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Game Table of Contents Special Thanks and acknowledgements About Me Preface Part I: Inner Game How to start getting consistent results with women The 3 steps to LOCK IN Seduction mastery The ROSETTA STONE of SEDUCTION One Secret to having SEDUCTION CONFIDENCE The Secret to being 100% successful 100% of the time A mental SHIFT that will get you the BEST results with women A detailed look at LOCKING IN Seduction Mastery The DRIVING FORCE behind Seduction The HIDDEN FORMULA for creating the Driving Force in a Seduction How to avoid stagnation: In Yourself and in a Relationship The ONE THING that it would all come down to The 3 questions that enable you to QUALIFY a woman If you donʹt have this, you donʹt have anything How to make a woman play in YOUR court 7 Principles that can change your LIFE
Part II: Outer Game The Blake Richards Propulsion System of Seduction
Outer Game Introduction
Mid Game Skills - Comfort and Rapport What women really want How to communicate with a woman in a way that will BLOW her MIND The secret way to talk her her LIKE HER GIRLFRIENDS do The 6 Magic words that will make her feel INCREDIBLE The 2 SIMPLE questions that can get her to FEEL ANYTHING How to know how far to go with a woman A surefire method of getting a woman INTRIGUED How to totally WRAP UP a woman into your world How to associate yourself into a womanʹs WORLD One MAJOR KEY to getting a woman to VALUE you One change in the way you SAY something that will get her to LINK what she FEELS to you The 2 purposes of the Phone Call The 3 EASY questions that will make her LOVE you One technique that will get a woman HOT Sexual Rapport Courtship stages The little known principle that will make her obey you completely Secrets to BUILDING your dream woman One principle that will get you IN with a woman every time The Principle that will change her MIND and BODY How to make her resistance seem ridiculous How to seduce HER into seducing YOU Cold Reading
One understanding that will bring out the VIXEN in her One understanding that will bring out her SOFT side Meta‐Programs for Cold Reading One of the BEST WAYS to TRIGGER a womanʹs Emotions How to LOCK IN your position with a woman The Principle that hopelessly draws her to you How to get a woman to do ANYTHING One surefire way to overcome resistance Deep Rapport Builder Theme One of the BEST WAYS to make a woman feel comfortable and to BUILD RAPPORT 2 KEYS to building Rapid Rapport with a woman
End Game Skills - Seduction The Top 10 End Game Mistakes The 3 AMAZING questions that will cause a woman to JUMP you! 7 ways to accelerate the CLOSE One Closing technique that makes her lose control How to Understand a womanʹs CODE The Shadow and The Rising Sun Theme How to TRIGGER the Vixen in the Virgin One principle that lets you TAILOR your seduction specifically to the woman How to completely DESTROY a womanʹs resistance and amp up her responsiveness One method that will have her screaming for more How to CLOSE the deal
Conclusion To Wrap Up
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Special thanks and acknowledgements: I’d like to first of all thank the people that have been influential in the development of my own “Game”. These people have been influential and have taught me many of these principles. Special thanks to my teachers, influences and colleagues who have interacted with me, field tested material with me and helped me to form and solidify my own “Game”:
Ross Jeffries ‐ a personal teacher and friend who has taught me so much about women and life, Josh “Swinggcat” S., Neil “Style” Strauss, Erik “Mystery” von Markovik, Daniel “Badboy” , Tyler Durden, Chris Odom.
Websites to visit: www.seduction.com www.RealWorldSeduction.com www.MysteryMethod.com www.RealSocialDynamics.com
About Me Iʹm a guy who could be considered VERY successful with women. It wasnʹt always so. I remember always being interested in women... even in Kindergarden. I remember there was the REALLY cute girl named Laura. Now EVERY guy in the class LOVED her... and this was in KINDERGARDEN. She had these cute little brown locks and she would wear those little ruffles tights. I even remember one day, we were all sitting cross legged on the floor, and she was in front of me and she stood up... I couldnʹt resist the urge to flip up her dress! ‐ I got busted by the teachers aid for that ‐ I guess it all started early for me. Then in 3rd grade I remember sitting under a desk watching a movie in the class with the lights turned off and there was a cute girl sitting under there with me. That was my first kiss! And it went on... in 6th grade I dated GROUPS of girls and their friends, switching from one girl to the next each week. It was still all innocent back then... Now, in college I was pretty successful with women. I hung out with a group of guys that were ʺNaturalsʺ and we would frequent places that chicks hung out and always have a good share of women around. Now it was during college that I actually started to formally study this stuff. I learned all kinds of different ʺsystemʺ and read all kinds of pop psychology books on relationships. After college, I got even MORE into studying Hypnosis, Persuasion, NLP, Psychology, Negotiation, Sales... you name it. ‐Anything that I could apply to Seduction. And my results started getting more and more consistent. Iʹve spent HOURS upon HOURS learning this stuff and actually DOING IT. Whatʹs more is that I found a group of friends that also had the same interest in this stuff and we all learned and taught each other. Iʹve listed these guys in the special thanks section.
So what I want to do is to give you not only my insights but offer you both a MINDSET and a SKILLSET that you can now use to be EXTREMELY successful with women
Preface This book is about Charisma ‐ among other things. It’s about skillful human interaction and most of all, about “Game”. So what is this thing called “Game”? Well, have you ever interacted with someone that you were just drawn to? Maybe you felt an underlying sense of trust and comfort, and maybe there was certain “smoothness” in the way that they interacted with people and the way that conversation just “flowed”? And people were just drawn to this person – naturally. And the more time that you spend with this person, the more you feel a connection – like both of you are coming from the same place… where time just seems to stop and you’re completely wrapped up in the moment – engaged and captivated. Having “Game” is about being able to create these kinds of connections wherever you go – with whoever you meet. Now how would you like to have more Game? The underlying principles discussed in this book can be used in virtually any social context – from dating, to the job, to social interactions with friends.
Now “Game” can be further divided into “Inner game” and “Outer game”. I’ve done extensive modeling of people who have Game and you can think of Game in terms of process and product. Products are the surface level expressions of deeper intangible processes. It’s like when you see ripples on the surface of a pond, and you realize that there are deeper undercurrents which are causing those ripples. Processes are those deeper undercurrents. I first of all present a Mindset. “Inner” game – these are the internal beliefs, attitudes, and values that naturally flow from a sense of who you are, your identity, and your sense of self meaning. “Outer” game skills flow naturally from a good “Inner” game. I next present a Skillset. “Outer” game – these are the capabilities, behaviors, skills, and strategies that create results. Outer game can feedback into Inner game as well – so that whether you focus on Inner game or Outer game
first, realize that the two are tied into each other and that your focus is what’s important. Whenever you see someone who’s doing something that works, look deeper. Look for process as well and you may just find something useful. It’s kind of interesting to notice that although the “outer game” may vary among those who are successful, the “Inner game” is often very similar. Now who is this book for? This book is for anyone who wants to improve their “Game”. If you’re a Salesman, Marketer, Actor, Entertainer, Politician, Lawyer, Doctor, Public Speaker, Teacher – then your people skills are vital – read on. If you’re in the “Dating Game”, then you can use this book to take it to a whole new level – read on. If you want to form a deep connection with someone, or with groups of people then read on. As humans, we need human interaction to not only satisfy our needs for connection, but to help us define who we are and to make meaning out of our lives. We are continually connecting and finding similarities and differences between ourselves and others. Connection is what makes us human. Improving your “Game” can take this to whole new level.
Mindsets, Identity, Beliefs, Values
How to start getting consistent results with women
Have your results with women ever been ʺHit or Missʺ? Or sometimes it was like you just didnʹt FEEL like getting AWESOME results with women was possible for you? Or maybe you felt like getting GORGEOUS women may be possible, but if you did it would just be LUCK!? Hey man, weʹve all been there and itʹs not a fun place to be. Iʹm here to get you over that once and for all. In this book we going to cover alot of ground ‐ and work from the INSIDE OUT, from MINDSET to SKILLSET. Back in my College days, I had a friend that ALWAYS seemed to have a woman ‐ in fact, SEVERAL women that he could call on virtually every day of the week. He was one of those ʺFraternityʺ type of guys although I donʹt think that was his secret. He wasnʹt particularly good looking and he wasnʹt rich either. It wasnʹt until
after I started learning this stuff that it began to make sense. Now was this guy just a Nymphomaniac or was he a Nymphomaniac that I could actually learn something from!? One day I was asked him, ʺSo tell me man, how is it that you seem to always have a woman available for you and not just one, but several?ʺ He told me, ʺHow could you NOT?! When I donʹt have a woman, I feel like crap. I guess I know what I want and I know what I need... I couldnʹt imagine having it any other way.ʺ This guy LOVED women and he knew it! Needless to say, this is a guy that GOT IT. So now that I think back on it, one of the reasons he had consistent results is that he was CLEAR on what he wanted. He knew that when he didnʹt have a woman, he felt like crap and having a woman was the best thing in the world. He was avoiding PAIN and pursuing PLEASURE. ‐Talk about a powerful motivational driver! I later found out that this was called a ʺPropulsion Mechanismʺ ‐ when your motivated by the PUSH of avoiding pain and the PULL of pursuing pleasure. Now, I didnʹt necessarily want to become a Nymphomaniac, but there was some powerful motivation there going on ‐ and I could learn from it. Now if I could just come up with a way to use that ʺPropulsion Systemʺ to motivate not only MYSELF, but the WOMEN I wanted to be with
me, I knew that I would be on to something BIG‐ and thatʹs exactly what Iʹve done! Hereʹs the diagram ‐ and thereʹs alot going on here at many different levels. In the coming chapters and as you finish the book ‐ my plan is that you WILL GET IT.
Now Iʹm going to talk a little about the concept of Inner Game ‐ why? Because itʹs SO Important. Now Iʹve known many guys that were ʺNaturalsʺ at seducing women. Guys that have GAME. Now, I had always been pretty good with women but my results back then were inconsistent. I would hang out with guys in college and watch what they were doing. Iʹd focus on their strategies, their skills and behaviors ‐ basically focusing on their OUTER GAME. Now the thing was, I started trying some of the things that they were doing ‐ their tactics and tricks, but I found that there was something DEEPER going on. These guys had a certain level
of CONFIDENCE in their skills with women. Not only that, but they had things pretty well together in other aspects of their lives as well. Now as I tried their tactics and behaviors, I did start to get more consistent results ‐ but ONLY in proportion to how tight my INNER GAME was! You can take the TIGHTEST skills and tactics and teach them to someone and their results may be hit or miss until they get their INNER GAME built up.
The 3 steps to LOCK IN Seduction mastery Now how do you LOCK IN the motivation that will get you results with women? ‐Here is my 3 step process: 1) FOCUS... on what you lack FIRST 2) Focus on what you can have NEXT 3) Let the momentum of that propel you forward as you focus on being in the MOMENT As you begin to notice a change in your focus, youʹll start to notice a change in not just your MOTIVATION, but in your RESULTS.
And this has become my model for seduction as well! 1) I want a woman to FOCUS on what she lacks first, 2) FOCUS on what she can have with me NEXT, ‐ 3) And then let the momentum of that propel the seduction forward as she focuses on being in the MOMENT
The ROSETTA STONE of SEDUCTION Your going to get sick of seeing this diagram but this is IT! This is the ROSETTA STONE OF SEDUCTION ‐ This is the KEY!
One Secret to having SEDUCTION CONFIDENCE! So now that I look back on my college days, I realize what it was that was REALLY at work. It all came back to INNER GAME. When I really started to get results ‐ something happened. I realized that the more success I had with women, the more successful I would BE with women! It all feeds back into INNER GAME. Not just that, but the more natural confidence that I had in other areas of my life, the more that confidence would spill over into my GAME. I remember in College, there was this girl that I was head over heals for. She was 18 years old, blond hair, tight body to die for, and she was in her ʺadventurousʺ mode ‐ if you know what I mean! I wouldʹve done almost anything for her. I even made out with her while she had CHICKENPOX! Eewwww!!! Now, this girl knew how to play me. At the time she me CALLING her all the time, talking on the phone with her for HOURS, putting off my studies to be with her... she was basically TOOLING me! She turned me into a WOMAN! (not literally of course!) Have you been there too? Sucks doesnʹt it! Now at the time, I was in a local Rock band and not just that, but I was in full control of it...
Creatively, and otherwise. And I was VERY confident about my direction as well as my Musicianship. Now this friend of mine that was SO good with women would sit in and play guitar with us on occasion ‐ even though his musical skills werenʹt all that great. Well after practice one day, I was telling him about my woes with this 18 year chick and he said, ʺYou know man, hereʹs what you need to do... You need to have the same kind of confidence that you have in this Rock Band, with this Girl.ʺ And I thought to myself, ʺHeʹs right!ʺ Itʹs a part of HAVING VALUE, and the natural confidence that you have in other areas SPILLS OVER into your GAME.
Now Iʹm going to make this simple. With Inner Game, ‐ You get what you focus on. The things that you notice, the things you think are possible for you, what you think you
deserve, the things that you are willing to take action on... it all comes from what you focus on.
You get the right focus by asking yourself the right questions. And for that matter, you can get the kinds of results that you want from others by asking them the right questions that cause them to change their focus... it is this shift that makes the difference.
The brain will find the answer to basically any question that you ask... even if the answers aren’t based in reality. Your brain will find the answers.
I did something awhile back that changed my GAME dramatically and started giving me consistent results. It basically helped to BUILD up my ʺSeduction Confidenceʺ .
I started asking myself questions like, “What is it about me that makes me so successful with [Women/life/work etc.]?” “Why am I so magnetic and charismatic?” “How do I make people feel so good about me and about themselves?” “What is it about me that makes me so irresistible to women?”
And you know what? ‐ I started noticing things that I was doing that WORKED and it just started to FEEDBACK into my INNER GAME ‐ and then my results started getting consistent...
and AMAZING by any standards that I wouldʹve had before!
[Notice that all of these questions presuppose your success with women. When you ask yourself questions like these, and really allow yourself to go inside and find all the answers to these questions... notice how your focus shifts... notice how you begin to see and feel all the things that work for you... and say that as your state shifts, you will begin to notice that your focus has changed... and now your brain is proving all the things that you have asked yourself to be true...]
The Secret to Being 100% Successful 100% of the time
Now how do you know that things are true for you? This is where beliefs and rules come in. For instance if you believed that being successful with women was about learning something about every interaction and improving your game... then you could never fail... then you would focus on success and that would lead to more success.
A MENTAL SHIFT that will get you the BEST RESULTS with Women
If you were you were to believe that success with women meant that you had to get laid by every single woman you met... then guess what... Your result may be hit or miss at best... and you’d be focused on failure and that would lead to more failure. What failure really is, is not being able to feel any pleasure no matter how good your results were. Don’t set your criteria for success too high. For example, think about the baseball player Sammy Sosa. He may not be able to control whether he can hit a home run every time. The ball may spin a certain way, hit a jet stream, or an outfielder may climb the wall and catch it. There are an infinite number of variables which he can’t control. He can focus on the ʺprocessʺ: putting a pure, sweet swing on the ball. Thinking in terms of putting leverage on the ball and maintaining the power of the swing gives him more of an advantage. If he thinks in terms of ʺhomersʺ he actually loses power and leverage by over swinging and lunging at bad pitches.
A Detailed look at LOCKING IN Seduction Mastery
1) In the center box, we see where you may be presently. This is your current situational context. You may have some Game already, you may have aspects of your Outer Game or Inner Game in place or not, or any combination of those. This is also the context of your environment. Do you have an environment that is conducive to seduction?
2) In the first box, we see what you want more of or lack in your life. And by the way, this model of motivational change applies not only to Seduction, but to any area of your life. These are the “Reasons” – the drives that PUSH you and the needs that motivate you. As you gain a PHYSICAL awareness of these “lacks”, a Dissatisfaction with where youʹre at now BUILDS. The motivation here is primarily PHYSICAL. This has the effect of PUSHING you forward. • Getting a solid Kinesthetic sense of what you lack ‐ How does it FEEL to not have what you want? FEEL it 3) In the last box, we see what is possible. These are the “Results” – the drives that PULL you from your present context into what is possible for
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you. The motivation here is primarily created through VERBAL/VISUAL/MENTAL stimulation. As you do this, the anticipation BUILDS. Some of the Verbal/Mental/Visual techniques that create this anticipation include: Self Value Elicitation – which amplifies your motivation for change and puts you on the right track Talking about sex (Affirmations, Presuppositions ‐ Talking ʺas ifʺ youʹve already achieved your results...) Thinking about and associating yourself into your results ‐ experience it ʺas ifʺ now, write out and diagram your goals and results to lock them in Be around people who have achieved what you want to achieve (Model what they do, get to the root of their beliefs about what they do and who they are, and how they relate to others and their environment
4) Both Dissatisfaction and Anticipation create the Tension that propels to the Results. This is both Pushing and Pulling at the same time through both Physical and Verbal/Mental/Visual processes. So ask yourself the right questions, then notice the shift in your focus then notice how your state changes and how your results skyrocket!
