The Derek Rake Insider Labs’ Guide To Physical Escalation

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The Derek Rake Insider Labs’ Guide To Physical Escalation

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The Derek Rake Insider Labs’ Guide To Physical Escalation BY DEREK RAKE

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The Derek Rake Insider Labs’ Guide To Physical Escalation

s far as physical escalation goes, if there’s one thing that you should remember then it is this – there’s never a “Big Moment”. The typical guy would take a woman out on a date

and then hopes to be able to score a kiss at the end of the evening. As the date progresses, he gets closer and closer to the “Big Moment” when he has to make his move and kiss the woman. This is a setup for failure. So here’s the deal. If you somewhat screw up your attempt to kiss her, it would well be your last attempt because women are hard-wired to be unforgiving when it comes to physical escalation. You see, due to their societal conditioning, they have the fantasy of meeting the perfect guy, about how perfect the date will be, and how every single part of the romance feels natural and just right. The seasoned seducer (i.e. someone who has downloaded our entire knowledge base into his brain!) will know that the “Big Moment” is a fallacy, and you don’t have to have the “go in for the kill” mindset. Instead, he will masterfully execute a natural, seamless flow of moments where he would touch her – from the very early stages (i.e. when he first meets her) right up to sex. No one moment should stick out, and as such, to her, it just feels natural to escalate from one stage to the next. In short, there’s no one moment where she feels that you’re making a move on her.

It’s All About Pacing Her The most important thing about physical escalation is the specific pacing between the physical touches, and never about the specific touches. (If you’re already a user of the Dark Rake Method then you’ll see lots of similarities here – it’s not what you say, but how you pace your hypnotic lines and stack them up one against another). There must be alternating moments of sexual tension as well as the buildup of chemistry which you create not only through touching, but also through your conversations as well. In addition, if you’ve already matched her VAKSOG sensory modes (see Dark Rapport) then physical escalation is quite trivial, really. Remember that touching does NOT always have to be sexual. Indeed, some of the more powerful kino techniques center around anchoring – a technique which we have already covered in the previous Derek Rake Insider’s Lab guide. Before you initiate any attempts to escalate physically, make sure that you have laid the foundational work by doing the following:-

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1. You are controlling the frame and are building sufficient rapport. Read this guide. 2. You are demonstrating a lack of neediness. 3. You have reached the hook point. You will notice that there are moments where you should escalate, and if you miss these moments then her interest in you will fall off a cliff quickly. Now the question on “how to calibrate” is out of scope as far as this guide is concerned, but here’s a good rule of thumb: if her interest in you does not dip (i.e. she keeps talking to you) then you should escalate, and escalate quickly. Here’s some form of physical touching:Pulling hair Smelling hair Hand on her butt Hand on her cheeks Arm around waist Hand on knee Hand on elbows Hand on hand Hand on lap Whispering into ear Embracing from front Embracing from behind Peck on cheek Peck on lips What’s important when it comes to physical escalation is that the act must be simple and natural: it shouldn’t seem like you’re trying to “get somewhere” with her. When she displays some level of discomfort then pull back immediately. Male dominance has its place, but never force your way with a woman: apart from being counter-productive, you’ll also come across as a beta jerk.

Push/Pull Physical Escalation

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he common belief is that guys should always escalate, and women should always resist. That is hogwash. You should know that guys should both escalate and resist – in fact, if

you’ve pulled off a covert seduction technique such as Fractionation or the infamous Kinesthetic Sequence from the Shogun Sequences Handbook (or something more specialized like the http://shogunmethod.net/insider/physical-escalation/

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Boyfriend Destroyer) then you’ll appreciate the effectiveness of the escalate/resist, or its other more generic moniker: push/pull. When you are physically close to a woman, you’re introducing sexual tension into the interaction. It depends on her comfort level (and it’s different from women to women), but if there’s too much discomfort then she will push you away. This response is undesirable because you want her to be drawn to you, not otherwise. Therefore, whenever you introduce sexual tension, understand that the next step is for you to pull away (before she does). You can do this either physically (brush her hands off) or verbally (by disqualifying her). When you push her away, you increase her attraction to you (as long as you don’t just keep pushing her away). When she attempts to get closer to you as a result of you pushing her away, then you’ve created space for further escalation. So here’s the Derek Rake Insider Labs formula for rapid physical escalation:-

Build Rapport → Escalate → Pull → Escalate → Pull et al → Close

ADDENDUM: I’ve been asked if the advice is relevant in situations where an ex-girlfriend or ex-wife is involved. The answer is YES. In your attempts to get an ex back, you’ll need to “ReSeduce” her (see this), and in many cases you’re starting back from square one anyways. It’s therefore immaterial as to whether you have slept with the woman before or not… you’ll still have to (re)build rapport and escalate physically until you’ve successfully re-seduced her. FILED UNDER: FEATURED GUIDE

About Derek Rake I am the lead coach for DerekRake LLC, having personally trained more than 10,000 men (and a handful of women!) in the art of dating and relationships all around the world. My goal is to reach out to 1 million men a year through my coaching and writing, helping them to meet and attract the women of their dreams. Read about my story and how I "turned to the dark side" here.

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