your development • Ignore distracting “high-tech” solutions follow old wisdom

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ALPHA SOCIAL POWER

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Social Networking

• Join professional groups • Attend social events • If someone invites you out, GO! • Network with everyone you meet 316

DO IT NOW • Get personal cards made - name, number, email - get rid of them asap

• Join at least one professional group meeting once monthly

• Go out to an event at least once per week

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ALPHA SPIRITUALITY

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SPIRITUALITY

• Not the same as “religion” • Faith - in yourself! Future safety • Your most fundamental foundation • If anyone tells you they have the “answer” - RUN!

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SPIRITUALITY

• Meditate/Pray daily • Learn the Secrets of Happiness: • It’s your natural state • You think your way out of happiness • Happiness = Gratitude 320

DO IT NOW

• Attend a service in a religion that you’ve never been to

• Read The Tao of Pooh - Benjamin Hoff

• Explore philosophy, not just religion 321

ALPHA SEXUAL POWER

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SEXUAL POWER

• Understand how the machine works - the anatomy

• Understand how her sexual mind and body works - the energy

• Your job is to bridge her sexual mind to her active mind

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Orgasm

• The clitoris is hard to find because only the most interested (i.e., devoted) men would actually search

• The sexual techniques that work are not commonly known

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SEXUAL POWER

• Harness your ENERGY - abstain • Shun porn - the simulated girlfriend • Learn sexual techniques and control 325

SEXUAL POWER

• To have a successful long-term sexual relationship, give her longer sessions of extended experience

• Touch, hold, talk, multiple

orgasms for her - 2 to 3 hours

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AFRAID TO BE A MAN

• Most men are not getting laid because they are not able to reveal their masculinity

• SHAME 327

Communicate your Sexuality Are you afraid to express your sexuality?

• Why?

• Reveal your personality through your body: • Dance • Martial Arts • Yoga 328

DO IT NOW

• Read a book on sexual techniques • Erase your porn - Read erotica instead

• Reduce masturbation by 50% • Join a dance class 329

ALPHA LEGACY

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ALPHA LIFESTYLE LEGACY MISSION (purpose) GOALS (competencies) CORE VALUES

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PURPOSE

• We’re negative because humans are problem solvers, and our brains evolved to focus on the broken

• “You thrive not by surviving, but by striving...”

- Joe Quirk

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Passionate Legacy

• You are motivated by an inner desire to create something that lives beyond you

• Your Purpose or Mission creates your Legacy

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Passionate Legacy

How alive are you willing to be?

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DO IT NOW

• Write your own astrological prediction each day

• Write what you want a psychic to say • Write your autobiography in advance •Write your epitaph and eulogy 335