The DRIVING FORCE behind Seduction
I realized that there were several things that I was doing to create Sexual Tension in women. First I focused on building the Sexual Anticipation. I do this by having women focus on why they like sex. And do this by asking “So what is it about sex that you really enjoy?” ‐ and as they start to describe it, the tension for it within them starts to build. Then I ask, “So what would it be like to do this?” ...and the anticipation builds as they imagine it. The other thing that I do is to create physical DISSATISFACTION with where their at now. In other words, I tease them physically and make them VERY HOT. These 2 things together; The PULL of the Sexual Anticipation and the PUSH of the Sexual Dissatisfaction are what make up the Sexual Tension that DRIVES the Seduction.
The HIDDEN FORMULA for creating the Driving Force in a Seduction
So in using this principle within yourself, find all the reasons that you want what you want... let the dissatisfaction with where you’re at now build, anticipate your results ‐ and let it literally pull you to where you want to be.
How to avoid stagnation: In Yourself and in a Relationship:
OK, first of all... get your mind out of the Gutter! Although there may some truth to that perspective as well we wont talk about that for now! Now, it’s pressure that turns a rock into a diamond right? But you want to avoid what I call ʺThe Success Trapʺ. Satisfaction saps motivation for improving yourself and saps the fire in a relationship. So how do you avoid stagnation: both in yourself and in a relationship? Keep up the Tension KEEP IT UP! Thatʹs right, it can NEVER end because once it does ‐ youʹll stop growing as a person, or in a relationship, things will stale out.
So it’s Focusing on the reasons for what we want and Focusing on what is possible for us that creates the Tension (Dissatisfaction + Anticipation) within us that motivates us ‐ In when youʹre with a woman it works the same way. You create this tension by making her as unsatisfied sexually as you can (Teasing, playing
hot/cold physically etc.) until she has to openly want it more than you do! These are the REASONS. And then you also guide her imagination and let her visualize and imagine the Seduction. These are the RESULTS. This creates the Anticipation and Dissatisfaction ‐ THE SEXUAL TENSION ‐ that builds the pressure until her buying temperature is about ready to explode!
The ONE THING that it would all come down to...
A few years back, a good friend of mine Josh “Swinggcat” (check out his web site and ebook at www.realworldseduction.com) and I were talking about distilling the core beliefs of guys that were successful with women. Of course there were many qualities that we came up with from Flexibility, to Calibration skills, but one of the most important principles that came up was “Being the Prize”. So what does it mean to “Be the Prize”? Well, the CHICK equivalent to this concept is ʺBE A CREATURE UNLIKE ANY OTHERʺ ‐ Iʹm those of you that have read that ʺRULEʺ book recognize this. I would say that being the Prize means that you know at a deep level that you are a catch – that any woman would be lucky to be with you. You have Value. Now hereʹs an assignment: 1) I’d like you to make a list of all the things that you are good at and all the positive qualities that you have. Everyone has these qualities and everyone is different. If you have any difficulty, have a female friend help you list out these qualities and abilities so that you have actual confirmation
from a female. If you don’t have a female available get an outside opinion from a friend. 2) Now, as you write out all these positive traits and qualities, take a ʺ2nd personʺ perspective and start to form a mental picture of how someone would see you having all these traits and qualities. 3) Now I want you to physically STEP IN, thatʹs right ‐ get off your butt and STEP IN to where you see yourself Now, you know you’re great and you can have the quiet self confidence that if someone really knew you, they would think the same thing. If you get a response from a women that could’ve been viewed as negative before, from now on you know that it’s either because they just don’t know you yet or it’s just their automatic behavior. The question is, do they deserve to be with you? 4) Cultivate yourself Find the things you are good at, develop your interests, excel at what you choose as your interests, and live your life passionately. This is why women are attracted to men who are good at what they do and when a man excels in her presence. It has to do with demonstrating value to her
The 3 questions that enable you to QUALIFY a woman
Does this really seem like a NOVEL CONCEPT!? You know, as basic as it seems, there are too many guys willing to throw their standards to the wind at the mere CHANCE of having a beautiful woman. That’s right… you need to actually have standards and if a woman fails to meet those standards then you need to be able to walk away. It’s not worth your time. And you know what? – Women have a sixth sense and alot more attraction for a guy with standards who’s willing to walk away! Here are the 3 questions:
1) What Quality do you want in a woman? (ʺXʺ) 2) How do you know you have this Quality in a woman? (ʺYʺ) 3) What do you get from having this quality in a woman ‐ in just the way that you want it? (ʺZʺ)
Now after youʹve done this for 3 separate qualities, hereʹs what I want you to do: 1) Rank these three in order of importance to you 2) Look at this list. Now you know that this is what you are really after in your interactions with women – anything else is just a momentary distraction. If a woman can’t fulfill these qualities in the way that you want them to be fulfilled, or if she doesn’t even want to try – then you’re wasting your time with her – move on. 3) When you interact with women from now on, ask yourself, “Can she meet my values in a woman?” And then you can challenge her if you think she may be able to. Women respond to a challenge. 4) For example if you want someone that’s adventurous and open‐minded you may say, “I don’t know about you… it may not work out between us because you seem a little old fashioned and I’m looking for someone with a bit more of an edge.” – If she has any edge to her at all, she’ll be more than happy to go out of her way to make sure you see that side of her!
If you don't have this, you don't have anything
I was watching a TV show with a girl and Donald Trump came on and she said to me, ʺHe is sooo hot!ʺ I looked at her and said, ʺSo what is it about him thatʹs hot?ʺ She said, ʺWell heʹs a billionaire for one thing... and I donʹt know... heʹs just hot!ʺ And I thought about that. Then I asked her, ʺSo what would be more attractive to you ‐ someone who was born into money where they inherited a fortune, or someone that was the kind of person who had the skills and abilities that actually went out there and made their billion dollars? She said, ʺThe guy who had the skills of course!ʺ Women seem to have built in ʺwinner/loserʺ detectors for sensing guys that either have something going for them vs. guys that donʹt. Itʹs probably some kind of unconscious evolutionary based mechanism for finding a suitable mate... And no matter how tight someoneʹs ʺOuter gameʺ is, if they donʹt have anything else going for them (ʺInner gameʺ)‐ then women will know it and be out of there. So if you look at the diagram below, you see that Outer Value and Inner Value are interrelated. Outer Value is the PRODUCT of the PROCESS of Inner Value. So what comes first, the chicken or the egg? ‐ Well in this case, they come TOGETHER ‐ they are BOTH reflections of each other ‐ as a matter of perspective.
So itʹs not necessarily JUST about the ʺOuterʺ signs of success, but ALSO about the ʺInnerʺ qualities ‐ being the kind of person who is successful. And if you think about it, after everything in life is said and done, the only thing any of us will have left is the kind of person that we are.
How to make a woman play in YOUR court Have you ever noticed that when a woman chases you FIRST ‐ you have SO much more power in the relationship? Just think about it... when she chooses you, you have the power, she is in your territory... she enters into your frame. You are the prize. The King of Spain is all powerful in Spain. He has no power in Japan. Thatʹs why itʹs so important to be chosen. If you appear to be the one choosing her, then you give away your power... Bad. Donʹt waste your time on a woman who doesnʹt choose you... it will only drain you. I first got turned on to this realization by the book, ʺThe Pimp Gameʺ by Mickey Royal, a former Pimp. This book is truly a FREAK SHOW and makes for some great reading! So how do you get a woman to chose you? 1) First of all, it starts with your frame. You are the prize. This is Identity level stuff. Your game has to be tight. In all areas of your life... from career, home, lifestyle... You have to represent what women want. ʺAlphaʺ characteristics apply here. In the book, ʺThe Evolution of Desire ‐ Strategies of human matingʺ David Buss talks about womenʹs preferences. He states that when
seeking a permanent mate, women not only seek men with resources, but with qualities that lead to the accumulation of resources ‐ like ambition, status, intelligence, age, health... 2) Realize that all women want something. Whether it be excitement, adventure, security, love, respect... whatever it is, you need to find out what it is that makes her happy and what makes her smile. Find out her ʺcriteriaʺ for being happy. A Value Elicitation could do this easily and give you her ʺcriteriaʺ (ʺHow do you know when you have X?ʺ and ʺWhat is it like when you have X?ʺ). A woman will choose a man that seems to be able to deliver. She has to know that you can deliver, and what is it that you are delivering really? ‐ FEELINGS. Many women have an underlying feeling that they are held captive by their work, life, bills, REALITY... Why do you think that women go to ʺchick flickʺ movies, read romance novels, watch soap operaʹs? Itʹs because they have needs that arenʹt being met and they are trying their best (unconsciously) to meet them. Work, home, bills, etc. ‐ all things that TAKE... and you are the one thing that seems to be able to GIVE. How can she resist? 3) Most women are never satisfied In all areas... from sexuality to self‐esteem to career, to LIFE. There are many women that want to live in a ʺTV worldʺ where nothing is mundane... where there is danger and spontaneity... adventure... the need to be
rescued. Many women will create this drama because they want it so much. TENSION at work! Hereʹs something that I got turned on to by David DeAngelo ( www.DoubleYourDating.com ): What she SAYS = What she THINKS (Which may be just social and cultural programming), What she DOES = What she FEELS. THIS is important. This is why if you donʹt know this little fact, women can SEEM so confusing... saying one thing and doing another. Appearing to change their mind at a moments notice. Iʹd say that 99.99% of men donʹt know this little fact and if they did... well then it would be a different world out there. This is what is being spoken underneath what is actually spoken.
7 Principles that can change your LIFE Ok, this is the ʺDeepʺ side of me coming out. Time to PREACH! Now let me tell you a little about an ancient Philosophy called Huna. Now Huna was around for thousands of years in Hawaii and Polynesia. There is wisdom in these 7 Principle that will carry over into all aspects of your life. Now Iʹm not saying to go out a become a KAHUNA, or to start getting crazy with the RITUALS, but just use these principles as they come up in your life. Your life will be better for it. Remember, itʹs not ALL about Seduction... well, maybe a little bit isnʹt! Awareness ʺThe World is what you think it isʺ (everything is a dream, all systems are arbitrary) Freedom ʺThere are no Limitsʺ (everything is connected, separation is a useful illusion) Concentration ʺEnergy Flows where attention goesʺ (everything is energy)
Persistence ʺNow is the moment of powerʺ (everything is relative, power increases with sensory attention) Love ʺTo love is to be happy withʺ (Love increases as judgment decreases, Everything is alive, aware, and responsive) Confidence ʺAll Power comes from withinʺ (everything has power, power comes from authority) Wisdom ʺEffectiveness is the measure of truthʺ (there is always another way to do anything, the means determines the end)
Skillsets, Strategies, Techniques, and Tactics
The Blake Richards Propulsion System of Seduction
Now lets look at what’s going on here: 1) In the center box, we see where a woman is presently. This is her current situational context. She may be ready to hook up, she may need to be motivated, she may not be in the mood yet… This is also the context of the environment. Where is she right now? Is this an atmosphere that’s conducive to seduction? 2) In the first box, we see what a woman wants more of or lacks in her life. These are the “Reasons” – the drives that PUSH her and the needs that motivate her. As she gains a PHYSICAL awareness of these “lacks”, a Sexual Dissatisfaction with where she is at now BUILDS. The motivation here is primarily PHYSICAL. This has the effect of PUSHING her forward. Some of the physical techniques that create this dissatisfaction include: • Being physically HOT and then COLD – Turn her on physically, then STOP, then turn her on physically, then STOP • Do this with teasing flirtatious touching and caressing, like massaging her neck, brushing her neck with your lips, nibbling on her ears, stroking the insides of her arms… • Make sure not to cross the line into sexual touch, don’t full on kiss her yet or touch her breasts/genital area yet – you want to build the
tension FIRST and make her physically aware of what she LACKS. 3) In the last box, we see what is possible. These are the “Results” – the drives that PULL her from her present context into Seduction. The motivation here is primarily created through VERBAL/VISUAL/MENTAL stimulation. As she is stimulated, the anticipation BUILDS and amps up her buying temperature. Some of the Verbal/Mental/Visual techniques that create this anticipation include: • Sexual Value Elicitation – which elicits a sexual state • Talking about sex (Describing how an orgasm feels, how different positions feel…) • Thinking about sex • Visualizing sex (Can be visualized in manuals, books, movies, etc.) 4) Both Sexual Dissatisfaction and Sexual Anticipation create the Sexual Tension that propels to the Seduction. This is both Pushing and Pulling at the same time through both Physical and Verbal/Mental/Visual stimulation
So what is OUTER GAME? Quite simply, it’s the SKILLSETS, strategies, techniques and tactics that EVOLVE from an interplay between Inner Game and whatever context you happen to be in. Think of it like this: These are the surface ripples on the pond and translate into what is OBSERVABLE in what you do and in your results. Depending on the context of a situation, different skillsets may evolve and as well as different strategies. The law of requisite variety states that the person with the most options and choices in a given situation will be the most successful. So learn as many skillsets as you can and try them out in varying contexts. You have to find what fits best for you and what most of all brings out your own natural qualities. Seduction takes place IN THE MOMENT. Now, this concept is one of the KEYS to seduction! Think about this... this means that a woman has to be “ASSOCIATED” into the experience. She can’t be “DISASSOCIATED” from the experience with you and thinking logically or thinking about the dishes or any other worries of the day. In the coming chapters, I’ll tell you my method for getting a woman fully associated into the experience and FEELING – remember that throughout all the discussions about this technique or that, your PRIMARY goal is to get her feeling ‐ because feeling leads to action. This is what seduction is about. You can also break down Seduction Sequentially: My friend Erik ʺMysteryʺ Von Markovik has a GREAT format for doing that.
Check out his site at www.MysteryMethod.com
1) Early Game ‐ Attraction stage This is where you open, your approach, your walk‐up. There are many different ideas about this stage, but most of all you need to be interesting and convey value. The spark of attraction occurs within the first 30 seconds of when a woman’s attention is on you – It’s either there or it isn’t. But all you need is that spark and what you do in the next stage can amp up the attraction. 2) Mid Game ‐ Comfort and Rapport stage Most of the material presented here is for Mid‐ Game. The goal of the stage is to get a woman comfortable. Now you aren’t trying to be a “friend” because at the same time you want to keep the attraction going and to cycle back and forth between the attraction and comfort stages until the momentum of these propels you to the End Game. 3) End Game ‐ Sexual stage This is it. This is the stage where you are alone with a woman and the vibe is right. The comfort is there and you’ve amped up the sexual attraction. The environment is perfect. I present a few of my methods for gaining momentum in this stage as well as overcoming resistance.
How to communicate with a woman in a way that will BLOW her MIND!
Do you want to BLOW a womanʹs mind with the way that you communicate with her? I donʹt care HOW good looking you are, if you canʹt communicate with her ‐ then itʹll be over, ... or sheʹll just tell you to shut up and get down to business if youʹre good looking enough and if sheʹs horny! Good looks may be how a woman decides to talk to you, but how you communicate with her is how youʹll get LAID! Now, communication is what it’s all about. This is how we interact with each other and you can’t NOT communicate. Everything that you do, say, don’t do, don’t say… the way you look, what you wear, what you don’t wear… it all says something about you. So the question is... what are you communicating to people? Early on as I was learning about various ʺseduction systemsʺ I had a friend who Iʹd go hang out with and Iʹd watch him approach women and watch their responses. Now not to make him sound bad, but the guy didnʹt comb his hair, he had bad acne, he looked somewhat disheveled most of the time, he had his eyebrows in a permanent ʺscowlʺ... his breath smelled, his shirt was untucked... I mean Geez!...
