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The Flake Buster Report: How To Ensure That Women Never Cancel A Date On You

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or guys who plan dates with women regularly, they often find that getting her to agree to a date is pretty easy.

But then he runs into the issue of "flakes" - Dates that cancel or don't show up. This is a much more common issue than most people realize.

Often times you'll receive a phone call the day of your date, when your girl calls you and tells you she can't meet you after all.

Usually, she'll accompany it with an apology or reason why she won't be able to make it.

It's part of the dating game. It's simply easier for her to accept your date on the spot than it is to turn you down.

However, unless she really wants to see you again, chances are you'll be receiving a call later to cancel.

She'll generally wait until the right before your date to cancel. She'll then give you whatever reason it is that she won't make it.

Usually, that means she's thinking that she doesn't want to see you, but just won't tell you that to your face.

Instead, you'll get one of these common excuses:

The "surprise visitor" excuse. Co-incidentally, about 30 minutes before her meeting with you, she'll tell you that her best friend she hasn't seen in years and unexpectedly drop by.

Or she may tell you that she just remembered she has a big day at the office tomorrow and has to take a break. Otherwise, her cat might have suddenly gotten sick.

There are a million and one excuses she could give you, but in the end it's all the same. You feed dejected, wondering what went wrong. In the end, you never do end up seeing her again.

The remedy to this situation is to prevent it from hapening. In other words, you must make sure she's dying to see you again to begin with.

She should want to see you more than you want to see her.

How do you accomplish this? You've must build a genuine connection with her when you first met her, and have her feel invested with you in the connection.

In other words, she must feel like going on the date with you is the solution to her problems as a woman. You might be the man she's been looking for all along!

How do you get her to feel this way about you?

To start off with, the more she reveals about herself, the she tells you, the more she'll feel invested with you in your relationship.

A great way to do this is to talk about her future, and be supportive of her vision for her future. Find out what she wants her life to look like.

How is it panning out right now? Is she just doing what she's doing to pay rent, or is it something she's passionate about?

Does she expect to be doing something different in 5 years?

Does she have an end goal in mind for her life? Does she have an artistic project she's been wanting to launch forever?

If money was no issue, what would she be doing?

Be sure to show your enjoyment and appreciation for her sharing and opening up herself. Show support for her ideas.

Then, share some of your own goals, visions and dreams. Give her a taste of what you're passionate about. This will create a feeling of "we're in this together."

You'll both have opened up about what you want in life, and in a way you're now allies to one another. You feel invested in one another because you've formed a connection.

In addition, it's important to use statements and questions to get her to "prove" herself to you. This is very, very important.

Usually in a conversation, it's the man who's trying to impress and win over the girl. He's trying to get her to approve of him, to validate his own sense of worth. To be good with women, you must flip the tables. Give her a bit of reward and acknowledgement, then pull back. Make her earn it.

Convey that you have very high standards for women. You're already pre-selected and most women simply live up to your standards.

If she's to be a part of your life, she'll have to prove her worth to you. You're different than the average guy who'll sell himself short for any woman who'll flirt with him a bit.

Here's some examples of what this might look like:

"I was chatting with my buddy Ben earlier. He just returned from his trip in New Zealand and he had a blast.

He's practically a kiwi now. He said Queenstown is now his favorite city in the world. What's yours?"

If she tells you that she hasn't traveled much, you could subtly convey that she hasn't matched up to your high standards quite yet.

"Wow, I'm surprised. You come off as a very well cultured, sophisticated woman with a great sense of fashion. I really believe that traveling and experiencing different cultures is a key part of life."

On the flip side, if she IS well traveled, you might reveal that you were somewhat impressed by her answer. Then, you might throw out one more qualifying question:

"That's great to hear. I don't think I could be with a woman who hasn't seen the world. Traveling just expands your persective so much, that I often times get bored with women who haven't traveled. I hope you're not boring, are you?"

In this exchange, you give her a small boost of ego and respect. Keep on going and continue having her qualify herself to you. As the conversation evolves, she'll want to impress you more and more.

You could also playfully say ...

"Wow, you're telling me you've never visited _____ (a popular place in your city)? I really don't know if I can hang out with you ... I'm the kind of person who likes to visit all kinds of different places."

(Keep in mind, these kinds of statements must be said playfully. These are not insults.)

Another example: "So, why don't you tell me something I'd find interesting about you?"

Another tool might be teasing her to show that you're not that easy to impress:

Right after she makes a funny comment - "Wow, you're funny. Will you perform at my brother's party?"

With a smile, say "It's adorable - Your nose wiggles when you talk"

(This works because it subtly implies she hasn't won you over quite yet - You find her "adorable" but not necessarily sexy.)

One more.

"You do seem like a nice girl, CeBelle. You probably hear that a lot."

(In a bar, this is amazingly effective. Basically you're telling her that she seems like a nice person, but that while also implying that she might not be sexually attractive to you.)

With these techniques, you should be able to be flake-free.

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