You get the picture. Heʹd just WALK UP to a woman and sheʹd look at him and suddenly her face would go into PANIC MODE! Now we tried to help him with those things but ‐ that was just him... he didnʹt really GET IT. Now what was he communicating to women before he even opened his MOUTH!? I have to give it to the guy though... he was an APPROACH MACHINE... kind of like a boxer that just WONT FALL DOWN after getting beat and beat and beat...! Anyway, You GET IT! So now, letʹs look at the ways that we communicate and Iʹll give you some of my insight into these ways: 1) Words ‐ “WHAT” is said Alot of guys will memorize certain things to say like “patterns” thinking that they have to get the words perfect and that they have to say the words in a certain order. A lot of times it just ends up sounding unnatural – like a “sales pitch”. Even their OWN EYES gloss over when they start into their SCHPIEL!!! You can always tell when someone is talking AT you vs. talking WITH you. Now, donʹt get me wrong though... If you talk with the right tonality and have the right body language, it often doesn’t matter WHAT you say, so much as HOW you say it.
Now get ready to blow their minds because the next levels will get you doing just THAT. This is when you talk to them on THE deeper levels. 2) Tonality and Body Language ‐ “HOW” things are said Tonality and body language both give power to the words that we use and can amplify the meaning of what we say. Like I said before, sometimes it doesn’t even matter WHAT you say, so much as HOW you say it.. 3) Meaning ‐ “WHY” things are said and the interpreting the context in which things are said Have you ever been talking to a woman and she goes ON and ON and starts sounding like those little characters from that SIMS computer game? BLAH blah blah blah.... blah BLAH ? blah blah...! ohhhh... Blah...! And youʹre thinking, what the Hell is she telling me this for!? Weʹve all been there... but the REASON that she keeps going ON an ON is because she has a NEED. and sheʹll KEEP going on and ON until ONE, either you put your hand over her mouth, or TWO, you address THAT NEED and let her know you HEAR HER NEED. Now, most women just GET THIS level NATURALLY. Theyʹre ALWAYS reading between the lines and INTERPRETING what is said. Theyʹre like little detectives who have to try to figure everything out!
So when a woman starts talking to you just step back and say to yourself, “Why are they telling me this? What does this mean?”
The secret way to talk her her LIKE HER GIRLFRIENDS do 4) The Need –what need does this person have? Now, take it a step further... If you can recognize this level, then you are far ahead of the game. In order to recognize this level, I’ve talked to women and just stepped back and said to myself first, “Why are they telling me this? ‐ and then – “What NEED do they have?ʺ And if you thought ʺThe need to get laid!ʺ Youʹd probably be right! But anyway, when a woman can recognize that you KNOW what she needs, then she’ll feel like youʹre a guy who can talk to her THE WAY HER GIRLFRIENDS DO. For example ‐ a girlfriend of mine was telling me about how much she wanted to see me, how she thought about me all day long, how she missed me throughout the day. I asked myself, “What does this mean? Why is she telling me this?” (It means that she wants to see me and be with me.) Then I asked myself, “What need does she have right now?” (She needs to feel connection ‐ She may be lonely ‐ She may be insecure)
The 6 Magic words that will make her feel INCREDIBLE 5) The process for the need – The magic words, “So what would have to happen…?” But I donʹt stop there! If I identify someone’s need as needing to feel a sense of “connection” or “trust” or “comfort” or some other need ‐ then thats a PRIME OPPORTUNITY to follow up and get her FEELING GOOD! To continue the example above, I would say, “You’re sounding like you need to feel close to me...” then “So what would have to happen for you to feel close to me right now?” Now you’ve not only heard their need, but you’ve found out WHAT NEEDS TO HAPPEN for her need to be fulfilled! And the great thing is, IT ALL COMES FROM HER! Using these skills, just about every woman you talk to will not only fascinated by you, but will think that you’re AMAZING ‐ WAY better than a GIRLFRIEND ‐ because you have ʺequipmentʺ of course ‐ and youʹll be like no other guy that they’ve talked to before!
The 2 SIMPLE questions that can get her to FEEL ANYTHING
Now, thereʹs just a certain way that I talk. And if you do this too.. and women will feel like youʹre LISTENING TO THEM. Even if youʹre just saying the WORDS Iʹm going to tell you. In other words, you can PRETEND, and GET AWAY WITH IT! Seriously though, Deep communication is what gives you insight into their world, into their view of life, their perspective, and most of all is how I elicit a ʺRomanticʺ or any other state. Here’s an example that illustrates the difference between ʺDeepʺ and ʺSuperficial Communication”.
Now on to the WORDS TO SAY: ʺSO WHAT IS IT ABOUT...?ʺ and ʺSO WHAT IS IT LIKE...?ʺ Now first what NOT to do ‐ Question: What do you enjoy? Superficial ‐ (This is what you want to avoid ‐ itʹs fine early on, but as you build rapport, go for DEEPER communication) Example ‐ She says Dancing: Guy ʺSo where do you dance?ʺ Girl: At such and such club. Guy: ʺSo what kind of dancing do you do?ʺ Girl: Oh techno type Guy: ʺSo how long have you been dancing?ʺ Girl: My whole life. See where this goes... NOWHERE. But the thing is that MOST GUYS communicate like this! Now contrast this to ʺDeep Communicationʺ ‐ (ʺXʺ and ʺYʺ just represent her specific responses that you can fill the blanks in with) Me: ʺWhat do you really enjoy?ʺ Her: Dancing: Me: ʺSO WHAT IS IT ABOUT dancing that you really enjoy? Her: I really enjoy X and doing this type of thing. Me: ʺSo when youʹre doing X, and youʹre really starting to get into it, what is this like?ʺ (You are EVOKING THE FEELING NOW) Her: Itʹs like ʺYʺ Me: ʺYou know when Iʹve danced before itʹs almost like your experience where you can do X.... and feel Y... itʹs just amazingʺ (And adding YOUR perspective using HER words!) ‐By now sheʹs going glassy eyed because sheʹs FEELING so GOOD.
Hereʹs another example: She says ʺMusicʺ Iʹd want to avoid ʺSuperficialʺ responses like ʺWhat kind of musicʺ ʺWhat groups do you like?ʺ etc. GO with Deep communication: Me: ʺSO WHAT IS IT ABOUT music that you enjoy?ʺ or you could say, ʺSO WHAT DO YOU REALLY ENJOY ABOUT music?ʺ Her: She says ʺI feel Xʺ or if she says I like ʺXʺ. Then Iʹd say ʺSo how does ʺXʺ make you feel?ʺ Me: So when youʹre listening to music and really feeling it... WHAT IS IT LIKE for you?ʺ Her: She says ʺYʺ Me: ʺI like that... You know, I know for me when I listen to music itʹs almost like your experience also where you can feel X and you start to Y.... itʹs amazingʺ Again... Glassy eyed! NOW whatʹs MORE is that you can use this to get a woman into a SEXUAL MODE: Me: ʺSO WHAT IS IT ABOUT sex that you enjoy?ʺ Her: I like ʺXʺ Me: ʺSo when you have ʺXʺ and youʹre really enjoying it, WHAT IS IT LIKE?ʺ And Booom... she goes RIGHT INTO THE FEELING! ‐ her mind has gone SEXUAL, you can BET that sheʹll be not only FEELING IT
PHYSICALLY ‐ but that now sheʹll be much more receptive to SEX.
How to know how far to go with a woman Let me tell you about some guys Iʹve known. They study Seduction, they know all the ʺtacticsʺ, they may even be able to go out and get 10 phone numbers at the drop of a hat. But THATʹS usually where it ends. Now you can have some SKILLS, and you can know all kinds of theories... but when it comes down to interacting with people on a PERSONAL level ‐ your rapport and END GAME closing success will be proportional to two things: Your INNER GAME and your ability to CALIBRATE and be FLEXIBLE. Iʹve seen guys that go up to a girl and theyʹll be talking about something totally irrelevant to the conversation, or theyʹll skip from topic to topic ‐ without any kind of natural transitions. And they just doesnʹt GET that other people are thinking ʺWhat the HELL is he telling me that for!?ʺ ‐ and it just comes off as BIZARRE. Part of it has to do with being able to truly CONNECT with people ‐ without any GAMES or FRAMES... when it just comes down to ONE PERSON connecting with ANOTHER in the moment. Women pick up on ʺFakenessʺ real quick and while it may be fun at FIRST to play and roleplay, , at some point you have to be a REAL PERSON and you have to see the REAL PERSON right in front of you.
Now the first step in truly connecting is being able to step outside your own FILTERS and not just seeing the other persons perspective ‐ but sharing it. Now, shocking as it may be ‐ there are alot of people who actually have trouble with this! Thereʹs a book on ʺEmotional Intelligenceʺ by Daniel Goleman. You may even want to check this book out if youʹd like to have better connections with people. Emotional Intelligence is being able to understand oneself as well as others, being able to control emotions (or not), and being able to have the right degree of emotion at the right time for the right reason for the right duration. Now this guy Goleman talks about how Emotional Intelligence can apply to the broader context of living, stating that oneʹs emotional intelligence (The ʺEQʺ) is even more important than ʺIQʺ when you look at things like being ʹsuccessfulʹ in many parts of life ‐ from personal relationships to professional relationships, self‐ satisfaction and self‐growth. So what is a major tool that you can use to see if what youʹre doing is working? CALIBRATION ‐ notice a womanʹs responses. Calibration is feedback. Would you want to drive a car without the feedback of seeing the road, or without feeling the steering wheel? Calibration tells you when you can turn it on full blast or when you have to tone it down. It’s about getting outside of your own head and into the interaction.
So what do you do with the information that calibrating gives you? You USE IT and have the FLEXIBILITY to change what youʹre doing and either TURN IT UP or TURN IT DOWN
A surefire method of getting a woman INTRIGUED What if I were to tell you that I KNOW what women REALLY want… would you believe me? The approach I use for this is to be INDIRECTLY DIRECT. Now what does that mean? Well, many times I’m INDIRECT with what I say, but DIRECT with what I do. This is part of what creates “tension” and attraction with the people that I interact with. It’s a dichotomy and seemingly incongruent ‐ which is why it is like a splinter in the person’s mind. Many people have it the other way around. They are direct with what they say but indirect with what they do. In other words, they come across as “needy” (Just like everyone else) but having no guts to follow up on it. ‐Bad combination. Of course the worst combination is the person who is indirect with what he says and indirect with what he does. That’s my definition of a spineless “wuss”. Now how about being DIRECT in what you say and DIRECT in what you do? ‐Generally this isnʹt a good idea, itʹs kind of jolting but Iʹve know guys that actually pull this off by knowing how to IMMEDIATELY turn it down and play Hot/Cold with a Woman.
How to totally WRAP UP a woman into your world Have you ever known a woman who was SO into a guy and who had devoted so much time and energy to him that he could do virtually ANYTHING and she would still cling to him? ‐ I know, itʹs unhealthy ‐ but it happens. She was fully ENGAGED into him. Hereʹs another scenario: Youʹre with a woman and youʹre having the most interesting and stimulating conversation... the VIBE is there and you can both FEEL it. Nothing else exists ‐ You were both ENGAGED into each other. Engagement is when a woman invests herself into the interaction. Remember that engagement also amps up her willingness to take action as well as her willingness to stay committed to you in the long term. This is a take on the “Commitment and Consistency” principle but here’s how it specifically applies to seduction and relationships. Here are several ways that a woman can be engaged. 1)
Physical engagement If you are the first man that a woman has been with then more likely than not, she will have given a huge amount of “engagement” energy to you. She will never forget you as her first. Now if you use this concept, she will be extremely devoted to you just because of this. Other examples of physical engagement include making a woman do things for you like favors,
working for you… etc. One analogy is that you are like a “bank” and the more “money” (work, energy, physically engagement) that she puts in, the more invested in you she will be.
One MAJOR KEY to getting a woman to VALUE you Give a woman the gift of working for you. She’ll value you more for it. 2)
Emotional engagement You can get a woman emotionally engaged by opening up her emotional side and sharing it with her. Share her hopes, dreams for the future, and values. In addition, you can talk to her about the FUTURE and build a picture of it with you both together if she brings it up first ‐ Now do this only if you MEAN it ‐ Otherwise youʹd be PLAYING with her heart and thatʹs bad Karma. Take your time, and calibrate her. You can also let her dream about you and your future together without you having to bring it up. This will cause her to invest a lot of emotional energy in you and in her hopes for the relationship.
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Time engagement
The more TIME that a woman spends with you, the more TIME ENGAGED she will become. She will be a lot more devoted to someone that she has been with for years than a stranger. Also the more time she spends “winning you over”, the more valuable you will be to her. People tend to place a higher value on what they have to work hard for and what they have to pay more for. 4)
Social engagement The more SOCIAL TIES the both of you share, the higher the value of the relationship to her. When you’ve met her family, friends, coworkers and you share common friends, and she’s met and shares yours, sheʹll value you MORE.
How to associate yourself into a woman's WORLD Hereʹs a SECRET about the way that the MIND WORKS and how you can USE THIS for seduction! The mind keeps FILE SYSTEMS and organizes thoughts, feelings and states in file systems. In his book, ʺThe Secrets of Communicationʺ, Peter Thomson talk about this concept. To illustrate, what is the first thing that you think about when I say think about a big 4 legged animal that begins with the letter ʺEʺ. Youʹd probably say ʺElephantʺ. Thatʹs at the top of most people file systems. Hereʹs how I USE THIS for seduction. To induce a state of ʺAttractionʺ, I want a woman to open her FILE SYSTEM for attraction... and more specifically to put me in it. I also want to be put into the ʺIdeal Loverʺ file as well as the ʺPerfect Guyʺ file if at all possible. I will do this by Asking questions that cause her to go inside and OPEN these files. (So tell me about your perfect guy... how would you know that this guy was perfect for you... how do you know that youʹre attracted to this guy...) It really doesnʹt matter at ALL what her answers are. In fact, each woman has not only different
ʺEnd Valuesʺ (The quality that they are after) for what they want in a perfect guy, they also have different ʺMeans Valuesʺ (How they know). Do I care if I donʹt satisfy her values fully? No... in fact all I care about is that I have opened her ʺFileʺ and that I am in it.
One change in the way you SAY something that will get her to LINK what she FEELS to you Now how do I put myself in those files? Many different ways, from actually demonstrating value, to telling stories about how in the past you met those values, to using ʺlinkageʺ words like ʺTHISʺ person (vs. THAT person) and ʺTHESEʺ things (vs. THOSE things) that associate her into the experience. On a more subtle Neuro‐linguistic level, people will LOOK to certain places and use certain gestures and say certain words when they open their particular ʺfilesʺ. Noticing these is what calibrating is about. I notice these things and mirror them back. These are so called ʺAnchorsʺ that link external to internal reality. Like Pavlovʹs Dog. Itʹs better to use someone’s own anchor than trying to create a new one
The 2 purposes of the Phone Call
Phone game is a form of Isolation because in order to talk to you she has to engage. So use this to your advantage. Remember, there are primarily 2 goals of the phone game: 1) Comfort building ‐ The phone is another comfort building “location” If I decide that I want to comfort build with a gal, then I’ll use some of my comfort building themes on the phone. But you have to keep in mind that there is a fine line between talking too much and talking too little on the phone. If you talk too much, they may get stuck in fantasy land. You don’t want to stall there. Find that “spot” and keep it moving to the next goal ‐ Setting up a meeting. 2) To set up a meet If you’re following up on a phone number that you’ve gotten, it’s imperative that you take it to the next level on that first phone call. If you don’t, you risk stalling... which could land you in “lets just be friends” land. So keep the momentum from the initial attraction going. If both the comfort and attraction are already there and you’ve gotten good signals of interest from her indicating both, then keep the phone call short and sweet. The primary goal should be to set up a meeting.
The 3 EASY questions that will make her LOVE you
Value elicitation achieves rapport through conveying understanding, elicits feelings, and links you via “file systems” theory. Here’s the format: X = End Value, Y = Means to the End Value, Z = The Feeling
You: “So when you’re with a guy, what quality would you want to have in the relationship?” Her: “X” quality (honesty, closeness, passion…etc.) You: “So how do you know when you have X quality?” Her: “I have Yʺ/ʺI do Yʺ/ʺI feel Y” You: ʺSo how do you feel when you have X, and you’re doing Y?ʺ Her: “Z” (fulfillment, awesome, peaceful…etc.)
You: So “Z” is what you’re really after… It’s all about feeling “Z”.
You can repeat for 3 values.
One technique that will get a woman HOT
One of the things that I do early on is to give a woman a sense that there is “something more”. I may start off as being overly confident and tease her just like a good seducer would ‐ but then I’ll let her “discover” that I keep a journal... or drop a line about some random act of kindness that I just did... or mention something that I did for my mom recently (“I took my mom out for dinner last Valentines day”)... a “soft” side. And I just leave it at that... a one sentence hint about what I did or do, and then move on to the next topic as if I don’t really want to talk about it. If they don’t ask about it, you can bet they’re thinking about it and will bring it up later. If they do ask about it ‐ I may mention a little more and then say, “It’s not really a big deal... it’s just me.” And then she begins to find out what a great guy you are... and humble to because you don’t talk about it much. I call this technique of mine “Baiting”. Because it’s what you offer to hook them in.
You put on your bedroom eyes and sexual smile, and stares into her eyes. She looks up occasionally and smiles at you nervously. You’re leaning forward on your elbows, head in hands. You reach slowly to her neck and pull her necklace from between her cleavage. Can you feel the vibe here? I know there’s been times I’ve felt it too and I’ve tried to put my finger on what it is that makes this possible. Now keep in mind that a major portion of seduction is psychological, but there is also a physical element. Part of what makes Sexual Rapport possible is a basic unspoken understanding. The understanding is that Sex is going to happen and that it is inevitable. Now a man can project this sexual rapport so convincingly that it draws a woman in. Now how do you know that Sexual Rapport is present? Well, that’s like trying to describe the wind or the ripples on the surface of a pond. All you can do is describe the effects and signs that the wind is there or describe the ripples on the surface of the pond knowing that the deeper currents are creating them. The underlying processes are driven by the unspoken understanding, the assumption, and the “vibe” when you know that it’s on. There are also environmental cues to accelerate the “vibe”. These include soft music, flickering candlelight, the sound of flowing water, dim lights, and food. Here are some of the physical cues that show that this Rapport is present and also be aware
that this Sexual Rapport can be modeled as well. In other words, imagine that the ripples on the surface of a pond actually create the deeper currents. Mind blowing huh? But in the realm of Rapport and human interaction, this is how it can work. Early Game •
Body posture: stretched out, laying back relaxed, stretching arms, taking up a lot of space
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Eyebrow flash combined with a smile “coy glance,” an expression combining a half‐smile and lowered eyes
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Signs from a woman: neck presentation. The woman’s head tilted sideways Occasionally the woman may stroke her exposed neck area with her fingers
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Smiling Mid‐Game
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face to face, eyebrow flash, whisper
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Some body contact, hand hold (brief)
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Sometimes “playing with” an object, called object caress. For example, keys or rings are often fondled., caress (face/hair)
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Stroking the thigh and inner leg, caress (leg) caress (arm), caress (torso), and caress (back)
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Body posture‐ Lean forward/back
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”accidental” breast touch/brush occurred when brief body contact (less than 5 seconds)
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Knee touch the legs may be brought into contact with the man’s legs so that the knees touch, one another while seated
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Thigh touch, seated side by side
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Foot to foot may result in the woman moving her foot so that it rests on top of the man’s foot
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Gestures‐ shoulder hug: partially flexed arm was draped on and around another person’s shoulder
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Lateral body contact may be similar to shoulder hug except that the woman moves under the man’s arm so that his arm is draped around her shoulders rather than vice versa
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Frontal body contact occurs when the chest and thighs of the woman rests against the chest and thighs of the man
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Play, these behaviors consist of one pinching the other, tickling, sticking out their tongue, of approaching from behind covering the eyes
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Women may sit on the man’s lap
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Whole body movement: Parade consists of the woman walking across the room, perhaps on her way to the bar or the restroom. Yet rather than maintaining a relaxed attitude, the woman exaggerates the swaying motion of her hips. Her stomach is held in and her back is arched so that her breasts are pushed out; her head is held high
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Dancing behavior is one of the most frequently seen signals. It’s called the solitary dance because, while seated or standing, the woman moves her body in time to the music. End Game
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In this stage, body contact predominates including massage, caressing, stroking hair, lips
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Voices are low and subdued, talking slows and may stop altogether
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Eyes may close and kinesthetic stimulation may predominate
So how can it be useful to know where you’re at in the “Courtship stages”? First of all, I don’t believe that every woman will fit into these patterns, but it helps to know the patterns that most women will generally fall into, so that you know how to adjust your approach and have a general idea of where you’re at in the process. According to Evolutionary Psychology, women give certain signals and “sexual cues” to men that invite an approach. In fact according to social scientist Givens there are four phases of courtship. And he indicates that it is often the female who controls interaction in these early phases. Early Game is based on Attraction, Mid Game is based on Comfort and Rapport, and End Game is based on Sexual arousal. 1) Attention phase‐attraction The essence is of this phase is ambivalence. Female behaviors during this stage may include primping, object caressing, and glancing at and then away from the male. 2) Recognition phase‐attraction Female behaviors may include head cocking, pouting, primping, eyebrow flashing and smiling. 3) Interaction stage‐comfort and rapport In this stage, conversation is initiated and the female may appear highly animated, excited, laughing, smiling, with frequent gesturing. 4) Sexual arousal phase Touching gestures are exchanged. Couples may hold hands, caress, hug, or kiss. In addition, there are certain “steps” that are commonly predictable in a male/female sexual interaction. A social scientist named Morris
suggested that there were 12 steps that couples in Western culture go through from initial contact through intimacy. He indicated that the steps have an order that usually is followed in female/male relationships. The steps are as follows: 1) eye to body 2) eye to eye 3) voice to voice, 4) hand to hand 5) arm to shoulder, 6) arm to waist 7) mouth to mouth 8) hand to head 9) hand to body 10) mouth to breast 11) hand to genitals 12) genitals to genitals or mouth to genitals Now if you skips steps or fail to respond to a step you could be seen as fast or slow. But also keep in mind that not every woman follows this rule. For example, some women have hang‐ups in certain areas like kissing. Don’t let a block in a certain part of this sequence stop you from progressing to or at least testing the next one. You may even find your own “bridging techniques” to move from one step to the next. The point is to realize what sequence works for you and to be able to flow from one step to the next. Also, have the flexibility to take what a woman offers you and to use that to gain the momentum to take it to the next step.
The little known principle that will make her obey you completely Have you ever noticed how lovers talk to each other and how they act around each other? During college, I was watching a roommate of mine and his girlfriend interact one day and this occurred to me. They were sitting there on the couch cuddling, holding each other and talking “baby” talk to each other. He would even call her “baby” and you should’ve seen how they acted when they thought no one was looking. I was actually kind of embarrassed for him. He was this big macho guy and she was normally a strong willed confident woman – but around each other when they thought no one was paying attention, they both became “baby” like – they both regressed. I’m sure you know exactly what I’m talking about. You may have even been there before. So what is regression and how does it play into Seduction? Quite simply, regression is a return to a previous stage of psychological development. Some philosophers would say that “love” itself is a regression of sorts, and that the desire for love is actually motivated by a parental bond that developed during infancy and childhood. You can actually accelerate the seduction process by “regressing” your target by using some of the following techniques and concepts. 1) Comfort and trust are a prerequisite to regression
Remember Erickson’s stages of development in Psychology 101? The first stage during infancy is Trust vs. Mistrust. Trust and comfort are the keys that lead back to this stage. 2) Teasing So why does teasing work so well for regression? Women love to feel like teenagers for one thing. Of course they would never admit to this ‐ and it was during this time when they were discovering their sexuality and when they were having “first crushes”. It was also during this time that they were out chasing boys more actively, before the boys started chasing them. You can tease a woman verbally and also you can do things that tease her physically – like snapping a bra strap, giving her a “raspberry”, or even a “nuggie”. Although they may say they hate it, many women actually love this kind of thing. 3) Being the “Therapist” Although this approach can be controversial, it actually can cause a regression quite effectively ‐ maybe even dangerously so. Psychoanalysts have called this regression effect “transference” because as the person talks about their childhood and past memories, they transfer their parental father figure “bond” to their therapist. Freud actually used this method in Psychotherapy and he ended up with a number of his patients obsessed and falling in love with him. So how would you use this? Get the woman to talk about her childhood. Have her describe her first memories with you, what she was like as a little girl, if she had a safe place or a favorite
place that she would go to play. Also have her describe her first crush and her first kiss… what it was like and all the details about it. 4) You can regress her or you can regress with her Regressing a woman is like having the “father figure” dynamic. Some women want this at an unconscious level actually – and you’ll recognize these women by the demands that they make on you. They are looking for someone to take care of them – emotionally, physically, mentally. But it can be very draining – unless this is the dynamic that you know as well. Regressing along with a woman is much easier – I don’t need to say much about this, although don’t be like my college roommate. Keep some shred of your masculinity intact! One day she may wake up from her “trance” and think “What a wuss!” Being tender and sweet at times is enough – but only when she goes first and when she’s earned it! 5) More on Non‐Verbal regression •
Cuddling
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Feeding her (your hands to her mouth)
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Letting her suck on things (your fingers, candy, etc.)
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Protective touch: (your arm around her in a crowd…)
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Playful touch: (light ʺroughhousingʺ…)
Secrets to BUILDING your dream woman This is probably one of the most powerful strategies that one can use in everything from Seduction, Persuasion, Cold‐Reading and in guiding someone in HOW TO ACT when theyʹre with you. So what is this exactly? Basically, the concept of ʺPartsʺ is a metaphorical way of talking about independent programs and strategies of behavior. Programs or ʺpartsʺ will often develop a persona that becomes one of their identifying features. In Seduction for instance, we create this ʺpartʺ of a woman by first Cold‐reading her (that is, accurately Pacing her current reality), and then giving her a self‐concept and self‐image to live up to. (Leading). Actually giving this new ʺpartʺ a persona and a Name is a blatant way of doing this. How do I specifically bring out ʺPartsʺ in someone? 1) I presuppose that I am interacting with that specific part. (Identity) 2) By doing this I give them a self‐image to live up to and support them in this 3) I break down resistance by getting them to Meta‐state, and then talking to the ʺPart of themʺ that is beneficial to my intent. Example: Her: I havenʹt ever done X because Iʹm Y.
Me: ...and even though youʹve never done X, there is still a part of you that wonders what it would be like... hold that thought... because maybe there’s even a part of you that really wants to do it and would really enjoy it. Her: I donʹt know... maybe. Me: So if you were to step into this part of yourself... and imagine what would it be like... what kinds of things would you enjoy about this... what kinds of things would you find yourself really wanting to do this... A New Identity (A new ʺPartʺ) The classic example is the ʺDancerʺ name. 1) Once youʹve Cold‐read her and you have paced her current reality, you begin to introduce the Self‐Image. The ʺDancerʺ self image. 2) You NOTICE all the things about her, her behavior, and her environment, that validate this self image and you Support this all by commenting on it, having her ratify it, describe it, reframe it... etc. Bringing out a Part of them that has been Repressed The classic example of this is the ʺShadowʺ concept. In this concept, you talk about the part of people that is repressed... the part of them that corresponds to Freudʹs concept of the Id. This is like the instinctual, biological human urge that we as a society have learned to repress. ...Of course that which is repressed gets expressed. Often in ways that we arenʹt aware of and in ways that we canʹt control. (Youʹve all
heard of the term ʺFreudian Slipʺ. Well, this is just a small example.) Carl Jung was a Psychiatrist and Psychoanalyst that studied with Freud. He took the repression idea even further and brought into the repression concept, the notion of the ʺShadowʺ. Of course talking about something makes it more real and invests it with mental energy. Carl Jungʹs philosophy was to achieve a balance between light and dark... the part of you that you show to the world and the part of you that is hidden (maybe even from yourself). Giving the ʺShadowʺ itʹs own Persona, Identity and itʹs own ʺVoiceʺ can be very powerful... be careful though! How Time forms an Onion skin of ʺPartsʺ In this idea, as time passes we layer on new ʺPartsʺ just like the layers of an onion. For example, under the metaphorical onion skin of parts, there is the part of a person that is still a child. People often have a Past self‐concept (ʺPartʺ) that is MORE REAL to them than their Current self‐ concept. This is especially true in people that have many limitations. (They cant ʺMeta‐stateʺ and see the distinction between their Past self, their Current self, and their Future self. A limited Past then becomes both a limited present and a limited future... a self fulfilling prophesy.) A key here is that sometimes you can age regress someone just by presupposing that you are talking to the ʺCHILD partʺ. Talk to them as if they were a child, View them as a child, treat
them like a child, and they will live up to your self image. They can’t argue with this presupposition because by nature presuppositions are unstated underlying beliefs from which we speak and act. They are what needs to be true in order for a statement to make sense. And more often than not, you can’t argue with something that isnʹt stated explicitly. Realize also that people have a Future Self Concept as well. Much of seduction is based on embedding yourself with this Future Self‐ Concept. The ʺPartʺ of them that is Others This is an interesting concept. Inside of us, we all carry around the ʺPartʺ of us that is our parents, the ʺPartʺ of us that is our friends... etc. What really sucks is when people bring a ʺpartʺ of them that is their parent from when they were a small child into Present reality. And then they act as if this representation of their parent was current reality. External and Internal representations may totally be different. One of the things in NLP and Gestalt Psychology is that you must have someone resolve a conflict internally with the ʺPartʺ of them that is their parent (or any other conflicting part), before any external resolving with the actual person can occur. How would you use this in Persuasion/Influence/Seduction? Get them to Meta‐state.
Once they realize that their resistance is not really themselves, but others influences... other ʺPartsʺ that are trying to tell them what to do, they can then make a Conscious choice based on what THEY actually want.
One principle that will get you IN with a woman every time The will to survive is not the strongest instinct in humans. The strongest instinct is to do what is familiar – Virginia Satir People may be attracted to what is different but they feel comfortable with what is familiar. The key to seduction is finding the balance between both. When talking with a woman, focus on commonalities. Find more and more things that you have in common so that you start to stack these similarities. You can always return to these if the conversation stalls. Once you have enough commonalities in place, you can begin to shift the perspective from “You and I” to “Us and Them”. It is now about you and her both together looking out into the world. This is a great way to accelerate comfort and rapport in the Mid‐Game.
The Principle that will change her MIND and BODY The Physiology Principle is further distilled from the Physical/Emotional distinctions. Now here is the twist. If you want to influence someone (Emotionally/Mentally) and they are ʺstuckʺ in whatever their position is, just have them physically move. In other words, if you canʹt change their mind/emotions immediately, change their body, and their mind will then much more easily follow.
How to make her resistance seem ridiculous In this method, if you propose something to someone and they give you resistance, you take the resistance that they give you and you project it to extremes into the future until they see how silly their resistance is or they ʺlaugh it inʺ. Example: At a Club: A girl says to you, ʺI donʹt meet guys in bars.ʺ You: ʺI can see that, because if you did, next thing you know, you would be meeting new people, having new experiences, maybe having alot of fun, living life to the fullest, and of course that just wouldnʹt be good, because it would be unlike anything that you know now and might just break your model of whatʹs possible for you...ʺ You: ʺI can see that, because if you did, next thing you know, youʹd be knocked up by some guy, youʹd be barefoot and pregnant the rest of your life, living in a trailer park, and then youʹd have all these little rugrats running around saying ʺmama, mamaʺ...ʺ
How to seduce HER into seducing YOU This principle puts the “burden of proof” onto your target as well as offers a challenge. I’ll say ʺTell me all the reasons I should be with youʺ and ʺYou have to give me a reason to want to be with you, either by what you do or what you say... I donʹt just go for anyone, Iʹm pretty selective... you have to show me that I want to be with you.ʺ There’s no better way to eliminate resistance then seducing a woman into seducing you.
I remember the first time I did a cold read. I had met a woman at a coffee shop and a friend of mine had been chatting her up and trying to get a good level of rapport with her. I happened to walk by and I said to her, “Yeah… I know about you… on the outside you come across as totally uninhibited and wild, and you’re really outgoing and the life of the party… but underneath all of that you’re just someone who’s really kind of shy, and you want someone who can see you for who you really are… where you don’t have to put on an act… and you can just relax and be yourself. In fact this kind of connection is really what you want most of all… and you’re somewhat of an emotional type… where you experience the world through your emotions…” She said… “Take me, I’ll go anywhere with you right now!” So what is cold reading exactly? Well some people actually get impressions about people. Can this be developed? Sure… It’s a people reading skill and it just requires some attention. But you can achieve the same affect by speaking in generalities and “hedging” your languaging… as well as knowing when you have a “hit” or positive response. If given with enough authority, you can be very convincing. Cold reading is probably one of the best ways to build Rapport with a woman. I use Cold reading in Mid Game primarily. Cold reading does many of the things conducive to seduction. Here are a few:
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Conveys understanding of her world
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Tells her how to ACT around you My suggestions for learning this skill are:
1) Familiarize yourself with basic personality “types”. I’ve included the two general types of women (Physically and Emotionally sexual female) 2) You can use a tool like “The Cube”. The book “Secrets of the Cube” by Annie Gottleib is excellent. Other tools could be palmistry or handwriting analysis, although a thorough knowledge of these isn’t what’s important. What’s important is conveying authority and being convincing. Focus on the interaction… be in the moment. 3) Know certain categorizations: Inner vs. Outer – For example “Inner health” is much different than “Outer” health. Outer wealth is much different than Inner wealth. Outer relationships are much different than Inner relationships.
4) Use what they give you. Watch their responses
One understanding that will bring out the VIXEN in her
Now, I KNOW this profile well. When Iʹm with a woman who is PHYSICAL in any way ‐ like she may be into working out, running, sports ‐ I start to paint this picture of HERSELF for her. Now WHY do I do this ‐ well this is what COLD READING is about and I do this so sheʹll know HOW TO ACT with me! Ok, so when I say a woman is PHYSICALLY sexual, it does not mean that she doesnʹt feel emotions, but that she places her physical body ʹIN FRONTʹ of her to protect her emotions, and therefore requires a great deal of physical attention. She experiences the world through her body. Now hereʹs the material you can use for COLD READING with PHYSICAL females: • A female can become physically sexual at a very early age if she receives a lot of physical attention from her father or if she is emotionally rejected. • If a female is involved with an emotionally sexual male as an adult and he rejects her, she will become more physical. • If a physical female is deprived of physical attention she’ll become even more physical • A Physical female wants to be the image of the perfect partner
• She is strongly influenced by how others see
her, and is very eye‐minded herself, so her dress and overall appearance become very important to her • She spends a lot of time keeping up her appearance • She tends to have more confidence in her attractiveness than the emotional female, and is more able to see her body as being satisfactory • The physical female wants to please her partner, and is deeply hurt if he criticizes the actions that she has taken to please him. • In every respect the extreme physical female attempts to embody femininity, and the specific considerations detailed below can all be viewed in light of this attempt • She thrives on sex and looks at men sexually • She may perform sexually once a day or as much as five times a day • She can be somewhat vain and tends to exaggerate her need to prove she is feminine • Generally, she may lack confidence in any situation where a deep emotional involvement is present • She has a tendency to be immature at times, and is usually extremely possessive • If the physical female is with a male who is withdrawn or undemonstrative, or who does not compliment her, she will feel rejected and become hurt or angry • She finds herself catering to her mate and can be easily hurt and controlled in a relationship because of her need and desire to be accepted • Usually she feels that she puts more energy into making a relationship work than her partner does.
• She needs plenty of personal attention and
affection, such as having her hand held, doors opened for her, etc. • If she is accepted sexually and feels sexual gratification, she interprets this as emotional acceptance. • The physical female functions on physical feelings, and as a rule is very intuitive. She can therefore sometimes be irrational and it may be difficult to explain any logical idea or to discuss things with her when she is upset • She may like rough sex and heavily physical stimulation
One understanding that will bring out her SOFT side Now, the EMOTIONAL female is altogether DIFFERENT. You can tell these types by the SPACEY look in their eyes! Go to a NEW AGE convention and youʹll find that most of these chicks are EMOTIONAL. Now, the emotionally sexual female uses her emotions to defend her physical feelings. She has an inward emotional need that she feels must be satisfied and she therefore covers her physical need by exhibiting the OPPOSITE behavior and WITHDRAWING INTO herself. Hereʹs some of the material that you can use for COLD READING Emotional women: • She usually has trouble expressing herself and tends to feel her emotions more deeply than she expresses them • She tends to be deeply devoted to work and career, and may even be into women’s liberation groups • She is more likely to have female friends than the physical female (who considers other women a threat) and also openly admires other women’s bodies • She looks for attractive points in other female bodies because she is never totally satisfied with her own • She dresses more conservatively than the physical type • The emotionally sexual female has sexual cycles, meaning that she usually feels the desire for sexual stimulation once every
three to seven days, and sometimes only once a month. • In the beginnings of a relationship, she wants sex often, but as the relationship goes on, her sex drive wanes. • Immediately after sex she doesn’t want to be touched • She cannot become aroused if she feels overly possessed or if arguments precede sex • Sexual stimulation starts with her mind, not in her body, so her mind has to be relaxed before she can enjoy sex • A 100% emotionally sexual female will have little or no arousal from kissing or heavy physical stimulation and may even be irritated by it • The Emotionally sexual female doesn’t want to be expected to have sex. If she feels that her partner is coming home expecting sex, and if this feels like habit, she’ll start to dread it and will begin to think of ways to avoid sex • She may start to make up excuses not to have sex. And stay up late after her partner goes to sleep. She may fake a headache or actually develop one. If she works, she may say that she is too tired. • The more she is pushed sexually, the more she backs up into her shell
Now this stuff is kind of technical and kind of ADVANCED, so until you get really good at COLD READING, you may want to skip this section and come back to it later to further enhance your cold reads. Now these are called “Meta‐programs” which are patterns of behavior that people often repeat without realizing. These are the DEEP STRUCTURES behind the SURFACE STRUCTURES of behavior. 1) Focus of Interest ∙ People Oriented ∙ Activity Oriented ∙ Things Oriented ∙ Place Oriented ∙ Data Oriented 2) Match vs. Mismatch ∙ Matcher You looks for sameness You see what’s happening now as similar to what happened in the past You look for what is there You tend to look for things in terms of what they have in common with You tend to look for how things fit together You Match what people say with what you already know ∙ Mismatcher You tend to Looks at how things are different You can see how things don’t fit together You can find what is not there that people often miss You may sort for what is missing You more often look for what is not present You may look more at how things are different
3) Necessity vs. Possibility ∙ Necessity You are mostly motivated by need, obligation, responsibility, pressures You may be motivated to do something because you must rather than because you want to You have a tendency to take what comes and accept it You are more interested in what is known than what is not known Your actions tend to be planned You give the impression that you have to do things You may have the sense that you either really don’t have choice or maybe that you have trouble making choices You look for proven ways, ʺhow toʺ, and ʺstep by stepʺ ways, what has worked ∙ Possibility You have a desire to learn You can look at things and see what is possible You are motivated to look for new options and new challenges You are very interested in potential You can be good at developing new ways to do things You are always looking to expands your horizons 4) Toward vs. Away ∙ Toward You move toward your goals, Moves toward outcomes You move toward what you want You May have a tendency to have difficulty seeing what needs to be avoided
You sometimes may minimize negative consequences ∙ Away You move away from what you don’t want You are good at identifying problems At times you may have a tendency to focus on problems May have trouble defining or articulating their goals or what you do want You may become easily distracted by negative consequences 5) Specific vs. Global ∙ Specific You can have a tendency to perceive things in terms of its parts You’re good at breaking down tasks and things into smaller parts You’re very detail oriented, You want details first You can sometimes get caught up in the details, and miss the overall goal You feel like you need to have the details in sequence, what to do, where and how to begin, and what to do next You need to know how each step contributes to overall goal You need to have concrete examples ∙ Global You talk and think in terms of generalities You’re very Big Picture oriented You concentrate more on the overall direction of a project or task, rather than each step of the way You want to see the Big Picture first then the details You can tend to summarize things using general terms and abstract examples
You may have difficulty following step by step procedures You often talk about overviews, leaving out specific details You may talk about events without attention to sequences 6) Associated vs. Dissociated ∙ Associated You tend to see time as a series of events and related episodes Can go back to a memory and relive it vividly You tend to be less aware of how time passes when you’re into something You can easily get caught up in the now You tend to make decisions quite quickly You have a high drive to complete something in the short‐run, but in the long‐run, you can have trouble completing things You are more related to a feeler rather than a detached thinker You are more in touch with your feelings ∙ Dissociated Tendency to see events as a series of related episodes Time can be linear, long at times Aware of the duration of time You can tend to go through a long process when you make decisions You are able to detach yourself from emotions and be objective You have a tendency to be on time and impatient with anyone that is late You’re more likely to review a situation, rather than to relive it More related to analytical, thinker rather than feeler
7) Focus of attention: Self vs. Others ∙ Self You basically perceive interactions in terms of what is in it for you You attend to your own thoughts and feelings You can be compelled to respond to your own inner world needs You can ʺbe insideʺ a lot and sometimes can have a difficult time connecting with others thoughts and needs You evaluate your feelings about others primarily by what is going on and how you feel ∙ Others You basically perceive interactions in terms of what you can do for other people Others are the focus of your attention You focus on the outside world and pay attention to people You primarily respond to others thoughts and feelings primarily by what responses you are getting from others You organize situations to please people You try to anticipate others responses and needs Taken to extremes, can be co‐dependent 8) External vs. Internal locus of control ∙ Internal Your validation and source of authority comes from within You rely on your own criteria, evaluations, and judgments You evaluate things on the basis of what you think is appropriate You use your own feelings to know when you’ve done a good job You may also be your own harshest critic
You are convinced by things that you already know to be true by your own experience You resist when someone else tries to decide what is right for you You have to know for yourself that something is right for you ∙ External Validation is sought from outside of yourself You rely on others evaluations, judgments, and feedback to develop your own opinions You require direction from others You can draw conclusions based on others reactions You often have to ask others what they think about things You may tend to conform to other peoples standards You rely on external sources for knowing things are true You respond to the external world 9) Power vs. Achievement vs. Affiliation ∙ Power You look for being in control, making choices for yourself and maybe for other people ∙ Achievement You are interested in the goals you can accomplish, the results you can get ∙ Affiliation You are interested in the people that you can be with, who you are seen with and affiliated with 10) Beginning process or Completion ∙ Beginning process
You enjoy starting new projects, ideas, beginnings ∙ Completion You enjoy finishing things, seeing what you can mark off your list 11) Positive vs. Negative ∙ Positive You are optimistic, ʺThe glass is half fullʺ You’re the kind of person that can take adversity and begin to see the good, the silver lining in the darkness You can see the benefit of how experiences may work together for the good in your life ∙ Negative You tend to be more realistic rather than overly optimistic about things 12) Sequential vs. Random ∙ Sequential Your thought patterns tends to be more sequential, and linear at times, organized from point a to point b, very linear as well ∙ Random Your thoughts tend to seem unorganized although you may talk around a topic and may run off on tangents at times You can get distracted sometimes from what you were originally talking about You sometimes get caught up in the tangents 13) Independent vs. Proximity vs. Cooperative ∙ Independent You like to work alone
∙ Proximity You’re fine taking responsibility for task, but you like to be around other people when you work ∙ Cooperative You enjoy sharing work as a team and working with others in a group 14) Convincer filters: Number of times vs. Length of time ∙ Number of times You are convinced by something by the number of times that you experience results and how many times you get these results ∙ Length of time You are convinced by something by how constant the results are for you over a period of time ∙ Consistent You need to be convinced every single time and are never really ever fully convinced
One of the BEST WAYS to TRIGGER a woman's EMOTIONS Hereʹs ANOTHER POWERFUL WAY of getting a woman to FEEL. This is the ʺFILE SYSTEMʺ at work again. Talk about a PLACE that sheʹs attached an EMOTION to. Now there are some UNIVERSAL places ‐ like take the BEACH for example. I first got turned on to this idea when I was talking to a CHICK one day and she was talking about when she was a little girl. She said, ʺWhen I was little, there was this swing in the back of the house, and there was this little running brook there... and you could hear the sound of running water... and I used to go there for hours and just look up at the stars sometimes... Iʹd go there whenever I got upset or needed to be alone... I felt totally SAFE thereʺ I said to her, ʺYou know you can STILL go there... whenever you feel upset or stressed... just close your eyes and see the swing... look up at the stars... hear the running brook... itʹs like youʹre there now...ʺ And she looked at me and said, ʺYOU make me feel totally SAFE!ʺ So as I further fleshed this concept out I worked out some basic principles:
1) Meet a woman WHERE SHEʹS AT ‐ mentally, emotionally, and physically. From here you can lead them into other places... or create new ones. 2) Find her LINKS between INTERNAL places and EXTERNAL places Now this gets kind of DEEP so unless youʹre in the mood then just skip this part... but if you really want to learn some GREAT underlying principles then READ ON. There is a differentiation between Internal reality and External reality, although without consciously thinking about it we experience the world as one Integrated reality. In fact, because we experience reality as this ʺIntegrationʺ of Internal/External factors, there is no ʺreal timeʺ distinction (without stepping ) between the two... hence my definition of an ʺanchorʺ is a ʺlinkʺ between the External and the Internal world. In other words, physically cueing the External world creates Internal cues through this link... There are Internal Places (emotions/states) and External Places... and the two are often linked (anchored to each other). This brings me to elicitation/evoking emotions as a place... and importantly ʺplaces as emotionsʺ. Iʹll ask a woman, ʺWhat is your favorite place in the world?... tell me about it...ʺ or ʺIf you could be anywhere right now, where would you be?...ʺ or ʺWhat was your favorite place when you were growing up?...ʺ and as they describe the place... the FEELINGS start to come back.
How to LOCK IN your position with a woman Sometimes Iʹll say to a chick, ʺYouʹre a bad girl arenʹt you...?ʺ TOTALLY a rhetorical question because she knows she is! Then Iʹll say, ʺBut youʹre BAD in a GOOD way right?ʺ ANOTHER rhetorical question... Then Iʹll say, ʺAnd youʹre GOOD in a BAD way too huh?...ʺ You get the idea. These are questions that LEAD. These kinds of questions donʹt really have an answer... they just LEAD a woman to where you want her to go! Think of all the things that have to be true about a womanʹs reality. Turn these statements into Rhetorical questions. Think of where you want things to go... THEN make the DOT to DOT connections between the Rhetorical questions and the RESULTS that youʹre going for.
The Principle that hopelessly draws her to you
White is only as white as black is black. Let me illustrate. Have you ever seen a chick that would go for BAD boy jerks... one after the other and then get tired of it and gor for a teddy bear NICE GUY, and when she tired of that sheʹd go for the BAD boy jerks again. Weʹll sheʹs one that needs CONTRAST. One is only as good as the other is BAD... but then again, sometimes BAD can be GOOD! Weʹre always COMPARING and CONTRASTING. Like it or not, a woman is instantly comparing you to every boyfriend sheʹs
ever had... So donʹt you hate those guys that break the BELL CURVE!? Well, now you can BE one of those guys... So how does this apply to Seduction? Give her the best of BOTH... never be predictable... this HOT/COLD technique can create an underlying TENSION that will keep her HOOKED! Another application is the ʺBaitingʺ technique where you may show an outward ʺStrongʺ side with a hint of inner ʺSensitivityʺ. This is also CONTRAST.
How to get a woman to do ANYTHING
Thereʹs the story of the frog that is put into the pot of water as the heat is turned up slowly... and the frog doesnʹt jump out because the change is so slow that it is unrecognized. You can get a woman to do virtually ANYTHING using this principle and given enough time and patience. But in order for it to work BEST, you have to BREAK UP the tension ‐ turn it on, turn it off, turn it on more, turn it off... Just think of it as continually testing and CONDITIONING for RESPONSIVENESS. When women decide to have SEX, itʹs because they are Responsive... men on the other hand are Persistent
One surefire way to overcome resistance Do you ever wish that you had a CROWBAR to break down a chicks resistance and open up her responsiveness? The ʺcrowbar methodʺ does just this... Hereʹs an example: Letʹs say you are talking to someone that you want to do ʺXʺ. You say, ʺThink of a number from 1 to 10 and if I can tell you what it is, then you have to do ʺXʺ, OK?ʺ Now if she says OK... then youʹre IN! Youʹve taken her from a categorical NO to a MAYBE... Then they think of the number and you follow up saying some random number (if you do Mentalism even better...) This technique is PERFECT for that ʺtoken anti‐ slutʺ resistance!
Blake Richard's Deep Rapport Builder This theme is a rapport builder as well as an opportunity for anchoring for those of you that do this. In addition, it really shows that you get it, when it comes to ʺrelationshipsʺ, when a woman brings it up. I’ve had to come up with a good response on the fly when women have asked me what I’m looking for in a ʺrelationshipʺ. I normally donʹt like to bring up the ʺRʺ word, but when a gal brings it up, you have to have a good reply... one that will show them that you are intelligent, that you have it together, that you are sophisticated, and that there is more to you than meets the eye. Now the context of using this is that I have only used it with gals in a casual environment, (a bookstore, coffee shops, restaurant). This is for when you are alone, having one of those one on one, deep rapport conversations, as a prelude to (a few steps before) the full close. ‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐Begin theme “I have a new theory about all relationships and what makes up the ideal one. First of all you need Passion. This is where you have a physical chemistry with this person, where you feel drawn to this person that you’re with,
you may even feel a warm feeling right here in your stomach and maybe it spreads all over your body when your with this person… where you can lose track of time and give yourself completely to this experience… Next you need Intimacy. This is where you feel an emotional connection with this person, like you’ve known them before, and like you were always meant to know this person… like this was meant to be and where you feel completely comfortable and close… and you may feel it right here in your heart… Then you need Commitment. Philosophers have called this a sense of “duty”… where you feel secure, knowing that this is someone that is here for you, that we both choose to be together… and this is someone that you can see yourself with now and in the future… Now, all relationships are based on varying degrees of each one of these elements. For example if you have just passion, but no intimacy or commitment, then that would be like just physical infatuation. Like a one night stand or something… nothing more, nothing less… If you have just intimacy, but no passion or commitment, then that would be just friendship. And we all have those… If you have just commitment, but no passion or intimacy, then that would be an empty relationship. Like a lot of married people out there… so sad. Then you can have passion and intimacy, but no commitment. This is like a “Romantic affair”… and maybe the knowledge that it is something thatʹs
now or never… or that you have no guarantees about, makes the passion and intimacy even more intense… And you can have passion and commitment, but no intimacy. That is like people who stay together because they really like the sex. And you can have intimacy and commitment but no passion. That would be like grandma and grandpa who are together for companionship, but cant remember the last time they did it. And of course the ideal, as with all things… is about balance, where you can have just the right amount of passion, just the right amount of intimacy, and just the right amount of commitment… well… now that I think about it, an extra little bit more passion would be nice… what do you think?” ‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐‐End theme
One of the BEST WAYS to make a woman feel comfortable and to BUILD RAPPORT Telling stories is one of the best ways to Build Comfort and Rapport in the Mid Game. It gets a chick ENGAGED and when everyoneʹs attention is on you, it says all the RIGHT THINGS! Here are a couple of tips about the way that I tell stories. Get to the point where you can improvise your stories based on themes… NEVER memorize stories ʺword for wordʺ... and be sure to throw in little details that the person that youʹre talking to can identify with – details in your story that have some similar characteristics with the situation or the gal you’re talking to. One thing that I do is to link the woman Iʹm with to a character in my story. And that character is in a similar situation and of course the character does exactly what you what the girl to do. – also keep in mind that you can use this same tactic as a tease if the story is about a “dorky” girl that she ʺremindsʺ you of. For example, hereʹs one that I use... If there is a girl that you are with that is kind of sexually inhibited you may say,
ʺYou know, you kind of remind me of this girl that I know... Actually you look a lot like her... My friend Jen, and I remember she was telling me about how she was with this guy once, and she was totally turned on... theyʹre like over at her place on her couch, alone, late at night... the mood was perfect... candles were on, they had the wine out... and theyʹre here totally making out, and getting all into it... but you know what she told me was that she had been kind of shy when it came to sex... (Iʹm Pacing her here) but she totally wanted it. But you know, it kind of took her awhile, and it was just like a reflex to keep pushing her boyfriend away... (more pacing) I guess it was just like a pattern that she got into, and she really just kept doing it out if reflex, not even really thinking about it. So anyway, at the end of the night, her boyfriend had been pushed away so much that he just stops everything... no kissing, no touching, nothing... and he gets up and says kind of in a matter of fact tone, ʺIʹm going home... goodnightʺ And he starts walking toward the door. And then Jen tells me she didnʹt know what got into her... (leading now) she just jumps up and starts ripping his clothes off, her clothes off, pulls him to her bedroom and she said that it was just an incredible night... they totally went at it... she said it was like everything that she had always really wanted to do, she did... totally uninhibited. She said it was just awesome... so now, what do you think?ʺ And ending this with a question, I get to calibrate her even more, and of course sheʹs ʺidentifiedʺ with the character in my story (Jen).
So she gets to ʺbeʺ Jen for the duration of my story... and so that when that moment comes for us where we’re the ones making out on the couch, sheʹll have already gone through both the resistance and then giving up the resistance in her mind through ʺJenʺ. Iʹve also use stories about a ʺfriendʺ that a gal reminds me of, to do things like bring out bisexual qualities, bring out the ʺnaughty sideʺ, open up a gal to the ʺfriends plusʺ frame, getting gals to role play (being a ho/stripper), getting gals to experiment and more...
2 KEYS to building Rapid Rapport with a woman One of the best ways to accelerate rapport in the Mid Game is venue changing. Iʹve gone from coffee shop inside to coffee shop outside (to get ʺfresh airʺ)... to outside in their car (because ʺitʹs coldʺ to ... :) to their car. Remember also that one important principle in persuasion is that if someone is stuck emotionally, get them moving physically. This is using the mind/body connection. The more venues a woman feels comfortable with you in, the more her overall comfort level is. One other key that needs to be mentioned ‐ Isolation. If you have isolation first ‐ then why change venues?
To give you an example, the day before yesterday (Wednesday afternoon), I went to pick up a 28 year old blond with a tight body and long legs from her house. When I called her on the phone that day she asked, ʺSo do you want to meet somewhere or do you just want to pick me up?ʺ Well ‐ if a woman gives you an opportunity to isolate... take it! We had met at a coffee shop last week and talked briefly and I was just following up on it. Well I went to pick her up and as we sat on her couch, I thought to myself, ʺShe enough into me that we donʹt have to go out!ʺ So I built sexual attraction and comfort (using some of my Sexual Rapport material) ‐ and BAM... we were off to her bedroom within 30 minutes ‐ no venue changes... just isolation.
Blake Richards Top 10 End Game Mistakes First of all, let me tell you what End Game is. All successful seductions have an End Game phase. This is where you have built up the attraction and comfort and you are alone with the woman. So it’s at THIS stage that the results of the Seduction are playing out. This is where so many guys screw up… and it’s often focused on the least in seduction because to tell you the truth, not many guys get there. There off getting phone numbers – and that’s IT. Believe me – the focus of this book, “GAME” is about how to get PAST that point and on to the Seduction. Ok, now to the top 10 End Game mistakes that most guys make and what you can do to avoid these mistakes: 1) Bad Logistics One guy I used to know would go out and say, “I’m going to get laid tonight!” And then we’d get to the club and he’d go home to his parents house – no lay. I told him, “Now exactly where are you going to do this? And do you have condoms – ON you, and if a woman were to walk up to you right now and want to have sex with you, would you be ready?” – Hmmm? was his answer. The point is, if you WANT success, you have to be READY for it. Now, when I want to get laid, I have a framework of how I want it to happen. Sure‐ it can be spontaneous and I have to have some flexibility built in, but one of the keys to End Game is Isolation and not just that, but logistics ALREADY in place for every Isolation scenario that you could come up with. For example, I have condoms in my CAR… Now did they come in handy? – Well last WEEK they did when I was out with a chick at a DRIVE IN. Same day close with her… 2) They trigger her automatic responses
Now all chicks have an automatic response for a guy getting physical with them – It’s just something that’s BUILT IN – through evolution to protect their productive resources. And when you think about it, they HAVE to have this in place because then they would end up a being a HO or be pregnant their whole lives! So what are the typical triggers? I’ll list a couple: When a guy gets too sexual too fast When a guy stops “talking” and just goes into LUST mode before she does When she get the feeling that a guy just wants her for SEX or just sees her as an object When a guy goes straight for the crotch –most of the time at least When a guy seems too eager to get down her pants When a guy seems sneaky and dishonest You get the point. The key is to go slow, keep talking to her, be suggestive without being overtly sexual, and wait until SHE goes first with being physically sexual. 3) They engage her logical mind Just imagine this: you’re on the couch with a chick, maybe watching a movie or talking, and you start to notice the VIBE as the sexual tension is building. You know that it COULD be GAME ON if you play your cards right… Now what do a lot of guys do? They get all nervous at this point and start talking about GUY stuff… LOGICAL stuff like work, school, analyzing this and that… BIG mistake! You want her logical mind OFF at this point. Don’t say or DO anything that could engage her logical mind. You don’t want her solving MATH while you’re trying to get her in bed! The focus should be on the FEELINGS. Get her arousal AMPED UP. Build the sexual tension. In my book, I go into depth on how to build this using a PROPULSION mechanism – and for those of you that don’t know what that is, it’s a motivational system where you have both PUSH from avoiding pain and PULL from pursuing pleasure.
4) They don’t build up the comfort enough A chick will RARELY get physical with a guy that she’s not comfortable with. You need to build up the comfort and rapport before you go into END GAME. When you hear a chick say, “But I hardly know you!” – Then you know you need more comfort building! In my book I extensively cover MID GAME which focuses on Comfort building and Rapport – so Check it out! 5) They take the first sign of resistance as failure Now not all chick will go to bed with you the first time you make your move. Most of the times, chicks need REPEATED attempts where you FLIRT with her comfort zone. You know, every chick has a comfort zone – a line where things go from being Rated “R” to being rated “X”. And if you push that line too much, it may shut her down – so FLIRT with that line. When she offers resistance, PULL BACK. And I’m talking ANY resistance – and I pull WAY back and go back into comfort building (MID GAME). Then as I approach that line again, I can come that much CLOSER to that line until I have to pull back again. As this may be repeated several times, you get that much closer and closer to her comfort zone line until before she knows it, you’re INSIDE her! (I talk about this in my book in the chapter on the Gradient Principle) 6) They follow THEIR OWN automatic responses and don’t make the bold move You know that ONE POINT in the date, where you know it could go one way or the other. And you know that what you do at that point could MAKE or BREAK the seduction? Have you guys been there? I have – too many times, but I’ve learned something. Too many times before I would just GO WITH THE FLOW… and to tell you the truth – that’s just not conducive to seduction!
How many times have you been over at a chick’s house… it’s late at night and you can tell that it could be “Game On”, and then she tells you, “It’s getting late… I should go to bed” and you say, “Ok… well I enjoyed hanging out with you… and I’ll talk to you later…” Then as you hear the door shut you’re wondering where you went wrong… you could be in BED with her right NOW! So how do you get over this? Well first of all, be AWARE of your automatic responses and hers as well. And know that you can use whatever a woman gives you. Like in the example above, what if you were to say… “Go to bed?! But I hardly know you! I’m not that easy… but I could be if you gave me a massage!” So you see how you need to interrupt the auto‐response! And humor works best followed up with a suggestive comment. 7) They don’t focus on the moment At this phase in the Game, a lot of guys are in their own heads and not focusing on the moment. They may be thinking of the last pattern to use or what to say next… but to tell you the truth – at this stage in the game, you need to throw those out and focus on getting her to FEEL in the MOMENT. This is where seduction happens! And you want to get her associated into the moment as well by getting her to FEEL (including body feelings). The thing about FEELINGS is that they draw a person into the moment. Like when someone is angry for instance – and they can’t think about anything else… or when someone feels pain – that’s VERY real in the moment. The same goes for feeling pleasure and for feeling AROUSED sexually. 8) They think that the woman will lead them by the hand At this stage in the game, even women that seem sexually aggressive will want the MAN to take action first. One chick that I was with said she wanted a guy that was “Confident”. I asked her, “So how do you know when a guy is confident?” She said,
“When he’s able to do with me what I really want him to do without me telling him how to do it.” When you get certain “buying signals” from a woman, you need to close QUICKLY. Now not all buying signals are equal. For example, a suggestive flirtatious smile when you offer to massage her is much different then when she pulls her pants down and bends over! Let your buying signals tell you how quickly to move… 9) They’re attached too much to the outcome One thing that women have radar for is “Neediness”. In fact a guy who’s willing to walk AWAY from her has more power than she does in the “negotiation”. Instead of focusing on the outcome (the home run), focus a little on the process – but mostly be in the MOMENT. If a woman does a take away from you and you don’t respond… it tells her that YOUR in control and it communicates that YOU have CHOICE. – After all, how many guy would actually decline an offer of sex from an attractive woman? And if she senses that you would – then you’ve upped your value in her eyes… as well as made yourself a challenge for her! 10) They go too fast and out of her “sequence” without amping up the desire enough Remember, building desire is about building the sexual tension. Take time to let her get her buying temperature up. Tease her, play hot/cold, FLIRT with her comfort line (the line where things go from being rated R to being rated X) until SHE crosses it. And go the typical “physical” sequence unless she gives you resistance – in which case you pull back to Mid Game, then as you go back into End Game, you test again at the NEXT higher level. I call these “Courtship Stages” and I talk way more in depth about them in my book. These are the typical physical steps in a
seduction. Now the order doesn’t always apply, but for the most part they do. For example, if you go straight from “hand to hand” to “Hand to Genitals”, most chicks will resist. So know this natural sequence. Here’s an abbreviated version: hand to hand => arm to waist => mouth to mouth => hand to head => hand to body => mouth to breast => hand to genitals => genitals to genitals or mouth to genitals To wrap up, well there you have it guys, my top 10 End Game Mistakes and how to overcome them!
The 3 AMAZING questions that will cause a woman to JUMP you!
Now, would you like to learn 3 AMAZING questions that will get a woman to JUMP YOU!? Well, READ ON. First of all, before even attempting this, there must be rapport. I make sure to only do this when I have her in a place where I can logistically close her... (i.e. you and her alone in a locked room (or private place) with little chance of interruption , whether that be at your place or hers or any other setup)... This is also done as part of the ʺImpulse Closeʺ to build up the chemistry and sexual tension where there is a phase shift into a sexual state. 1) The Sexual Value: X ʺWHAT ABOUT SEX REALLY TURNS YOU ON?ʺ The quality itself that a gal enjoys about sex and wants more of. (i.e. Romantic sex, Nasty sex, Bondage sex, taboo sex...)
2) The Rule: Y ʺHOW DO YOU KNOW THAT YOU HAVE X?ʺ This is the way that she knows that she has that quality... What she/he does. i.e. Her process. ʺHow do you know when youʹre having really _______ sex or youʹre feeling really _______? What kindʹs of things do you do, or does the other person do?ʺ ʺHow do you know that you have this sense of _______ when youʹre with this person thatʹs closest to you...ʺ 3) Interaction between the Value and the Rule: Z ʺSO WHAT IS IT LIKE TO HAVE X WHERE YOUʹRE DOING Y?ʺ and BOOM! ‐ she goes into Sexual FEELING mode! 4) Repeat back X, Y, Z (Value) = X, (Rule) = Y, (Interaction) = Z ʺSo when youʹre with this person where youʹre having the most X sex, where youʹre/theyʹre doing Y, and you feel this sense of Z … This is what you really enjoy about it, isnʹt it...ʺ Now another Example: 1) ʺWhat is it about SEX that you really enjoy?ʺ She may respond with ʺfeeling skin on skinʺ… (This is really Y... what they do… the rule… i.e. how they know) Focus back on the quality: ʺSo what does feeling skin on skin give you?ʺ
Then they may respond with something like ʺClosenessʺ. NOW, Closeness (X) is the quality that you are after. 2) ʺClosenessʺ (X Quality) … ʺSkin on skinʺ (Y Rule) to the Interaction between the two (Z) ʺSO WHAT IS IT LIKE when you have a sense of closeness with this person, where you can feel skin on skin... ?ʺ 3) ʺIt feels COMPLETEʺ (Z Interaction between quality and rule… i.e. WHAT IT GIVES THEM) 4) You then repeat it all back to them as you anchor the state. ʺSo say that youʹre with this person who is closest to you, where you feel this closeness, this feeling of skin on skin… where you feel this sense of completion… where this is something that you really enjoy and something that you want, isnʹt it…ʺ
7 ways to accelerate the CLOSE
There are many many sexual ʺstoriesʺ out there. And there are many ways to introduce sexual ʺthemesʺ and from there itʹs a hop, skip and a jump to the full close provided the locale is appropriate. When I tell a sexual ʺstoryʺ or introduce a sexual theme, I may approach it as follows: 1) A story about a friendʹs experience 2) A sexual JOKE 3) A story that I just make up that seems to pace the current situation between her and I 4) A story that I want her opinion on and that can give me ʺinsightʺ into the ʺway that women thinkʺ 5) You can pick up any womans magazine like Cosmopolitan etc. and find many articles on sex (from attitudes, beliefs, techniques, shouldʹs/shouldnʹts, to tabooʹs, how toʹs, etc.) This provides an endless supply of material and themes to ʺask her aboutʺ. 6) As part of a Cold Reading... if she seems overtly like a ʺPhysical typeʺ Iʹll include a reading about her Sexuality.
7) As part of an analysis like ʺThe Cubeʺ: Which includes a Sexual analysis (The Horse) 8) Indirectly/Covertly: by using sexual metaphor (phalic/feminine intercourse symbology) ‐ and language words like: Penetrating you, wet, hard, sliding in deep, feel it deep inside, filling you up, coming etc. If they ever call me on it, I just play innocent and say, ʺYou donʹt want to think about sex all the time, DO you? Youʹre kind of perverted! I better be careful around you.ʺ ‐ Reverses the frame) The goal during all this talk is to get her FEELING the sensations IN HER BODY. When telling a story, go into the sensual details... explicitly, telling it as if she were ʺin the first person modeʺ experiencing it herself. When asking her ʺopinionsʺ, and about what she likes, you could ʺNormalizeʺ it by at first making it not about her, but what most women like, then get her to go into detail about how she feels it in her body, where, what comes first... then next, etc. Women get so turned on and ready to go just by having them describe what a female orgasm feels like... step by step, what they do, how they know itʹs coming, how they feel it... what itʹs like when they get to that moment...
One Closing technique that makes her lose control The IMPULSE CLOSE occurs Impulsively. You want to overwhelm any defense all at once, not ever having given them a chance to build up their defenses, and do it at a moment when it is the most advantageous to do so. How do you apply this to the Close? This is the Breakdown of my Impulse Close method: Until I extract them to a private place; 1) Vague and Ambiguous or “Indirectly Direct”: I will use lots of sexual metaphor, sexual stories and themes… 2) Open up the Sexual talk early on: I will talk a little about sexual talk so that I have a lead in for later when we are alone (ʺYou know you were telling me about X... I just remembered one more thing...ʺ) 3) Create Doubt: I want them to not be sure if there really is anything... even if they give me signs of interest, I will play hard to get and maybe respond minimally if they outright get physical. 4) Create Safety: I want them to feel safe and comfortable about being alone with me.
5) Early Light Touching: There is a difference between touching that sends the ʺIʹm interestedʺ message, and touching that gets them comfortable with you touching them. I do the latter... which may confuse them more because I donʹt outright cross that line at first. And because I donʹt get outright physical with them, they feel OK about going back to my place to ʺWatch a videoʺ or ʺHang outʺ for a while. (Iʹve had many gals tell me that they werenʹt sure if I liked them or if I didnʹt until we were alone) When Alone: 6) Recapitulate/Repeat Sexual themes: Then when alone, I bring up the sexual themes/sexual value elicitation combined with: 7) Heavy touching to Close: I pour on sexual rapport touching at the same time, look for green lights, and if all lights are green, I donʹt stop until the Close.
How to Understand a woman's CODE Hereʹs a concept that a friend of mine Tyler Durden turned me on to. (Check out the site www.RealSocialDynamics.com ) and David DeAngeloʹs site ( www.DoubleYourDating.com ). There are ʺSub‐communicationsʺ being communicated on many different levels. Sure ʺValueʺ is one of those levels and of course it is very important to seduction. Keep in mind that from an evolutionary standpoint, women are hard‐wired to respond to men that convey value ‐this means the guy with the money, resources, social proof, status, prestige, etc... and yes this is just one of the sub‐communications that we communicate and that others communicate to us. Now how can we better understand these sub communications? I think some of the answers can be found in Evolutionary Psychology ‐ Human Mating Strategies. This has to do with how weʹve been hard‐wired by evolution to select, compete for, and attract mates. Just think, all of us are the products of reproductive success. This means that we all have it hard‐wired in us to know naturally what to do to get laid! Itʹs just a matter of being able to adjust to today’s contexts and situations. Those who donʹt get selected out. (i.e. they donʹt get laid)
Here are some of the categories and these arenʹt necessarily what we think of consciously ‐ much of it is unconscious and just kind of forms a ʺgestaltʺ and an impression. In other words, this is what the unconscious animal part of us thinks ‐ the part of us that has been selected for by Evolution. 1) Value ‐ The sub‐communication is ʺWhat will I get out of being with this person?ʺ ‐ This is based on the perception of status, social proof, resources... For men ‐ either having or having the potential for the accumulation of resources (having characteristics like ambition, intelligence, industriousness etc.) For women ‐ the physical characteristics of beauty, health, sexual capacity etc. as well as status, etc. that confer a societal value 2) Physical ‐ The sub‐communication is ʺDo they have good genes?ʺ and ʺCan they protect me?ʺ I think this is a little different than the sexual communication. For a man interacting with a woman, physical communication is about beauty, youth, health and in evolutionary terms how well she would be able to bear offspring as well as have healthy ʺgenesʺ ‐ In other words a womanʹs reproductive capacity. Other than reproductive capacity, an attractive woman also has a positive influence on the social status of a man. For women interacting with men this type of communication has to do with the ability to protect resources and is a part of security.
The reason why physically strong men are more desirable than weak men is because strength communicates ʺfitnessʺ and ʺgood genesʺ as well as the ability to protect accumulated resources. 3) Sexual ‐ The sub communication is ʺIs this person able to pass the genes down?ʺ ‐ This level of communication I think has to do with the ability to be fertile and to bear offspring. For men interacting with women, it has to do with the perception that sheʹll be a good lover, sexual attractiveness which is more likely to lead to orgasm. For women interacting with men, this has to do with his virility... if he is able to both have and give her an orgasm ‐thus increasing her chances of conception. 4) The availability of resources ‐ The sub communication is ʺIs this person likely to share their resources and commit them to only me?ʺ For women evaluating men this has to do with the likelihood of commitment of resources to her and her offspring. Traits like generosity, kindness, and love make this more likely. Also commitment is important because it equates to security about access to his resources and not having to share them with other potential (or past) mates and offspring. This sub communication is also about trust. For men evaluating women this has to do with her fidelity, and the likelihood that she will only mate with him, thus increasing his chances
of having offspring with her. A promiscuous woman is less attractive to a man as a long term mate, because it means the possibility of allocating resources to offspring that arenʹt his, as well as having to compete for her resources (sex/sexual reproduction). Now regarding Sexual Communication, some would say that appearing to ʺGet itʺ is enough... however itʹs not enough for me. Understanding ʺSexual communicationʺ is not enough... you have to actually be able to USE IT! and USE IT WELL! And this is just one of the sub communication levels that are always present. This is just one aspect of ʺThe Codeʺ. So to bring this from abstract to concrete levels: 1) Be aware of, demonstrate, understand, and communicate the code on a: ‐ Sexual level ‐ Value level ‐ Physical level ‐ Trust level
The Shadow and the Rising Sun Theme
“You know, I was thinking about something the other day...about polarities... about the whole concept of the Yin and Yang...about hot and cold...black and white...light and darkness. And how opposites are really the same thing...just varying degrees on the same spectrum...of possibilities...and how one is defined in relation to the other...and how there are no absolutes. And then I remembered something that a Psychologist friend of mine said once...She said, “I have to go feed my shadow”...and I wasn’t quite sure what she meant at the time until I read something by Jung. He said that everyone has a Shadow...a dark side...a place of forbidden desires. This is that part of you that you hide from the rest of the world...maybe even from yourself... where you can experience and imagine those... thoughts...the things that you wouldn’t want anyone to ever find out that you long for and dream about...where you want to experience all the excitement of this moment...to let go of all the things that had been holding you back before...to just let go... and enjoy all that life has to offer... The Shadow is a good thing, he believed...because it brings a sense of balance. Now, this sense of balance is very important because the concept that whatever you repress grows and begins to spill over into other parts of your life. If your shadow is repressed it grows and grows...until it just takes you over completely. Jung said it was like the Rising Sun... because in the morning, as the Sun rises in the sky......
it gets higher and higher... closer and closer to the highest point in its path (midlife) ...until at mid‐day it changes polarity completely... and everything that was once true has now changed...and now the opposite is true... and the sun goes down. This was the concept behind mid‐life crisis. (I usually anchor the path of the rising sun with my hand) It’s like the more you try to deny your shadow, the more intense your shadow becomes...and the more intense your shadow becomes the more you feel that underlying tension growing within you for it to just come out ...until one day it just takes over completely. So balance then is a good thing. Now what if you were to step into your shadow right now, and see the world through the eyes of your shadow…. What would that say about the person that you are now vs. who you were before. What is it… that this shadow most wants and desires right now? What do you deserve to enjoy now”
How to TRIGGER the Vixen in the Virgin Have you ever experienced a situation where someone told you not to do something – and in fact they actually prevented you from doing it. And the more tension that built up, and the more that you tried not to do it and the more that they prevented you from doing it – the more you wanted to do it. Until – suddenly you were let loose and then BOOM! you did it right then and there. Well you experienced “The pendulum effect”.
This is similar to “The Shadow” concept. The more extreme you go to one side of behavior, the more extreme the opposite behavior will be when the “Pendulum swings”. In fact, if you notice extremes of any kind of behavior in the people that you interact with, then realize that at some point or in some way, they will be swinging back to the opposite side – and it will be just as extreme.
How to TAILOR your seduction specifically to the woman
Everyone needs something. This is the key to Victim Theory. Find what your WOMAN needs or wants more of and then appear to be able to give it to them. They will tell you too, either directly through words or actions ‐ or indirectly through looking at their past relationships. It may be adventure, attention, romance, a naughty experience, mental or physical stimulation. Once you identify what it is that they lack, you can be the one to give it to them. Learn to see the reality behind the appearance. Nobody in this world feels whole and complete. When you see the people around you, also notice whatʹs MISSING in their lives. Itʹs been said that someone who doesnʹt NEED anything CANʹT be seduced. So if they donʹt seem to have that NEED, CREATE one! Victim type 1) The Reformed “Party Girl” About her: She is a “physical type. This type of woman is one who used to have nights when she would go out with the girls, flirt with the guys,
maybe even had one night stands. She may be in a long term relationship now or may have settled down due to her age, responsibilities and stage in life. Yet there is still a part of her that yearns for those “wild days” and remembers how good they were. Maybe she was quite the seductress and could get any guy into her. What she needs: A taste of the wild side. How to seduce her: Cross her path and offer her the chance to experience even just one night of her “wild days”. Talk about her old party days, what she used to do, what she enjoyed about it. Then go DO it. Go out on the town, to her old spots, do some of the things she used to do, party it up and their old ways will come back. What to remember: Make her think she is the one corrupting you, and seducing you and introducing you to the “wild side”. 2) The Hopeless Romantic About her: This type of woman is one who has a rich inner world of fantasy and dreams. She imagines one day meeting the man of her dreams who will sweep her off her feet and take her away from life’s day to day concerns. She longs to live in the world of Love, Romance, and rich emotions – and she does this through the Romance novels that she reads, the Soap operas, when she goes to that Romantic comedy at the movies. They may have had to settle for an “ordinary guy” at some point but a part of them still yearns to be swept away. They may suppress their passion in life and it may come out in their home furnishings, the pictures they put on their walls, and their love for art and music.
What she needs: Romance, the illusion of the ideal lover, scarcity and mystery. How to seduce her: Give her just a part of what she wants, like a touch of Romance – and mystery. Let her imagine the rest. In this type of woman, for seduction purposes, less is more. Her inner world of fantasy is far richer than what you could create with your words. Talk with her about her ideas of the ideal man, the ideal romance, the ideal relationship. Open up this world within her, show a few romantic gestures and then make yourself scarce – yet balancing and at the same time acting out that scarceness with romantic gestures that show you’re thinking about her. What to remember: Never let reality break the “Romantic” illusion. 3) The Daddy’s Girl About her: This type of woman was spoiled as a child. She was given everything her heart desired as a child and as she grew older, she became bored and now continually looks for variety, switching from person to person and place to place before boredom sets in What she needs: Variety, to be pampered, a daddy figure. How to seduce her: The key is to offer Variety. Provide a lot of distraction – new places to go, new things to do, new things to discover. Maintain a certain mystery to your character as well so that she is continually discovering new things about you. Once they get hooked, they can grow dependent on you, just as she would a daddy figure.
What to remember: Never offer a long term relationship to these types, instead focus on spoiling them and offering new and exciting things and as they grow dependent on you, they will be the ones to initiate a long term relationship. Focus on variety. They are looking for the one person – the parental figure, who can give them the spoiling that they crave. 4) The Conservative Girl About her: This type of girl is ultra concerned with appearances and what is “proper”. These are girls who have their “Rules” and they are afraid of looking like a slut. Since they are so concerned with what is “proper” the opposite is secretly true as well. They are fascinated by the improper, and deep down are intrigued by dark sinful passions. They sense this and run The other way. Remember the “Shadow” theory – that we all have both a side we show the world and a shadow. The more extreme the character trait, the more extreme the shadow is. What she needs: To be awakened to their shadow. How to seduce her: Make her aware of her shadow. Draw her in to the “helping you reform” mode. Give them opportunities to let go of their self control and to let their shadow out. Synesthesia demos work well with this type of girl, allowing her passion to come out in the form of a symbol/color and then symbolically amplifying it and fractionating it… spreading it throughout her body. What to remember: Don’t pay attention to what they say, pay attention to what they do. Get them to open up their shadow side by talking about it and doing things that would get them to imagine it and then let it out.
5) The Innocent Virgin About her: This type of girl is inexperienced. She is intensely curious about the ways of the world and about sex. She is still idealistic and wants romance. Most of her ideas of what sex and romance is like come from the media and from movies and romance novels. She is secretly intrigued by the wild side of sex and wants to experience all the things she’s heard about. What she needs: To be corrupted, romanced, swept away and shown the ways of the world by someone with experience How to seduce her: Talk about all the things that she is intrigued by, about sexuality and the kinds of things that people do sexually. Give her the hint that you are very experienced sexually and take on the frame that you are opening up a new world to her… a touch of romance with a touch of corruption. What to remember: Don’t go overboard with the corruption, she may get scared away. Keep it romantic and idealistic. Get her to fantasize and lead her imagination down the path of fantasy. Then give her opportunities to open up slowly to this sexuality. Make it corrupt as well at times, talking dirty to her during sex, experimenting with every kind of sexual kink that you know of or have experience with. 6) The Drama Queen About her: This type of woman always has some drama going on and without it gets bored very easily. Since the pain of drama is actually a source of pleasure for her, she is attracted to the “jerk” type of guy and unconsciously craves to be mistreated. She may have grown up in a
family where dad was verbally or physically abusive and this has set up her patterns for what she is comfortable with and what she has known all her life. They despise “Nice guys” and see them as wussies. They confuse meanness with confidence and arrogance with assertiveness. They love to complain to their girlfriends about how badly you mistreat her. What she needs: Drama and someone to be a jerk to her How to seduce her: Give her what she wants. Draw her in first and then push her away. Go Hot and then Cold. Ignore her some days. Make comments about how hot other chicks are and never compliment her. She needs to make the connection that her giving you pleasure equals you being nice at first and then mean to her. They unconsciously love the drama and love to be treated like shit once in a while. What to remember: Only be nice after you’ve mistreated her, never before. If you are nice to her before you’ve been mean, then you run the risk of her flipping the roles and creating an argument with you so that she can start the drama cycle which will lead to the nice make up feelings afterwards. The only time you give her nice treatment is when you are making up for how mean you’ve been to her. “Make up” niceness is the only kind of niceness that is seen as real to them. 7) The Codependent About her: This type of girl probably grew up in a dysfunctional family where the burden of “fixing” things fell on her. She is attracted to people with problems because when they can “help” someone who has problems it secretly
gives them a sense of superiority. These type of girls are good listeners and will try to get you to spill your guts about any issues. They will be supportive and mothering. What she needs: To feel like she is “saving” you. How to seduce her: Let her get the sense that you have had to deal with a lot of issues and that you are troubled. That you’ve done bad things in the past and that you feel guilty as well as being sad about never finding someone to feel connection with. You have problems and you draw her in by talking about your feelings to her, talking to her about issues (whether real or made up). Be troubled, sad and vulnerable. You can also be the sexually troubled man with uncontrollable addictions that she needs to help you with. What to remember: Always be the under dog, the one who gets the short end of the stick, the raw deal. Let her share your loss and to give you encouragement and feel like she’s supporting you. 8) The Immature Mature Woman (MILF or Sugar Mama) About her: This type of woman wants to hold on to her youth. She is older and has a high sex drive. She may not have done all the things that she wanted to do when she was young so is now trying to recapture her desirability. She may have been attractive and had guys all over her when she was younger but now that she has gotten older, she craves the attention that she once had. What she needs: Attention from a young stud.
How to seduce her: Give her the attention that she once had. Make her feel desirable and sexy. She wants to feel young again and she’s looking for a boy toy. Let her feel like she is corrupting you as well and showing you new sexual pleasures and opening up new worlds of experience to you. Be immature and crazy and act like teenagers together. She wants to do things like make out in a movie theatre and go have sex in the back of the car afterwards. She wants to go to a hill overlooking the city lights and make out like a teenager. What to remember: Don’t forget that she wants to be both the sugar mama and the teenager at the same time. Act immature and bring out the immature behavior in her. Do sexually adventurous things with her. Spontaneous sex and sex in public places apply. 9) The “10” About her: This type of woman has always been lusted after for her looks. Guys will either be intimidated by her or will flock around her to feed their lust. She may have only have developed her appearance and may be lacking in depth of character or knowledge – but not always. She is most insecure about her looks because it is often the only thing that sets her apart and makes her special. Because she is always pursued by men, she secretly wants a man that she will have to work hard to get. She longs to be valued for her personality, intelligence, and character. Thus she often feels alone – alienated by both women and men who never see past her appearance to who she is as a person. What she needs: Someone to see her as a person,
to stimulate her mind and value her for her personality, character and intelligence. How to seduce her: Treat her like a normal person. She has to choose you. Don’t focus on her appearance yet don’t ignore it altogether because of her insecurities. Draw her in and then play Hot and Cold with her so she can feel like she needs to work to get you. Demonstrate value. What to remember: Steal her frame of being the object of desire. See past her appearance and make her earn your affection. 10) The ʺNovelʺ girl About her: This type of girl goes for all things that are exotic and different. For example this is the white chick who loves ethnic guys. They may also be intrigued by different world religions and into ʺNew Ageʺ and yoga or they may be a Rebel punk rocker, or a girl from a small town who wants to see the big city. In any case their Identity is tied up in being different and unique. They really loathe their own culture and themselves at a deep level and look to the exotic to give them temporary escape. What she needs: A touch of the exotic, escape from normality How to seduce her: Play up what makes you different, Peacock ‐ the more extreme the better, vary it up often because what is exotic and novel now will soon become mundane and ordinary. Same with sex. These women LOVE doing kinky things and pushing the limits of sexuality. These are the types that end up having group sex and doing kinky shit with animals.
What to remember: Give them escape from the ordinary. But as much as you can offer the exotic to them, nothing will really offer permanent escape from themselves.
How to completely DESTROY a woman's resistance and amp up her Responsiveness
We’ve all been there. It’s late in the evening and the sexual tension is amped up. You’re sitting on the couch with a woman and just making out. You know that you need to get her sexual arousal level amped up and then you go for the bold move. She resists... Itʹs not that sheʹs not into it... she may just not be READY! This just means you havenʹt gotten her buying temperature up high enough yet. You need to continue to SOFTEN HER UP and focus on getting her FEELING and more RECEPTIVE. Or here’s another situation. You want a woman to do something for you and she objects. Well, here are a some objection destroyers that Iʹve been using. Keep in mind that some of these use ʺRewardʺ and some use ʺPunishmentʺ motivation. A good propulsion mechanism uses both together at the same time... So these can be used in combination with each other. 1) She asks ʺWhy?ʺ objection destroyer The Objection: I had an 18 year old amateur adult film actress (She was beautiful ‐ long light
brown hair ‐ killer body) – She was moving away so I told her, ʺWe need to get together and have some fun before you go.ʺ She said, ʺWhy?ʺ (as if saying what’s the point?) The Response: So I said to her, ʺActually, the better question is... WHY NOT?ʺ 2) The Crowbar Mentalism objection destroyer The Objection: Iʹve had several women that have been firm about certain things like not coming over to my place on like the first or second times that weʹve met. And so Iʹll say, ʺOk... thatʹs fine, but why donʹt we do this... Guess a number between 1 and 10 and if I can tell you what this number is, THEN you have to come over OK...ʺ [Side comment:] Now what this does is take her from her ʺSolidʺ position and move her to the more flexible position of possibility of ʺWell if he gets the number right ‐ which I doubt he will, THEN Iʹll goʺ ‐ This is also known as the ʺCrowbarʺ method in sales and persuasion. The Response: ‐ I have her guess the number, get out my Palm pilot and open the program where you can draw on the screen. ‐ Then she thinks of a number and I act as if I am writing it with my palm stylus. you really donʹt write anything at all. ‐ Then I say, ʺOk, tell me the numberʺ ‐ If she objects just say, ʺItʹs ok... just tell me the number and Iʹll show what I wrote down.ʺ ‐ She tells me her number and Iʹm holding the stylus with my other hand and my palm pilot in the other, with the screen facing down. ‐ I have the NOTE program open on the Palm
Pilot and with my THUMB I write the number that she tells me ‐ as she tells it to me so that it takes only a split second... you have to practice this to get it smooth. ‐ I then show her the number that I ʺWrote downʺ and say, ʺLetʹs goʺ ‐ always works! 3) The ʺWHAT IFʺ objection destroyer The Objection: Iʹve had some women hold back, resist, test me constantly, sometimes just being all around bitchy. In addition to calling them on it after going through one test after another (And hot young women are especially good at giving “shit tests” ‐ some are just one big constant shit test until theyʹre moaning in pleasure in your bed!) The Response: ʺYou know, youʹre kind of mean... are you like this to everyone? ... Just what if by some miracle you could look into the future and see that I was the perfect person for you where youʹre totally happy... where you have everything that youʹve always wanted in some one... the future of your dreams... just what if... and looking back to now ‐ knowing this, How does this change the way that youʹre acting toward me?ʺ 4) The Polarity ʺSelf Imageʺ Objection Destroyer The Objection: She doesnʹt want to do something and sheʹs a ʺpolarity responder/mis‐matcherʺ. (Her sorting strategy is that she has to make up her OWN mind about things, if someone tells her something, she looks at all the reasons NOT to do it first, and what is NOT true about what is
said first.) The Response: ʺYes... actually you seem too NORMAL to do that... and maybe too old fashioned. You donʹt seem like the type of person who can just do this and have a great time... No, you SHOULDNʹT do this, and you shouldnʹt be enjoying this, and you definitely SHOULDN’T just let yourself go with it!ʺ Then do a take away and ACT uninterested. 5) Good old Guilt Objection destroyer The Objection: She doesnʹt want to do something. The Response: ʺItʹs ok then... you donʹt have to do this... even though it would be really nice of you... even though it would totally make my day... even though it would be totally special for me... maybe you just arenʹt that way... thatʹs fine...ʺ Then do a take away. 6) The ʺTradeʺ Objection destroyer The Objection: She doesnʹt want to do something. The Response: ʺOK, Iʹll tell you what... letʹs make a trade then... What would I need to do for you, for you to do this for me?ʺ ‐ Then listen and agree. Another variation is the ʺTake turnsʺ approach where you say,ʺOk, you do this this time and next time it will be my turn.ʺ 7) The ʺWhat would need to happenʺ Objection
Destroyer The Objection: She doesnʹt want to do something The Response: ʺSo what would need to happen then for you to do this?ʺ
One method that will have her screaming for more Blake Richard's Orgasm Technique
First of all, a few words to the conservative ones out there. Sex is NATURAL. Itʹs how we GOT here and the ʺEnergyʺ from sexual drives have been redirected and ʺsublimatedʺ and have shaped our modern day society. Now of course Iʹm not openly advocating casual sex... Sex in a committed relationship can be a beautiful thing! And of course, be responsible and safe... Ok guys, now to the DIRT!
Here it is... my own special technique that has been perfected through trial and error. This technique ROCKS and is the best thing I can assure you that most women will experience in their LIVES! Here it is. Step by step. 1) Of course the mood has to be right. She has to be ready to go physically. 2) Once you are making out with her, go down, kiss her neck, then her breasts, then her stomach, then the insides of her thighs... 3) Then go back up to her mouth, then kiss her neck again, then her stomach, then the insides of her thighs again... and you may even want to ʺbiteʺ softly her ass cheek on either side... then start sucking on the insides of her thighs... closer and closer to her pussy... take your sweet time... 4) By this time she should literally be DRIPPING wet. You should be able to SEE the milky juices flowing down 5) Then go right in and lick right up the middle all the way to the top of her clit in one sweep. watch her reaction... 6) Then put you fingers inside her. (2 if possible) I will usually put the index and middle fingers of my right hand inside) and put them ALL the way in to touch the spot deep in the upper vaginal wall right on the upper rim of her cervix.
7) Keep your fingers STRAIGHT as you reach back for that spot then pull your fingers toward the front in a gentle sweeping motion. Go DEEP, back and forth and do this slowly and rhythmically. Keep it steady and keep it slow at first. Then bring you other hand to rest your palm on top of her pubic mound and press IN with your palm as if you were trying to gently touch your fingers inside her with the palm of your other hand from the outside. 9) Continue to do this rhythmically... slowly... deliberately and gently... letting her pleasure build. 10) Add your tongue on her clit so that each time you massage ʺUpʺ on her mound with you palm hand you are lifting and exposing her clit to your tongue. 11) Do this all slowly and deliberately and as she gets more and more aroused and closer to orgasm, you go faster and faster... building your strokes until she has the most intense orgasm of her life! 12) If she is too aroused or has multiple orgasms, you can break it up by just going to straight oral with your tongue every now and then... in LONG strokes with your tongue right up her slit... over and over... alternating that with sucking and short tongue strokes on her clit... then go back into the orgasm technique...
One more note on technique just to be clear... when you bring your fingers inside forward, you are keeping upward pressure of your finger tips on the upper part of her vaginal wall. and then you go back to that spot, then bring your fingers forward keeping upward pressure on the top part of her vaginal wall... And to this you add the other hands palm on her mound from the outside massaging inward and add your tongue to her clit as well. Now when you have sex with her after this, she will be so exquisitely sensitive, wet and aroused that it will also be the best SEX she has ever had!
How to CLOSE the deal
One thing does get you the girl in the End Game ‐ The way she FEELS. There are many ways to get to this ‐ from demonstrating higher value, challenging her, fulfilling her needs, cocky and funny, social proof, eliciting states (my personal favorite) ‐ yet all of these lead to just one thing... The way she FEELS. A woman doesnʹt fall in love with you, neither does she decide consciously to need you, and its not too often that a woman will just ʺdecideʺ on an intellectual level to have sex with you... She falls in love with the way you make her feel. She has sex with a man based on the way he makes her feel and what she gets from the interaction ‐ and even if she says sheʹd rather give than receive pleasure, most of the time thatʹs just something that sounds nice because even if it were true, sheʹs usually getting something (like emotional pleasure) out of giving physical pleasure as well. So you have to keep doing the things that amplify her feeling. So what are these things that amplify feeling and how do you do them?
‐ Here are some of my favorite ways to amplify a feeling in the End Game. I will do many things at times, like: 1) FRACTIONATE Fractionation is actually a hypnotic deepening technique. In the book, “Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy”, Gerald F. Kein and Calvin Banyan describe this technique where the subject is partially emerged from hypnosis and then guided back in to hypnosis. When the subject re‐ enters hypnosis, there is a natural tendency to go even deeper. So you can imagine what this method does to a sexual state. Now the way you use this is when you have elicited a sexual state, at just the moment where the tension builds, you suddenly change the topic and talk about ʺThe weatherʺ or some other superficial topic. After awhile, you bring up the sexual topic again and start to build the state and elicit it within them – and they go in even deeper this time ‐ and at just the moment where the sexual tension feels so hot, you break the state and talk about something superficial like what you did that day. And you repeat and repeat… You can also physically fractionate the seduction. This is where you may touch her leg briefly or sit close to her or touch her in some way ‐ then you just suddenly stop... and after awhile you touch her again, this time on areas that are more sensitive like her neck/face/inner thigh/inner arm ‐ then you just stop... and on and on. Fractionation creates a vacuum for a woman to get sucked into. As the fractionation goes on it gets more and more intimate until she is the one that is initiating the seduction and it is less about you
seducing her and more about her seducing you. Imagine that with a powerful fractionation technique, youʹve sucked her into a vacuum and the momentum of that “pull” makes her take action. 2) Using OPEN LOOPS Thereʹs a lot to say about open loops. Part of this has to do with creating interest in what youʹre saying because she feels like she is always ʺHangingʺ when you do things like tell her a story without telling the endings, or when you have multiple open loops (threads) going at the same time, and have several unfinished stories it tends to have a hypnotic effect. But be careful not to over do it. You may come off as having a slight case of Attention Deficit Disorder. 3) Using AMBIGUITY This is about talking in a way that lets their imagination fill in the blanks. For example, since women are always trying to interpret things rather than just taking them at face value, why not use that to your advantage. For example when coming back from dinner on a first meeting with a woman, I may say something like, ʺYou know, I love talking with you ‐ I canʹt stay up late, but lets take this upstairs for a little while and see what happens, of course we would just be talking! ‐ (said with a mischievous grin) ‐Notice that I also put in a false time constraint to build her comfort level. In general the approach that I use for ambiguity is that I will say things that on the surface seem innocent (and if called on, thatʹs of course the
way that I meant them! ) but that can be suggestive as well if seen from a sexual perspective. 4) Eliciting sexual states and Building sexual rapport See the section on Eliciting Sexual Values. This is one of the best ways to get a woman in a sexual state. Also check out the section on Building Sexual Rapport. And check out the section on the ʺPendulum affectʺ as well. 5) Using Contrast This consists of Physically ʺmoving towardʺ while verbally ʺmoving away fromʺ and switching back and forth between that and verbal ʺmoving towardʺ with physical ʺmoving away fromʺ ‐ For example I may say, ʺYou know, I donʹt know if it would ever work out between us... weʹre too differentʺ while at the same time touching her or physically seducing her as if we were already sleeping together. And continue doing the same thing for awhile. Then I would withdraw physically/stop touching her but say, ʺI love talking to you ‐ youʹre not like any other woman that Iʹve talked to.ʺ And continue doing the same thing for awhile. This is more than just HOT/COLD and more than just PUSH/PULL. It is both all at the same time. In other words I am purposefully incongruent with my words and my actions toward her. This not only throws them for a loop, but offers a
challenge and they not only find this interesting, but also builds the attraction and sexual TENSION. 6) PHYSICAL seduction: (Massage, Using body language, gestures, and actions that assume that we are already sleeping together ‐ This includes the way I look at them and eye contact, the way I touch them, and even doing little things that assume sexual rapport as I mentioned before: like ʺFeeding themʺ, sharing their drink glass at dinner, sharing dessert, touching their face/neck/lips ‐if even to ʺbrush off some lintʺ. See the section on Sexual Rapport. 7) Give them a way to ACT around you Often I do this through ʺCold reading them ‐ and build up a self image for them as a ʺPhysical Typeʺ of woman who is very much at home in her own body, who knows that she is cared for through touch and by expressing it through physical affection, who is active, spontaneous, and would rather do it than just ʺthink about doing itʺ. See my section on Cold Reading. So again, these are just some of my favorite ways to amplify a feeling in the End Game. And it’s also important to have ʺSolid Gameʺ, where youʹve built the attraction, youʹve build the comfort level, to the degree to which a woman will seduce you as well in the end and be happy about it afterward. The End Game is built on and gains itʹs momentum from everything that comes before it.
Remember in your progress that the first stage of mastery is unconscious incompetence – this is where you don’t even know how you’re screwing up. Many of us have been there and through trial and error we’ve overcome. But there’s a better way – model what works. All of this material has been extensively field tested and in the right contexts, does work. The next step of mastery is conscious incompetence. As you go out and try this material, start to become away of what works for you and what you’re doing that needs more work. It’s all just feedback for success. The next step is conscious competence. This is where you start to see what is working for you. You’re starting to incorporate techniques and skillsets into your game and you inner game is coming together. The final step is unconscious competence as you go with the flow. You’ve incorporated what works for you into your game and most of your focus is on inner game. This is where your skillset and mindset become one and align with eachother congruently. You can’t help but be successful – And this is where you deserve to be!